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Topic: What keeps a Capricorn man interested?
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Randall
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posted January 13, 2011 12:12 PM
  
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AcousticGod
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posted January 13, 2011 12:50 PM
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The Scorpio Mars has me a bit troubled.
Alot of girls have some not so nice stories about men with this placement. Cause Scorpio enjoys 'testing' you to see exactly how interested you really are. It can be exausting.
Is a year too long?  I don't think of myself as a person that tests people, but in my last relationship I did wait a year before really feeling like I should let her in more. That's a whole year together, not as friends before going out. quote:
No he hasn't It's as though I am chasing him, and not really getting anywhere.
Bad sign. Sorry I wasn't here earlier. I would have told you to try emotionally distancing yourself from him. Then, if he's interested and didn't realize it, he'd come around, because he missed your attention. quote:
There is no half way about it, if I feel someone's heart isn't really into me I walk away.
Wouldn't work with me. I won't give anyone everything from day one. It would set the wrong precedence. I have my Sag stellium, which requires a certain amount of freedom or latitude. I need to see that a woman can stand on her own regardless of what I do. That's why I like Sagittarians: low maintenance. I do like a certain intensity being an 8th house Sun with Mars in Scorpio. I can understand that energy, but if it's all-consuming it just seems like a lack of will power. People should be able to express their passions appropriately I think. Being overly passionate about a guy is a signal that your expectations may be impractical. quote:
IF he isn't interested then he should at least be man enough to let you know instead of having you wonder.
Actions speak louder than words. quote:
yeah, gyps, i am! he's sooooo darling and kind and protective but i sense it is just so difficult for him to talk about his feelings. though he seems to love when i talk about mine, in relation to us/him. perhaps beCAUSE he cannot.
My best Taurus friend is like that. I've been stunned the times he's opened up to me. So rare, and it didn't happen the first time until we'd known each other for years. As a Capricorn I consider myself less reserved than he is about emotional matters. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted January 14, 2011 11:28 AM
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GypseeWind
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posted January 14, 2011 04:21 PM
Well, when one doesn't SAY much, it leaves alot of room for speculation.!
So, people obviously fill in the blanks with whatever they have as some sort of reference.IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted January 14, 2011 10:24 PM
Well I was able to speak abit to one of his friends he hangs out with, turns out he may be moving back to Wisconsin, where he's originally from. What I don't understand why he didn't mention anything about it to me?? It just makes no sense, you would think he would it least bring it up within conversation...I think I am going to just block anything I am feeling for this guy, it's just to much for me. I almost do consider myself a Cancer, I do read to much into things with people and tend to be way too sensitive in reacting. Mabe this is why I have never been able to date an earth sign thus far.IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted January 14, 2011 10:38 PM
Mabe he doesn't want to get close because he might leave or he is just afraid of what I will say if he tells me  IP: Logged |
woah cakes
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posted January 15, 2011 01:58 AM
sorry to hear that. my cappy moon is driving me nuts in a similar way. WHY do they not talk??? randall? i'm very intuitive/empathic and i sense and feel so much under the surface and he reveals things emotionally but he won't verbalize and will pull back and get stoic when i'm trying to conversate and.. arrrg! we're actually taking a bit of a break because i'm not sure i can handle this, even though i really like the guy. it's almost too much work; i mean, do they EVER open up?IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
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posted January 15, 2011 02:15 AM
Woah cakes.
Listen, I am the only person my son can say I love you too. He has told me this, "Mom, I feel it (for like grandparents and such) but I just can't say it! And he has told me ( I feel like a creep for saying this, but I think it's helpful to understand caps and plus I doubt any of you will run into my 15 yr old son) "Mom, I feel like when I am about to tell someone I love them, I might start to cry!!!"
So you see, they FEEL it. Oh boy, do they feel it. But they are sooo scared of rejection.
My son knows I am safe, no worries of rejection here.
He should know that grandparents are safe too, and they are, but he is just... they are hesistant! I can't explain it, you'll just have to trust me.
It's similiar to scorpio, in that you have to earn the trust.
It can take forever though.
