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Topic: Calling all Gemini experts!
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 1218 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 23, 2003 02:06 PM
 ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
cristiname Knowflake Posts: 58 From: Earth. Welcome! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 24, 2003 07:32 AM
i have some experience with Gemini women...my closest friend ever had Sun in Gem. She could talk for days at a time, about anything! Always kept the tv on, on amusic channel. Would lie or just "invent things" for fun. Was very interested in the personal lives of EVERYBODY, and always remembered everything she'd heard, like word for word. She had files in her head about everyone she knew, with facts about every aspect of life. She befriended all the sellspeople and chatted to them everyday. Had a slow manner to move her body, very sensual gestures... most people thought she was really stupid, but since I was closer to her I say she was just superfficial. VERY! and sorta silly, if you know what I mean. Never took anything seriously. not even our friendship! she was very jealous and I couldn't do a lot of things without upsetting her. She always tried to get the men I liked (as she trusted my taste!). Always tried to keep things from me that she thought I wouldn't agree with. Like one-night stands with people I had told her to be trouble. She asked once to read my diary. At first I took it as joke! SHE WASN'T. I thought about it and since I had decided to learn from her how to be more laid back, I gave it to her. Two or so days later she called me very ****** , telling me we were thru...blah-blah-blah! She called me several times, raging, then invited me over "to talk". On short, she was ****** that "i hadn't written that much about her in my diary". She was in there, but not "that much". I tried telling her that I wrote in there when I was upset, but...she felt betrayed. or something. our friendship got cold when she met a guy and eventulyy married him. Never told me about it untill afterwards. she left the country and I never heard from her again. we refound eachotherfor a while. It all ended when she said she would call one morning, hadn't by 13:00, and I left home. She called at around 13:30, my mum told her I 'd left, and she got ****** . Never talked to me again! the end. my actual work colleague has a gemini asc. some bad karma for me, I guess. she's just as talkative, superficial, never gets a joke or a hint, can't really do anything for real or be good at, except for talking. She can't keep herself from doing really stupid things when she's not minding her own business. But she's really good getting new clients. But she takes herself seriously as a business woman and that's when she makes mistakes again. My boss is also gemini SUn. Also superficial, not good at anything, really, exccept talking. He know just what to say to each in order to get what he wants. Also, he's great at finding others to do things for him, really good others, and do things for next to nothing, too. Bottom line...geminies have a knack of always finding the easy way and the most fun through life. they are not to be trtusted with anything serious, as they aren't respnsible and they are incapable of any real planning. But they are great fun to be with, real party people, and a real help for a capricorn sun-venus like me, who's sometimes too up-tight and too gloomy. they really **** me off, but there is some envy there as well... If there are geminies here, don't throw things at me, pls. I just wrote it as I lived it. And my Sag Merc conj Nep tells of my lack of diplomacy and the fact that my sayings r to be missunderstood... Not all gem are like that. I guess. Cristina IP: Logged |
theFajita3 unregistered
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posted October 24, 2003 11:33 PM
My experience with geminis is to not pursue them, let them pursue you. It's like the minute you pursue them they don't want anything to do with you. And then the minute you accept that and are ready to do something else, there they go, popping in your life again.  ------------------ Namaste! IP: Logged |
keryna unregistered
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posted October 25, 2003 12:17 AM
ahh, wow. ok, i'm an aquarius that just recently realized i was in love w/a gem. in my own oblivious way i didn't even know he was alive. he's a bartender at a lil place i've been going to every week for months now. i think i always wrote him off as being too beautiful and too cocky. he's tall with dark features and looks younger than his 22 years, a def. pretty boy. it all changed the night i realized that HE liked ME. sumthin clicked happily into place but then the bar closed down for month-long renovations. it reopened last week, and after playing cat-and-mouse over the last 2 tuesdays and wednesdays, then with me inadvertantly standing him up (i'd asked him for a ride home), i finally just went in last wed. and told him straight up that i i'm not the kinda girl that would just do that to someone. and he replied that he doesn't KNOW me. and i asked him if he would LIKE to get know me better, sumplace other than a crowed bar. we have a date on Monday IP: Logged |
