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Topic: When we have sex
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Lara Knowflake Posts: 72 From: London Registered: Mar 2006
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posted November 30, 2007 08:26 PM
Amazing Heart-shaped cross.Beautifully put and gently yet firmly to the point.  IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross Knowflake Posts: 5787 From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA Registered: Aug 2004
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posted December 01, 2007 12:41 PM
Thanks, tidalwave.Thank you, Lara.  IP: Logged |
Mannu Knowflake Posts: 1682 From: Registered: Mar 2006
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posted December 02, 2007 05:50 AM
Hi NAM, Perhaps your unconsciousness pulls you to think of this other person. Perhaps u are following your bliss and that is leading you to think of this other person. But theres someone you are having conscious sex with this very moment because you feel you are obligated to this person for whatever reason or perhaps even to fulfill your own needs. I can understand if you are drifting away in that case and you don't want to hurt this conscious person for reasons perhaps only you know better.
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NAM Knowflake Posts: 1833 From: Sunny place. Registered: Jan 2007
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posted December 02, 2007 07:58 AM
Mannu, you didn't read the whole thing did you? I am actually not having sex with anyone (sadly enough) I brought this up because of looking back at my life and a couple other people I know now that experince this in their lifes... Just doing a little study of how people here that have so much knowledge about themseves through astrology/religion feel about this issue.That's all I was doing  IP: Logged |
Mannu Knowflake Posts: 1682 From: Registered: Mar 2006
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posted December 02, 2007 01:59 PM
Heh perhaps u are not having sex now , but it applies to whenever you did back then. Hope it will add understanding to those moments.
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MysticMelody Knowflake Posts: 2751 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted December 08, 2007 05:55 PM
HSC, I don't FEEL fortunate. Since I have had the ability to "love" the scum of the fricking earth since I was very young and am only coming close now to having it beat out of me, it is not fortunate for me at all to then be ATTRACTED to them too. Not fortunate at all.Yes, I'm feeling sorry for myself. I'm feeling old. My sister just married a nice wholesome dentist. I feel like I have given my whole life to CRAP, a stupid quest that is meaningless except in my mind. Yeah, that means astrology and the beauty of L.G. and ALL OF IT. How did it serve me to think of the good in everyone and read Linda's Love Signs and think if I only could keep my mind on the positive side of the person etc. Horse **** . Seriously. Oh, and Christ and forgiveness. Yep, just keep turning the other cheek (until you are black and blue!) *laughs maniacally* And what did it get me? Alone non-stop work mental exhaustion pathetic life with my only adult interaction being my online community, my daughter's school or a freaking bar I HATE TODAY I would say to just ignore me because I will probably back to normal in a day. but what if I'm not what if this is the beginning of a loss of faith somebody talk me down from the ledge teach me SOMETHING make me a better person through this make it mean something somebody help me IP: Logged |
NAM Knowflake Posts: 1833 From: Sunny place. Registered: Jan 2007
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posted December 08, 2007 06:01 PM
Sorry you are feeling so down MM  I have been there as well, but tomorrow will be another day. Wanna go out and have a drink? Even know I am a true Cancer *laughs histerically*  I don't know the answer to your questions but one day I will find out what is this so call "love" we all get stuck with from time to time and I promise I will come here and you will be one of teh first I will tell!  IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross Knowflake Posts: 5787 From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA Registered: Aug 2004
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posted December 08, 2007 06:05 PM
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MysticMelody Knowflake Posts: 2751 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted December 08, 2007 06:08 PM
I can't have a drink, I am sick. I'm always ready to give up when I am sick. It is like I constantly walk around at my limit and when I get a little too sick it pushes me over the edge. Thank you for replying. My head is messed up. IP: Logged |
MysticMelody Knowflake Posts: 2751 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted December 08, 2007 06:14 PM
Does anyone else cry? Is this like a Capricorn thing when I can only let a handful of tears fall down my face unless I'm watching a sappy movie or something touches my heart. It's no wonder I pick such scary guys. They can actually get me to cry huge stress releasing tears. I feel like I'm going to explode if I don't cry.
