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Topic: Completely screwed?
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LetsDance
Knowflake Posts: 88
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Registered: Mar 2006
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posted July 23, 2008 11:11 AM
 
ScarlettSoul, quote:
"He begged to see me the next day (I told him I couldn't - had other plans...)"
Did you offer to see him another day? If so, then I don't know why you have not heard from him. If you didn't (very innocently may not have thought of it), then this is what I think. He poured his heart out to you. He was intimate with you for the first time, (even though as you say, he could have taken advantage of you on other occasions but didn't). He aggressively pursued you (which you said he'd never done before). IMO, I think he took your response to his wanting to you see you as a deep rejection. As you said, “he begged to see” you. Men are afraid of rejection, too. Pisces are very sensitive and you said yourself that "sex is very special to him". I'm not saying you were wrong to tell him you had other plans, only that if you would have offered to see him another day, things may be different. I think you will hear from him again. He will have his guard up, though. You said he never wanted to feel vulnerable to you, but he did and he does now more than before, since he shared so much of himself with you. Take your time with him and at the same time, give yourself time to understand where you want this man in your life. Let him know you are his friend and confidant, so that he can rebuild his confidence (that night with you was pretty emotional for him), and he will begin to slowly let his guard down. I don’t know how much you want to invest in this, I know you’ve been hurt, so take it slow to protect your heart as well.  IP: Logged |
ghanima81
Moderator Posts: 1718
From: MAINE! :)
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted July 23, 2008 08:05 PM
*whew*this thread has left me breathless! I've never read any of it, and was drawn there... Very poingniant for me right now, so thank you for sharing, Scarlett. I hope the best possible outcome happens for you!! What a beautiful story, no matter what the next chapter... Ghani IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
Knowflake Posts: 1140
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Registered: Feb 2007
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posted July 27, 2008 11:05 PM
My opinion on the Aries girl/Pisces guy relationship (disregarding the charts) is - you would make an awesome pair in a movie, in a story, in a play, in a Disney cartoon..
Real life? That's up to you to decide, but, in my experience - the odds are not in your favour.
A director couldn't ask for a better couple to cast in a kids movie. In a world of art and drama – the world of hammocks and perfect kisses in the moon light, pisces and aries are great together.. because they both LOVE art and mystery and most importantly they love LOVE itself. They can concoct an entire NEW world together and live in it for a while.. because their imagination combined is something to behold. Wherever you guys go, you might find groups of kids flock to you or stare and smile, thinking you are the princess and prince in the story book their parents read to them the night before. The steam created between the aries fire and pisces water - is highly mysterious - kind of like being in a sauna or a spa, it is relaxing and enticing at the same time. People usually love being around you both.
But my suggestion is - take things for what they are.. a beautiful connection – not one that leads anywhere real.. not one that leads to something serious.. The romance between aries and pisces is art, pure and simple! It seldom lasts in a *real life* environment. It needs something otherworldly to last.. and the real world kills that. I think it's much better for you guys to stay friends, only because, when the lights go on (and I mean well and truly go on) and you see things clearly – chances are you'll realize he isn't actually what you want in a guy, romantically speaking. He is the dream of what you want. IP: Logged |
izodesmozina
Knowflake Posts: 1401
From: Hell. I brought cookies!
Registered: Oct 2006
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posted August 03, 2008 09:05 AM
Scarlett!!!So happy to hear from you again! Oh, and so happy about the new turn of your relationship with the Pisces!
I never doubted he had deep feelings for you, and I still think you guys CAN make it work, if you both want to.
I'm sorry I erased my photobucket files and your charts disappeared. Here they are once again:   ------------------
Wisdom comes from experience, but so does personal bias. IP: Logged |
izodesmozina
Knowflake Posts: 1401
From: Hell. I brought cookies!
Registered: Oct 2006
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posted August 03, 2008 09:22 AM
Looking at your synastry again, I'm still amazed by the Venus-Pluto dw and Venus-Neptune dw! What you guys have is VERY special, something most of us try to find.
However, seems the biggest problem you guys have is Pluto (power struggles, control issues, trust issues, jealousy). And his Saturn frustrating your Venus isn't quite romantic, either.
Same thing goes for the composite. I liked what LetsDance said, but I also think Coral is right, in respect to this relationship needing a lot of work in order to last. You both need to be very honest with each other and make a clear decision not to undermine your union by playing mind games, trying to have the upper hand, avoiding to be in the vulnerable spot at all costs.
You can't continue to play it like this, deciding not to call first, not to say "I love you" first. One of you has to say it at some point lol. The cards are now on the table. You know where you stand with him, and so does he.
One of Pluto's biggest lessons is letting go of what you mostly cling to. Security, comfort, bad habits that feel good, the EGO. This is the main challenge of this relationship. IP: Logged |
izodesmozina
Knowflake Posts: 1401
From: Hell. I brought cookies!
Registered: Oct 2006
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posted August 03, 2008 09:24 AM
Wheels,
Thank you! I enjoy reading your posts very much. You're a very cool knowflake!IP: Logged |
daregodiva
Knowflake Posts: 13
From: Jacksonville, FL, US
Registered: Feb 2004
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posted August 03, 2008 11:31 AM
We love people as individuals and they become part of us. My friendship with my friend Kevin evolved to romantic love that was not returned. We had spent a year glued together and he stirred my soul, made my mind take flight and my heart awaken. He had no idea that when he laid a sheet of lyrics on my desk or played his guitar for me, he was in fact seducing me. It was not his intention. He was just being utterly himself. I thought such a seemingly perfect union was sure to evolve and he would come around any minute. It had been almost a year when I took him for a drive in the country and rolled the jeep. It was the most terrifying day of my life. He was thrown to the side of the road and the jeep landed on his lower half. My injuries were small, but his were not. The next several months I was a regular at the hospital. His pain was so severe that morphine did not touch it. He could not be comfortable but never gave up trying. He came home and I slept at his feet, tending to his every need. I bought a van and a lazy boy chair to accommodate his wheelchair and because he could not sleep in a bed. He recovered from the wreck and then contracted bacterial meningitis/insephallitis and went into a comma. He was brain damamged. He lost a year of memory, our year. That was the second time I had to see him nearly die. Thankfully he is able to function in life but is not the same. I loved him through it all and our friendship has survived. It is the most important thing. I don't have any astrological advice for you, but from experience my advice is to love him and love yourself just as much if not more. Come to understand that no matter how much you love him and feel you belong together, it takes two to believe it to make it true. Enjoy one another in the wonderful capacity that currently exists appreciate it for what it is. Celebrate yourself that you continue to learn the depth of your emotions and don't neglect other aspects of your life that bring you joy. The longings for more that you have CAN subside in time. And time will tell if there can be more. If not, treasure your friendship and relish it for what it is. Kevin and I are still friends. He still calls and serenades my answering machine and asks me questions about the universe no one else would. We still tell one another that we love each other and I know now how pure that love is.IP: Logged | |
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