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Topic: What turns you off?
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PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3518
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 08, 2013 03:37 PM
  
It just occurs to me that this thread meant about a romantic partner rather than people in general.  In addition to what I already listed it's too much clinginess & micromanaging (Sag doesn't like that, and Libra can see a lot of micromanaging as unfair and messing with the scales). I need my space and can't stand having a shadow 24/7, or someone attaching a metaphorical umbilical cord to me. I need to have my space, and that's not just a Sag thing, Libra also needs down time (half the time she's social, but the other half she likes to read a good book without any distractions, too, gotta keep those scales balanced). There's a time for sharing (at all levels) and then there's a time for doing our own thing, too. I have no problem returning the favor, of course, that is I give people a lot of room for the most part, and having separate lives is part of what keeps each other interesting instead of growing stale (to me). IP: Logged |
ail221
Moderator Posts: 3939
From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted May 08, 2013 04:46 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
HA.. i dated a racist once I had no idea until this racist conversation occurred. I was like, you know I'm not white right?... The response was I found you attractive.. I don't get racists....
I wish all bigots would just dress up like skinheads with 1488 tattoos on their foreheads.
I don't understand it either but I have seen it happen. People end up in sexual relationships with people they supposedly hate. :/ I guess he wanted to make you his "token". Some people are ok with being the exception I am not that's just not cool in my book. IP: Logged |
ail221
Moderator Posts: 3939
From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted May 08, 2013 04:49 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Yeah - discrimination of any kind is beyond being a *put off*. I just pretend they don't exist at all, like they're a blank wall.
Most can be avoided but sometimes people are closet discriminators it takes time to see the other side of them. IP: Logged |
nove731
Knowflake Posts: 220
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted May 08, 2013 07:42 PM
I really hate guys that are:-High maintenance (i.e., shaving all their body hair, spending a long time styling their hair, unable to make up their minds about clothing, wearing makeup, overly built, etc.)
-Clingy/needy
-Overly critical/naggy
-That I don't have a mental connection to
-Short men
-Body "art"
-Vapid/ditzy
-Men that are weak/aren't assertive
-Overly concerned with traditional morality/spirituality
-Selfish/self-centered-ness
-Guys that are too "safe"...I like men that are bold and take chances.
-Men that only want sex. Virgo Rising (Mercury in Taurus in the 8th)
Aries Sun (7th House)
Sag Moon (3rd House)
Pisces Venus (6th House)
Aquarius Mars (5th House) IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4510
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 03:20 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I'll just have a salad, and hold the dressing! 
If a guy orders just a salad without the dressing,I'll start thinking he is gay.I know there is no connection with ordering a salad and being gay but still I'll think he is one. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3518
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 09, 2013 04:46 AM
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
If a guy orders just a salad without the dressing,I'll start thinking he is gay.I know there is no connection with ordering a salad and being gay but still I'll think he is one.
And the reason he's on a dinner date with you is because he thinks you're really a guy?  IP: Logged |
joyrjw
Knowflake Posts: 399
From: California, USA
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted May 09, 2013 04:47 AM
-Romantically and sexually Men who have very little personality or passion is a turn off
-men who only think of themselves
-men who are close minded
-men who have no sense of humor
-who are narrow minded and think they're the only one's who are right
-who are tempermental about every little thing
-who are constantly critical in harsh non constructive ways. I have Venus Capricorn 7th -Moon in Virgo 3rd- Mars in Scorpio 5th
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Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4510
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 04:58 AM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
And the reason he's on a dinner date with you is because he thinks you're really a guy?
No I don't think he would be confused about my sexuality. Guys who worry too much about their weight, their skin,hair,fingernails,etc etc turn me off. IP: Logged |
Stawr
Moderator Posts: 2621
From: N. America
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted May 10, 2013 12:08 PM
-Guys that like chick flicks more than I do!! Are they for real!? Or do they do it cause they think they will get laid?! If they tried to get to know me, they would know that I despise chick flicks. To me they are boring and not funny.
-Pick the movie on dates, their choice is usually a miss with me.
-Guys who would rather watch kid movies. It's okay to to like and watch kid movies sometimes. But always preferring a kid movie above other choices...seems emotionally disturbing if you're a grown a$$ man.
-Guys that wear skinny jeans
-When a guy talks to you but also states they are bored. I take it personally. To me it's like they are saying I'm only talking to you cause I am that bored, and if I wasn't bored I'd be doing something better.
-Full of excuses, acts like they can't talk to you/see you but they want to, but have so much going on. YEAH RIGHT! But they can't tell you about it. Don't get me wrong, it's okay to be too busy once in a while. But if it happens a lot, then I feel I am being played. But if someone really likes you they will put effort into it no matter what kind of hardships they are going though. To me that is love.
