posted April 18, 2012 06:18 PM              

Gemini is in my 12th house so this is maybe something I should avoid, but I also have part of fortune, part of marriage, and sun/moon midpoint in Gemini, so somehow I understand and am drawn to these people all the same. Plus my Aqua Venus has unconventional views to begin with and gets bored pretty easily, and these people can entertain.

Anyway, for any of you who have been involved with a man with Venus in Gemini, I would love to hear your opinions and experiences! Or for those of you who are men with Venus in Gemini, what is your view on relationships? No judgments, I’m curious to know the honest truth, do you believe in monogamy? Have you been faithful in your relationships, and if not, what would it take for you to commit to one person only long term?

posted April 18, 2012 06:27 PM            

Check the guys Moon. If he has a loyal moon like Cancer, Taurus or Cancer, the Venus will be balanced, usually.

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posted April 18, 2012 06:50 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am a female Venus in Gemini. I flirt but not serious, sexual flirting like Venus in Scorpio but I am VERY loyal with a Cancer Moon and Mars.

Check the guys Moon. If he has a loyal moon like Cancer, Taurus or Cancer, the Venus will be balanced, usually.

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hey now, I have Venus in Scorpio and I don't sexually flirt; I'm too suspicious and mistrusting for that :-p

As for Gemini, I think that yes, the temptation might be there. However, (a) other things in the chart could balance it out, as Ami pointed out; (b) some Geminis seek variety in other forms instead of in the form of other lovers--some, for example, might seek someone who has a lot of different sides rather than seek a lot of different individual people, if that makes sense; (c) free will: we can all choose to overcome temptation and act in an ethical way.

posted April 18, 2012 07:23 PM            

Variety is the spice of life-- and for love, everything must constantly be stimulated and kept on its toes. It's best to know about every topic that comes up and have a lot of intriguing responses. This sign is all about curiosity and learning and conversation-- Just have to keep those areas satisfied. From personal experience they are easy to commit very hard to stay committed. Gemini is a sign that prefers numbers and variety, rather than one with novelty. (But this can be worked on.)
If you plan on dating one, you have to make sure they're mature and have enough experience with relationships to gain a clear understanding of the word commitment.
For better trust and long term, make sure his moon is in an earth/water element or at least a fixed moon sign. Same if his sun is in an earth/water element. Its also great if your ascendant is their Venus!
But like Regardes said, anyone can be a cheater. If you have a lot of depth and alter egos this venus sign is just for you! lol

posted April 18, 2012 07:55 PM              

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
As a Venus in Libra, Sun Libra with Ascendant Gemini, I have a natural understanding of their nature.

Variety is the spice of life-- and for love, everything must constantly be stimulated and kept on its toes. It's best to know about every topic that comes up and have a lot of intriguing responses. This sign is all about curiosity and learning and conversation-- Just have to keep those areas satisfied. From personal experience they are easy to commit very hard to stay committed. Gemini is a sign that prefers numbers and variety, rather than one with novelty. (But this can be worked on.)
If you plan on dating one, you have to make sure they're mature and have enough experience with relationships to gain a clear understanding of the word commitment.
For better trust and long term, make sure his moon is in an earth/water element or at least a fixed moon sign. Same if his sun is in an earth/water element. Its also great if your ascendant is their Venus!
But like Regardes said, anyone can be a cheater. If you have a lot of depth and alter egos this venus sign is just for you! lol

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Yeah, I would never try to categorize one sign or placement as being a cheater, this has just been from my experience. I'm also only 21 though, and I do believe people have to really be mature and understand themselves and what they want for anyone to be happy and faithful in a long term relationship.

posted April 19, 2012 02:27 AM            

For me, relationships are something I put a lot of focus and attention on when I want one. I am very particular about who I want to be with and I will try and figure out if that individual has those qualities I am looking for as fast as possible. If they pass the tests, then I will stick with them. If not, I drop them. I have learned to be more mature about it and I will directly tell the person I am not interested in them and then I move on.

Dating for me is easy. I see someone I am attracted to? Great! I will then pull as many tricks as I can to get them on a date. I am rapid with this though and don't want to waste time. I also try to bring up as many important topics I need to filter people. If they pass them, then I "read" them to figure out how to act around them to eventually build up to asking them out permenantly. As far as flirting goes I don't do it overtly. It's usually very subtle and most of the time it is not to flatter the other person.

If you have any other specefic questions please feel free to ask.

posted April 20, 2012 11:37 AM              

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As far as flirting goes I don't do it overtly. It's usually very subtle and most of the time it is not to flatter the other person.