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MysticMelody Knowflake Posts: 2751 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted December 08, 2007 06:22 PM
I'm leaving... my public humiliation for the day exhausted. Actually, it's because I can't trust myself to quit typing and I don't want to burden anyone else with my insanity. Oh hey, this is because I was never allowed to express my feelings. Whaddayaknow.too bad I can't charge myself for my expertize. sorry everyone I just need to finish my term paper and take lots of nyquil IP: Logged |
NAM Knowflake Posts: 1833 From: Sunny place. Registered: Jan 2007
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posted December 08, 2007 06:23 PM
Then cry. but then laugh  Why are you picking scary guys anyway ???? I guess they are all scary in a way...LOL IP: Logged |
MysticMelody Knowflake Posts: 2751 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted December 08, 2007 07:48 PM

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tidalwave Knowflake Posts: 86 From: upper-misery, usa Registered: Sep 2007
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posted December 08, 2007 08:42 PM
MM: i've definitely done the whole scary guys thing, and find it rather traumatizing.you say that you weren't raised being able to express emotions? that's a difficult experience. i happen to have a lot of friends who were raised this way and it definitely causes trials throughout life, but it's also something that CAN be done, ya know? your posts really resonated with me as i've been in that place before. the dark shell of my cancerian nature, but please remember there is a bright beautiful shining light at the end of that tunnel, and the almost orgasmic feeling (since we're on a sex topic here!) of breaking into that light is totally worth it! pulling yourself out of a deep rut, as hard as it is, is very satisfying and the feeling of accomplishment is unrivaled! =o) and i'd like to note that i, too, enjoy a huge sobbing cry every now and again. maybe because of my water influences but i like to sit in the bathtub with the shower on and cry, that way everything blends together. good luck to you! and HSC: you're welcome! ------------------ cancer sun gemini moon cancer asc. IP: Logged |
NAM Knowflake Posts: 1833 From: Sunny place. Registered: Jan 2007
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posted December 08, 2007 09:17 PM
quote: maybe because of my water influences but i like to sit in the bathtub with the shower on and cry, that way everything blends together.
agh! I have been there so many times. Not fair, how is this spirituality tuff helping us anyway???????? And how did we go from sex to crying?  *sights...
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MysticMelody Knowflake Posts: 2751 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted December 08, 2007 10:13 PM
good water people I will go take a bath after I finish this term paper. I want to say more but I don't want to get myself going again yet since I'm not finished with my paper but I won't forget this. Thank you. and about the guys... I am just looking at things darkly or I was or I am... dunno, but I am scary in my own way too... but not quite as scary? I'll have to think about that more when I am thinking more clearly. quote: a bright beautiful shining light at the end of that tunnel, and the almost orgasmic feeling (since we're on a sex topic here!) of breaking into that light is totally worth it! pulling yourself out of a deep rut, as hard as it is, is very satisfying and the feeling of accomplishment is unrivaled! =o)
and so is the feeling of gratitude toward others who are brave enough to enter the tunnel and shine a light... and some who from time to time even remain with you and guide you gently to the other side. IP: Logged |
tidalwave Knowflake Posts: 86 From: upper-misery, usa Registered: Sep 2007
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posted December 09, 2007 12:09 AM
NAM: true that the topic seems to have drifted, but i think sometimes when you're overwhelmed you just need to vent and rant about it somewhere, anywhere, and you've provided the forum for that here with MM  MM: I too can look at things darkly, and TRUST me, i'm such a sucker for the dark mysterious men who are so aloof and elusive it's maddening (hello ex-pisces bf!) i am so glad that i could shine that light for you because i know how it feels to need it! i'll be checking this forum periodically if you're interested in contunuing this conversation or if you decide to start a new topic as maybe NAM feels the subject is drifting too far! oh and NAM...i think it's really cool that you're interested in getting to know the varieties of human nature, i am too! maybe it's inherently Cancerian or something. but i just found out today that my mars conjunct ascendant tends to make me blunt and like to shock people so i definitely enjoy talking sex. i think that's why i studied sex therapy too. hmm....maybe i should get back into that. 
