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FireMoon
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posted April 18, 2012 06:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
After responding the ďfirst kissĒ thread, I realized thereís been a definite pattern in my love lifeÖ I seem to be attracted to men with Venus in Gemini (particularly with Sun in Cancer). From my experience every one of these people that I've known likes to get around romantically aka flirts a lot, has slept with a relatively high number of people, and either has or most likely would under some circumstances cheatÖ

Gemini is in my 12th house so this is maybe something I should avoid, but I also have part of fortune, part of marriage, and sun/moon midpoint in Gemini, so somehow I understand and am drawn to these people all the same. Plus my Aqua Venus has unconventional views to begin with and gets bored pretty easily, and these people can entertain.

Anyway, for any of you who have been involved with a man with Venus in Gemini, I would love to hear your opinions and experiences! Or for those of you who are men with Venus in Gemini, what is your view on relationships? No judgments, Iím curious to know the honest truth, do you believe in monogamy? Have you been faithful in your relationships, and if not, what would it take for you to commit to one person only long term?

I appreciate all feedback! Also, please mention what your/their sun sign is as well!

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posted April 18, 2012 06:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am a female Venus in Gemini. I flirt but not serious, sexual flirting like Venus in Scorpio but I am VERY loyal with a Cancer Moon and Mars.

Check the guys Moon. If he has a loyal moon like Cancer, Taurus or Cancer, the Venus will be balanced, usually.

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posted April 18, 2012 06:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am a female Venus in Gemini. I flirt but not serious, sexual flirting like Venus in Scorpio but I am VERY loyal with a Cancer Moon and Mars.

Check the guys Moon. If he has a loyal moon like Cancer, Taurus or Cancer, the Venus will be balanced, usually.


hey now, I have Venus in Scorpio and I don't sexually flirt; I'm too suspicious and mistrusting for that :-p

As for Gemini, I think that yes, the temptation might be there. However, (a) other things in the chart could balance it out, as Ami pointed out; (b) some Geminis seek variety in other forms instead of in the form of other lovers--some, for example, might seek someone who has a lot of different sides rather than seek a lot of different individual people, if that makes sense; (c) free will: we can all choose to overcome temptation and act in an ethical way.

So, I wouldn't discount someone just because his Venus is Gemini. I can understand being nervous, but remember that there are good Gems/good Gem-influenced people out there who are faithful. There are also Taurus and Capricorns who are unfaithful. A person needs more than astrology to be a cheater: he or she has to willingly participate in that and choose that path. He or she also has the choice of choosing the path of faithfulness and honesty.

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posted April 18, 2012 07:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As a Venus in Libra, Sun Libra with Ascendant Gemini, I have a natural understanding of their nature.

Variety is the spice of life-- and for love, everything must constantly be stimulated and kept on its toes. It's best to know about every topic that comes up and have a lot of intriguing responses. This sign is all about curiosity and learning and conversation-- Just have to keep those areas satisfied. From personal experience they are easy to commit very hard to stay committed. Gemini is a sign that prefers numbers and variety, rather than one with novelty. (But this can be worked on.)
If you plan on dating one, you have to make sure they're mature and have enough experience with relationships to gain a clear understanding of the word commitment.
For better trust and long term, make sure his moon is in an earth/water element or at least a fixed moon sign. Same if his sun is in an earth/water element. Its also great if your ascendant is their Venus!
But like Regardes said, anyone can be a cheater. If you have a lot of depth and alter egos this venus sign is just for you! lol


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posted April 18, 2012 07:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for peachbeigeblue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a Gemini Venus girl. I was fickle as a paper doll for a couple years. I'd be in constant contact with a guy and then flee before he even get the opportunity to kiss me. Sometimes they got that far but I spooked easy. My Venus opposite saturn made it more slow for me to commit and after a while now my Taurus moon is much more picky, slow, and loyal.