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posted April 20, 2012 01:02 PM            

But the thing about Venus in Gemini is that they don't go out of their way to flirt or cheat. They are just light hearted and easy going and don't take things seriously and don't really know what they're getting themselves into until after the matter.

posted April 20, 2012 02:02 PM            

The reason this comes up for me comes from my perfectionistic nature. This ties to relationships as well. Ideally, I want the perfect partner, and I want to get them as easily and efficiently as possible. In the absence of emotion, it's extremely harsh to the other party. The rational thought is to date multiple people, ditch the bad ones, and keep the good ones until someone better comes along. By moving from person to person with little to no attachment you can cultivate the best match. The dating world doesn't work like that though, and I am able to recognize that so I don't let myself enter that mode. I think it's helpful that my venus is also in the 8th house as that roots it down some and makes it also want a strong deep attachment to something.

posted April 20, 2012 04:55 PM              

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Originally posted by Planet Queen:
See thats the thing. Gemini Venus people tend to associate their partners almost like their friends.

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Also I never plan on getting married. I don't want to live with my partner. And I love independence. That is why Aries Venus is such a great match for Venus in Gemini, because they value independence.

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posted April 21, 2012 03:26 PM              

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Bingo! I have a strong Gem ASC and I do this too. Gemini doesn't flirt thinking of the other person, they more so act out and emphasize the coy, mischevious side of themselves. Imo.

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I think this pretty much sums it up from my experience with Gemini Venus. They also all had Aries somewhere so I think the thrill of the chase combined with the mischevious antics and games might be more exciting than the actual prize. That can be fun and everything, I enjoy some good mischievousness too lol, I just don’t seem to have the same amount of constant energy, so that’s when I worry they will look elsewhere for entertainment.

[QUOTE] The reason this comes up for me comes from my perfectionistic nature. This ties to relationships as well. Ideally, I want the perfect partner, and I want to get them as easily and efficiently as possible. In the absence of emotion, it's extremely harsh to the other party. The rational thought is to date multiple people, ditch the bad ones, and keep the good ones until someone better comes along. By moving from person to person with little to no attachment you can cultivate the best match. The dating world doesn't work like that though, and I am able to recognize that so I don't let myself enter that mode. I think it's helpful that my venus is also in the 8th house as that roots it down some and makes it also want a strong deep attachment to something.[QUOTE]

Tautomer, thank you for your response. I honestly can relate to what you’re saying, I often intellectualize romance and dating, and feel that getting bogged down by emotional attachments to someone who very well might be completely wrong for you might ultimately prevent you from finding the right person. But as you said, getting to know multiple people with no emotions involved isn’t really how the dating world works. I guess I’m just curious to know from your perspective since you have this placement, once you decide to be in a committed relationship with someone, if you then met someone else you find even more interesting or who is more compatible with you, would you stick it out with the person you’re with because of the commitment you have, or move on to the next person? Because objectively you're more compatible with them... Sorry this might be a vague question since that probably depends on the specific people and circumstances, but I’m just curious…

posted April 23, 2012 03:20 AM            

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I guess I’m just curious to know from your perspective since you have this placement, once you decide to be in a committed relationship with someone, if you then met someone else you find even more interesting or who is more compatible with you, would you stick it out with the person you’re with because of the commitment you have, or move on to the next person? Because objectively you're more compatible with them... Sorry this might be a vague question since that probably depends on the specific people and circumstances, but I’m just curious…

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Well, if and when I do partner myself with someone else, I in essence "shut out" all other prospective guys. If I am attracted to someone I advert my eyes, don't open up, etc. The reason being is I do not want to drop the person I am with for someone better. It's cruel and unfair and I am not going to subject them to them just so I can reach a state of perfection. The will of someone else is not worth my happiness by any means. So yes there is a temptation there, and I do my absolute best to remove all sources of temptation. The second I see myself liking someone more then my current partner, is the second I back off from the new person and shut them out.

posted June 12, 2012 10:37 PM            

I have never cheated nor strayed from my belief that I will ever cheat on a partner. The women I've been involved in relationships with never really said much about me being a flirt either. However, I don't talk much to people I just met unless I feel comfortable. It's when I feel comfortable that the Gemini really shows, so much so that sometimes feel there isn't enough ME to go around at a social gathering lmao!

I really try to take a casual, no pressure approach. If a woman has caught my eye I'm not really the type to pursue and chase but to portrait myself as available. I always catch myself trying to keep them entertained and enlightened with fast and sometimes rambling conversation lol.
I'm extremely attracted to the timid personality, brilliant minded types. I'm at my peak of happiness when I can hold stimulating conversation with a love interest. And I feel most comfortable and secure when they come back and want to talk more whether that be phone/text/in person.
As far as long term relationships go I would have to be completely sure I've found the right partner because I hold relationships in the highest light. In the past I've dated and been in relations with women that didn't work out, and it was mainly me who initiated the separation. Mainly because when I come to the conclusion that it won't last, things usually take a turn for the worse very quickly