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Topic: "supposed" soul mate broke up with me.. need help with interpretation of our charts
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astro_flame
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posted January 14, 2012 01:48 AM
  
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Originally posted by Lioness:
In the synastry is she on the outside... She sounds somewhat like me. I notice if thats her, she has Uranus conjunct the DSC... THAT would explain alot... She needs alot of space and freedom... You cant pressure her at all... But at the same time, your going to have to chase her down and capture her. I want to see her neptune and uranus are doing in her chart.
yeap in the synastry she's on the outside. i have posted her natal chart .. thank you for your time. much appreciated.  IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 14, 2012 01:57 AM
You guys have very similar charts. Many aspects in common. It does not matter what kind of aspect is between te planets as long as u both have those planets aspecteing in some way, it is going to show many similarities. Try this report in thethefutureminders.com The love compatibility report I think it was called. It point out similar aspects between two natal charts and explains how one person with one aspect is similar to and different from the person with the other aspectIP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 01:57 AM
Northnode in the 7th I have that and I am always breaking up with with guys I get involved with and husband and I are together bc he knows this about me and fights hard for us...other guys their ego get hurt and let me go. I broke up with a guy that I still care for today who wants to get back with me 9 years later, this year, and we had an amazing strong connection that is unbreakable and his pride got hurt and he didnt fight for us, he really regrets this. He is scorpio like you. I have 7th cusp in gemini and moon in pisces in addition to NN in the 7th.IP: Logged |
astro_flame
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posted January 14, 2012 02:00 AM
so should i just walk away from her life or just hang around? is this confused state a temp phase of hers?part of me wants to be there for her but i know i have to move on so that i don't get suck into depression.. now she's making me confused too.. lol IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 14, 2012 02:04 AM
Dunno...honestly i dont know what to tell you. I guess fight for her a lot now to show her u really care....and then if she doesnt respond let go. Fighting for her hard NOW will save u from the heartache of wondering for nine years like amelia's ex did.IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 02:05 AM
Seduce her with your scorpio energy! win her back while simultaneously not letting yourself get depressed. Love her in a detached way in other words don't get attached to the outcome of this but follow your instincts to fight for her if they are there.IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 02:07 AM
Between Me and RAS... I think the universe is speaking to you .IP: Logged |
astro_flame
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posted January 14, 2012 02:08 AM
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Dunno...honestly i dont know what to tell you. I guess fight for her a lot now to show her u really care....and then if she doesnt respond let go. Fighting for her hard NOW will save u from the heartache of wondering for nine years like amelia's ex did.
but gemini craves space and freedom.. so the more i fight the more she will run away from me? tbh.. she did thank me for not giving up but she wants both of us to move on and heal whilst she gives that dude a chance to see how things pan out.. i guess i just didnt want to be a door mat hence i ignored her last txt to me even though it was a friendly text saying how she love my gift but yet can't take it. perhaps now she will realized that this scorpio has finally back off and walk away. will she regret? i don't know.. maybe she doesn't even care? lol IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 14, 2012 02:12 AM
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Originally posted by astro_flame:
but gemini craves space and freedom.. so the more i fight the more she will run away from me? tbh.. she did thank me for not giving up but she wants both of us to move on and heal whilst she gives that dude a chance to see how things pan out..i guess i just didnt want to be a door mat hence i ignored her last txt to me even though it was a friendly text saying how she love my gift but yet can't take it. perhaps now she will realized that this scorpio has finally back off and walk away. will she regret? i don't know.. maybe she doesn't even care? lol
I think she does care. The composite chart shows that, as well as te synastry. I doubt there's anyway she couldnt CARE. But what's obvious to me is the relationship was taking a hard toll on her. I still think it's highly unlikely that she will come back. I'm sorry 
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astro_flame
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posted January 14, 2012 02:19 AM
thank you for your honesty.. no probs abt that.if only she knew that things have changed and it will be for the better if she gives this another try.. she took off just cos things will be the same but she has forgotten that i am a scorpio.. we rise from the ashes and come out as a better and stronger person.. i am hoping that she is just going through a temp phase - lost and confused.
