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Topic: Men with Venus in Gemini
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FireMoon
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posted June 13, 2012 03:04 AM
 
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Originally posted by AstroNewb69:
I'm a 23 y/o male w/ Cancer sun, Gemini moon, mercury and venus. Also mercury in VII. I have never cheated nor strayed from my belief that I will ever cheat on a partner. The women I've been involved in relationships with never really said much about me being a flirt either. However, I don't talk much to people I just met unless I feel comfortable. It's when I feel comfortable that the Gemini really shows, so much so that sometimes feel there isn't enough ME to go around at a social gathering lmao! I really try to take a casual, no pressure approach. If a woman has caught my eye I'm not really the type to pursue and chase but to portrait myself as available. I always catch myself trying to keep them entertained and enlightened with fast and sometimes rambling conversation lol.
I'm extremely attracted to the timid personality, brilliant minded types. I'm at my peak of happiness when I can hold stimulating conversation with a love interest. And I feel most comfortable and secure when they come back and want to talk more  whether that be phone/text/in person.
As far as long term relationships go I would have to be completely sure I've found the right partner because I hold relationships in the highest light. In the past I've dated and been in relations with women that didn't work out, and it was mainly me who initiated the separation. Mainly because when I come to the conclusion that it won't last, things usually take a turn for the worse very quickly  Hope this provided a little insight on how a cancer sun / gem moon would view things!
Thanks for your response AN! I'm sure with all those Gem placements you're very interesting and witty when comfortable. I think I've given up trying to understand such things for the time being lol but thanks for responding it's nice to know your perspective on relationships and commitment.... Also btw I'm a Capricorn Sun with Sag moon and merc so we have some interesting opposite aspects lol IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted June 13, 2012 03:17 AM
.ugh nevermind...stay away from these guys.IP: Logged |
FireMoon
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posted June 13, 2012 03:29 AM
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Originally posted by birdy:
.ugh nevermind...stay away from these guys.
Haha it's funny this tread has been brought up again because I just posted a veeery long rant about my latest experience with someone with this placement and the continuous games/antics...BUT I understand that everyone has their issues and am trying to just look at things differently and not pursue people who don't know what they want from now on whatever their venus sign might be... IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 13, 2012 03:42 AM
Oh greattt.
I kinda have a crush on someone with a Gemini Moon/Venus, and reading your posts does not make me feel secure at all lol.IP: Logged |
lilithpluto
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posted June 13, 2012 10:06 AM
Venus in Gemini here, Moon in Aquarius. I've never cheated nor ever dated multiple guys at one time. I do hv many options n choices but I'm pretty clear abt where i stand as I really didn't wanna hurt anyone. I conclude my ridiculous loyalty may b due to my Aquarius moon in fixed sign.. n I'm slow to warm up to guys i like due to my overly curious investigstive nature.  This Gemini Venus has had her heart stomped n bruised by guys in Venus signs other than Gemini. I've nvr cheated but they did.. IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted June 13, 2012 10:33 AM
I have a Venus Gemini/Gemini moon and I have never cheated I don't see really see the purpose of cheating on someone. It's simple if you don't want to be in a relationship with someone just end it why make two other people suffer in the process. Sometimes I feel the whole Venus in Gemini debate is a bit dramatized because any sign has the ability to cheat not even including whatever sort of environment a person may have grown up in that may have influenced their choice in emotional or sexual deviancy. Personally as a Venus in Gemini I'd say in the past I have needed stimulation in relationships but the stimulation doesn't always have to be from my boyfriend's. Just giving a Venus in Gemini space to have their own circle of friends can keep us stimulated. Therefore providing a satisfactory stimulation and not expecting that extremity of stimulation from our partners. Plus we can pretty much talk about anything and not offended we love talking and learning. You won't even realize time is passing with us because were entertaining. IP: Logged |
Ariehnox
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posted June 13, 2012 10:47 AM
My good friend has this, he's extremely loyal, but I have to say that for other people... his charming, spontaneous, talkative and excitable nature can be viewed by others as 'cheating'. Women are naturally drawn to him, and when they display those above qualities to him, he would think of it as harmless fun. It's just that. Harmless fun. no malice... his partner must understand that. (of course, there are limits as to when to draw the line) He also has a Pisces moon, so he's so in tune with his emotions that women just LOVE. But I do have to say that when he does get emotionally (Pisces Moon) and mentally (Gemini Venus) starved, he has the tendency to move away and seek other 'sources'. Key here is to keep him thinking and by always keeping your conversations going! IP: Logged |
