posted January 19, 2012 09:56 PM            

Then some say that after a month, a year, 15 years (!) they come back if they truly loved you.

Has your Scorpio ever come back to you? Have you, as a Scorpio gone back? Under what pretenses?

Please give me whatever information you can. Thank you, from a Scorpio lover who won't/can't move on

posted January 19, 2012 10:05 PM            

If they truly loved you and you meant sth to them, and there were no betrayals or you doing something that breaks their trust and respect... They would come back. A few times even. Just to check up on things, when they're nostalgic etc.

When you mean he contacted you in 7 months ago, was HE the one contacting you or was it more like telling you to leave him alone?

I'm glad I'm a virgo. We give numerous chances and keep giving. But once we snap, we cut you out for good. And we just go ice cold.

posted January 19, 2012 10:07 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i have only been romantically involve with a scorpio woman once and she didnt ever come back,we had one minor arguement and after that she completely iced me out

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posted January 19, 2012 10:10 PM            

Then he said the wrong thing to me, I cut off all contact with him.. I told him F-u and walked away...

I havent been able to get him to stop calling me since... LOL...
I keeps asking me out.. I keep saying no.. I give him the cold shoulder, and he keeps coming at me even stronger...

BUT its not a love thing.... He just wants me to want him.. But Im not interested AT ALL..

posted January 19, 2012 10:18 PM            

we were growing very close, and i think he didn't want that for a number of reasons. He asked me to leave him alone, and that i 'misunderstood' him. Via TEXT!

I asked if we could talk things through, and he ignored me. I waited about two weeks after his final email to me, and texted him one more time, telling him i missed him. no response.

I respect myself enough not to grovel, and stalk him, or keep contacting him when he asked me to leave him alone.

It's been seven months since he asked me to leave him alone, and since my last attempt to work on "us."

He hasn't contacted me, has no idea I moved to a different city, doesn't know anything about me. We don't have any mutual friends. I'm sad because right before that he had told me he loved me.

So, I wonder if he'll come back. Although, I should be angry with him. You don't treat another person this way.

posted January 19, 2012 10:34 PM            

me, as a scorpio, would go back to one of my exes because, as you stated, it just wasnt the right time for him...nothing bad happened between us

but if anything did, then there would be no way in hell i could forgive him or go back

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted January 19, 2012 10:38 PM            

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Originally posted by maddi:
mintgirl

we were growing very close, and i think he didn't want that for a number of reasons. He asked me to leave him alone, and that i 'misunderstood' him. Via TEXT!

I asked if we could talk things through, and he ignored me. I waited about two weeks after his final email to me, and texted him one more time, telling him i missed him. no response.

I respect myself enough not to grovel, and stalk him, or keep contacting him when he asked me to leave him alone.

It's been seven months since he asked me to leave him alone, and since my last attempt to work on "us."

He hasn't contacted me, has no idea I moved to a different city, doesn't know anything about me. We don't have any mutual friends. I'm sad because right before that he had told me he loved me.

So, I wonder if he'll come back. Although, I should be angry with him. You don't treat another person this way.

Forgiveness is the highest form of love.

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Damn that sucks =(. I bet you're finding it hard to move on bc there was no closure. Why does it seem like he was finding an excuse to disappear on you? I mean the whole 'misunderstanding' thing is such a cop out.

Did he really majorly burnt in his past relationship or something? Maybe getting close to you was scaring him bc he didn't want to be put in that vulnerable position again?

But 7 months huh... =( I wouldn't put my life on hold for him hun. I'd try to let him go and find somebody more mature than what he was.
He told you he loved you then bolted... Some people are scared to get to close after being burnt in the past. It's a whole defense mechanism they apply.

posted January 19, 2012 10:40 PM            

A Scorpio who's mad at you will come back after some time has passed. BUT this does not mean they are ready to forget and forgive. Scorpios are like everyone else, they just process things inch by inch instead of looking at the big picture. Much to fire signs' chagrin (I'm an Aries. :P) Their initiation depends on who has the upper hand in the relationship most of the time. If you had the upper-hand and hurt their pride then they will expect YOU to initiate contact, possibly beg for their forgiveness for wounding them so. If it's them who had the upper-hand then they will expect you to wait, and when they do come around... they will expect you to beg for their forgiveness. Do you see where I'm going with this? It is the only way to get them to come around otherwise you're nothing but a memory to them afterwards, if that.

