posted October 08, 2009 04:08 PM            

ps: notice how i disengage myself from your self imposed misery, i dont love u, nor do i hate u, therefore u are free to look for love or hate from someone else; im in peace, as u too, or that is what u seem to feel; and that is the most important;

i m done with talking with; u are no more real to me than the greatest joy or the most unending sorrow, u are an illusion to me

posted October 08, 2009 07:35 PM            

How are things now? If you want to talk, you can always drop me a line @ gotgemini@gmail.com

posted October 19, 2009 04:07 AM            

How're you doing now? I came to this site to post some of my own relationship trouble but then I read this and I thought, Woah! My pain is nothing compared to this.

I hope everything gets better soon. You have love and goodwill surging to you from different parts of the world, trust me.

Hugs.

posted November 01, 2009 08:32 PM            

I'm still pretty sure it's over. It's still just a matter of time.

But you know what? I'm basically cool with it. I mean it sucks, but there's light at the end of the tunnel. Truth is, I never should have been here to begin with, although we usually only see these things in hindsight. All things for good reasons, I say, and I'm ready to move on. Except I can't for a while. This will be a huge test of patience and self-control, but it will all (eventually) be over.

posted November 03, 2009 09:44 AM            

I don't expect that it's enough to save anything, but at least we're now on the same page as to "why."

I never thought this would happen, and we needed so badly for something to kill the friction. It's such a sad thing the way it can bear down on you day after day and you are helpless to do anything but watch one another withering away in spirit.

It's good to be friends again, and it was good to wake up this morning and not feel trampled. It's not a whole lot, but I'll take it!

posted November 03, 2009 02:23 PM            

It will still be a while before we could part ways even if we wanted to, so who knows what could happen between now and then? I'm in a good place right now, though. If it doesn't work out, at least we're both at peace, and if it does, then BONUS!

I'm happy.

posted November 03, 2009 10:48 PM            

I'm an idiot and he's a ****.

posted November 05, 2009 08:48 AM            

One of my biggest flaws is that I can be more understanding and patient in theory than I am in practice. I can have a short fuse when provoked. Fire girl-- no surprises there, I guess.

Surprisingly, things have rebounded quickly and things are harmonious again.

He really is trying hard. It's not easy for him to open up and move past his defensiveness. And for me it's not easy to be patient because I've been dealing with it for a long time.

Fortunately, we have similar senses of humor. It goes a long way toward smoothing out the rough spots.

Growing and changing is hard work!

posted November 06, 2009 09:11 AM            

I finally responded to you in Know Two, but it got buried. We're having a GIRL! I read that your daughter is expecting a boy. Congrats!

Patience. Ugh. I feel pretty proud of what patience I have cultivated since the birth of my son 9 1/2 years ago. But, still, I'm no saint-- I just have shining moments now and then!

My husband surely tests my patience, as he has quite an Aries sense of entitlement happening, and also the tendency to react instead of respond then apologize later. Usually a bit too late for my liking. It seems when there's a blowout (which happens, I know-- I can be pretty hot-headed myself!) there's a window of time during which I expect people to come out and confess to anything stupidly said in anger. With him it's usually hours or days later, and by then he's been added to my crud list.

And then, in typical Aries fashion, the apology is really about making me angry in the first place, not about what was done or said. Generally, the next time there's an issue, the same nasty comments come up.

Apologies to any dear Ariens poking around here. Truly, they come with lots of good parts, too. This is just the worst I've found of the rams and I find it hard to swallow.

My mom's an Aries with a Libra moon. That's had it's interesting moments!

In more baby news, yes, I'm showing. Very! Kinda disappointing, and it shouldn't be, but you can't help but worry about losing it afterward. At least I can't. Thankfully, Mr. Pukey Man is gone. FOREVER!!

How have you been? It seems you've not been around quite as much for the last week or so. We could use a bit of that Gypsee spirit, I'm thinking!

posted November 07, 2009 06:53 AM            

I had an Aries husband once, never, not one time, was anything his fault. And same thing, he DID apologize for making me upset or whatever, but never the incident in which he instigated. Yes....sorry to the nice Aries folk. I've said many, many times, this sign is one in which the men are SO different from the girls.

Anyway, I think I told you when you first said your were pregnant, that it was a girl, do you remember that???

So are we going with Tinkerbell, or have we come up with something new?

My daughter IS having a boy, around March 10th or so (I was two weeks late with her) That will make the difference between Pisces and Aries. I'm kinda torn on which one I would rather she have. I know the negs/pos of both Aries and Pisces men.

I have heard ALOT, that Aries baby boys are a hand full. My daughter is not the model of patience, so maybe a little fishy would be best. <;

I haven't posted much because I have been with the Flu (yes now we are a couple) for 4 weeks now. I expect soon, Mr. Influenza should be asking for my tissue laden hand in marriage.
Just some flu humour there.

I have reached a "stuck" point in my astro studies, and since I have nothing to offer, I haven't posted. But like I told Yin, having the flu that has kept me up nights, affords me time to read the old posts on the Astro board. But most times I feel like a big dummy in these matters, so I'm kinda on the fence whether I will be sticking around.

Anyway, glad Mr. Pukey Man is gone, and so what if you show. I did really early with the third, I think that is normal. You'll lose it chasing after 3 kids, trust me on that one!!!

Take care of yourself Future, seriously, I mean your pregnant, so try the best you can to keep positive and get lots of rest. Arguing is bad for you right now. Maybe just kinda wait to do all that stuff later. I mean, still make sure your point is known, I just hate to think of you constantly stressed out.

Much affection,

posted May 16, 2011 03:41 PM            

Would love to know how you're doing.. sounds like it was quite a journey for you for some time. Do update us..