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Topic: If someone tells u they loved you after 2 mnths would u believe them? Ur reaction??
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 15, 2011 10:24 PM
  
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Originally posted by malicefey:
I do agree with you. I wouldn't want to say "I love you" and then not live up to it. If I were to tell someone that I love them, I would mean it. At the same time, I wouldn't JUMP to say it right off the bat without showing them first. It's fair to myself because if I can't show it then I can't possibly mean it, and it's also fair to the other person as he can also appreciate that I'm not just all talk and no walk.
Why would you possibly be all "talk" and no "walk?" Why wouldn't "walk" supercede "talk?" Why wouldn't you want to show before you say it? IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted November 15, 2011 10:26 PM
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I prefer not to hear those words. I've had my partner slip it out and catch himself afterwards. The word love is very extreme to me. I don't want to/like to hear it. I'd rather see it. That's more than enough for me.
Right? I think that's how I am about feelings too (I found out I have Psyche in Aquarius). When it comes to guys, I recently realized a big confession of love would make me feel REALLY uncomfortable even if I did like/love the person... I want to be shown how I'm set apart from everyone else to that person, how I'm special, you know... it's the same way you treat your best friend except it also includes the joy of sex. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 15, 2011 10:27 PM
oh I showed it through my actions by been there for who I love no matter what. I am extremely loyal. I back it up with my actions too. IP: Logged |
malicefey
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posted November 15, 2011 10:28 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Why would you possibly be all "talk" and no "walk?" Why wouldn't "walk" supercede "talk?" Why wouldn't you want to show before you say it?
I said " I wouldn't JUMP to say it right off the bat without showing them first" ------------------
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amelia28
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posted November 15, 2011 10:29 PM
any of those three guys that I mention I have strong feelings for will tell you I have backed up my feelings plenty of times with actions. I have very high ideals of love.IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 15, 2011 10:29 PM
^ I have psyche in aquarius too! Think we're around the same age? I'm a late 89er.IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 15, 2011 10:32 PM
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Originally posted by hannarama:
Right? I think that's how I am about feelings too (I found out I have Psyche in Aquarius). When it comes to guys, I recently realized a big confession of love would make me feel REALLY uncomfortable even if I did like/love the person... I want to be shown how I'm set apart from everyone else to that person, how I'm special, you know... it's the same way you treat your best friend except it also includes the joy of sex.
Me too. I'm really cynical and kinda view grandiose proclamations of 'love' to be over the top and fake?
Frankly speaking, I would rather the guy show it, and you know, say it later in a quiet way, esp through his actions! The way he respects me, the way you remembers things I say, and is thoughtful and notices things about me. None of that 'I love you forever' crap. =(
There's no such thing as forever anyway.
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amelia28
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posted November 15, 2011 10:41 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Me too. I'm really cynical and kinda view grandiose proclamations of 'love' to be over the top and fake?
Frankly speaking, I would rather the guy show it, and you know, say it later in a quiet way, esp through his actions! The way he respects me, the way you remembers things I say, and is thoughtful and notices things about me. None of that 'I love you forever' crap. =(
There's no such thing as forever anyway.