My male bestie has a gem Venus. He runs around... usually cheats on gfs and often doesn't commit at all. He was seeing multiple girls and doesn't usually settle if not for convenience...like when he's busy with work or school. He's a cancer with a gem moon. He Is very very handsome. He's still pretty young. Very lovable and just recently got a new gf. He has never been in a long term relationship though and he's more than 23 and three quarters.

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posted April 18, 2012 07:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
As a Venus in Libra, Sun Libra with Ascendant Gemini, I have a natural understanding of their nature.

Variety is the spice of life-- and for love, everything must constantly be stimulated and kept on its toes. It's best to know about every topic that comes up and have a lot of intriguing responses. This sign is all about curiosity and learning and conversation-- Just have to keep those areas satisfied. From personal experience they are easy to commit very hard to stay committed. Gemini is a sign that prefers numbers and variety, rather than one with novelty. (But this can be worked on.)
If you plan on dating one, you have to make sure they're mature and have enough experience with relationships to gain a clear understanding of the word commitment.
For better trust and long term, make sure his moon is in an earth/water element or at least a fixed moon sign. Same if his sun is in an earth/water element. Its also great if your ascendant is their Venus!
But like Regardes said, anyone can be a cheater. If you have a lot of depth and alter egos this venus sign is just for you! lol


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Hmmm, the person I'm interested in right now has an Aries moon. Not especially comforting lol. But he does have Sun in Cancer and Mars in Taurus so maybe these will help stabalize things. His sun and jupiter are in my 1st house on my ascendant in Cancer so that really helps too.

Yeah, I would never try to categorize one sign or placement as being a cheater, this has just been from my experience. I'm also only 21 though, and I do believe people have to really be mature and understand themselves and what they want for anyone to be happy and faithful in a long term relationship.

But that is interesting, I also find variety and the capacity for intriguing/ intellectual conversations important in life and relationships, so I think that has something to do with the attraction, and I like to think I can hopefully keep things interesting enough lol.

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posted April 18, 2012 08:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for peachbeigeblue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh and I've cheated when I was younger. In all my relationships. And so has my other friend. But I was faithful in my last relationship. And the one before that. Now I've grown up.

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hannaramaa
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posted April 19, 2012 01:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I relate with Peach's testament of spooking easy! I think Gems have the same problem as their counterpart, Sag. As soon as I feel like I have to make a decision and I haven't figured out the person yet I flee. I panick. I throw up. I scream "NO" as they're dragging me by the hair into a cave to claim me. I'll tell you one thing, I think it's best to let the Gemini call the shots if you're wanting to get involved with one. It's okay to talk about things and share your point of view, because all of us (ASC, Sun, Moon, Mercury, etc.) LOVE talks. We adore them. In fact, I think it's the secret to making a Gemini comfortable around you faster.

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posted April 19, 2012 01:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Also, the Gemini I was involved with had Cancer moon and Venus in Gemini. I think he was focused on me, but not necessarily trusting. He fabricated a lot of his life story to me and I still don't know (granted, I don't care) why! :P He was silly, but always surprised me with how forthright he was about his intentions with me (which were actually quite traditional)

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posted April 19, 2012 01:27 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Meh, most guys are as faithful as their options.

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posted April 19, 2012 02:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for psytaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted April 19, 2012 02:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for tautomer4314     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am a guy who has venus in Gemini (8th house). I should note though that I am gay.

For me, relationships are something I put a lot of focus and attention on when I want one. I am very particular about who I want to be with and I will try and figure out if that individual has those qualities I am looking for as fast as possible. If they pass the tests, then I will stick with them. If not, I drop them. I have learned to be more mature about it and I will directly tell the person I am not interested in them and then I move on.

Dating for me is easy. I see someone I am attracted to? Great! I will then pull as many tricks as I can to get them on a date. I am rapid with this though and don't want to waste time. I also try to bring up as many important topics I need to filter people. If they pass them, then I "read" them to figure out how to act around them to eventually build up to asking them out permenantly. As far as flirting goes I don't do it overtly. It's usually very subtle and most of the time it is not to flatter the other person.