FireMoon
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posted June 13, 2012 02:01 PM
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Seeing Stars 7.21
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posted June 13, 2012 09:07 PM
Im a 23 yr old cancer sun male with venus in Gemini. Moon libra asc Virgo and mars aries. I get bored easily. And my committed relationships usually fall apart in 6 months or less. I have almost cheated before. I am currently in a relationship with an older libra who i love been together almost 8 months. I would without a doubt be very broken without her but i am feeling that familiar call of variety. Just the other day there was a girl who i exchanged a couple of words with and had a laugh and overheard her talking about me, being disappointed i was taken cause i was with my gf. I badly wanted to be able to talk more with her but couldnt.. i dont want to be stuck in this situation i really do love my gf and want her.. but i cant help that feeling i get when another girl takes notice of me. :/IP: Logged |
Thefish
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posted June 14, 2012 11:33 AM
Like anything it's never as simple as just having a planet in particular sign. House, relationship to other planets, and planetary strength are important in determining how the attributes of a planet will manifest.For example, I have Gemini on my 5th house cusp, venus in pisces, both mutable signs and both signs associated with fickle behavior in romance. However, with my Capricorn rising, mars in cap conj asc and cancer moon conj saturn make me extremely loyal to a fault. (meaning that I can't really "date around" per se and put my eggs in one basket. IP: Logged |
kennedy80
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posted October 26, 2012 01:30 PM
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Originally posted by tautomer4314:
I would never cheat on someone, and I never have before. I'm also friends with quite a few venus in gemini folks, and they would never cheat as well. I do know one that borders on cheating, but it doesn't count for that. However, I will not deny that that urge is inside of me. I don't allow it to come out though because it completely goes against my values and completely hurtful to the other person (possibly in the long term as well). The reason this comes up for me comes from my perfectionistic nature. This ties to relationships as well. Ideally, I want the perfect partner, and I want to get them as easily and efficiently as possible. In the absence of emotion, it's extremely harsh to the other party. The rational thought is to date multiple people, ditch the bad ones, and keep the good ones until someone better comes along. By moving from person to person with little to no attachment you can cultivate the best match. The dating world doesn't work like that though, and I am able to recognize that so I don't let myself enter that mode. I think it's helpful that my venus is also in the 8th house as that roots it down some and makes it also want a strong deep attachment to something.
Yes, I can say this to be true from experience. Was dating a Gemini venus man for about a year. Ran when things got too serious. But now he still keeps me around saying he wants a friendship - but he'll throw out little flirty things to keep me interested and on my toes. I do believe he's keeping me around just incase someone better doesn't come along. Just found out he went out on a date last weekend, was desperately trying to keep it in the downlow, but I found out. He's upset I found out and now trying to resort back to, "you and I are just friends". Venus and Gemini men can be infuriating! Not all - just think this one needs to grow up! IP: Logged |
sweettouch
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posted October 26, 2012 02:16 PM
Would a Venus in Gemini be any different when their sun sign is in Cancer and Mars, Moon Taurus?? I'd hope they are more stable, fixed and loyal than the Gemini's are read about. IP: Logged |
kennedy80
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posted October 29, 2012 11:33 PM
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Originally posted by sweettouch:
Would a Venus in Gemini be any different when their sun sign is in Cancer and Mars, Moon Taurus?? I'd hope they are more stable, fixed and loyal than the Gemini's are read about.
Yes, I'd think so! Just depends on the rest of his chart as well and his maturity level. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted October 30, 2012 01:07 AM
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Originally posted by sweettouch:
Would a Venus in Gemini be any different when their sun sign is in Cancer and Mars, Moon Taurus?? I'd hope they are more stable, fixed and loyal than the Gemini's are read about.
Yea, Channing Tatum has venus in gemini and he's a Taurus. He's been married to Jenna for a few years, so far so good. At the same time his Venus squares Saturn in a tight orb so that probably helps him settle down too. IP: Logged |
Inquisitor
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posted February 11, 2013 06:22 PM
It might be a little late to post this but i will add it just in case someone can make a good sense of it and use it in a more profitable way.
Saying venus in gemini is this or that is like saying fish in the water---this can show you exactly nothing.Like saying moon is turning around the earth,its irrelevant at all.