I'm not trying to discourage anybody, I just keep it real.It's hard to ever get a cap person to be efussive. (sp?) If that is what you REALLY need, you may want to re-think your choice, because they show in actions what they can't say with words. IP: Logged |
woah cakes
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posted January 15, 2011 02:12 PM
okay THIS is good to know. i've felt it's a fear of rejection thing, only it confuses because it comes across as rejectION, even though i've also felt, distinctly, that it's not. just when things will get deeply tender and sweet he will pull back and cool off and it IS very similar to scorpio. my last real relationship was with a scorp and it was similar (we are now GREAT friends and i now have access to his vulnerability/heart, as he learned he could trust me, but it took a VERY long time to reveal himself). i think for myself i need to step back and cool off myself. we are in that grey area of uncommitted/no expectations/having amazing soul stirring sex together/having fantastic, profound conversations and tonnes of fun together, and we both want to keep it free of expectations, because those things are insidious and poisonous in our opinions. but on the other hand because our connection is so fantastic it sometimes irks me deeply that it isn't being honoured or sustained; like he tries so hard to shut it off (i do sense fear of rejection is behind this). maybe it's the semi sextile of his moon to my AC/venus in sag and i should learn from his more cautious approach.and OMG, your son sounds DARLING. my daughter is a cap sun, virgo moon, sag rising and she is extremely emotionally expressive with me (tells me 20 times a day she loves me) but with others she is rather aloof aswell. we do have composite moon in cancer though, so that might help. where is your composite moon with your son? IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted January 15, 2011 10:17 PM
I am taking your advice AG, I will detach myself emotionally from this guy before I get even more hurt. Your right actions really do speak louder than words, and so far I have not seen much in way of action. It just really sucks to be so attracted to someone, and it turn out to be one sided...I don't want to feel bad about it anymore.IP: Logged |
charmainec
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posted January 15, 2011 10:29 PM
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
I am taking your advice AG, I will detach myself emotionally from this guy before I get even more hurt. Your right actions really do speak louder than words, and so far I have not seen much in way of action. It just really sucks to be so attracted to someone, and it turn out to be one sided...I don't want to feel bad about it anymore.
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LetsDance
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posted January 16, 2011 04:16 AM
I've read that you told him something about how you feel about him. What did you tell him? IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted January 16, 2011 07:33 PM
I told him I thought he was an awesome guy that I would like to date and be with. Mabe for him it was just too forward to soon. Usually when I find the attraction to be magnetic, it's hard to conceal what I am feeling, I call it as I feel it lol. But like everyone else has been saying about Capricorn men, they move at a slow pace, and seems they can't be rushed no matter what the circumstances. For me when I am attracted to someone; that's it I want THEM, and try to bond quickly. They(Capricorns and perhaps other earth signs)wait and don't hurry with love, their hearts aren't won over so easy...IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted January 17, 2011 12:15 AM
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But like everyone else has been saying about Capricorn men, they move at a slow pace, and seems they can't be rushed no matter what the circumstances. ...They(Capricorns and perhaps other earth signs)wait and don't hurry with love, their hearts aren't won over so easy...
Taurus & Virgo may get bogged down with timidity and chastity and let a good thing to slip through their hands. Not Capricorn. This sign keeps an eye out for a good deal, and can spot a diamond in the rough. Whether it be youth, money, sex, title, or potential. If you've got something the Cappy desires, he will come after you boldly, enthusiastically, awkwardly. He will come, he will chase, & you will know. He will never leave things up in the air. IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted January 17, 2011 01:25 AM
Then I guess I was not worth coming after then, in his eyes...I guess I won't be chased anytime soon by any earth sign for that matter. I learned my lesson well  IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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posted January 17, 2011 11:54 PM
That's too bad. It does seem like he's keeping you at arms length until he eventually slips out of your life. It may not be anything personal. We're not always great with goodbyes, and emotional displays, so maybe he's trying to avoid that by not telling everyone.IP: Logged |
LetsDance
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posted January 18, 2011 03:24 AM
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
I told him I thought he was an awesome guy that I would like to date and be with. Mabe for him it was just too forward to soon. Usually when I find the attraction to be magnetic, it's hard to conceal what I am feeling, I call it as I feel it lol. But like everyone else has been saying about Capricorn men, they move at a slow pace, and seems they can't be rushed no matter what the circumstances. For me when I am attracted to someone; that's it I want THEM, and try to bond quickly. They(Capricorns and perhaps other earth signs)wait and don't hurry with love, their hearts aren't won over so easy...
