posted November 10, 2003 01:46 PM           

It is Monday afternoon and I can't help but wonder, why hasn't he called, I left him a message on Friday night. Tuesday night he mentioned that he might have to be out of town the rest of the week, but since I never heard from him on Wednesday, I am not sure if he did travel.

I also sent him a test message on Saturday afternoon, "Hey, how are you ?", still no answer, I did not do anything yesterday I am trying to give him all the space that he needs, but it is a bit discouraging to only get his attentions in person, but I guess is better than nothing for now.

posted November 12, 2003 01:37 AM           

I think the biggest reason why people think Gems and Fish don't mix is there complete opposite natures in that Pisces love security, but gems rarely give it or seem to need it, unless given total freedom, and even then you may not see anything unless they are threatened to act and show you that you have absolutely no worries. However, do not be discouraged as they really are secure, and do desire it themselves, but again, that freedom word needs to be mentioned.

I'm sure he is out there as guilty as hell for not calling you yet.

Dean.

posted November 12, 2003 06:26 AM           

I hate guilt...seems to be the thing that powers me through life though lol

posted November 12, 2003 10:43 AM           

Thank you for the input, I totally understand what you are saying, I am like that too, I love my freedom and hate feeling restricted too, but I have never been on this side of the relationship, I was always the one asking for space, maybe because I have dated Cancers primarily and I being the Leo that I am couldn't stay still for too long

I will focus on remembering how constricted I felt and continue giving him his space, I have no intentions of calling him, since he did not reply to the text message on Saturday, you are the best !!!

And Nackie you are right, he does feel guilty, he tried to explain himself the last time we were on the phone I was just so happy that he called that I told him not to bother, maybe I should have let him.

posted November 13, 2003 09:05 PM           

Even though we have influences does not mean we should get away with them

Dean.

ps, sorry for thinking you're a Pisces, I'm just getting confused...

posted November 14, 2003 09:51 AM           

True, he will get a bit of my wrath when he calls just kidding, I will make sure to let him know that it bothers me that he disappears like this, specially after he mentioned that he wanted to take this to the next level since we were so perfect together(Maybe he meant the next level down , who knows)

I truly feel as if is payback time, I have always been the one feeling sofocated and now I am wishing he would sofocate me a bit more , but anyways, thanks for the advice, I am not holding my breath for his call, but something inside tells me that he is calling, I can be dead wrong of course.

Don't worry about the confusion, sometimes I even forget that I am a Leo.

posted November 20, 2003 04:49 PM           

Any news?

posted November 21, 2003 10:13 AM           

Well, he called and we have spoken a few times more, well spread, now it has been almost five days since I have herd from him last, but anyways. He told me that the reason why he has not been able to talk as often as he would like to is becasue his Dad is looking into a new business venture. Interesting enough, the office for this new business will be located 20 mins away from where I live. I hope that means that we will be able to see more of each other. He seems to be quite excited about this new business, he talks and talks about it.

He has told me in the past, that his Dad relies quite a bit on him, being the older son, but I tell ya, I find it hard to keep up with him, he is all over the place but I guess it works well he keeps me on my toes. I am not sure where this is all going, I am still just waiting to see, and he is being quite honest about the whole thing, he mentioned that he does not have much time for a normal relationship right now, specially because he has not found his work niche yet (how could he ?? he is constantly on the move and working around the clock).

According to him, if I can understand that and wait for him until he reaches some kind of place where he is comfortable, then he is not going anywhere. He did mentioned that he likes me a lot and that when he is not runing all over the place he thinks of me.

Not sure what this all means, but once again I find myself waiting for a call back, crazy, I do feel as if we are getting closer and it is easy to pick up right where we left off last.

He is incredibly charming

Thank you for asking!!!

posted November 21, 2003 10:35 PM           

if you get a gemini hang on to him "he is a treasure".
life is fun with them becuase they surprise you a lot. if you hate changes and surprises then look somewhere else gemini is not ur kind.
they are swift and VERY VERY romantic.

they love to fall in love with love
they flirt a lot it is kind of second nature to them but it is harmless.
they talk very sweet and loose temper very quick.
they talk all day and night but u will not get bored becuase they talk very intellectually about various subjects.
it is like A to B to C ..........

posted November 22, 2003 08:34 AM         

I do believe that male and female geminis are worlds apart, but we do have many similarities.

Dean.

posted December 02, 2003 12:22 PM           

As I said earlier, do not attempt to classify and generalize a gemini, becasue as soon as you do we will change our ways, we refuse to confirm to any expectations or generalizations unless it suits out needs at the time.

posted December 03, 2003 11:54 PM           

(and my sister is pisces )

posted December 04, 2003 03:11 AM           

For real, not maybe

lolol

posted December 29, 2003 12:19 AM         

Twin, I guess I've been pondering it for a while. I have this associate (gem) at work that I think have disliked from day dot. He also dislikes me and is always trying to dig at me. Sometimes it seems I understand him, but I just don't care, which I think is mutual. Another gem at work I liked from the start, but have gradually realised he's kind of superficial, but I still don't know about that one. He was born on my birhtday and while I would call him a friend, there are aspects that we will never understand about each other. And yet, I completely agree with Grayheart that only gems will ever truly understand gems. Many times I grin at one and they grin back while we talk about the weather or something, but we never discuss what we're grinning about. I have had this sort of thing with other people, but mostly it seems only really other worldly with gems. My own experience with dating one ended in chaos.

