posted December 31, 2009 11:41 AM            

If you feel the need someone to talk to someone more personally sweetie, I'll give you my email address.
Just wanted to let you know I'm here for you if you need to talk, I am so shocked by what has happened to you, the pain must be almost unbearable, even though you have to keep on to fight to get her back. I imagine that this is what is pulling you through all this.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, I hope you get her back soon....believe.

posted January 07, 2010 08:38 AM            

The concerns I sent into health services was met by bias. There was nothing neutral with what the woman said.

I sit here and wonder where this world is coming to. I still sit in the face of uncertainty.

My boyfriend just applied for guardianship of the baby and he served the caseworker yesterday - I'm not sure if this will throw a wrench into things. I'm not even clear if the baby will be coming back home to us or not. The caseworker makes it sound like the baby is but then things happen and I don't want to hold my breath.

posted January 08, 2010 07:02 AM            

I'm beginning to severely question US Laws and major decisions concerning kids. This is insane to take a child from it's mother.

posted January 08, 2010 08:23 AM            

Lately this mornings I have been waking with anxiety and it takes around 30 minutes to wear off.

They just keep adding more things to increase the stress. I am taking a stand and will not go down without a fight. Next step would be talking to a member of parliament and possibly going to the media if things get bad.

posted January 08, 2010 03:18 PM            

I hope i am right X

posted January 24, 2010 03:44 PM            

Health services complaint has been elevated and I will be talking to somebody soon.

Wnet through a battery of psychological testings from hell and find that it's a nerve racking experience.

Things will be 100% come mid feb as to what in the world child welfare has planned out.

I fear the baby is at great risk for an attachmet disorder due to her being in foster care....google Reactive Attachment Disorder because it happens to kids in foster care - I am concerned about my bonding with the baby.

On a positive notr I'm still singing and performing stand up to get rid of the stress...

posted April 21, 2010 05:39 AM            

Our son also has one side a little flatter. He's certainly not neglected, quite the opposite. He just preferred lying on his right side and no matter what I did, short of hurting him by forcing him on his other side, there was nothing that worked. Babies can be stubborn like that, does that hospital really expect you to possibly hurt your baby just so they won't get a flat head on one side? Who's the baby abuser then?

You have my support anyway. A lot of those organisations overreact when they don't need to and often turn a blind eye when they should act. I have a friend who lets their baby sleep alone even though she's not yet 6 months old. We're not supposed to do that, but the little girl's a happy baby, so why shouldn't my friend keep it up?

I hope things are looking up for you now. I would be a wreck myself if anyone would take my baby away even after I did all in my power to make him happy. So I can only imagine how you feel!

posted April 21, 2010 05:52 AM            

Anyway, I never thought feeding every 2 hours was high demand, just a baby with a huge appetite

posted April 21, 2010 06:06 AM            

your baby is feeding every 2 hours because you are now in a vicious circle where your hind milk is decreasing simply because you feed him every 2 hours!!!

Your body doesn't have enough time to make enough of the good quality milk so your baby is always hungry. This is typical in mothers whom have little or no knowledge in how breast feeding works. Can i suggest you read up on it?

If your baby is over 2 months old it's too late to build up hind milk because a pattern has been established. In that case, you'll have to add a feed before you go to bed of formula for your baby as he's not getting enough nutrition.

How do i know all of this?
I breastfed 3 boys for a combined total of 7 years. I became a breastfeeding expert so if you have any more questions, feel free to ask.

posted April 21, 2010 01:45 PM            

I'm so happy for you and your baby, especially that you are now together again

posted April 21, 2010 04:18 PM            

Either way, he was certainly not drinking bits, which is what the doctor implied, too. He honestly, ever since I had to stop working, drank each breast almost entirely empty... and was hungry again after 2 hours. I even struggled with overproduction for a while after.

Now, he does a lot of cluster feeding at night and leaves long intervals in the morning and during the day.

The fact that he does always drink to the last drop (that's impossible though, the breast keeps on producing milk, so there's always something going to come out), makes me suspect that he always drank all his hind milk as well, but that he's just a hungry little thing and wants more after two hours.

Lactation professionals in the hospital did tell me that that's how it works and ever since, I made sure both my breasts were always empty after feeding, even if I had to do it with a pump, to keep the production up.

What I've been told, almost in those exact words, was that the baby has to drink the entire breast empty. If he doesn't, he won't get hind milk in and that would start the vicious circle of producing less hind milk, baby drinking less etc. As long as they drink the entire breast, your breast keeps on producing the same amount, or at least the amount needed, regardless of how much time there is between feedings.

My hormones are very finely tuned; they regulate almost immediately, mostly within a day. I do see where you're coming from, but every woman's body is different, and mine is extremely succeptible to changes and adapts very rapidly, which also helps to keep my production regulated.

Our baby also gains more than enough weight, so other than going by the feeding interval (which has changed in the last month, not exactly for the better) there is no reason to assume he's not getting the kind of milk he needs. Especially since the hind milk is the milk that stills the hunger and his hunger is stilled for the time until he signals for food again.

Now, it is my first baby and before I gave birth I had absolutely no idea about breastfeeding, but I did listen very carefully to the professionals who helped me along after the delivery and I've read up on the topic too. So maybe there's something they haven't told me or that I missed.

posted August 15, 2010 01:52 PM            

There is a follow up meeting with Health Services to talk with the doctor and unit manager about what went down in November.

I am cureently writing down what their concerns are and will be telling my own truth. I will also bring up the highly sensitive person as well and going over that because the medical community has no idea what that is and seem to label or judge folks like that to be sent to a mental ward and put on meds for life.....

The appointment is on August 26th at 1330 hours 114 W and 51 N.....