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Topic: How to love Scorpions : Time to understand and love them.
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maddi Knowflake Posts: 135 From: New Jerzee Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 27, 2011 04:23 PM
Could a Scorpio just say "no" when it comes to love. What I mean is, perhaps the Scorpio meets someone while with another person, even better matched than the current partner, and intrigues and attracts the Scorpio. Would a Scorpio forfeit their chance to get involved with the other person because of loyalty? IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 27, 2011 05:05 PM
swirl-kitt quote: It's just how Scorpios won't give themselves fully unless they are 100% sure that things are mutual and real.
That 100% is a rare thing but so true! Only someone I'd feel perfect love and trust for and have phenomenal sync gets that 100%  ------------------ I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate - it's apathy. It's not giving a damn. -Leo Buscaglia Every difficulty slurred over will be a ghost to disturb your repose later on. -Frederic Chopin Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. -Aldous Huxley IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 27, 2011 05:12 PM
quote: Originally posted by maddi: Could a Scorpio just say "no" when it comes to love. What I mean is, perhaps the Scorpio meets someone while with another person, even better matched than the current partner, and intrigues and attracts the Scorpio. Would a Scorpio forfeit their chance to get involved with the other person because of loyalty?
Staying in a relationship out of loyalty? NO! Just as I would freely let a partner go if they found someone better for them, and I'd even insist they go......(been there done that) I too would not pass up a chance at a better relationship/love!!Staying in a relationship out of obligation/loyalty is just wasting the time of all concerned in my opinion. I would not sneak however. All my exes knew right off from the start...... if they found someone better, or I did, or the relationship was simply not working any longer..... then it would be time to move on. In fact, I helped both exes find their new wives!
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maddi Knowflake Posts: 135 From: New Jerzee Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 27, 2011 07:06 PM
Lexx, I've read that a Scorpio would be more inclined to stay because of the investments made in a relationship. Their fixed state would make them hesitant to leave, I've read. Another question I have is the push/pull hot/cold question. Do Scorpios realize they do it? Do they realize, for example, that they are friendly one day to someone and then the next, turn their backs as to not have more than "hello" said to them? IP: Logged |
swirl-kitt Knowflake Posts: 271 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 27, 2011 07:16 PM
well maddi I personally do that sometimeson busy days, I sometimes do less socializing and keep quiet so I can concentrate better I do this because when I do socialize I want to 'be there' IP: Logged |
Moons Of Jupiter Knowflake Posts: 150 From: Australia Registered: Jun 2010
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posted January 27, 2011 07:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by blugrey: Yeah... well if only Scorpios would give the same kind of consideration as to how other people might like to be loved and understood. We should have to conform to everything you like just because you are a Scorpio. The problem with Scorpios is not that they are all crazy stalkers but that they are unable to understand that a person needs to have something in their life other than the Scorpio. The other person with the Scorpio only get nervous and runs away because it constantly feels like the Scorpio is trying to take everything from the other person in the relationship to the point of where the other person feels like if they stay with the Scorpio they will lose themselves entirely. I admire a lot of things about various Scorpios in my life but it get exhausting trying to constantly tip toe around and try and not make them upset because then they get way too sensitive and suspicious. It's like they expect that no one else should want privacy or their own space. It's annoying as heck. I wish Scorpios didn't have that weakness. And I dislike Pisces even more. Bleck. Too many bad experiences with them in my relationships. I don't find them innocent or romantic or pleasant to be around. So it's not like everyone thinks Pisces are harmless either.