Nackie unregistered
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posted October 27, 2003 12:40 PM
Holy, Christiname!I'm a gemini, and I take offense to your spiel about gems! "Bottom line...geminies have a knack of always finding the easy way and the most fun through life. they are not to be trtusted with anything serious, as they aren't respnsible and they are incapable of any real planning." First of all, what is wrong with the "easiest" way through life? Why should I wade through 2 meter deep snow when I can take the cleared and salted road? My husband is a cappy, and that is what irritates me about him the absolute most--just because it takes you LONGER and more EFFORT to get to the same goal, doesn't mean that the way you did it was better and worthier. Secondly, not to be trusted with anything serious? Pardon me? Incapable of real planning? I'm in a VERY typical Gemini job, I am an event manager. A very good one! And 95% of my work is sitting in front of a computer, doing planning, coordinating, doing a hundred thousand things at once...and not only do I get my job done well, I get it done fast (me taking the easiest way again, shucks!) and am able to carry on at the same time with the other parts of my job, like making proposals, doing the after-event work, sales etc, all at once. What is wrong with that, and why should my boss not be happy with my work? Just because you had a shallow friend who HAPPENED to be a gemini, doesn't mean all geminis should be tarred and feathered. And I'm sure your boss has other qualities, other than just being "good at talking"...otherwise he wouldn't have gotten to be your boss... Thirdly, geminis are NOT jealous people. I'm the least jealous person that I know (and that with me having a scorpio rising!!) So there was something else in your GF's chart that made her the way she was, but that is not gemini talking. There are too many options in life, too many distractions to get jealous. Maybe that's what you mean by shallow and superficial, and I will give you that, that the bonds that geminis make maybe don't run as deep as you would like. I see that as a self-protection mechanism. Contrary to popular belief, gems are very susceptible to depression, even if they don't show it. Too much emotion is just too scary and we don't know how to deal with it...we feel that we aren't "allowed" to have emotions about things, because they don't "make sense". So if you were my best friend and you betrayed me, I would move on without a tear and find another friend. And you would never know the hole that you ripped in my heart. But just because you can't see it or experience my hurt, doesn't mean it isn't there...we are the silent feelers lol Thank god there's enough other stuff to talk about other than "stupid" emotions! I really understand the friction between Gems and cappies, but honestly, give us a chance, we aren't all that bad. And since when is having fun a crime?  No offense, I tend to run into things with both guns blazing--my mars is in aries lol  Nackie IP: Logged |
Discreteiden unregistered
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posted October 27, 2003 11:33 PM
Well, I am reading your postings and I still remain just as confused as before as far as Geminis are concerned. The guy that I like so much has decided to fade away, not sure what happened to him, all I know is that I certainly was not pushy, nor too demanding, it has been a week since I heard from him last and I am thinking that it is done. At this point I am not even sure if I want him to call, what really bothers me is the fact that we were so good together. I was only honest with him, keeping all expectations inside until I got some sign from him that he wanted to get serious. He was the one that showed insecurity at times and jealousy, which I found interesting.But anyways, thank you for your input, this forum helped a bit understand what was going on, not sure if I will open up to another Geminis again, as a Leo I am supposed to be compatible with Sags and Geminis, first my one Sag relationship was a disaster and now this. Who knows, maybe I need to give the chance that a Cancer friend has been asking for, for a while now. IP: Logged |
bauschd unregistered
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posted October 28, 2003 01:54 AM
Yeah, I totally agree with everyone As stated earlier, Gems are VERY sensitive. My sister is also a Gem, and my Mums a Cappie, so we've all had our fun arguments. It does seem at times that people are annoyed by Geminis ability to land on there feet and pretty much always act like a child. Then they fail to understand why we never call if they offend us. Life is way too short to worry about negative people or reactions.Dean. ------------------ Love and Light to aLL My numerology program according to "Star Signs" by LG. Magically Logical Magic is Logically Magical Logic (and vice versa)! IP: Logged |