What one has to understand from here is that the interaction of those individuals is not exactly so simple as you might think.
For those who want to have peace in their hearts they should try to understand that even if you have venus in gemini there can be a thousand other aspects that can give color to the whole person.
If people would pay more attention to what happens daily in their life(which they did not) and why they get stuck with certain individuals,they will probably find out that there is something about themselves they do not master properly.
When they will,there will never be any problem with venus in gemini again.
Another aspect is this: lets say women do not like to get burned with this aspect---you should look at your man 9th house,its ruler and how badly afflicted it is.From there you can understand that he has a limited understanding of facts of life,so do not expect him to be a genius,he will not be.But also your aspects related to the 7th house need to be checked...
If its ruler is well placed and aspected you can be sure that you are a lucky person in your life.
Above all,if it is designed for you to get married with a man with venus in gemini and if he will cheat on you,there is nothing you can do,If its not designed for you to divorce,you never will---its just a lesson from many others some people need to learn so they can assimilate another aspect of reality in their consciousness...
There is much more to say about this and if someone is curious enough,just ask me...IP: Logged |
its_aqua
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posted February 11, 2013 06:40 PM
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Originally posted by FireMoon:
After responding the “first kiss” thread, I realized there’s been a definite pattern in my love life… I seem to be attracted to men with Venus in Gemini (particularly with Sun in Cancer). From my experience every one of these people that I've known likes to get around romantically aka flirts a lot, has slept with a relatively high number of people, and either has or most likely would under some circumstances cheat…Gemini is in my 12th house so this is maybe something I should avoid, but I also have part of fortune, part of marriage, and sun/moon midpoint in Gemini, so somehow I understand and am drawn to these people all the same. Plus my Aqua Venus has unconventional views to begin with and gets bored pretty easily, and these people can entertain. Anyway, for any of you who have been involved with a man with Venus in Gemini, I would love to hear your opinions and experiences! Or for those of you who are men with Venus in Gemini, what is your view on relationships? No judgments, I’m curious to know the honest truth, do you believe in monogamy? Have you been faithful in your relationships, and if not, what would it take for you to commit to one person only long term? I appreciate all feedback! Also, please mention what your/their sun sign is as well!
The bolded part describes me exactly!!! Same story here! Biggest crush/love of my life Cancer Sun, Venus in Gemini. We just had a fling but it took me nearly a year to get over him, and this happened when I met another Cancer Sun with Venus in Gemini guy. I hate to admit that these guys probably are players. I have the best sexual chemistry ever with the second guy, but I don' think we'll ever have a proper relationship. Wish we did, though I don't know if I would be so attracted to them If I had them for granted! In your experience how could I win back a guy like that?? IP: Logged |
its_aqua
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posted February 11, 2013 06:40 PM
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FireMoon
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posted February 11, 2013 11:34 PM
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Originally posted by its_aqua:
The bolded part describes me exactly!!! Same story here! Biggest crush/love of my life Cancer Sun, Venus in Gemini. We just had a fling but it took me nearly a year to get over him, and this happened when I met another Cancer Sun with Venus in Gemini guy.I hate to admit that these guys probably are players. I have the best sexual chemistry ever with the second guy, but I don' think we'll ever have a proper relationship. Wish we did, though I don't know if I would be so attracted to them If I had them for granted! In your experience how could I win back a guy like that??
Haha I feel your pain It's funny this thread keeps getting bumped because I am STILL hung up on this Cancer Sun Gem Venus guy and there is still no official commitment.. As far as how to win him back, I guess just to generalize I think Gemini is playful, they'll chase people just for the thrill of it, but they'll stick around for someone who can continue to entertain them intellectually.. Which is where the pitfall is, as soon as you become insecure about all the people they may or may not be flirting with, you lose the whole "fun and interesting" appeal, and they sense the heavy emotion and want to run.. So I guess just keep things light? Be charming, show them you're intelligent, gain their respect as someone they can have great conversations with.. After that I have no idea lol, I think keeping them around has a lot to do with just accepting their need for freedom and not letting just emotions (or sex) become the main focus of the relationship.. I think it takes a lot of maturity and resilience though, neither of which I seem to have quite enough of lol IP: Logged |
FireMoon
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posted February 11, 2013 11:41 PM
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Originally posted by Inquisitor:
It might be a little late to post this but i will add it just in case someone can make a good sense of it and use it in a more profitable way.