Jesus Christ, this quoted my thoughts VERBATIM. I can appreciate what these people go through as well, but the uppity attitude leaves them persona non grata many a times. Totally with you on this one. I haven't met a huge number of Pisces, then ones I know seemed nice enough, nothing terrible. But my experience with a Scorp friend is just awful. The self-absorption, righteous attitude and demands of this person were out of this world, and what was the reward they wanted to give you for all that? More of themselves! (read my adjectives above). Yeah, no thanks. Again, I know it ain't easy for Scorps. But I do believe they need to harness their power in a way as to stop seeing themselves as the victim all the time, and extend to people what they expect people to extend to them. IP: Logged |
WateryAir33 Knowflake Posts: 32 From: Registered: Sep 2010
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posted January 27, 2011 09:22 PM
Awww I lub my Scorpie Worpies! They're really great people and not as negative/evil as people claim them to be. Kind of complex but then again we all can be sometimes regardless of our sign/charts.I agree with mostly everything that's been said. To love/get along with a Scorp just make sure you... 1.)VALUE their PRIVACY, 2.)Don't snoop or try to pry information out of them, 3.)Don't try to analyze them, 4.) Have substance 5.) Dont do things that clearly get on their nerves, 6.) Don't betray them, 7.) Be yourself. Scorpio is one of the psychic signs so they can see through you anyway and its not because of that penetrating stare either. IP: Logged |
NickiG Knowflake Posts: 5817 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010
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posted January 27, 2011 09:28 PM
worpies???------------------ put your foot down once, not stomp it over and over IP: Logged |
4lifephrases Knowflake Posts: 292 From: London, United Kingdom Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 28, 2011 11:21 AM
Could a Scorpio just say "no" when it comes to love. What I mean is, perhaps the Scorpio meets someone while with another person, even better matched than the current partner, and intrigues and attracts the Scorpio. Would a Scorpio forfeit their chance to get involved with the other person because of loyalty? Hi ! Maddi I presonally feel that there might be initially attraction and would suss the new person and prospect. Wouldn't say directly NO. Would toy with the idea of having relationship with new better person. If Scorpio is sure that this is the best relationship and better deal then they wouldn't say NO only because they are feeling guilty. Ofcourse there would be confusion and would try to minimize the damage to the old partner.There can be some confusion state but after once the decision made it would be fixed.Fixed. There can be also possibility when Scorpio realises that what he has is much better than new one. Scorpio would want to work out relationship and try to ammend and change relationship but wouldn't want if it is damaging & just bringing unhappiness to all involved. Another question I have is the push/pull hot/cold question. Do Scorpios realize they do it? Do they realize, for example, that they are friendly one day to someone and then the next, turn their backs as to not have more than "hello" said to them? No, we don't relaise we do anything like that. We feel over whelmed as well or bored? We also have other things to do. Since we lack in multi tasking. We can't be thinking about something completely else and also manage same type of conversation for next day. I know to some signs it come naturally. They are always same & happy. For Scorpions relationship doesn't end- when you see it they are cold. They think ok! I have made so much progress in my personal life or with you or in this relationship. Now, let see where do I need to put my attention to? Career, new friends or family.You are still very fresh in our minds. Just hang around without getting upset or feeling ignored. Our priorties change everyday and there are other pressing things to do. Man , how we wish to be capable of having all the right words and right things to do but as any one we have our own limitations. IP: Logged |
Isolaede Newflake Posts: 18 From: Sunny CA Registered: May 2009
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posted January 28, 2011 02:10 PM
4lifephrases:Very well written, and informative post!! Thank you so much for taking the time shed a bit of light on what makes our Scorpion friends tick. Just out of curiosity – do you have some heavy Sag somewhere in your chart? Or 9th house energy? You are far more open and honest about the intricacies of your sign than most would be, I think. I think it’s lovely and refreshing though! Kindest regards, Isolaede IP: Logged |
blonderiverkat Knowflake Posts: 931 From: Tri-State Area Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 28, 2011 03:54 PM
quote: Originally posted by racole12: when he tells me Pisces... I'm definitely not thinking what you are thinking. LOL. I would run from a Pisces than a Scorpio anyday. lol
lol racole! I had a bad experience with a Pisces man...but they are not all that way...I have met several who are wonderful as well...it was just who he was...it just struck me funny, because it is now a very funny story...it wasn't then however! Just proves you can forgive, but never forget!  ------------------ 'Anything and Everything is possible with Anything and Everything' IP: Logged |
blonderiverkat Knowflake Posts: 931 From: Tri-State Area Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 28, 2011 04:06 PM
quote: Originally posted by WateryAir33: Awww I lub my Scorpie Worpies! They're really great people and not as negative/evil as people claim them to be. Kind of complex but then again we all can be sometimes regardless of our sign/charts.I agree with mostly everything that's been said. To love/get along with a Scorp just make sure you... 1.)VALUE their PRIVACY, 2.)Don't snoop or try to pry information out of them, 3.)Don't try to analyze them, 4.) Have substance 5.) Dont do things that clearly get on their nerves, 6.) Don't betray them, 7.) Be yourself. Scorpio is one of the psychic signs so they can see through you anyway and its not because of that penetrating stare either.