Discreteiden unregistered
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posted October 28, 2003 09:13 AM
Wait a second, I always thought that if someone ofended you, shouldn't you want to talk about it and give the person the opportunity to explain. I understand that life is too short, however, I also think that it is easier to discard people based on facts as opposed to assumptions. The only thing that I can think of that might have bother him was that I did not agree to cancel my vacation like he asked me to, I had planned it since before I met him, I don't think those are grounds to stop calling, specially since we spoke a few times while I was away and acording to him, he couldn't wait for me to come back. Anyways, he knows why he stopped calling and if he does not want to share it with me then, what else can I do right ?IP: Logged |
sana unregistered
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posted October 28, 2003 11:39 AM
hi guys... hey nackie thanks a lot.after readin what christina had to say i had a pretty long letter ready n then i realised u beat me to it...m a gem with scorp rising as well..and u havent left me with anythin there..except that if u have seen a bad side of a gem cheer up there is always more than 2 sides n things always change with gems..they make it change..change is the key word.. n nervin, i have somethin to tell u..there is this piscean guy who is showin some interest in me..n he calls up so many times n is very sweet to me n i avoid him..wish i cud tell u y..but i just avoid him..n after a couple o days wen he stops callin i call him n talk fer a long time.. i like him but feel a need to keep distance and i dont see one gud reason y i do it n well..i guess that only proves fajita right bout pursuing a gemini... anyways wish u all the luck...IP: Logged |
Discreteiden unregistered
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posted October 28, 2003 01:24 PM
Dear Sana,Thank you for the enlightening reply, you have helped me understand greatly the very nature of Geminis I guess. Not sure what you mean by typical leonine, I am sorry that your boyfriend does not pursue you, however in my relationship, if he called, I called back, I was as loving and caring as he wanted me to be, don't think it was the lack interest that kept him away, I don't play chase games. I think it was the fact that I was not willing to bend backwards for him and cancel my vacation, how could I ? It was planned before I even met him. Also I noticed that he was quick on the eye like cristiname and thesag mentioned before, I am sure he found something that interested him more, nothing wrong with that, I just wish he would have been honest and open about it that is all. Thanks again IP: Logged |
sana unregistered
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posted October 28, 2003 01:39 PM
hey discreteiden, sorry if i have hurt u.. i understand.. m sure he wud understand too as a i dont think he wud have changed his plans either if the situation were to be reversed..hopefully things will be fine.. u did the right thing by sticking to your plans. nobody should be able to dictate what you should do in life..nobody is worth it.. if he loves u he ll understand..best of luck..be happy..sorry againIP: Logged |
Discreteiden unregistered
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posted October 28, 2003 02:28 PM
Hey Sana, I hope I did not come across too strong, I am sorry if I did, I have been told before that my writing is a bit stronger than it needs to be at times. I really did appreciate your take on the entire issue, it is good to hear other perspectives. I am not sure if he is coming back, I just don't think he would like me to call him after he promised to call back. While we were together I got the impression that he liked to chase but not to be chased and he made it very clear that he was with me because I seem so sure of myself and did not take crap from him. Not sure how much of it was true. Thank you and I am sorry again, IP: Logged |
sana unregistered
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posted October 28, 2003 03:41 PM
u dont need to be sorry..u were right..i agree with u.. if he isnt comin back its time to move on to more interesting things... its ok..i never felt ur writing was strong n stuff..u r very sweet n i wud say like a typical leonine...leonine people r very helpful n very much fun to be with..if he doesnt realise that then too bad for him...IP: Logged |
bauschd unregistered
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posted October 29, 2003 01:36 AM