I agree that actions are more important and think everyone feels this way but is also nice to hear it I think. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 15, 2011 10:43 PM
Why would anyone assume that guys are incapable of showing action before they say ILY within two months?In my case, I signed a one year lease on her apartment and paid the rent six months in advance. I bought all the furniture for that apartment and all appliances. I signed my title to my car over to her so that she could buy insurance and use the car,and it wasn't exactly beat up. It was my treasured first Mercedes that I so badly wanted all through college, that I paid with my own paycheck. I went out and bought myself another car. A lesser car. A used car with more miles than hers. I repaid her student loan in full, and it wasn't small, believe me, because she has a masters degree. I repaid all her healthcare bills. I took my money and established a joint bank account where I could pay all her bills. She had full access to my paycheck (but not all my money). I also named her as the sole beneficiary to all my insurance and investment trusts. I spent as much time as she wanted me to be around, which was pretty much all the time, but it was her choice. I bought her clothes for work because she was short on money. I bought make up. I bought eight ultra expensive French restaurant meals in two weeks because she likes haute cuisine. I bought her a >$1000 handbag (which may be >$2500 in today's dollars). I bought her shoes. I bought her a cell phone, in an era when beepers/pagers were esoteric. I didn't so much as kissed her on the cheek and lightly on the lips, respecting her chastity. I woke up on Sundays at 6 am to go over to her place because she wanted to go to church in Manhattan, even though I was tired and sleepy. GET LAID?!? It would have been easier for me to hire and employ a whole harem. I didn't get laid. Instead I became cellibate for three months. That's after leading a promiscuous life. I didn't fantasize. I didn't masturbate. For crying out loud, I sent her parents on a cruise vacation. I bought her brother a round trip plane ticket to Singapore to see his girlfriend and future wife because he was lovesick and broke. Later, I bought her tickets to come back to the US to see her future husband. Was I not entitled to say ILY? Was that really off the bat? Damn! That's jumping in? That's grandoise? FAKE? Whose rear end you think you're blowing smoke up? I guess it isn't genuine love because it didn't measure up to the two month time threshold. I live in the real world. I don't go by some arbitary societal rules regarding romantic decorum. Incidently, my wife said ILY first, and I didn't say ILY first. OK. I no longer care what you ladies say. Only decorum and self-restraint are preventing me from really speaking my mind right now. I don't want to have to dish it out because I'll just open up and let loose. Sure can dish it out though. I don't know if you can you take it. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 15, 2011 10:49 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Why would anyone assume that guys are incapable of showing action before they say ILY within two months?
I don't assume......there are guys that show they love you through actions in 2 to 3 months. If the guy is romantic and recognizes he has a great and special connection with a girl he is capable of showing he loves you through actions and words within 2 to 3 months. It doesn't happen often but it does happen  . IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 15, 2011 10:55 PM
I feel if a connection is karmic and soulmate material it will be felt by both from the beginning and just grow stronger for a while from then on and after a certain point you will have to work at it to keep the bond strong in spite of the challenges that life throws at both of you.IP: Logged |
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posted November 15, 2011 11:07 PM
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The first thing my guy friends tell me when a someone tells me "I love you" too fast is that the dude did it to get into your pants and he is an @$$hole.
So true. Males will do crazy things and go to great lengths in the hopes of getting laid. They will put their marriages and careers on the line for an affair. So three stupid words and risking being rejected by someone they actually have ephemeral, albeit physically intense, feelings for is actually no biggie. Before emotional attachment sets in (usually, you have to hold off on sex for 3-8 months for this to set in) they basically give a pretense of love to get sex.Oh, and I also think your guy friends will say things to keep you from sleeping with other guys because in the back of their minds and private fantasies, they would like you as a member of their private harem. Anyway, I may have an extra harsh view of guys due to my Mars-Pluto square but the tighter Mars-Saturn trine reflects that these views have been founded on experience and reality. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 15, 2011 11:10 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AjI2J2SQ528 I believe in taking chances and having an open heart. Check out this song by Bjork "All is full of love" My favorite song. IP: Logged |
Leenie16
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posted November 15, 2011 11:43 PM
I would feel uncomfortable. I only say that if I mean it. I don't know what to say when friends say it to me. If its been an intense connection for 2 months I could see someone saying it but personally I'd have to wait a bit before I knew I loved someone. IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted November 15, 2011 11:49 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Me too. I'm really cynical and kinda view grandiose proclamations of 'love' to be over the top and fake?
Frankly speaking, I would rather the guy show it, and you know, say it later in a quiet way, esp through his actions! The way he respects me, the way you remembers things I say, and is thoughtful and notices things about me. None of that 'I love you forever' crap. =(
There's no such thing as forever anyway.
Haha oh Daria, sthoppit... I do find them to be fake too. Maybe it's my Taurus moon, maybe I just like things being frank and honest vs. flowery and rosy but I roll my eyes ALL THE TIME at my coupled friends' status updates "He is awakening my soul." "You're the most gorgeous, kindest, most attractive girl I know and I'm glad you're mind." GAG ME. I'm so unusual for my age group (or maybe where I live) because I'm a private person when it comes to relationships, like you, I want it to be quiet - *personal*.... and please, be sober. My ex-boyfriend was a Leo and he always gave me drunken confessions and still stood by them the next day sober saying he knew what he was saying. I was like "Oh please." IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted November 15, 2011 11:51 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
^ I have psyche in aquarius too! Think we're around the same age? I'm a late 89er.