Yeppers!  ------------------ 'Anything and Everything is possible with Anything and Everything' IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 28, 2011 05:59 PM
quote: Originally posted by WateryAir33: Awww I lub my Scorpie Worpies! They're really great people and not as negative/evil as people claim them to be. Kind of complex but then again we all can be sometimes regardless of our sign/charts.I agree with mostly everything that's been said. To love/get along with a Scorp just make sure you... 1.)VALUE their PRIVACY, 2.)Don't snoop or try to pry information out of them, 3.)Don't try to analyze them, 4.) Have substance 5.) Dont do things that clearly get on their nerves, 6.) Don't betray them, 7.) Be yourself. Scorpio is one of the psychic signs so they can see through you anyway and its not because of that penetrating stare either.
quote: 1.)VALUE their PRIVACY,
If I totally trust, I will let you into my world. quote:
2.)Don't snoop or try to pry information out of them,
I f I trust, I would tell a person whatever they wanted to know. However, I require same back. I trust you 100%, then you must do same or it will not work. quote:
3.)Don't try to analyze them,
I do not mind as long as I get to do same. quote:
4.) Have substance
Intelligence is sexy! quote:
5.) Dont do things that clearly get on their nerves,
For sure! I broke up with a guy who talked constantly in Warner Brother's cartoon voices. quote:
6.) Don't betray them,
That would be a big mistake. quote:
7.) Be yourself. Scorpio is one of the psychic signs so they can see through you anyway and its not because of that penetrating stare either.[/B]
I require real. You do not have to be perfect, but you must be real.A few more things..... Do not ever hit me. You do and its goodbye. Do not lie to me. Not even white lies. Which leads to another thing..... honesty..... if you do not like something about me or my looks..... or do not agree with me.... do not use false flattery om me.... do not tell me you like something just to please me.... patronizing me will **** me off. LOL! Will think of more.
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LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 28, 2011 06:02 PM
quote: Originally posted by swirl-kitt: well maddi I personally do that sometimeson busy days, I sometimes do less socializing and keep quiet so I can concentrate better I do this because when I do socialize I want to 'be there'
Yeppers!------------------ I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate - it's apathy. It's not giving a damn. -Leo Buscaglia Every difficulty slurred over will be a ghost to disturb your repose later on. -Frederic Chopin Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. -Aldous Huxley IP: Logged |
maddi Knowflake Posts: 135 From: New Jerzee Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 09:03 AM
Although I have a lot of fire and air in my chart, I always felt a certain special something in my heart for water signs, especially the Scorpio. I always felt they were misunderstood. Some say they are self-serving, and use people. I don't see it that way. Their "selfishness" and "manipulating" sometimes was to their benefit, but for those they care about, it works for them too. For example, my Scorpio brother asked me the other day if I would like to go with him and a few of his friends (I know them) to Times Square. He said that we could take my car, instead of dealing with the trains and subways to get to Dave and Busters. Now, my other siblings groan and immediately think "he's using you for your car." But I see the positive (Aries silver lining). The positives being: Haven't gone out in a while, I'll be with some people I know, not dealing with the trains, and above all else, it's Times Square. When he pitched the 'car idea' he also thought of my benefits, that I'd have fun. I've been somewhat of a hermit lately, so he wanted to kill two birds with one stone, so to speak. I feel I "get" Scorpios, in that regard, where others just see manipulation and selfishness. Something about Scorpios makes me want to sit them in my lap and cuddle them, even the unevolved ones. Like I want to make them happy, and penetrate that "misunderstood" wall they put up. IP: Logged |
