posted September 11, 2013 02:02 AM            

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Originally posted by bethbabe:
Yayy! i'm glad you had an awesome day! sighs, i am having no luck in the relationship department either. But i have been trying to focus on my studies only so that takes my mind off of things just a little at least. LOL hooray for the both of us

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Yes! We should celebrate.

posted September 11, 2013 02:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Yes! We should celebrate.

Would you like a reading?

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yes! cheeeers to whatever you have available, in my case water

posted September 11, 2013 02:12 AM            

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Originally posted by bethbabe:
yes! cheeeers to whatever you have available, in my case water

sure, ONLY if you feel like doing a reading for me. if you are tired, it's fine too

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posted September 11, 2013 02:15 AM            

actually i do need a reading right now. I know this guy from online, he lives in another country. We knew each other since a year ago, I stopped talking to me after finding out that he had a long term girl of 12 years. Then he would still contact me after, then I kept ignoring him, but recently he tried to contact me again and told me that he no long loves his g/f.

posted September 11, 2013 02:16 AM            

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Originally posted by bethbabe:
hmmm,

actually i do need a reading right now. I know this guy from online, he lives in another country. We knew each other since a year ago, I stopped talking to me after finding out that he had a long term girl of 12 years. Then he would still contact me after, then I kept ignoring him, but recently he tried to contact me again and told me that he no long loves his g/f.

my question is: Does he really want to be with me? LOL

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Yikes.....

posted September 11, 2013 02:19 AM            

four of swords...

maybe?

posted September 11, 2013 02:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
does bethbabe's online guy want to really be with her?

four of swords...

maybe?

He is taking a break from something in his life after some time he will know for sure. At this point he's confused or exhausted to worry about this.

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posted September 11, 2013 02:24 AM            

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Originally posted by bethbabe:
sighs......true. ahhh omg, my guts are telling me no too....i hate being a girl sometimes >_<

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Well if it means anything....you did a good job of shutting him out once you found out he had a gf of 12 years.

Many girls linger on and fantasize that they are the true lovers. I mean what do they think those girls were thinking when they were with him for so many years? I bet they thought the same.

I think some men just like the game. Like some soldiers don't care about defending but care more about the power and the number they kill per day. To them it becomes a game. Feelings are removed. It's all about the number ad bragging rights.

I'm becoming cynical about men...lol

But all around me I see it.

I only know of one man who genuinely loves his wife no matter what and can't live without her. He's my uncle. He loves my Aunt like no tomorrow.

posted September 11, 2013 02:24 AM            

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Originally posted by bethbabe:
thank you for the reading dreaming111

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posted September 11, 2013 02:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Well if it means anything....you did a good job of shutting him out once you found out he had a gf of 12 years.

Many girls linger on and fantasize that they are the true lovers. I mean what do they think those girls were thinking when they were with him for so many years? I bet they thought the same.

I think some men just like the game. Like some soldiers don't care about defending but care more about the power and the number they kill per day. To them it becomes a game. Feelings are removed. It's all about the number ad bragging rights.

I'm becoming cynical about men...lol

But all around me I see it.

I only know of one man who genuinely loves his wife no matter what and can't live without her. He's my uncle. He loves my Aunt like no tomorrow.

That's how it should be. But for one of them, there are a million of couples that think they are happy and in love, until they realize the truth.

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posted September 11, 2013 02:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Np. Let me know if you have any other questions you would like to clarify.

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posted September 11, 2013 03:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Yes, now I have you as a partner in crime. lol

Yeah men don't change and we shouldn't force them to be what we want them to be. Kind of makes for a not so satisfying situation later....

I hate spelling things out for them. It's weird because when I don't he used to get upset that I was being "cold" lol.... It was more like, " No, I'm being like you...."

Anyway, will redshoes's guy stalk her?

nine of pentacles....

Yes. lol And he won't let you know for a while about this. In the end he will work to win you back.

Lucky girl. haha

Do you see Ali as being with, interesting in, or dating someone else? Maybe I'm not on his radar at all.

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Just wanted to give you some feedback Dreaming. He wrote two emails yesterday and i ignored them. Last night at midnight (selfish boy) he called...i text back telling him i couldnt talk to him, then he was texting back saying *i love you, dont break up etc etc*

posted September 11, 2013 11:11 AM            

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Originally posted by bethbabe:
I have always wondered if tarot cards can predict the characteristics of one's future spouse? or physical attributes

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posted September 11, 2013 11:17 AM            

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Originally posted by bethbabe:
yeah i know...sometimes i fantasize too, but most of the time i stray from these fantasies. I have also become a bit more cynical toward men. I once have heard someone say "there are no good men, but only men who haven't the chance to cheat" :'(. It is so easy to be unfaithful nowadays, you can cheat via email, over the internet, through a webcam, phone and etc. ahhh

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Oh I know....

But you know I blame us women more. We just take it and keep taking this bs until it becomes the norm.

"Oh he's a guy. He'll cheat."

No! F no. Why should he cheat? Because he has sperm to spray? I hate that excuse btw. "Men need to spread their seed that's why they cheat it's biology." Baloney. Men also need priorities and critical thinking to survive in this world. We no longer live in a silly cave.

We just let them do it and they know that because they move on from girl to girl that does and thinks the EXACT same way.

We let them get away with it. I've had enough honestly. One guy is enough. I will never let a guy do what he did to me ever.