If you have any other specefic questions please feel free to ask.

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posted April 19, 2012 05:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hodad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Men with Venus in Gemini are usually big flirts and quite the social butterflies!They are usually quite bright and lots of fun to be around,but they certainly have a short attention span when it comes to romance.When I see Venus in Gemini in a man's chart I just think that person would be fun to date but his eye will definitely wander----

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posted April 20, 2012 11:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by tautomer4314:
As far as flirting goes I don't do it overtly. It's usually very subtle and most of the time it is not to flatter the other person.

Bingo! I have a strong Gem ASC and I do this too. Gemini doesn't flirt thinking of the other person, they more so act out and emphasize the coy, mischevious side of themselves. Imo.

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posted April 20, 2012 01:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Planet Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a Venus in Gemini. I got to be honest I've cheated before, of course on someone who didn't value me anyways.

But the thing about Venus in Gemini is that they don't go out of their way to flirt or cheat. They are just light hearted and easy going and don't take things seriously and don't really know what they're getting themselves into until after the matter.

Either way, I'd avoid Venus in Gemini men.

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Keep 'em away from me. My Venus in Scorp desires all or nothing. I've seen Gemini Venus in action. No sentiment for anyone except for family (Moon in Cap).

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posted April 20, 2012 02:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for tautomer4314     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would never cheat on someone, and I never have before. I'm also friends with quite a few venus in gemini folks, and they would never cheat as well. I do know one that borders on cheating, but it doesn't count for that. However, I will not deny that that urge is inside of me. I don't allow it to come out though because it completely goes against my values and completely hurtful to the other person (possibly in the long term as well).

The reason this comes up for me comes from my perfectionistic nature. This ties to relationships as well. Ideally, I want the perfect partner, and I want to get them as easily and efficiently as possible. In the absence of emotion, it's extremely harsh to the other party. The rational thought is to date multiple people, ditch the bad ones, and keep the good ones until someone better comes along. By moving from person to person with little to no attachment you can cultivate the best match. The dating world doesn't work like that though, and I am able to recognize that so I don't let myself enter that mode. I think it's helpful that my venus is also in the 8th house as that roots it down some and makes it also want a strong deep attachment to something.

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posted April 20, 2012 02:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What about a guy w/ venus gemini RX?

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posted April 20, 2012 04:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Planet Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
See thats the thing. Gemini Venus people tend to associate their partners almost like their friends. Cheating is terrible because it is secretive, but Gemini Venus is not secretive, so it doesn't come across as scandalous as it sounds.

Also I never plan on getting married. I don't want to live with my partner. And I love independence. That is why Aries Venus is such a great match for Venus in Gemini, because they value independence.

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Originally posted by Planet Queen:
See thats the thing. Gemini Venus people tend to associate their partners almost like their friends.

Uh....not what I've witnessed lol. Friends buy roses and jewelry for Gemini Venus then?

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Cheating is terrible because it is secretive, but Gemini Venus is not secretive, so it doesn't come across as scandalous as it sounds.

They just don't get caught. If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it...

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Also I never plan on getting married. I don't want to live with my partner. And I love independence. That is why Aries Venus is such a great match for Venus in Gemini, because they value independence.


Sounds like you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. You could just screw around to get your Gemini need for variety met. Once a guy gets what he wants from you and loses interest in conversation, you can just screw the next one. And on and on. Or something else that will totally disgust a Venus in Scorpio.

If someone comes onto me, I find out his birth date and ignore him once I find out he has Venus in Gemini.

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posted April 20, 2012 09:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Planet Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was not talking about myself personally so back off! And I know plenty of Scorpio Venus that are screwing constantly. Not everyone is the same!

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posted April 21, 2012 03:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Bingo! I have a strong Gem ASC and I do this too. Gemini doesn't flirt thinking of the other person, they more so act out and emphasize the coy, mischevious side of themselves. Imo.