Hi Discreteiden, I'm sorry he didn't call back  I didn't mean that gems are unforgiving - quite the opposite really. But I've felt that if something REALLY bad happens, then I question the person's motives and likelihood to repeat it. I don't think you should've cancelled your plans in ANY way. From the sounds of things, he might've been playing games - in which case give him plenty of room, and be wary if he comes back. Out of every snu sign, I've had the most experience with gems. I've loved some, and I couldn't stand others. They are unpredictable and may take a LONG time to mature. Sometimes you have to decide whether you'd stick around and put up with the maturing, or just live on, and don't worry about it. Best of Love and Luck  Dean. ------------------ Love and Light to aLL My numerology program according to "Star Signs" by LG. Magically Logical Magic is Logically Magical Logic (and vice versa)! IP: Logged |
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posted October 29, 2003 04:43 AM
If it's just been a week, maybe he's just busy? I'm often too exhausted to make a phone call at night, knowing that it's going to take up an hour of my headspace, and too tired to make the impression I want to leave...so I sometimes don't call. A week isn't all that long...I'm sure he hasn't forgotten you, but make sure you tell him that you were worried he didn't call, he'll get the picture. Nackie IP: Logged |
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posted October 29, 2003 09:26 AM
Thank you guys for the advice !!Dean, I know what you mean about the maturing issue, I guess I will just need to wait and see, if he is to come back around and if he doesn't then I will not need to worry about it, thank you for taking the time to reply. Nackie, I am giving him all the space that he needs, I miss him but I will not call him, I truly don't think he wants me to. You are right one week if not that bad, what makes me wonder is that he used to call multiple times a day, everyday, he would call me at work, on my way home and at home, I totally did not mind it becasue he was a lot of fun. I thank you too for offering your advice, coming from another Gemini, there must be some truth to it. Lots of love IP: Logged |
keryna unregistered
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posted October 30, 2003 12:12 AM
decided to post the next chapter of my adventure, in case it can help u at all. well, i DID get his number and we made plans to get together on monday. i called on sat evening to confirm things and DOH! he never called back. after reading these last few posts i'm not surprised. looks like for the first time i had begun to chase him and maybe he doesn't like that very much. i still went to the bar last night (tues) cuz all my friends go but i made a point not to look at him (not in a rude way, i simply kept myself occupied) and i'm going back tonight cuz weds nights there are my favorite. but the important thing, for me at least, is that i trust what i can FEEL and the connection between us is magnetic. i know energy between 2 people isn't necessarily felt the same by both people, but is he feels even half of what i feel just being in the same room w/him then i have nothing to worry about cross yur fingers for me and i'll let u know if anything happens....IP: Logged |
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posted October 30, 2003 12:44 AM
I was very intrigued by a gemini who whenever I showed interest, he wouldn't! Don't take it personal, I've seen this happen with a few geminis and not just males. Then again, I always welcome pleasant surprises so who knows what could happen with y'all Whatever happens just put YOUR happiness first and don't rely on someone to be happy *quickly realizes must apply own advice*  ------------------ Namaste! IP: Logged |
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posted October 30, 2003 09:51 AM
Yeah, I know that too from me lol :looksaroundashamedly: There's a reason for it though. When I like someone, I think they're a god (well, used to...I'm married now lol). But if they like ME then there must be SOMETHING wrong with them, they aren't as perfect as I thought. LOL. I know, makes absolutely no sense, but there you have it!Cheer up, give him a call...just don't try to pin him down to why he didn't call you. Good luck! Nackie IP: Logged |
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posted October 30, 2003 12:31 PM
Keryna, plese do keep us posted, it would be interesting to find out what happens, I guess the Monday date never happened since he didn't call. Just don't try too hard, I don't think Geminis like that very much.Good luck to you I hope everything works out for you two, they are a lot of fun. I enjoyed my Gem's company, while it lasted, to the max, it was a blast. Take care
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posted October 30, 2003 04:35 PM
