posted March 30, 2013 10:39 PM            

So, speaking of flirting. I have two really close first-cousins who are girls. K. and G.

K.
Rising: Leo
Sun: Virgo
Moon: Gemini

G.
Rising: Taurus
Sun: Virgo
Moon: Gemini

These two flirt like there's no tomorrow. Like, OMG. It doesn't matter where we are. Every time I turn my head they will always be makcin' or someone will mack on them. My Leo Riser cousin is always-always in the club. My Taurus Riser cousin is the biggest flirt on planet Earth. God bless her, tbh. I mean, they are very pretty, but. Ugh. :P

posted March 30, 2013 11:21 PM            

Strange women are generally easier to reject with no hard feelings, though I suspect a very intimidating girlfriend I had for many years (I saw a 13-year-old boy who had a crush on me run from her in fear, and she hadn't even looked at him) may have made it simpler for me. Typically, however, they're either drunk and thus easily distracted by someone more willing to play or they tell me they're interested and wait for me to make a move (which I don't). And as women tend to like to talk with others about pursuing me I can usually find a window of opportunity to escape easily enough.

I did tell one woman who thought I was interested in her man that I was gay which seemed to take care of that problem but a few minutes later a guy was very persistent, and he responded to my expression of disinterest by telling me my "friend" had told him I was into him, just shy, and asking what friend he pointed to the woman I'd told I was a lesbian. I told him the brutal truth, though I was sure to paint her as the villain in this (and I don't care if she suffered his wrath or not) and left as it was too awkward and I was too angry.

As for those I know...them I'm honest with, we could even be discussing business as it's usually so calm and rational, and it often turns out ok with no hurt feelings (at least not obvious). I have lost a few guy friends that way, perhaps they felt "friend zoned" or whatever, but my feeling on that is if I'm not worth being with unless I spread my legs (or at least promise to later on) then I don't want him around me anyway.

posted March 30, 2013 11:53 PM            

If they're some random acquaintance or stranger... and they spontaneously ask me out - I wouldn't bother explaining myself.. I'd just say: No... and end the convo.

If they're a stranger/acquaintace and they got my attention in some non-romantic way *before* they ask me out... and I was intrigued and highly interested in their personality... before they even mentioned anything romantic - then I'd keep in touch - give them my email or no or fb & invite them to things in the future - but not on dates.

posted March 31, 2013 12:04 AM            

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BUT ITS HARD OKAY!!!!

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Don't tell it to us sweetie-pie.
Tell it to all the crappy Karma you're accumulating.

I mean.. pretending someone is dead?

What.The.Crap is that about?!

I mean I knew that you were immature from some of your previous posts, but this is actually beyond ridiculous.

Oh well.. sigh
Your problem - not mine!

posted March 31, 2013 12:16 AM            

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Odette: I mean I knew that you were immature from some of your previous posts, but this is actually beyond ridiculous.

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posted March 31, 2013 12:28 AM            

And yet I have to admit I enjoy implicitly telling them I am not interested. Because I feel very hurt and insulted when it's ages and no one takes my fancy, and instead all I get is these idiots who are either too old or not my type or something is inevitably wrong

For example I told a man who was much older that I was sorry Thurston and Kim from sonic youth broke up because "they had been together for longer than I've been around". Was so much fun. Or i can pretend I don't recognise someone who saw me briefly and was impressed when I see them again and they get all delighted to see me. So they go like oh I am such and such we met at XXX and I say "yeah sure I remember" as if it was the last thing on earth I cared about. Or my favourite all timer is, when guys who IM me a lot ask how I've been and they wouldn't mind going out w me "oh I'm really down in the dumps, I lost my lover to drugs, the only person who knew who I really was, it's really hard for me these days, can't even focus on work". The implication being "look how others make me feel, others but not you"

I have a lot of Pluto / Scorpio in me though, perhaps that's why

posted March 31, 2013 12:38 AM            

her: (sits down beside me in smoking area and starts talking to me)

her: soo do you have a girlfriend?
me: noo
her: (looks me up and down) really? i cant believe that.
me: well, i dont want a girlfriend right now.

posted March 31, 2013 04:09 AM            

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Originally posted by virgolotus:
Moon Cap
Venus Libra (kills)
Mars Gemini

I pretty much just do what you do, Kero. I mean I try to be their friends and be nice (Venus) but they just persist and I just ignore their attempts to flirt. I guess, in a way, I lead them on but it is really hard to just say 'back off' especially if they're really sweet. If they're disgusting and rude I will be blunt and vulgar or be a tease and play mind games.

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I do very similar. I felt like I typed that haha.

posted March 31, 2013 04:32 AM            

What??? You said your mother was dying as an excuse to reject her???

Why in the world would you say that?

Just be honest.

If it's someone I don't know, it's easy really I just have to be my old self: blunt and straight forward will do it.
Guys who can't take no for an answer put me off.I'll just cut them off without responding.