If I end up marrying a rock or a tree so be it. At least I will be content.

And about media, honestly it's a good thing. Because just as they are tempted more....tested more....you learn early on what he's really worth and as he can cheat easily you can record and have proof easily too. Haha.

posted September 11, 2013 11:18 AM            

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Originally posted by redshoes:
Just wanted to give you some feedback Dreaming. He wrote two emails yesterday and i ignored them. Last night at midnight (selfish boy) he called...i text back telling him i couldnt talk to him, then he was texting back saying *i love you, dont break up etc etc*

Stalking is commencing...jeeeez!

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Good! haha.

Just be strong and smart with what you do. Don't be weak!

posted September 11, 2013 01:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Oh I know....

But you know I blame us women more. We just take it and keep taking this bs until it becomes the norm.

"Oh he's a guy. He'll cheat."

No! F no. Why should he cheat? Because he has sperm to spray? I hate that excuse btw. "Men need to spread their seed that's why they cheat it's biology." Baloney. Men also need priorities and critical thinking to survive in this world. We no longer live in a silly cave.

We just let them do it and they know that because they move on from girl to girl that does and thinks the EXACT same way.

We let them get away with it. I've had enough honestly. One guy is enough. I will never let a guy do what he did to me ever.

If I end up marrying a rock or a tree so be it. At least I will be content.

And about media, honestly it's a good thing. Because just as they are tempted more....tested more....you learn early on what he's really worth and as he can cheat easily you can record and have proof easily too. Haha.

It's better to pull out a bad tooth early rather than let it sit around and decay for longer.

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haha I LOLed at marrrying a rock or tree and "have proof easily" parts!!!

posted September 11, 2013 06:12 PM            

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Originally posted by redshoes:
Right on sisters!!

And i will have you know that some trees
in these parts are pretty damn attractive
and very faithful!!!

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Haha...silly.

I'm picturing that...dressing up and marrying a tree.

It has all the qualities a girl could ask for:
deeply rooted,
firm,
the strong silent type,
protective (shade),
grows wherever planted aka not fickle, indecisive, wavering,
reaches great heights,
strong shoulders and arms,
entertaining: musical (leaves blowing in the wind),
relaxing, comforting...

I think we'd have a ball...the tree and I. <3

posted September 11, 2013 06:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Haha...silly.

I'm picturing that...dressing up and marrying a tree.

It has all the qualities a girl could ask for:
deeply rooted,
firm,
the strong silent type,
protective (shade),
grows wherever planted aka not fickle, indecisive, wavering,
reaches great heights,
strong shoulders and arms,
entertaining: musical (leaves blowing in the wind),
relaxing, comforting...

I think we'd have a ball...the tree and I. <3

This or become a nun or a lesbian.

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Hey get off, that one is mine!!!! haha

posted September 11, 2013 06:20 PM            

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Originally posted by redshoes:
Hey get off, that one is mine!!!! haha

Dreaming, did you have a question earlier that wasnt answered if i remember rightly?

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Yeah I did.

posted September 11, 2013 06:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Yeah I did.

It was if Ali is with, dating or interested in someone else.

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Hanged Man
Falling Tower
Nine Coins

I think Ali is not in a good place in himself but i dont see other women in there...it seems the foundation of his life was shaken and his life is actually on hold at the moment.He does have some kind of comfort, but that looks like financial

posted September 11, 2013 06:48 PM            

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Originally posted by redshoes:
Hanged Man
Falling Tower
Nine Coins

I think Ali is not in a good place in himself but i dont see other women in there...it seems the foundation of his life was shaken and his life is actually on hold at the moment.He does have some kind of comfort, but that looks like financial

Does that help?
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Actually I wanted to tell you something...

When we last talked (aug 25) he told me that he was going back to school to take science/medical classes. He mentioned that he wanted this to be his year academically. He moved out and seemed to project this happy persona. He told me at his age he wants to get his act together and felt it's about time. Acting is his true passion. I asked him about it and he said it was on hold...though he did do a lot after we stopped talking.

Well, in my message to him...I asked him if he was enrolled and in class. That probably should not have been the best first question. I just thought everything was going so well for him...I was, I admit, a little jealous and hurt that he moved on so well.

Then today, I found out he auditioned for certain parts and only got one role. That role required him to message back....Everyone else did ...except him.

Something is up.

I think he's embarrassed to admit to me that he didn't enroll or get in. Fact is I didn't message him before because I too was going through that sort of phase where I wanted to have at least something to say to him in terms of new developments in my life.

I think he's lost in terms of his career and what he truly wants to do in life.

Maybe girls aren't really going to be on his mind, not even me. But he did tell me he was dating. Maybe it fell apart... and he's doubly embarrassed to tell me. Grief.

I don't know what else to do. Part of me wants to help him, another part remembers how he behaved and recalls that when I really needed him that he wasn't really available.

Also I did tell him in the last talk I was going through some family issue....if he cared...he would have checked up on me. I don't have to be the one checking up and taking care of his every bump in life. He doesn't do that for me.

Another thing I dislike about it. While initially he used to pamper me, the person who loves hard, would do anything for a loved one and appreciated genuine kindness, I ended up doing most of the pampering but to an inconsiderate and very selfish guy.

About the financial thing...he works with his dad and his parents support him with the rest. I know he hates it though.

I'm ok...honestly. It's life. If you have the wisdom to appreciate all the good things in front of you, you have the wisdom. If you don't, you just don't.