They don't hurry with love if they are not sure. Once they have made up their minds, they don't hold back. He knows how you feel, but he may not feel that right now for you. He may be wondering how it is that you felt such deep feelings so fast, afterall, what do you really know about him, and why does that make you want to "be with" him already? BUT, cappy men can be so adorable, and warm and fuzzy when they WANT to be -- no one would fault you for falling for one. There could be a little harem of female admirers vying for his attention. What is it about women that want the guy who really doesn't pay that much attention to us? Let me tell you, there's nothing like having a man that digs you because he SHOWS it. He is not playing a bunch of games or trying to avoid you to make you want him more. No. He demonstrates his feelings in his actions, baby, make no mistake. I don't really care what sign he is. If he knows you are into him and he is into you, all systems are go even MORE! So my advice would be to look at how he is treating you. Especially in the beginning. If he is avoiding you or ignoring you, let him GO, please. Men interested in a woman DO NOT act like that. And you shouldn't allow them to act like that to you by trying to figure out if he likes you or making excuses for his nonchalant attitude towards you. YOU DESERVE BETTER. Don't call him, text him or email him. Let him pursue you. IP: Logged |
charmainec
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posted January 18, 2011 05:47 AM
I agree with LetsDance.IP: Logged |
annaf
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posted January 18, 2011 06:21 AM
You said you had one date. Was he the initiator asking you out? That would mean he can be active if he 'wants' to. And how did the date go? I'm just wondering whether he was initially at least interested, but didn't feel a connection when you met up one to one. As a capricorn with uranus in the 5th and pluto in the whole mix I must admit that I need to feel instant strong connection or I will probably not give someone a second chance. (if read his chart correctly he has uranus and pluto in his relationship houses as well) So I'm just wondering whether the first date was the 'turning point' so to speak. However, if so I really dont think that there is much you can or should do at this point in time.IP: Logged |
NecroSanium
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posted January 20, 2011 03:05 PM
For information on how to attract them, here are some tips. (From personal experience.)They like it when you stare into their eyes. Do this as often as you can. Try being close to them when you talk. But make sure your breath isn't bad DX They like a person who is well-groomed, works well, but also plays well. Capricorns are stereotyped to be serious. Every Capricorn I have met has two different sides; A serious side and a playful one. They can be the greatest comedians. Try and fit this on/off personality. Don't joke around while they're doing work. They'll think you're trying to distract them. However, don't be afraid to be serious while they're joking around. They'll respect you for it, and it'll let them know you aren't trying to win them over like a game. Capricorns have more emotion than it does appear. Don't call anything 'retarded' or anything of the sort. I've done that, and he said,"Ha... ha... My mom's a therapist >.>" Try subtly flirting with them. When most people won't notice, they'll catch on. Sarcasm is a turn-on. Be sarcastic and funny. Don't tell them about your last visit to the zoo. Tell them something random and spontaneous. They don't want to hear about that... Until you're together, that is. As with all men. They can be very deep and inspiring. Try and be someone who they will look up to. Someone they'll respect and admire. They want a good person; not someone who can't tell right from wrong. Impress them by getting good grades (if you're in school) or by doing exceptionally well in a job. They will let you know if they like you by mimicking you. They'll look into your eyes often, etc. The second they start seeming as if they want to spend more time with you, there you go. However, remember to take it slowly. Remember; they want a good person, not someone who's desperate to run into relationship after relationship. Communicate over FaceBook, telephone, or even email. Schedule times to see each other in person and be best friends. Then make your move. Tell them you like them. They'll easily follow. Capricorns are hopelessly romantic... But tend not to show it. Best of luck. ------------------
Once you've got it...
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Randall
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posted January 20, 2011 03:07 PM
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Ivy
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posted November 24, 2011 10:00 AM
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Originally posted by LetsDance:
They don't hurry with love if they are not sure. Once they have made up their minds, they don't hold back. He knows how you feel, but he may not feel that right now for you. He may be wondering how it is that you felt such deep feelings so fast, afterall, what do you really know about him, and why does that make you want to "be with" him already? BUT, cappy men can be so adorable, and warm and fuzzy when they WANT to be -- no one would fault you for falling for one. There could be a little harem of female admirers vying for his attention. What is it about women that want the guy who really doesn't pay that much attention to us? Let me tell you, there's nothing like having a man that digs you because he SHOWS it. He is not playing a bunch of games or trying to avoid you to make you want him more. No. He demonstrates his feelings in his actions, baby, make no mistake. I don't really care what sign he is. If he knows you are into him and he is into you, all systems are go even MORE! So my advice would be to look at how he is treating you. Especially in the beginning. If he is avoiding you or ignoring you, let him GO, please. Men interested in a woman DO NOT act like that. And you shouldn't allow them to act like that to you by trying to figure out if he likes you or making excuses for his nonchalant attitude towards you. YOU DESERVE BETTER. Don't call him, text him or email him. Let him pursue you.
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anongrl10
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posted November 24, 2011 04:13 PM
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Originally posted by starzy54:
if he really likes you,I think he will set some bait for you to act on.and if you pass his test,he will take it from their when you show interest.Once he knows you like him,and he likes you,he will wine and dine you i'm sure.I like to go all out and buy gifts and the best of food and wine for a guy i like.
I agree!
That Cappie I liked had set his bait a couple of times for me. It was 100% obvious to me that he was interested although there was always a "cover" or an "excuse". (For instance, Xmas dinner with other colleagues but I was invited as his date, or Sat lunch to "help me on my project" lol)
I truly believe they are big planners and they will do just about anything to make it work if they want to.  IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted November 24, 2011 04:17 PM
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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
How in 20 years do you NEVER hear a man, ummm, pass gas, and/or hear his uh, bathroom activities??? Marry a Cap, that's how.
Seriously, I've had the stomach flu with this man and never heard a peep! While me and the rest of the kids probably kept the neighbors awake, that's a cappy for ya!  I may have scared Libra off. Sorry, sag's tell it all!!!
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anongrl10
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posted November 24, 2011 04:19 PM
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