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posted June 13, 2011 05:55 PM            

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Originally posted by maira:
But in love affairs, we also seek a certain amount of uncertainty (read danger), because of the adrenaline it gives us. It's what makes us fall in love and become sexually attracted to someone.

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This isn't true, for me.

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posted June 13, 2011 06:03 PM            

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The only reason there are these extreme polarities is some people have major Madonna-***** Complexes or its male equivalent. Whatever happened to good 'ol integrity? I'd rather have that then someone who's playing up some highschool image.

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posted June 13, 2011 06:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Benedict Moon*:
The only reason there are these extreme polarities is some people have major Madonna-***** Complexes or its male equivalent. Whatever happened to good 'ol integrity? I'd rather have that then someone who's playing up some highschool image.

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posted June 13, 2011 06:46 PM            

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There might be something in having an element of uncertainty because it's also was fuels a condition called limerence which is the pre falling in love state. The balance between hope and uncertainty is what keeps the feeling alive. Dorothy Tennov says that all love starts from limerence but not all limerence turns to love.

I'll certainly bear that comment in mind...whoever it was that said about uncertainty.

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posted June 13, 2011 06:51 PM            

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Originally posted by dysfunctionalmystic:
There might be something in having an element of uncertainty because it's also was fuels a condition called limerence which is the pre falling in love state. The balance between hope and uncertainty is what keeps the feeling alive. Dorothy Tennov says that all love starts from limerence but not all limerence turns to love.

I'll certainly bear that comment in mind...whoever it was that said about uncertainty.

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Makes sense.We are so complicated

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
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He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted June 14, 2011 12:43 AM            

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lol they are both in Leo, Ami. But I have sun and moon in cancer in the 9th house, and a stellium of saturn, neptune, and uranus in capricorn in the third which has sagittarius as its cusp ruler. Lots of other aspects and other placements that also indicate my love of "putting pieces of the puzzle" together, tho. I mean, I really could go on. lol

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posted June 14, 2011 04:24 AM            

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I looked it up, it's called "Mating in Captivity" and they translated it in my country as "Erotic Intelligence" lol.

Here's more about what she has to say http://www.salon.com/life/feature/2006/09/26/esther_perel

Lonake, I believe that the reasons why we behave that way are ingrained in our biological make up. I buy this anthropology explanation, I also believe one can educate oneself, but not to the point where uncertainty is dismissed all together.

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posted June 14, 2011 10:56 AM            

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thanks so much for all your answers.I will study them and get back.

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You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
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He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted June 14, 2011 10:56 AM            

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thanks so much for all your answers.I will study them and get back.

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs

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