posted April 23, 2008 11:45 PM         

Why are so many people so lonely?

posted April 24, 2008 02:05 AM         

The simple is too hard.
For most of us it's easier to brood.

Who's up for the challenge?

Truly.

That's who I wanna love with.

posted April 24, 2008 02:08 AM         

I think it matters if a person is comfortable in their own company. Some people can't stand being alone while others are fine just by themselves. I figure it's how a person looks at it.

I spend a lot of time in my own company and it doesn't bother me - I feel at peace and can entertain myself for hours.

Then there are some who need to have people around them all the time, who dread being alone. Possibly the extraverted types out there...

my guess any how....

Though I don't think we are ever alone and I don't think anything is missing within a lonely person - it just seems that way.....

posted April 24, 2008 05:50 AM         

I want friends who understand.

I want mirrors that dont judge me.

I dont ******* fit in anywhere and i'm sick of apologizing for being myself.

I feel like I have a dozen souls inside of me,
and they can never agree on what direction to take.

Dont even pretend to think you understand where I am coming from.

Do you think I know what I am doing?
That for one breath or half-breath I belong to myself?
As much as a pen knows what it's writing,
or the ball can guess where it's going next.

Who makes these changes?
I shoot an arrow right.
It lands left.
I ride after a deer and find myself
chased by a hog.
I plot to get what I want
and end up in prison.
I dig pits to trap others
and fall in.

I should be suspicious
of what I want.

~ rumi

posted April 24, 2008 10:15 AM         

if i take my case, i'm far from lonely, i've got friends everywhere, i meet new people easily, and i could say i can never be alone if that's what i want.

but, even though i'm surrounded by lovely people, sometimes i feel a loneliness that makes me suffer and paradoxically makes me feel good. bizarre?

i guess peolpe who feel lonely are not looking for the quantity but the quality, so, millions of people or just a few won't change anything.
the problem is somewhere else. inside maybe. and it's actually a problem only in the eye of the outsider. why would it be a problem to be selective in your aqquaintances?

some people are looking to share the most beautiful, secret treasure within their heart. and to avoid disappointment they protect themselves by developping some alrms that will warn them of the danger to disclose their true selves. paradoxically, needing to reach out like evereyone, they start to have a pent up love that needs expression. so they idealise a few people and focus everything on them. it's only when they get disappointed by their ideals that the real problem start. they can't believe they'll ever find this ideal mate that will understand them. and that might be true.

posted April 24, 2008 11:42 AM         

Having a girlfriend hasn't cured my loneliness. I was over being lonely before she came along, and if she goes away I still won't be lonely. I may still feel a bit alienated from the rest of society, but I don't consider that a matter of loneliness, just uniqueness. If I'm on my own I have more time to pursue all the things I want to pursue.

posted April 24, 2008 12:01 PM         

Lets get this into our heads:

ALL LIFE IS SYMBIOTIC. WE ALL DEPEND ON EACH OTHER IN SOME FORM OR ANOTHER.

"You are, Therefore I am". ~Satish Kumar

NO MAN IS A ISLAND.

For Pete's sake!!!!

We are all human, we all need air to breathe and people to love us, someone to love us!

No philosophy or anything else can change that!

The people who think a few words are all we need to feel better are usually fulfilled in some way; have something to hold onto. (Or a sense of purpose in their lives, usefulness).

I read an article once, about a refuge center somewhere in some war zone to help people who were starving, Many women had been raped, most people had witnessed such terrible atrocities. There was this woman there who had given birth to a baby, but she refused to feed him. She had obviously been so traumatized by everything that she couldn't bear the idea of herself, or her child, continuing to live in such an existence. Do I think she is less of a person, or a "sinner", or look down on her in any way? HELL NO! POOR LADY! POOR, POOR CREATURES!

As it happened though, she did change her mind in the end and started to feed her baby.

posted April 24, 2008 12:04 PM         

~Mother Teresa

posted April 24, 2008 12:06 PM         

When the sweet glance of my true love caught my eyes,
Like alchemy, it transformed my copper-like soul.
I searched for Him with a thousand hands,
He stretched out His arms and clutched my feet.
(Rumi)

"He wished he could become it without these uncomfortable things happening to him."

posted April 24, 2008 01:04 PM         

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Of course its a choice! Everything is a choice, havent you heard?! And being lonely is where its at!

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Back to the topic: I like being alone. For me it's a personal choice. When I get sick of being on my own, I get out there and socialize and stop being alone... but I get sick of that much faster than being solitary.

posted April 24, 2008 01:15 PM         

It's an oldie, but I like the words.