Saying venus in gemini is this or that is like saying fish in the water---this can show you exactly nothing.Like saying moon is turning around the earth,its irrelevant at all.
What one has to understand from here is that the interaction of those individuals is not exactly so simple as you might think.
For those who want to have peace in their hearts they should try to understand that even if you have venus in gemini there can be a thousand other aspects that can give color to the whole person.
If people would pay more attention to what happens daily in their life(which they did not) and why they get stuck with certain individuals,they will probably find out that there is something about themselves they do not master properly.
When they will,there will never be any problem with venus in gemini again.
Another aspect is this: lets say women do not like to get burned with this aspect---you should look at your man 9th house,its ruler and how badly afflicted it is.From there you can understand that he has a limited understanding of facts of life,so do not expect him to be a genius,he will not be.But also your aspects related to the 7th house need to be checked...
If its ruler is well placed and aspected you can be sure that you are a lucky person in your life.
Above all,if it is designed for you to get married with a man with venus in gemini and if he will cheat on you,there is nothing you can do,If its not designed for you to divorce,you never will---its just a lesson from many others some people need to learn so they can assimilate another aspect of reality in their consciousness...
There is much more to say about this and if someone is curious enough,just ask me...
Hi inquisitor, I was going to reply to your thread too but felt I've already done enough ranting on the subject lol Just curious are you male or female? And I'm assuming you're a Gemini Venus? Anyway I agree 100% that the entire chart needs to be taken into consideration, and it's never as simple as ascribing general traits to an entire sign and thinking they will always be true of everyone with that placement, I know that's definitely not the case. I also agree that people tend to attract/are attracted to other people who bring out their own unresolved issues.. So when identifying a problem or pattern that keeps happening with others, the first place to look is always inwards.. And trust me I'm fully aware that I have plennnty of my own issues lol That being said, I think when discussing astrology, (or anything else really) sometimes it's useful to separate things out into simpler terms in order to start understanding the smaller bits and pieces that make up the complicated whole.. I may attract a certain "type" based on my own approach to things, but understanding what it is I'm attracted to is a good place to start in understanding why... Anyway sorry for rambling, I'd love to hear your thoughts/opinions on this Venus sign if you want to share IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
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posted February 12, 2013 12:24 AM
Gemini Venus in the 9th.... Cancer Sun....I've never cheated on anyone in my life, although I have been attracted to others while in a relationship. I flirt but never cross the line into physical or even emotional cheating. It's usually a quick flirtation here and there. Luckily, I've never really had jealous partners. I'm very devoted to my boyfriends. I do get easily bored... The reason I love my current boyfriend is because I'm always trying to figure him out. He has so many complexities... and we play mind games with each other. Nothing crazy, but he'll purposefully be ambiguous with his opinions on politics or current events just to see how I would counteract. He likes to watch me figure him out, and I like analyzing him. We've been really close friends for years, which helps. I'm quick to get into a relationship. I'm also quick to get out of it. IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
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posted February 12, 2013 12:29 AM
Also should add that I dated a Gemini Venus... Gemini Venus men can be loyal depending on their Sun... but they are just as quick (or even quicker) as us women to leave a relationship and will jump into another one just as quickly. :\Most if not all my past relationships have been with either a Cancer Venus (close in conjunction with my Sun) or an Air Venus. I actually think Gemini Venus gets along well with Aqua Venus and Gemini Venus. Both appreciate each others' natures. IP: Logged |
FireMoon
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posted February 12, 2013 12:54 AM
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Originally posted by ElizabethO:
Most if not all my past relationships have been with either a Cancer Venus (close in conjunction with my Sun) or an Air Venus. I actually think Gemini Venus gets along well as well as Aqua Venus and Gemini Venus. Both appreciate each others' natures.