-Double standards. All kinds. From douchers that say "Man that girl's a **** , she slept with me right away." Me: "Well then what does that MAKE YOU!?" Or double standards of men being flirty with other women. But then being upset if "their woman" starts doing the same thing!
-Men that can't stand being single/alone. Knowing that, I am not flattered by your desperate behavior.
-Men that just want a girlfriend so they can get laid.
-having a girlfriend and getting laid right away, is a higher priority than getting a job and their GED
-Can't support their habits
-Impulsive men that immediately want to be your boyfriend...when you have only known them a few days. I feel like adult men and women should know better, to know what they are getting into.
-It's only been a week and you want to tell me you like me and love me...You haven't even seen my bitchy side yet. It means nothing if it's been a week...that just shows immaturity.
-back to movies....makes me watch dumb movies with him, but wont watch mine.
-hung up over ex/exes, or a piece of tail that wont answer your calls anymore
-Guys that talk about how they are such a real person, and not fake....they end up eating their words. Just an observation. Anyone that is something...doesn't need to talk about it to prove it.
-Ohhh and this one!.....Constantly worrying about who is real, and who is fake. Wanting to point out who they think is fake. Ohh! But if anyone is ever to call them fake...!!!...even if they person is obviously joking...LOOK OUT!! This person will behave like a child! Get upset, and become insanely defensive!
I can't make this **** up!
-religious guys
-Unadventurous in trying new foods
-tells me not to put effort in my looks
-gets mad whenever I put any effort into my looks. Even if it's painting my nails while we watch football. And I'm not one of those girls always painting my nails either! So chill the eff out! It's just insecure and controlling to me. No! Women do not put effort into their looks to only look good for other men...or just for you either! It's called self expression! And I don't always cake it on. I even will go bare out in public, I will give my self a day off. I know its guy nature to get turned off seeing a woman doing their make up, and want to thing we just wake up rolling out of bed that way. Sorry.
-Do not rush me when I'm getting ready. No breathing down my neck when I'm putting my eyeliner on. I feel exactly like this chick in these situations haha. (but I'm only saying this in my head starting at 00.11. Warning lotsa swears.) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rpo3a-ZNNjc
-or just rushing me with anything in general
-A guy that needs to belittle me if I don't know something or have a blonde moment. I'll say this most of the dudes that do this have self esteem issues. One of them was almost illiterate. Had the reading level of a second grader! And for the first time I am with a guy who is smarter than me. Has a genius level IQ. And guess what he doesn't belittle me. He loves me. Just tells me things I don't know in a mature loving way. And is sweet to me if I have a blonde moment.
It's almost like this! haha @ 0:21 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1999EkCcFbU Gem ASC, Aries Sun, Scorpio Moon, Mercury Taurus, Venus Pisces, Aquarius Mars, Leo IC IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion
Knowflake Posts: 1608
From: PA, USA
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted May 11, 2013 12:37 AM
I could not help but contribute to this even though I'm a bit late. :'D It's the complaining nature of my Virgo Moon, LOL...I love rejoicing over complaining with people over pet peeves. First, I'll do my turn-offs, sexual/romantic... 1) A guy who seems to focus more on pleasuring me than pleasuring himself - I want equity. Mutual interest is so important, I don't want him to give up his needs for mine or vice versa, some Virgoan guys I've been with are like this and it drives me NUTS 2) Very submissive and indecisive men. Ironic as I'm Libran LOL 3) A man who seems unsure, hesitant and unable to assertively take charge when he should/when the time's right 4) Dispassionate attitudes - men who hold little passions and personal interests, mellow approaches towards life 5) Traditional and closed-minded dudes 6) Judgmental, prejudiced attitudes towards unique people/experiences 7) Guys who hate adventure; lack of thrills 8) Poor body image, lack of personal cleanliness is huge - and DON'T even get me started on bad breath and a slimy-unclean mouth when kissing.  9) OK...don't judge me please, but cheapness. I'm cautious with my $, but it tees me off and turns me off when a guy seems cheap and unwilling to spend a little on me and cater to some whims. Again, I'm Libran, OK. I'D 10) Lack of height - only because I'm on the taller side. 11) Lack of empathy, coldness of spirit and unwillingness to be compassionate and actively listen to me as I would to him. 12) Lack of PASSION is huge, I need someone who is FEARLESS and willing to jump head-first into relationships with me, no hesitation, let's live on thrills and the moment... if you're scared and seem to hang back, if you can't handle the heat, I'm gone... And now, onto placements. Many of my placements make sense for the above. Venus conjunct Jupiter in Scorpio, 11th house
Moon in Virgo
Moon trine Neptune and Uranus
Venus and Jupiter sextile Uranus