LadyAries* Knowflake Posts: 80 From: Saturn Registered: Jul 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 09:38 AM
I feel the same way about Scorpios as you do maddi. I always feel I understand them more than anyone else who knows them (As least the Scorpios I know anyway).Are you an Aries Sun? I can be very impatient with other signs, but with Scorpio I can wait. I admire their intensity and depth of emotion. I know they're sensitive but they'd never admit it and sometimes I forget how sensitive they really are. There is one Scorpio who means the world to me. Their life isn't easy right now but they said they'd love me forever and that's how long I will wait for my Scorpio  I really, really love this topic  IP: Logged |
maddi Knowflake Posts: 135 From: New Jerzee Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 10:47 AM
LadyAries, I'm an Aries sun actually. And I completely agree with how you feel. I'm in the same boat. I can wait, but not forever. I do have some other placements that make me more insecure and in NEED of stability. So, a Mr. Right may lose to Mr. Right NOW.IP: Logged |
LadyAries* Knowflake Posts: 80 From: Saturn Registered: Jul 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 12:01 PM
Yeah forever may be a long time but I know the Scorpio I love is not having an easy time.I wouldn't wait so long for anyone else. But I guess romantic relationships aren't that important in my life right now (focusing a lot of my job and life right now) I have quite a lot of Air in my chart so I enjoy my space and don't want a partner on me all the time. Although I wish my Scorpio was a little less distant but I trust them. They live out of state and only talks to me so often. Saturn currently is Opposing my Sun in my 5th house so I'm learning a HUGE lesson in romance and other 5th house areas. I'm not sure what it is about Scorpio.. It could be my 7th house ruler Jupiter in Taurus opposing Pluto in Scorpio. I always fall for people who have strong Scorpio/Pluto in their charts. It never fails lol IP: Logged |
AmethystOrnella Knowflake Posts: 83 From: New York, NY Registered: Dec 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 12:46 PM
All I want is a guy who's obsessed with me, lmao. I find nothing sexier than a guy who wants me all to himself (might be my mars scorp) Obsessed might sound extreme but, if he's totally caught up in me, there won't be time for other women, and I won't have to question his true feelings (I also have Merc in Scorp, extremely paranoid) I'll totally be devoted, if I feel like I'm getting what I need, but I've got some air in me too, with my moon in gemini, I'm all over the place unless I find exactly what I want in a relationship (venus in virgo, always seeking perfection) The touching thing is true. I don't like being touched unless I say it's okay to touch me. Personal space ))IP: Logged |
LadyAries* Knowflake Posts: 80 From: Saturn Registered: Jul 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 01:33 PM
That's interesting that you mentioned that AmethystOrnella.I am very intrigued by the thought of someone obsessed with me and being possessive. Which oddly conflicts with my "space loving" motto. My Mars Squares Pluto. I have a T Square with my 7th house ruler, Jupiter, Mars and Pluto. I don't know. Scorpio/Pluto is just so amazing to me But I'm starting to love Capricorn/Saturn as well. I think it's that tough exterior and soft interior. That they both tend to have  Makes me want to comfort them.