I think this pretty much sums it up from my experience with Gemini Venus. They also all had Aries somewhere so I think the thrill of the chase combined with the mischevious antics and games might be more exciting than the actual prize. That can be fun and everything, I enjoy some good mischievousness too lol, I just donít seem to have the same amount of constant energy, so thatís when I worry they will look elsewhere for entertainment.

[QUOTE] The reason this comes up for me comes from my perfectionistic nature. This ties to relationships as well. Ideally, I want the perfect partner, and I want to get them as easily and efficiently as possible. In the absence of emotion, it's extremely harsh to the other party. The rational thought is to date multiple people, ditch the bad ones, and keep the good ones until someone better comes along. By moving from person to person with little to no attachment you can cultivate the best match. The dating world doesn't work like that though, and I am able to recognize that so I don't let myself enter that mode. I think it's helpful that my venus is also in the 8th house as that roots it down some and makes it also want a strong deep attachment to something.[QUOTE]

Tautomer, thank you for your response. I honestly can relate to what youíre saying, I often intellectualize romance and dating, and feel that getting bogged down by emotional attachments to someone who very well might be completely wrong for you might ultimately prevent you from finding the right person. But as you said, getting to know multiple people with no emotions involved isnít really how the dating world works. I guess Iím just curious to know from your perspective since you have this placement, once you decide to be in a committed relationship with someone, if you then met someone else you find even more interesting or who is more compatible with you, would you stick it out with the person youíre with because of the commitment you have, or move on to the next person? Because objectively you're more compatible with them... Sorry this might be a vague question since that probably depends on the specific people and circumstances, but Iím just curiousÖ

Anyway, thanks for all your responses!

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posted April 23, 2012 02:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted April 23, 2012 03:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for tautomer4314     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by FireMoon:
I guess Iím just curious to know from your perspective since you have this placement, once you decide to be in a committed relationship with someone, if you then met someone else you find even more interesting or who is more compatible with you, would you stick it out with the person youíre with because of the commitment you have, or move on to the next person? Because objectively you're more compatible with them... Sorry this might be a vague question since that probably depends on the specific people and circumstances, but Iím just curiousÖ

Well, if and when I do partner myself with someone else, I in essence "shut out" all other prospective guys. If I am attracted to someone I advert my eyes, don't open up, etc. The reason being is I do not want to drop the person I am with for someone better. It's cruel and unfair and I am not going to subject them to them just so I can reach a state of perfection. The will of someone else is not worth my happiness by any means. So yes there is a temptation there, and I do my absolute best to remove all sources of temptation. The second I see myself liking someone more then my current partner, is the second I back off from the new person and shut them out.

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posted June 12, 2012 10:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AstroNewb69     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a 23 y/o male w/ Cancer sun, Gemini moon, mercury and venus. Also mercury in VII.

I have never cheated nor strayed from my belief that I will ever cheat on a partner. The women I've been involved in relationships with never really said much about me being a flirt either. However, I don't talk much to people I just met unless I feel comfortable. It's when I feel comfortable that the Gemini really shows, so much so that sometimes feel there isn't enough ME to go around at a social gathering lmao!

I really try to take a casual, no pressure approach. If a woman has caught my eye I'm not really the type to pursue and chase but to portrait myself as available. I always catch myself trying to keep them entertained and enlightened with fast and sometimes rambling conversation lol.
I'm extremely attracted to the timid personality, brilliant minded types. I'm at my peak of happiness when I can hold stimulating conversation with a love interest. And I feel most comfortable and secure when they come back and want to talk more whether that be phone/text/in person.
As far as long term relationships go I would have to be completely sure I've found the right partner because I hold relationships in the highest light. In the past I've dated and been in relations with women that didn't work out, and it was mainly me who initiated the separation. Mainly because when I come to the conclusion that it won't last, things usually take a turn for the worse very quickly

Hope this provided a little insight on how a cancer sun / gem moon would view things!

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