Pluto, dispositor of my Merc and the above 2 planets, trine Mars and Neptune
Mars trine Pluto, close aspect
Mars in the 8th house, opp. Neptune-Uranus So, yeah. I guess I am a bit of a picky, high spending Man eater. LOL IP: Logged |
Blackbird
Knowflake Posts: 253
From: Texas
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 11, 2013 03:07 AM
This thread is absolutely pointless.Everyone likes different things. Everyone dislikes different things. WOW. Big surprise. Look here: quote:
Originally posted by Maelstrom:
I like body hair and rough calloused hands
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Originally posted by charlie:
Dirty fingernails
See, we have something of a contradiction in two consecutive posts. Proclaiming what you like or dislike, here on LL or elsewhere, doesn't do anything for anybody -- unless you provide some context. Turn ons or turn offs for what? Surface attraction? Intelligence? Sex? What does it have to do with astrology? What are your signs? Ascendant/descendant, Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, 8th house placements, aspects to your personal planets, etc. What are you trying to accomplish by posting everything you want or don't want? Are you looking for a life partner on LL? Are you a prostitute? Just looking to get laid? Please. There are better ways to do it, and better places for doing it... how about a street corner, an online dating site, or a bar/club, or the supermarket... I despise people that make pointless checklists, because they are close-minded... and people that don't think past the ends of their noses. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. What percentage of the membership here do those two criteria cover? We can all make checklists and "standards". It's not going to help you find a partner... not one bit. Can we raise the bar for intelligence in here, just a little? Can we stop creating threads like this? Thanks,
- someone who is interested in astrology
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 8005
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 11, 2013 03:15 AM
Easy.
Ignore threads that have nothing to do with astrology. lolIP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3518
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 11, 2013 03:57 AM
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Originally posted by sweet-scorpion:
OK...don't judge me please, but cheapness. I'm cautious with my $, but it tees me off and turns me off when a guy seems cheap and unwilling to spend a little on me and cater to some whims. Again, I'm Libran, OK
Not judging as some men love to prove his worth spending money on a lady, so it's good there are ladies who love having money spent on them (just hope neither side is ultimately being taken advantage of). I just wanted to point out that I have a lot of Libra (including Sun) in my chart (though also a lot of Sag, and I think my Libra Pluto conjunct Sun & Sag Uranus are especially relevant to what I'm about to say, and my Leo ascendant adds some stubborn pride to the mix) makes me very independent. I won't let a guy I don't know well spend money on me (including on a date), and even when I do get to know a guy well enough to let him do so I'm sure to return the favor (possibly monetary value as well as money) as I always try to keep the scales balanced because I become real uncomfortable if I feel I'm in anyone's debt. (I also look down on anyone who lives beyond their means, and see men who do so to impress women as shallow & insecure which "costs them points.") IOW, not all Librans want to be carried, and I don't want anyone to think otherwise. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4510
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 11, 2013 04:37 AM
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Originally posted by Blackbird:
[b]This thread is absolutely pointless.Everyone likes different things. Everyone dislikes different things. WOW. Big surprise. Look here: See, we have something of a contradiction in two consecutive posts. Proclaiming what you like or dislike, here on LL or elsewhere, doesn't do anything for anybody -- unless you provide some context. Turn ons or turn offs for what? Surface attraction? Intelligence? Sex? What does it have to do with astrology? What are your signs? Ascendant/descendant, Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, 8th house placements, aspects to your personal planets, etc. What are you trying to accomplish by posting everything you want or don't want? Are you looking for a life partner on LL? Are you a prostitute? Just looking to get laid? Please. There are better ways to do it, and better places for doing it... how about a street corner, an online dating site, or a bar/club, or the supermarket... I despise people that make pointless checklists, because they are close-minded... and people that don't think past the ends of their noses. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. What percentage of the membership here do those two criteria cover? We can all make checklists and "standards". It's not going to help you find a partner... not one bit. Can we raise the bar for intelligence in here, just a little? Can we stop creating threads like this? Thanks,
- someone who is interested in astrology[/B]
Are you having a bad hair day or something? Did you get ditched?
Did you just post in a pointless thread insulting people who have participated in this thread?