To answer your question though, I think that yes, we do either like or dislike other gems almost on sight, but I think there are also scales of "likeness". I especially find it funny when a gem is talking about something that is so geminian, and I 'll just know that they're getting away with it, and I'll laugh inside and share the joke with them, but will cut them from the first word if they do it to me. Sometimes I don't like listening to gems prattle on, but it is kind of relaxing...

Heaps of Love,
Dean.

posted June 02, 2004 09:06 AM           

I do have Neptune conjunct the Ascendant, Sun in the 6th, and Mercury in Gemini in the 7th so I understand duality a bit, and I am nervous and high strung. I have also found Geminis are attracted to women with strong Mars, or Mars on the 1st and I have that.

So I wasn't suprised to get involved with one, but I am suprised at how stable this one acts.
Not all Geminis are flaky compared to us Neptunian women.

I do get very emotional and he is worried about hurting me, but then again my feelings can change overnight.

I do get the same, lots of affection with no calling. I told him that I can't stand when he doesn't call me for a while and I take it he can't be true to me then. I don't believe for a minute he is true to me if he can't call me for a week at a time.

That got through to him so we always talk, I call him at least three times a week and I expect him to talk back. He usually is sitting around waiting for me to contact him to make plans and doesn't want to bother me, or else gets lost in his head. I realize other people take up your time so I am good at making sure he remembers I exist.

I think it's a planning and organizing problem Geminis have, they do not like to do that, or want help with the planning part. Capricorns for example, love to do all the planning and get excited about planning the weekend. Air signs and especially Geminis get lost in all the possibilities and prefer some assertion.

I am naturally assertive but of course I get irritated too that I am doing all the work.

Only time will tell if it will bother me, intensely because I have found that my life is too unstable for earth sign men, so I am attracting Gemini right now. I will go with that energy but in a year from now I told him I doubt we will be together because I will be in a different place. I have to be real.

I also wrote him a long letter explaining what I meant by, being true, calling me, showing affection, and giving me space.

But then I had a 7yr relationship with a Libra to give me experience. Libras like air signs, are very bad at understanding what you are saying. It's like they see your lips move but can't hear what you say. A letter works much better.

Geminis also respect the written word more, than just talk so I always give him cards and letters.

The last Gemini I met loved cards, and we almost got married. So I have good experiences with Gemini men being true, it's just that my own inconstant nature demands affection and talk when I want it and I tend to be too demanding for any human being (even A Capricorn).

I know myself now, I know how demanding and inconsistent I am, so I am fairly confident that this Gemini is a good man with a good heart who can be true as long as he KNOWS that's what I want with all my heart and as long as I express it.

As for a man saying he is not ready for a relationship, that could change if you are willing to be his friend for a while. It's hard to switch off affection but I think I could do it with this Gemini and go back to being friends. I think he knows that and that's why he stays. If I didn't have other options he wouldn't want me, that's the nature of romance, I've found this to be true of myself too.

If you want to read about this particular Geminis situation, click here http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/000959.html
It helps that I am still seeing my psychologist weekly, I personally feel I can't handle any man without professional therapeutic unbiased help.

posted August 10, 2004 07:25 AM           

yes some can be born jerks others can be great partners, it all depends

i say this because i've concluded that i'm probible the only gemini guy here.

I have a freind of mind born a couple hours before me and strangely enought where not exactly the same. even though we have some of the same planets.

The one thing all say is sorta
bait him in let him chase you in, tease him but don't be sorta to sluty about it or to into it, and try to show some smarts.

trust me gemini men will play along, that is as long as you don't come to hard on him
if you come to hard on him, he may run for his life.

If somethings bothering him,
Sometimes he might not talk about it

he may leave clues whats
bothering him or he may just want to be asked whats wrong.

sometimes cheering up works, it all depends.

he may be even grouchy and moody,

if you want to attract him, i know this may sound sick but yes, breasts do work
same with conversation, all explain more in a second.

don't worry about what your cup size is every size has its advantage and disadvantage.

small breasts are just as good as big breasts

talk, but don't always try to be the one starting the converstation try to make it so that he starts it, and then just talk and listen.

I know after reading this, it may sound hard to understand some gemini's i can understand it, but all say if he rarely loves you, you will feel it,

and yes he may yell now and then and be grouchy there and there but like i said you will feel it.

In away i guess all say i think the best way is well, sorta understand him ina way study his behaviour, understand him

treat him as if he's your son, a child inside.

once you understand him then you will have no problems