I'm an 89er as well.  What Eros (that's what we're looking for - Eros, right?) goes well with Psyche in Aquarius? I have to say reading Psyche/Eros combination interpretations from that one site (the one everybody knows 'cause there's barely a crumb of info on the web about asteroids) has been far more accurate than most astrology aspects in the composite chart.
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DepTaurus
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posted November 15, 2011 11:54 PM
if it was me i would deny the whole thing or be totally dumbfounded. My exact words would be "looks behind" Are you talking to me? really oh i thought you were talking to that homeless guy across the street.IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted November 16, 2011 01:21 AM
Psyche will be in Aquarius roundabout every 5 years (mine is on 24 Aquarius).IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 16, 2011 01:25 AM
I have eros in scorp squaring my psyche by 1 degree. So having this in my natal makes me want need a strong connection. I don't settle for mediocre relationships lol.I want passion + a whole lot of mental connection. LOL you're awakening my soul??? HAHA
This is esp funny when they end up breaking up after a few months. Wow I'm jaded lol. IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted November 16, 2011 02:21 AM
2 months are more than enough.acs:cap
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Voix_de_la_Mer
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posted November 16, 2011 03:41 AM
I think being 'in love' can happen very quickly if you connect with someone on a deep level, but actual 'loving', is an ongoing process.Love, to me, is an action, it's a way of being toward someone - it's in how you speak to them, how you treat them, how you respect them, how you look after them, how you consider their happiness, etc. I have 'fallen in love' many times, to varying degrees, but I have yet to actually get to the stage where I start really 'loving' someone in an active sense, when the high has subsided, and the ego boundaries snap back into place. IP: Logged |
malicefey
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posted November 16, 2011 01:33 PM
That's a good observation, about how guys are "fast to fall in love but slow to commit" and girls are "fast to commit but slow to fall in love". Of course, there are always exception to these.------------------
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BelligerentPygmy
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posted November 16, 2011 01:39 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:Post ya asc, sun, moon and venus [/B]
No, I wouldn't believe them. Sure, I have venus square neptune but I'm not STUPID.
Although admittedly I have in the past but to be fair to me, I was pretty inexperienced when it comes to relationship stuff back then so I didn't know any better. aquarius, leo, libra, virgo
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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted November 16, 2011 04:17 PM
Well, my now-husband said those words to me on the morning of our 6th day dating, and without hesitation I said it back. I can't tell you why other than I trusted him sooo much from the get-go, we had been friends for 5 months prior to dating, and there was NO expectation of "getting laid", especially as he was both my first boyfriend and first kiss (yes, a rare thing at 20 years old nowadays), and he respected my naivete. It always felt right, and in my heart I knew he was worth it, and from there, we made it nearly 6.5 months being apart (2000 miles between us) after only dating for 2.5 weeks. He moved all the way to FL from Puerto Rico to start a life with me after that time long-distance, and yes, then there was sex, but he's a serious kind of man and I knew that if he was willing, without me begging, to move over a 1000 miles to be with me, he was the man I wanted to be with forever. And here we are, 6 years after it all began, married and making it work, with lots of ups and downs, and lots of growth...all so very worth it!Sun Virgo, Moon Leo, Venus Leo, Ascendant Aries, NN Taurus
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posted November 16, 2011 05:02 PM
My reaction, astrological reaction, would be this:Fast forward to a few months down the line. When you're really in love. There had to be a starting point for that loving feeling. If two people fell in love and they have the same personalities as they did at the start, the difference is only a matter of how long they've been together. In other words, it's possible at the start of a relationship to fast forward in time and catch that wave of loving feeling that is written in the synastry/composite chart. Once you get past the mask (ASC) of a person, you can start to love them for who they really are. I don't see how posting your Sun, Moon, ASC and Venus can all contribute to the isolated area of love in the natal chart. That's a 7th house issue. IP: Logged |
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