You want to raise the bar of intelligence on LL? Try this, ignore threads that you feel your intelligence level is being challenged. Secondly, use your supposedly higher intelligence to make positive posts.Do not spew out negativity thinking you know best on everyone who has posted in this thread. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
Moderator Posts: 4268
From: Tropical Ocean
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted May 11, 2013 04:48 AM
My top 10 I would never settle for.1. Bad breath/teeth
2. Lazy/Not active
3. Controlling
4. Alpha Male
5. Insensitive
6. Cheating
7. Materalistic
8. Attention-seeking
9. Financially Dependent
10. Aloof Scorpio/Pisces/Pisces IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion
Knowflake Posts: 1608
From: PA, USA
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted May 11, 2013 08:56 AM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Not judging as some men love to prove his worth spending money on a lady, so it's good there are ladies who love having money spent on them (just hope neither side is ultimately being taken advantage of). I just wanted to point out that I have a lot of Libra (including Sun) in my chart (though also a lot of Sag, and I think my Libra Pluto conjunct Sun & Sag Uranus are especially relevant to what I'm about to say, and my Leo ascendant adds some stubborn pride to the mix) makes me very independent. I won't let a guy I don't know well spend money on me (including on a date), and even when I do get to know a guy well enough to let him do so I'm sure to return the favor (possibly monetary value as well as money) as I always try to keep the scales balanced because I become real uncomfortable if I feel I'm in anyone's debt. (I also look down on anyone who lives beyond their means, and see men who do so to impress women as shallow & insecure which "costs them points.") IOW, not all Librans want to be carried, and I don't want anyone to think otherwise.
Thanks for being understanding. I also do understand where you are coming from. I am pretty Uranian as well as Plutonian, and I have similar issues. I won't let people flatter me too much and scatter me with attention and gifts if we are not bonded in some way and do not know each other well - I'd be highly uncomfortable. I get what you mean too about keeping the scales balanced - I do the same thing with love and gifts too. I also HATE feeling indebted to someone lol. It makes me feel annoyed for some reason. So in the past if guys paid for me a lot I would get them gifts of equal quality in return.
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lovemeruby
Knowflake Posts: 70
From:
Registered: Apr 2013
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posted May 11, 2013 11:14 AM
mean disposition
shallow
bad teeth
inconsiderate
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted May 11, 2013 11:19 AM
I'm reading this thread in much bemusement. Perhaps it'll be interesting to see the male version of this thread. I would rather have a positive tone to the thread, but it's also good to note criticism. IP: Logged |
GemNymph
Knowflake Posts: 143
From: TX, USA
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted May 12, 2013 11:40 AM
General:1. Insincerity, feigning pleasantries
2. Manipulativeness, especially when paired with #1
3. Cliquishness, especially when paired with #1 and #2
4. Pettiness and wallowing in their own subjectivity & hubris, esp. assuming thing about people based on their own personal pet peeves (esp. grammar nazis, fashion nazis, personal hygiene nazis--seriously get a bleeping hobby)
5. Lack of reciprocity due to being a narcisstic bleephole as opposed to being someone with a mental illness or developmental condition. There's a big difference between being selfish and struggling to connect with others, and I'm a Pisces moon, so I can tell!
6. Intolerant toward people different from them. Misogynist, racist, albeist, or any other type of bigot. With my 10th house Gem Sun and Merc, my 9th house Venus conjunct Saturn, 7th house Pisces moon and a 6th hosue Aqua Mars, I just want people to be real, genuine, kind, thoughtful, tolerant and not make other people's lives harder than need be. In other words, I pretty much think everyone on this planet sucks. Romantically, all of the above plus: 1. Not a very interesting conversationalist. I'm a Gem, so this is deadly.
2. Lack of curiosity. I mentioned I'm a Gemini, right?
3. Not interested in anything beyond the routine. Welp, I'm a Gemini, y'know!
4. Conservative/very religious. Yeah. I'm a Gem--with an Aqua Mars and 1st house Uranus. You're free to believe whatever you want but that doesn't mean I want to stick around and listen to it!!!! IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3518
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 12, 2013 06:25 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I would rather have a positive tone to the thread, but it's also good to note criticism.
Inspired me to make this:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/219582.html IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 2886
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted May 12, 2013 06:28 PM
Smoking is my #1 turnoff. I'm also not into obesity, homophobia, or racism.Sagging pants and poor grammar are good ones too. Nice job there Jessica  . IP: Logged |
Leocassandra
Knowflake Posts: 387
From: Poland
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted May 13, 2013 02:54 AM
1. Being moody.
2. Being too soft.
3. Being stupid.
4. Not being mentally open.
5. Having no respect for anyone.
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Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4510
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 13, 2013 05:11 AM
That's weirdly funny, I just realized I don't mind guys who smoke so much than smelling cigarette smoke on a guy's clothes!am i weird or what?  IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3518
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 16, 2013 08:37 PM
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Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4510
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 17, 2013 01:36 AM
Another one of my turn offs:People who think they are better than me. IP: Logged | |
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