Yes I agree! I'm an Aqua Venus, and as much as I've complained on this thread.. I get hooked because I definitely "get" their style in love, and need my emotional space as well. I don't think I could ever see myself staying in something if the intellectual connection wasn't there, and these people challenge me in all the right ways.. When it comes down to it I've always come back to that rather than settling for something emotionally secure yet boring.. The whole commitment thing probably has more to do with age/maturity.. Also I loved your story about your having been friends with your boyfriend but still always trying to "figure him out" since he's so complex, very cute . That is the kind of relationship I want to find some day lol IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
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posted February 12, 2013 01:14 AM
^ Yeah, he's adorable... I also have Libra Moon and he has Aqua Moon. My moon trine his venus... His moon is trine my venus but with a wide orb. Wish it were a double whammy!I love Aqua anything. We get along so well. IP: Logged |
its_aqua
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posted February 12, 2013 03:28 AM
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Originally posted by FireMoon:
Haha I feel your pain It's funny this thread keeps getting bumped because I am STILL hung up on this Cancer Sun Gem Venus guy and there is still no official commitment..As far as how to win him back, I guess just to generalize I think Gemini is playful, they'll chase people just for the thrill of it, but they'll stick around for someone who can continue to entertain them intellectually.. Which is where the pitfall is, as soon as you become insecure about all the people they may or may not be flirting with, you lose the whole "fun and interesting" appeal, and they sense the heavy emotion and want to run.. So I guess just keep things light? Be charming, show them you're intelligent, gain their respect as someone they can have great conversations with.. After that I have no idea lol, I think keeping them around has a lot to do with just accepting their need for freedom and not letting just emotions (or sex) become the main focus of the relationship.. I think it takes a lot of maturity and resilience though, neither of which I seem to have quite enough of lol
Ugh!! I never ask for a relationship or sth like that, I keep quiet, hehe barely talking at all :P Yeah, with the first guy I agree totally with what you said. He was very much into music so the fact that I liked the same stuff, helped a lot! About the second, oh god, still trying to figure out what to do
Funny thing is that I'm an Aqua with a Venus in Aqua, so I was supposed to be less emotional or relationship material than Cancer guys (according to stereotypes). But see, I'm Capricorn + Scorpio dominant, and all these games after a while really tire me! When I get involved with someone is because I like them a lot, therefore I want them only for myself!
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Inquisitor
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posted February 12, 2013 09:18 AM
Ok FireMoon i will try to write few of my thoughts on this.
Venus in Gemini is a complex position.It can happen to simple people as it can happen to the most complex individuals.The problem here is that these kind of individuals those who do not fully master their intellectual structure,they are looking to get information through this aspect---information is essential to them and they try to absorb it through their partners,either they know it or not.Now but not being fully aware or by just being too young this can create a lot of friction as you probably know.
You also have to take in consideration that a chart in its totality its an evolving pattern,its a fractal pattern,it tries to develop and learn on its own,like many others.Also when you are 20 years old you think in one way,when you get to 40's things will be different,its because the pattern has evolved and it reflects in exterior a more refined aspect and its properties.
If you are attracted to this kind of individuals you have to understand and ***** the situation very fast as some of them just try to increase the amount of information their consciousness requires so you may get "burned" at the end thinking that they are not serious people.
You are consciousness,and the consciousness is bits of organized data.So these individuals are trying to get even more organized by interacting with others in the way they understand the relationships.
As i said it depends on the complexity of the individual but here are my steps that you should follow if you don't want to get burned in the future:
---try to look at the ruler of the 9th house of your partner,its position and all the aspects it can get.If you see squares and opposition there---then you have a problem because that individual cannot and does not understand what is really going on in his mind.The flow of information is distorted and moving randomly from here to there and the person cannot express clearly what he wants in life.
---if somehow venus falls on "killer" stars in gemini,then you have another problem.
---if the ruler of his 7 and 9 is debil and conjunct malefic stars,you have even a bigger problem.
For a clear expression of personality you cannot have squares and oppositions of all kinds from all angles,because that is a big nonsense,the person does not know what to do and how to express that"venus in gemini" placement.
---it also depends what planet falls as a ruler of the 9th house as it can get really ugly sometimes.
For the most complex individuals things are very different,venus in gemini has a complete different value,love has a different manifestation in the individual's mind.But then again it depends what aspects are pushing venus from behind,what planets are constricting venus to act in such way.
Another thing to take in consideration is the fact that you might not get a husband or wife that has this complexities and a venus in gemini.If you are using the tropical system to look for positions,you can go very wrong.
You have to use the sidereal system as it truly reflects your inner core.
People get deluded sometimes and they do not fully understand "why" and "how",the real mechanics and at the end they get a wrong conclusion,but i never judge the tropical system,only the sidereal.
There is much more to write about this but these are the general rules to get a better grip on your partner "understanding of life"...
P.S. I think you can sense that behind "Inquisitor" is a man.
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