I've never seen someone shut down another person (emotionally speaking) so quickly than my Scorpio best friend. She was in LOVE with this guy from high school who would not break up with his bean of a girlfriend for her even though he'd whispered sweet nothings in my friend's ear. Once she realized what I'd been telling her all along (that she was getting played. Hard.) she cut that off so fast as if she never even knew him. She still stalks his Facebook, and she still vows to have the last laugh but he hasn't heard from her in 5 months?

posted January 19, 2012 10:42 PM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Damn that sucks =(. I bet you're finding it hard to move on bc there was no closure. Why does it seem like he was finding an excuse to disappear on you? I mean the whole 'misunderstanding' thing is such a cop out.

Did he really majorly burnt in his past relationship or something? Maybe getting close to you was scaring him bc he didn't want to be put in that vulnerable position again?

But 7 months huh... =( I wouldn't put my life on hold for him hun. I'd try to let him go and find somebody more mature than what he was.
He told you he loved you then bolted... Some people are scared to get to close after being burnt in the past. It's a whole defense mechanism they apply.

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Psh.

Telling and doing are two different things. Never listen to what a man says, just watch what he does and you'll save yourself a lot of time. Cynical? A bit. But it hasn't failed me so far.

posted January 19, 2012 10:46 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I'm hooked on this "case" for some reason.

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maybe its the mysterious scorpionic appeal??

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted January 19, 2012 10:52 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I think they will come back if they truly care about you (Scorpios easily hoodwink people in that department, usually you're a pawn and they need you for something.) Then again anyone will come back to you if they care about you. You may think Scorpios are icing you out but they're similar to Leos in this department in that they only "ice" you when their pride has been hurt. Scorpio is comprised of total "ego" (Linda herself said it.), so you can imagine why they're so touchy...

A Scorpio who's mad at you will come back after some time has passed. BUT this does not mean they are ready to forget and forgive. Scorpios are like everyone else, they just process things inch by inch instead of looking at the big picture. Much to fire signs' chagrin (I'm an Aries. :P) Their initiation depends on who has the upper hand in the relationship most of the time. If you had the upper-hand and hurt their pride then they will expect YOU to initiate contact, possibly beg for their forgiveness for wounding them so. If it's them who had the upper-hand then they will expect you to wait, and when they do come around... they will expect you to beg for their forgiveness. Do you see where I'm going with this? It is the only way to get them to come around otherwise you're nothing but a memory to them afterwards, if that.

I've never seen someone shut down another person (emotionally speaking) so quickly than my Scorpio best friend. She was in LOVE with this guy from high school who would not break up with his bean of a girlfriend for her even though he'd whispered sweet nothings in my friend's ear. Once she realized what I'd been telling her all along (that she was getting played. Hard.) she cut that off so fast as if she never even knew him. She still stalks his Facebook, and she still vows to have the last laugh but he hasn't heard from her in 5 months?

I think a Scorpio also needs an earth rising or moon to give them staying power. I've met Scorpios with fire moons, and they seem delicate and lofty. Ditto that if there's an Scorpios with air sign moons as well. Water moon? Pffft. Forget it. One, I don't trust a double dabble water combination. It's not that I'm afraid of them betraying me but more that their heads are sooooo in the clouds they may be nearly impossible to reason with, or bring back down to earth. If I had to be specific, Scorpio Sun, Pisces moon combinations are the guiltiest of this so far.

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That's why I said him with the whole misunderstanding thing is a cop out.
And yeah, Scorpios need earth, otherwise with cancer or pisces in their chart, I'd run.

posted January 19, 2012 10:53 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I think they will come back if they truly care about you (Scorpios easily hoodwink people in that department, usually you're a pawn and they need you for something.) Then again anyone will come back to you if they care about you. You may think Scorpios are icing you out but they're similar to Leos in this department in that they only "ice" you when their pride has been hurt. Scorpio is comprised of total "ego" (Linda herself said it.), so you can imagine why they're so touchy...

A Scorpio who's mad at you will come back after some time has passed. BUT this does not mean they are ready to forget and forgive. Scorpios are like everyone else, they just process things inch by inch instead of looking at the big picture. Much to fire signs' chagrin (I'm an Aries. :P) Their initiation depends on who has the upper hand in the relationship most of the time. If you had the upper-hand and hurt their pride then they will expect YOU to initiate contact, possibly beg for their forgiveness for wounding them so. If it's them who had the upper-hand then they will expect you to wait, and when they do come around... they will expect you to beg for their forgiveness. Do you see where I'm going with this? It is the only way to get them to come around otherwise you're nothing but a memory to them afterwards, if that.