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NAM Knowflake Posts: 1833 From: Sunny place. Registered: Jan 2007
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posted December 09, 2007 12:22 AM
Oh I don't mind tidalwave (love your name...I always thought of myself as an earthquake like nickname ) That should probably be something I should get some books on as well.(sex therapy) Thank you! I have been getting a little bored with what I have now...time to change pace.  I did read a bunch of male/female books (men from mars, women from venus...etc) but I found those really outdated, ths is why now I talk to people.IP: Logged |
tidalwave Knowflake Posts: 86 From: upper-misery, usa Registered: Sep 2007
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posted December 09, 2007 01:35 AM
NAM:thanks, i chose the name because that's what my emotions feel like! hah! yeah sex therapy is really interesting to read up on. so is sexology (which is what i'm REALLY interested in!) what kind of books are you reading now? and yeah a lot of those books are really outdated and kinda boring hhah. but i think it's always good to talk to people about issues especially sex because, as we all know, communication is most important. =) but hey, maybe that's my gemini moon talking talking talking ha. IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross Knowflake Posts: 5787 From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA Registered: Aug 2004
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posted December 09, 2007 01:54 AM
quote: and some who from time to time even remain with you and guide you gently to the other side.
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tidalwave Knowflake Posts: 86 From: upper-misery, usa Registered: Sep 2007
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posted December 09, 2007 02:20 PM
HSC:I found that very touching as well!  IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross Knowflake Posts: 5787 From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA Registered: Aug 2004
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posted December 09, 2007 10:40 PM
tidalwave,  Melody and I are good friends. When she was feeling blue yesterday, I stayed with her for a few hours, exchanging emails (she was too sad to talk), and sharing the best of my sympathy. What you wrote to her here was very sweet.  blessings, hsc
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NAM Knowflake Posts: 1833 From: Sunny place. Registered: Jan 2007
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posted December 09, 2007 11:06 PM
quote: tidalwave, Melody and I are good friends. When she was feeling blue yesterday, I stayed with her for a few hours, exchanging emails (she was too sad to talk), and sharing the best of my sympathy.
What you wrote to her here was very sweet. blessings, hsc
I am glad you were there to talk to her privately, at times it is hard to openly talk about issues in here and while I got that feeling from her I was trying to ease her out of it...since I dind't know what to say 
It is great to have friends that care, she should be glad she has you HSC!  IP: Logged |
MysticMelody Knowflake Posts: 2751 From: Registered: Dec 2005
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posted December 10, 2007 01:01 AM
You are all a blessing. I don't know what to say. "good water people"  HSC has been one of the greatest blessings in my life.  Nellie, you did great. Tidalwave, I bet I will remember your name! I love John Gray's books. A PhD and a monk discussing male/female relationships and sex. It's a good thing. Too bad he isn't an astrologer too! hehe Then he would REALLY have a book. For now I just read his books as masculine and feminine energy instead of just man/woman. That's why I'm really interested in when our different aspects of self are strongest, and it is obviously determined by the "astrological weather"/our transits, so that is where I hope to expand my astrological education.  Well, gemini moon... let's hear about sex therapy and sexology! What did you learn that touched your heart and sounded true?
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tidalwave Knowflake Posts: 86 From: upper-misery, usa Registered: Sep 2007
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posted December 10, 2007 03:08 AM
HSC: awesome! i too have a really good friend who posts on here, so it's good to know that there are great personal relationships on here as well. you seem like a very kind soul!NAM: you're awesome. i love your gutsy posts no matter what people say! haha. i've recently been learning about my mars conjunct ascendant placement and it really helps me understand myself. i can be quite blunt which is kinda opposite of my cancer sun/cancer asc. placements. MM: honestly, i'm a little too drunk to be replying to your comment right now, but i wanted to let you know that i read it and i will ponder some things to share and reply here tomorrow! it sounds like you're feeling better and at least for me, it always helps to talk and sometimes just go on a little rant. i love listening to people and try to be as helpful as possible because i know that i appreciate it, myself. i hope everyone here has a great night/morning! IP: Logged |