posted October 05, 2010 12:00 PM            

I would consider myself a very private person and I guess the reason is intense self-protection. My cancer ascendant ruler is the Moon in Virgo in the 4th house together with Pluto. Pluto is also at the apex of a t-square and I have sun, mercury and venus in capricorn, these planets' ruler saturn is in the 1st house. So if I don't trust someone, goodness there are some major walls up because my ultimate nightmare is for my thoughts, or rather for 'me' to be in any way ridiculed. Also, I need to withdraw behind those walls regularly to recharge. So privacy is a necessity to be able to 'regroup' and face the world again. Interestingly I always find that people easily trust me with their private thoughts, problems and secrets. I think it's because they sense that I would never betray their need for privacy.

However, as soon as I trust someone, I'm an open book and in fact I have to be careful not to spill my very last secret. (sun, mercury, venus in the 7thouse, with my 7th house mercury ruling my 12th house and 4th house.)

There's also a huge difference between my 'real' private self and my professional persona. I work in a very public job which involves a lot of high level schmoozing and networking. I always hear that I project this image of a social butterfly, but it's almost like a battle armour, I consciously put on this persona to safeguard my true self. Neptune in Saggit. rules my 10th house and sits in my 6th house, conjuncting my mars in sag.. Their ruler Jupiter in pisces sits in the 10th house. So I think my public persona is quite jovial and open, but also just a neptune illusion....

Jane, by the way, do you happen to be the same Jane as in this thread? http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/202417-5.html The number of postings are different for the other Jane, but to my humble non-Englishspeaking ears both Janes style of writing sound similar. Unfortunately, I have been so rarely on Lindaland the last year or two because of my life-eating job, but I bookmarked this particular thread because your bookstore guy-story back then is one of my most favourite Lindaland postings ever. Maybe I'll just resurrect it :-)

posted October 05, 2010 03:33 PM            

I've had things happen before, but it was with things that I'd vented about, or just thought about, not really thinking that anything would happen. One day, it happened within minutes (something involving my sister).

posted October 06, 2010 09:20 PM            

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Are you a private person?
- What's your reasoning for being like that?
- What in your natal reflects that?
Same questions if you're an open book.

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I’m very private when it comes to things that are extremely important to me.
I only open up about those things that I want advice on.
This is actually the main reason I lie – when I do, i.e. to protect my privacy. I feel strangely entitled to lie w. no remorse whatsoever. I think this is a Pisces Mercury defence mechanism. I would prefer people not to know details and specifics when it comes to important problems/situations in my life.
My Scorpio Merc ex – never understood why I can’t simply say “it’s none of your business” instead of concocting something. But sometimes (with certain people) it’s not my style to be that straight forward for whatever reason. Usually because I need to make a positive impression and would prefer not to offend them. In other circumstances where I don’t feel obliged to make a positive impression – I would happily say “it’s none of your business” lol

My main reason for being private is that I am often uninterested in other people’s views and opinions on MY personal existence. Sometimes I ask for advice but this doesn’t happen much. Usually I’m clear on what I want (that sounds like Aries.. or maybe cardinal energy in general.)
I have my ‘lost’ Piscean moments though – It happens LOL

But generally I find that – if I open up to people – I get unwanted opinions and thoughts thrown my way and sometimes criticism that I am not interested in – since I really feel like my life is no one’s business but my own.

Apart from this – I’ve also had negative experiences in the past where I DID share something close to my heart and the person I shared this with betrayed my trust.

So in genera – I’m just not keen on being that open with people.

It also seems pointless. If it is something in my life that does not affect them in any way, shape or form – they are not really on a need to know basis – so I don’t have a reason to tell them.

posted October 08, 2010 04:18 PM            

Yay! It's good to see you again.

Yes, that's me. I'm happy you enjoyed that story, despite it being so anti-climactic. Being a filthy Sco Asc myself, I would've enjoyed it far more if it ended with me smelling like sweat rather than formaldehyde.

posted October 08, 2010 04:19 PM            

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I'm going to have to start writing these things down that I want to happen - although it would be nice if they all happened in a good, not particularly upsetting way.

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posted October 08, 2010 04:29 PM            

Yes, I remember that thread!

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It also seems pointless. If it is something in my life that does not affect them in any way, shape or form – they are not really on a need to know basis – so I don’t have a reason to tell them.

I think this answer is a combo of Aries-Pisces

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I think that's also Cap. Anytime I think "pointless," I realize it's my pragmatic earth side calling the shots.

I was very much like that when I was younger - freely lying to preserve my privacy. Now I'm more of the "it's none of your business" sort.

posted October 08, 2010 04:37 PM            

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I HATE people going through my stuff, my tail goes up lol

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