I've never seen someone shut down another person (emotionally speaking) so quickly than my Scorpio best friend. She was in LOVE with this guy from high school who would not break up with his bean of a girlfriend for her even though he'd whispered sweet nothings in my friend's ear. Once she realized what I'd been telling her all along (that she was getting played. Hard.) she cut that off so fast as if she never even knew him. She still stalks his Facebook, and she still vows to have the last laugh but he hasn't heard from her in 5 months?

I think a Scorpio also needs an earth rising or moon to give them staying power. I've met Scorpios with fire moons, and they seem delicate and lofty. Ditto that if there's an Scorpios with air sign moons as well. Water moon? Pffft. Forget it. One, I don't trust a double dabble water combination. It's not that I'm afraid of them betraying me but more that their heads are sooooo in the clouds they may be nearly impossible to reason with, or bring back down to earth. If I had to be specific, Scorpio Sun, Pisces moon combinations are the guiltiest of this so far.

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posted January 19, 2012 10:54 PM            

I totally understand about ego. I would imagine that he would want to pretend that this long pause was nothing.

But a lot of the time, yes, all i want is that closure. If he could be without me after 7 months, without even checking to see if I died or not, I would be weary of starting over.

We'd be back to square one.

posted January 19, 2012 10:55 PM            

I have a libra venus and earth mars, and I'm pretty stable and consistent, but I can imagine this guy being pretty wishy washy and unstable at times cos his moon contradicts basically everything his mars and sun stands for lol.

posted January 19, 2012 10:55 PM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
That's why I said him with the whole misunderstanding thing is a cop out.
And yeah, Scorpios need earth, otherwise with cancer or pisces in their chart, I'd run.

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posted January 19, 2012 10:59 PM            

Just, if you loved them, even if the timing was off, even if you just couldn't commit at that time, would you hurt them by using "misunderstanding" and not answer calls and please to talk?

I don't have an off button, where he could turn me back on when he feels.

posted January 19, 2012 11:00 PM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Gem moon? EH.

I have a libra venus and earth mars, and I'm pretty stable and consistent, but I can imagine this guy being pretty wishy washy and unstable at times cos his moon contradicts basically everything his mars and sun stands for lol.

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I feel like I'm crazy, I don't see where she said he had a Gemini moon. Not criticizing, just confused.

And mintgirl, are you a Scorpio? Is that why I pay so much attention to your posts? Lol!

posted January 19, 2012 11:06 PM            

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Originally posted by maddi:
NickiG, it's nice to have a scorpio on this topic tell me what they would do.

Just, if you loved them, even if the timing was off, even if you just couldn't commit at that time, would you hurt them by using "misunderstanding" and not answer calls and please to talk?

I don't have an off button, where he could turn me back on when he feels.

Sorry getting a bit angry at him, which fluctuates with the moon.

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He's also a Scorpio. I don't think anything turns them on more than yearning and dramatic longing like this. Ego trips! It happened with my Scorpio moon ex-boyfriend. He ended it with a text message (too bad I forgot about that song "You Can't Text Message Break Up!" by that comedian guy who sang about shoes. Kelly? I think? Anyway...) that was real dramatic and well-thought out. And he wouldn't respond to me after that (yes I'm embarrassed I even replied. Even 2 years later.)

Some months passed and he came back around gained my friendship, and then I broke it off with him a year into it. I couldn't take the constant power trips. They were subtle to and you can't really call them on it because it's all done in feeling, and non-verbal cues and whatnot. I sound crazy, but mark my words it was definitely a game.

posted January 19, 2012 11:06 PM            

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Originally posted by maddi:
NickiG, it's nice to have a scorpio on this topic tell me what they would do.

Just, if you loved them, even if the timing was off, even if you just couldn't commit at that time, would you hurt them by using "misunderstanding" and not answer calls and please to talk?

I don't have an off button, where he could turn me back on when he feels.

Sorry getting a bit angry at him, which fluctuates with the moon.

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i might not answer phone calls if a guy had just dumped me and he is trying to call...in fact, i wouldnt know why he would be calling but i wouldnt intentionally hurt him unless he had hurt me terribly first

a simple break up with the explaination of "i cant be in a relationship right now...i have too much on my plate....i'm so sorry" in a very sad and hurting tone wouldnt make me angry and want to get back

but if he had cheated or lied terribly, then thats a whole other story

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?