If it's someone I know and care about,that I have to work with,then it becomes a little tricky for me to navigate.I'll make as if I have brain damage,I'll ignore innuendoes,compliments. the whole thing will be awkward because I will try not to be too forthright and obvious in my refusal of him, because I wouldn't want to hurt the other person. I want him to get the hint all by himself.

If it's someone I know and care about, that I DON'T have to work with. I'll be a little more forthright, I'll start making it obvious that I'm avoiding him.

If it's someone I know but don't care about.I'm pretty blunt and harsh.

posted March 31, 2013 07:00 AM            

If its a stranger then i might be a bit sadistic and give a sarcastic or cold response.

Im trying to work a more mature and soft way of handling this

posted March 31, 2013 07:13 AM            

I used to be softer when younger and felt horrible rejecting people. Now I don't mind much. It sucks to be rejected but I think it sucks even more to be with someone who's not into you. And dating is not charity, nor a reward for being a nice guy. No chemistry, no dating. End of discussion.

Sag Moon - blunt
Tau Venus - that's when I am sweet and gentle about it
Aries Mars - I get annoyed if they insist. No means friggin NO!

posted March 31, 2013 07:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
I gently go for the kill. Life's tough. Take it like a man.

I used to be softer when younger and felt horrible rejecting people. Now I don't mind much. It sucks to be rejected but I think it sucks even more to be with someone who's not into you. And dating is not charity, nor a reward for being a nice guy. No chemistry, no dating. End of discussion.

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^ I like that.

Seriously, what's wrong with a simple: 'I feel flattered, but no thanks.' So much easier & everyone knows exactly where they stand so we can all move on. Mind you, that non complicated communication probably kills the 'self help book market' & the amount of personal readings requested

Moon in Taurus
Sun in Leo
Mars + Venus in Virgo.

People not telling it straight up annoy the hell out of me.

posted March 31, 2013 06:33 PM              

I mean yeah, I get it it's over or yeah it won't ever begin, but I don't know I can't help but wish these girls all the bad relationship luck in the world.

If i don't like a girl I usually go 'Dang you annoy me' or something like that.

I expect the same from the girl, if she chooses the cowards way out, i lose whatever respect I had for her.

I usually only reject people if they annoy me, if we have different views or whatever that's no problem, even if they're a bit mean I don't care, i just won't deal with an annoying woman.

posted March 31, 2013 06:43 PM            

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Originally posted by CherryVodka:
What annoys me is women who can't be honest and tell me to fck off.

I mean yeah, I get it it's over or yeah it won't ever begin, but I don't know I can't help but wish these girls all the bad relationship luck in the world.

If i don't like a girl I usually go 'Dang you annoy me' or something like that.

I expect the same from the girl, if she chooses the cowards way out, i lose whatever respect I had for her.

I usually only reject people if they annoy me, if we have different views or whatever that's no problem, even if they're a bit mean I don't care, i just won't deal with an annoying woman.

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posted March 31, 2013 07:02 PM            

Gemini ASC
Aries Sun
Taurus Moon
Aries Mercury
Aries Venus
Gemini Mars

posted March 31, 2013 07:04 PM            

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Originally posted by CherryVodka:
Well, it's hard to make a stupid person suffer because they're too stupid to realize they're suffering.

So I guess just let them go.

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posted March 31, 2013 07:15 PM            

I would ignore them.

Say No

Wouldn't take the hint purposely.

I would try to pair them with someone else. (Wicked! but that has been most immature from me.)

posted March 31, 2013 07:16 PM            

Hey Kerosene!

...let's talk!

posted March 31, 2013 07:20 PM            

Let's see, being honest with men who expressed interest in me has gotten me ignored (and continually harassed, and I've heard of worse), insulted, yelled at (including threateningly), poked threateningly, and nearly raped. One guy on the internet who got interested in me responded to my blunt refusal by agreeing to just be online friends while sending me a "fun questionnaire" which if I'd answered it he'd been able to google a map to my home (needless to say I blocked him in response).

And last Halloween I was with some volunteers setting up for an office party when another volunteer came onto me...it was done with a lot of crude innuendo (like telling me to hold my rod still while he inserted another rod moaning, "Feels so good!") that at first I thought it was just juvenile humor but became much bolder no matter how much I politely brushed him off or ignored him. Finally, after several minutes, I said calmly but firmly, "Enough." He walked off and I just hoped he'd calm down but instead a woman at the office (turned out to be his sister) kicked me out of the office because he'd told her (and she believed) that I'd "led him on" and was a "stuck up ***** " (for not acting like some porno blonde bibmbo), and she also made trouble for my friend who worked there threatening her job in this economy because I finally told him bluntly that I wasn't interested.

posted March 31, 2013 07:24 PM              

I, for the life of me cannot see why we humans can't just communicate freely with each other.

If you think about it we are all still cavemen and the women are still harlots, and we'll never escape that.

Maybe being too open minded is weird now a days.