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amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 02:22 AM
That is true Geminis do run from intimacy, specially if they have made up their minds about needing their space you can't change their mind...You will fall in love again and it will be even deeper so don't worry to much..it will work out for you. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted January 14, 2012 02:24 AM
I don't think you should try to convince her or to hang onto her. The best way of getting somebody to realise things is to disappear from their life. And don't do it hoping she'll run after you, do it bc you should believe you deserve more than what you're getting. Sure she's upset, but the reality of the situation is for whatever reason, she decided to have something with somebody else. She obviously wants to explore life alittle and not settle down with one person.Live your life, and if it's meant to be in the future, it WILL BE. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted January 14, 2012 02:27 AM
Ahhhhhhhhh All of this makes me sad... Im sorry hon... I know how you feel IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 02:30 AM
Specially her been a gemini and geminis like things light so a lot of saturn involved would not work for them, so I agree with RAS on that one. But many great women appreciate intensity and will not run from Saturn so when one door closes another one opens..as soon as you let go and truly become emotionally available again you will attract the right partner in your life and I am willing to bet that it will be even stronger the love with this one than it was with gemini. You deserve the same intensity you give. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted January 14, 2012 02:30 AM
I see that you have alot of fixed placements in your chart, so you're a more stable, enduring kind of person that finds it harder to let go and isn't as changeable as she is (even with her taurus venus and merc) it WILL be hard for you to let go, but one day at a time. You'll eventually get over it and will find sth more fulfilling.IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted January 14, 2012 02:37 AM
sighhhhyou guys hit a nerve with me also... IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 02:38 AM
she has mercury, mars, venus, and jupiter in fixed signs but most of her planets fall in the first so she is not good with relationships as probably is not big on sacrifice and compromise and more on putting her self first. IP: Logged |
astro_flame
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posted January 14, 2012 02:39 AM
thank you all for your kind words - it means alot!looks like the scorp/gem combo is really cursed eh! doh! i have already told her that i have let go and am moving on so no more contact. sure she still say she misses me since the day we parted and will always love me but i'll take it with a pinch of salt. hate all these push-pull emotions.. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 02:39 AM
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sighhhhyou guys hit a nerve with me also...
awww....well everyone here participating has been really hurt bad and is why we are all compelled to help him right now LOL.. we are all wounded.....at least we are not alone!
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astro_flame
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posted January 14, 2012 02:41 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
she has mercury, mars, venus, and jupiter in fixed signs but most of her planets fall in the first so she is not good with relationships as probably is not big on sacrifice and compromise and more on putting her self first.
talking about that.. she went to a palm reader before and the reader told her that she is a very loving person but her love life is very complex to read.. dunno what that means! but yes you're right. she did say that she is being selfish since she wanna protect herself hence the breakup. i hope one day she will understand what unconditional love means. IP: Logged |
astro_flame
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posted January 14, 2012 02:44 AM
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awww....well everyone here participating has been really hurt bad and is why we are all compelled to help him right now LOL..we are all wounded.....at least we are not alone!
lol !! thank you guys !! yeap i know i am not alone on this path to healing.
at least i know i am not the vengeful scorpio that we're well known of. :P i actually wished her well on this path that she has chosen!! and i told her to let go of the feelings for me cos it won't be fair to the dude and herself. oh my.. i actually said that! lol
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amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 02:45 AM
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Originally posted by astro_flame:
thank you all for your kind words - it means alot!looks like the scorp/gem combo is really cursed eh! doh! i have already told her that i have let go and am moving on so no more contact. sure she still say she misses me since the day we parted and will always love me but i'll take it with a pinch of salt. hate all these push-pull emotions..
Geminis are very verbally expressive with their feelings and they mean what they say but pay attention to their actions with geminis more than anything if you are making a decision which is what you are doing. Scorpios definitely have the self control to say I will never contact this person again and actually not do it! Very strong willed people scorpios are!!!!! I think you have made the right choice... my original advice stemmed from my own tendencies to be a romantic and fight for what I want but mintgirl is right on is best to disappear and let her miss you strategy wise at this point. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 14, 2012 02:47 AM
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lol !! thank you guys !! yeap i know i am not alone on this path to healing.at least i know i am not the vengeful scorpio that we're well known of. :P i actually wished her well on this path that she has chosen!! and i told her to let go of the feelings for me cos it won't be fair to the dude and herself. oh my.. i actually said that! lol
awwwwwwwwwwwwww that is sooo sweet Lucky who ends up with you!
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astro_flame
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posted January 14, 2012 02:52 AM
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awwwwwwwwwwwwww that is sooo sweet Lucky who ends up with you!
the ex always said i am a very sweet person but looked at where i am now at the end of the day.. too much sweetness for her probably! :P .. one of her break-up line to me was "its not you, its me". how orignal.. so yes.. no contact is the way to go and let her miss me.. if she did mean what she has said to me. i'll still be hovering around but thats cos i really do care for her well-being - unconditional love perhaps?
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mintgirl123
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posted January 14, 2012 02:54 AM
Geminis have more a tendency (out of alot of other signs) to say things they don't mean, or say things they MIGHT partially mean AT THE TIME.
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Their emotions and thoughts are VERY changeable and they might change their mind immediately lol and want sth else. This is especially accentuated seeing she has a pisces moon (two mutables squaring and pisces are kinda notorious for being wishy washy at times)
So I agree with Amelia. Look at her actions. Just a note of advice. Alot of exes go on about how much 'they love you and miss you/care about you/think about you' but where are they? They're not with you are they?This is the pattern I see with people all around me with their exes. People like having a back up and people like the extra emotional support. When you think about it, it's actually slightly unfair to her new bf (regardless of how new it is) that she's still sharing emotional convos with you.
She should refrain from that out of respect for the new guy. And she should stop, bc in a way it's leading you on and it's getting your hopes up, and in a small way she seems to have you around her little finger. Sorry to be cynical. But I do ALOT of observing and this is usually what's going on. IP: Logged |
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