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AmethystOrnella Knowflake Posts: 83 From: New York, NY Registered: Dec 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 02:03 PM
LadyAries ) Speaking from experience, I've noticed that having cappy anywhere near your love planets means that you're not easily thwarted by love, but would rather focus on your career. I briefly had a passionate relationship with a Sun/Leo/Venus/Capricorn/Mars/Taurus and he was always saying he didn't have time for a relationship, and that he wanted to focus getting his career together (this is a 20 year old we're talking about). Maybe you need to reassure your scorpion that you're not going to go anywhere. I could understand the apprehension, he might be scared to open up if he feels that you're fickle (comes with having air in your chart, can't stay in one spot, always moving). Remember, it's all or nothing with a scorpio, so you may have to be careful what you wish for.IP: Logged |
LadyAries* Knowflake Posts: 80 From: Saturn Registered: Jul 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 02:15 PM
My Scorpio has Transit Saturn in the first house right now, so yeah relationships I'm sure are the last thing on their mind.Acting very "Saturn" like. Distant, acting like they don't care but really does. I'm there for my Scorpio and always will be and I've told them time and time again. IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 30, 2011 03:37 PM
Scorpio and jealousy. Some think intentionally making a Scorpio jealous will make them want you more. It might at first, or for some; but for me personally; If that feeling of jealousy gets invoked, I feel very uncomfortable, I switch back to logic mode, which is how I usually deal with such. When anyone has tried to invoke jealousy in me; I look at it as; do I have valid reasons to distrust them, or not? If there are valid reasons to not trust, I become numb to it and any person involved. I am out of there! I simply will not hang around and play into the game. They want others, I let them go and free myself of the emotional chaos.I've known several people who were just natural flirts and that was as far as it went. If it is simply idle flirting and I know I can trust whomever I am with; generally I am OK with that. ------------------ I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate - it's apathy. It's not giving a damn. -Leo Buscaglia Every difficulty slurred over will be a ghost to disturb your repose later on. -Frederic Chopin Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. -Aldous Huxley IP: Logged |
LadyAries* Knowflake Posts: 80 From: Saturn Registered: Jul 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 04:43 PM
Interesting because I've seen some Scorpios play games and try to make me jealous, like the one I'm in love with. Than again they were 21 at the time.Don't you think Scorpio might do that to reassure themselves that you really do love them? If you react to it that means you really do care. A Scorpio I know would do that. She would say things that would be upsetting, (she knew exactly what upset me!!) and would sit back and "watch" my reaction and be stone silent. This was all with texting, that's how we would talk. This same Scorpio has a Libra Mars and Rising, so maybe the passive-aggressive traits were there. Also has a Sagittarius Venus I was always curious about how Scorpio, Libra, and Sagittarius blends. IP: Logged |
LEXX Knowflake Posts: 9743 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 30, 2011 05:01 PM
quote: Originally posted by LadyAries*: Interesting because I've seen some Scorpios play games and try to make me jealous, like the one I'm in love with. Than again they were 21 at the time.Don't you think Scorpio might do that to reassure themselves that you really do love them? If you react to it that means you really do care. A Scorpio I know would do that. She would say things that would be upsetting, (she knew exactly what upset me!!) and would sit back and "watch" my reaction and be stone silent. This was all with texting, that's how we would talk. This same Scorpio has a Libra Mars and Rising, so maybe the passive-aggressive traits were there. Also has a Sagittarius Venus I was always curious about how Scorpio, Libra, and Sagittarius blends.
I know what you mean. I've known some folks like that. I have no desire to intentionally nor accidentally make anyone jealous. I can however see how this: quote: Don't you think Scorpio might do that to reassure themselves that you really do love them? If you react to it that means you really do care.
Could be a test for the other person, NOT for the Scorpio to be reassured, but the other person to come to that realization that they really want the Scorpio. Like, do not dilly dally with a Scorpio's feelings. Yes, a wee bit of jealousy can be endearing/sweet..... but too much means they do not trust me and because I am an honourable person with ethics, it hurts to be not trusted. Personally I'd hate to be constantly provoked to displays of jealousy just to reassure anyone, nor do I want to provoke jealousy. Hope that made sense.PS. Got a head cold so kinda doofy brained at the moment. ------------------ I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate - it's apathy. It's not giving a damn. -Leo Buscaglia Every difficulty slurred over will be a ghost to disturb your repose later on. -Frederic Chopin Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted. -Aldous Huxley IP: Logged |