well i went in, and he waves me over, obviously happy to see me. then he tells me he's sick, that he went golfing on monday thinking no one else would be out (there's been all sorts of crazy fires in southern cali and most people have been staying indoors). so i guess he went out and inhaled a buncha ashy air and now he's not feeling too well. so i just said awww, poor baby, like i always do when he whines cuz he's a big baby and it's cute. i did *not* say Hey! i thought we were supposed to hang out on monday? or even ask if he got my msg's (yes, i left 2, i'm a dork). i know our plans musta been on his mind cuz i can't think of any other reason that the first thing outta his mouth would be to tell me what he did that day. ack! so maybe he never got my msg's and was trying to give ME a lead-in to say why i didn't call or at least acknowledge the fact that we were supposed to hang out. but i didn't fall for the bait cuz to be honest, at this point i'd really, really like it if HE could stick his neck out for once (altho maybe that's what he was doing by bringing up monday?) so am i being realistic or just playing games? should i be looking at this from his point of view, give him the benefit of the doubt and realize that i might have actually hurt his feelings if he thinks i never called..... damn gemini's!!! guess i'll hafta wait and see what happens next week....IP: Logged |
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posted October 30, 2003 09:54 PM
Your not a dork just keep cool and it sounds like you two are on the right track!------------------ Namaste! IP: Logged |
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posted October 31, 2003 10:16 AM
Geminis, they are a mistery !!! It does sound a bit confusing, but he must have thought about you and the date, he did explain himself and if he did not care, he wouldn't have. Wait until next week, I also think that him talking to you is a good sign, hopefully things will work out for the two of you, he has the potential of being a lot of fun.Good luck !!! IP: Logged |
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posted October 31, 2003 01:26 PM
The first thing you MUST understand when dealing with a gemini, is do NOT try to catagorized us, we WILL defy your generalizations on sheer principal. we do not like to fit anyones "definition" and if you try to force one on us we WILL prove you are wrong. That said, there are a few things to keep in mind that are OFTEN true. 1. We tend to be distracted by interesting things. 2. We can become focused on a single objective if it is interesting, but tend to juggle numerous projects simultaneously. 3. We do not trust easily, trust must be earned, and it is easy for use to feel that the trust has been broken and it will be harder to earn it again. 4. The part where everyone thinks we are emotionally detached, is most often a ruse to prevent us from getting hurt. the theory being if your cannot see how we feel, then you cannot use it against us. 5. We are fully capable of see both sides of an arguement and reserve the right to change sides mid stream. 6. Just because we can see both sides does not mean we will admit if we are wrong, until you can prove it first, and then we will admit and be glad to learn from it. of course, we may find a loophole that allows us to show how we were actually right in the first place, and just miscalculated a minor aspect. 7. We are not wrong. We may lack all the details, but with the given information we are correct. once more information is provided, our final results may change, but were were still right at the time. 8. If a gemini studies how to do something, and is asked to put this knowledge into use before they can finish the full learning process, we ussually will be able to fill in the missing information on their own. their method may differ from the conventional or accept way, but it will work for the need they are given. 9. given a chance we will talk about something until all other parties have lost any interest in it anymore. 10. No we do not ramble, we are just very thourough with our explanations. 11. Yes, some of this was placed in here for humor value, but it does not make it less true. Thank you, I hope this helps, but if you make it a rule, we will defy it.  IP: Logged |
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posted November 01, 2003 03:07 AM
YES! Greyheart, I totally agree - especially about number 6. I tend to think that once someone thinks they know us, that we change - not necessarilly to defy them, but its just our nature. It's DEINITELY a contradiction, but one that I believe. I mean, we don't really do it to p them off although maybe...Also, I find with the arguing that If someone has a good argument against, we usually work it into our own argument, and agree, "YES, that is a valid point, and just goes to show that there is more that meets the eye! Thank you for your astute observation, and further clarification of what I'm saying" I also think point 12 should be added that we may NOT be talkitive, unless of course no one else speaks, in which case we can hold LONG conversations with our selves BUT, of course we do ask questions and allow other people to add comments to OUR conversation. We also feel pride that we created such a great conversation - but maybe I'm starting to talk about my Leo Mars but I don't think so  Love you ALL! Dean. IP: Logged | |