posted June 26, 2010 08:41 PM         

When we make a mistake in judgement and engage in behaviour that causes harm to another emotionally, we learn that this requires an apology. We can identify that the other person was *hurt* and we can understand their pain.

And we know that if we were IN their shoes.. we would not like being treated this way.
But in order to develop compassion and love for others in this manner - I guess the personal ego sometimes has to come second.
Because the personal ego might come in and say:

"Why should I care about X or Y? All I need to care about is *me* - my own problems and my own satisfaction. So I don't need to say sorry."

That is an initial reaction that a child may have. The infant is only aware of his/her own existence and his/her own *self*.

Whenever something is upsetting (such as apologizing when it is uncomfortable), this is either avoided or yelled at and cried about - until someone else comes in and makes the "negative" thing go away.
When we are very very young - we do not yet have this concept of taking accountability for our own actions. The reaction can sometimes just be "it wasn't me" or "i didn't do it" or "it was fine, i don't need to apologize".

But as we experience OUR own pains in life, and we grow up - we realize that this reaction (of running away from your own actions) is self-centered and at times cruel. We often realize this through experience.
In the best case scenario - this is when a desire comes in to do the "right" thing for its own sake.. because you know that it brings emotional contentment to another (and because you realize that you would want the same thing done onto you), not in order to avoid punishment.

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Similarly - when it comes to love of self.. So many times people put their ego above their soul and physical body. They strive for particular achievements or strive to have a particular image in an almost narcissistic manner.. but they forget themselves and genuinely *loving* and taking care of themselves. The ego comes first again.

Maybe walking down this emotional path to emotional maturity is a progression from Sun/Mars/Saturn (& the AC) -- to -- Moon/Venus/Neptune (& the DC) .. Maybe we are progressing from a type of ego-centered love.. to a more all-encompassing and genuine love.. one that leaves the ego behind.

posted June 26, 2010 09:55 PM         

Ami

posted June 27, 2010 07:19 AM         

there is no other thing in life more important than Love - for everything and everyone.

and that is not an Ego-goal.so yes,you´re right:Ego must be put in 2nd place,by our own detachment from "It".Like when moments we feel we´re acting through the Ego,we step back and act like an "observer of THE EGo". Dont think or act through him,but take back its power by focusing only on Love.

The more we distance ourselves,from a soul basis,from the Ego,the more we become truthfull to our own Essence.

And the more we become One with each other - and returning back to our 1st stage-of the child.

It was only some time ago that i understood the saying of the quote that talks about looking at life trhough the eyes of the Child.

they´re the ones holding the knowledge & genuine Love,cause while youngsters,they didn't forgot their true nature. it is only by letting time pass by,and the exterior influence us,that they start to forget...and they really see the people´s spirits,and people´s energies while being so young.

So,i would also say that in roder for us to reach genuine Love and reach our Essence again,we must return and reach our "Child within" again...like Richard Bach did in his book

posted June 27, 2010 07:31 AM         

Ami

posted June 27, 2010 07:51 AM         

did you read: Bridge across forever?

Jeez, I SO LOVE that book!
Too sad, that he and Leslie divorced after all.

Just had a quote flashing trhough my mind:

"What have I got? Really? Some money in my pocket, some nice threads, fancy car at my disposal, and I'm single. Yeah... unattached, free as a bird... I don't depend on nobody and nobody depends on me... My life's my own. But I don't have peace of mind. And if you don't have that, you've got nothing. So... what's the answer? That's what I keep asking myself. What's it all about? You know what I mean?"

posted June 27, 2010 07:57 AM         

yup i did read that one & also all of them!

i love richard bach,i started reading them when i was so young that half of it i couldnt really understand it.

but then years later,i started reading it again,and it was if i was reading a whole new book of course.

i was really sad that they divorced too..i loved bridge across forever too...how could i not?

posted June 27, 2010 07:59 AM         

Anyway, I only read that one. And funnily an email friend suggested I read that, and it coincided with my "re-awakening" some years ago, and I think to some degree it was that book that made me think about soulmates again.

I have`t read other books of him though. Which ones would you suggest?

posted June 27, 2010 08:11 AM         

i loved those two really.

posted June 27, 2010 08:18 AM         

quote:

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Emily are you still up for getting off with me btw?

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posted June 27, 2010 08:30 AM         

yes I was stumbling across ONE, and for some reason it really resonated with me.

Same thing happened with a book of Judy Hall last week: The soulmate myth.
I have no idea why it resonated with me, and I do not own that many books on that subject, it never seemed important to read books about it.
Anyway this one was "calling" to me so much, that I actually ordered it.

posted June 27, 2010 08:50 AM         

I had it out of the library to read again, and share part of it with someone else, but I didn't get around to it (and I need to - I need my own copy, possibly in audio format if that's available, so that I can listen whilst doing other things).

posted June 27, 2010 10:00 AM         

For someone you deeply care about...

posted June 27, 2010 11:20 AM         

In truth, the only action is love. People spend their loving time trying to save others whether people, animals or the planet and it's futile.

posted June 28, 2010 12:41 PM         

I am in complete agreement with you...and I stand in line with the others who are impressed by your Awareness.

Our Egos....or alters as I like to think of them as are vert tricky....you may have even give them more credit than they deserve.

For instance its the Ego that makes someone stay in a situation Energetic wise that no longer serves for there highest potential.
The Ego is always afraid of death because it knows nothing past it. Whatever you are holding on to your Ego has convinced itself it will die if it loses.

The Ego also tends to not allow for the answer No...
From the Souls Personality or from others.
Whenever we deal with people we should always allow them the space to say no if they need to....it amounts to personal freedom that we allow others by taking care of our on emotional health.

Your Ego makes you:
A. Assume things....all the time.
B. Take things personally...so that you can be hurt.
C. Not be impeccable with your word...because to the Ego what it wants to do comes first...not others that it is dealing with.
D. As a result of these lower based frequencies affects on us is that we cannot do our best in life...and our Energy is syphoned.

So you are right Dynamite we are moving out of this fear base thinking which promotes self sacrifice to a Shift of Ages into which autonomy is the key now.

We are being called to learn and accept our shadows selves that are trapt on the different dimensions we incarnated on, as well as the ones that are stuck in Astral, also that we can find balance.

I feel that in Atlantean times we pushed to hard for a world that only contained light....thinking we could defeat the dark. But you cannot defeat that which exist in you without destroying your own life force.
As result we had to deal with the Pendulum going the opposite way....and now we must bring it to center and balance.

posted June 28, 2010 01:55 PM         

Orbm
surely the only thing stopping us from ourselves IS ourselves.