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Topic: Capricorns hate being teased/mocked/made fun of
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goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:13 AM
This is probably why people don't like Capricorns because they feel like we can't take a joke.But anyways I'm a Capricorn with a lot of Neptune in my chart and I hate it. I'm clumsy and forgetful. Always dropping things. I spilled something today at work and as usual my boyfriend, in front of everyone, is the first to find it funny saying, "You can't leave anything up to her!" My ego was crushed soooooo badly. I would like to be taken seriously but his comment made me feel as if I'm not one to take serious because I'm always spilling things or knocking things over. Oh my gosh you guys do not understand what this does to the Capricorn ego. So when I was talking to him about how it hurt my feelings he still wasn't taking me seriously. He just laughed more and told me he was joking. I told him that his laughing while explaining my feelings made me feel inferior and he still laughed. I just walked away. When I'm not being taken serious on a matter that I feel is important I feel so inferior. Does it have to do with control? IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 1846 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:18 AM
Yep. If he didn't understand you with words, make him understand with actions.
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goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:18 AM
UhhhhIP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:19 AM
Yep whatIP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 1846 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:19 AM
'Does it have to do with control?'Yep.
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goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:20 AM
When my words or actions are being ignored when I want them to be noticed I feel like the whole world is against me.IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:21 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: 'Does it have to do with control?'Yep.
In what way? What/who am I trying to control? IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 1846 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:22 AM
quote: Originally posted by goatcat: When my words or actions are being ignored when I want them to be noticed I feel like the whole world is against me.
Don't. People will take you even more for granted,because you would come across as having unjustified reactions.The whole world is not against you. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 1846 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:24 AM
quote: Originally posted by goatcat: In what way? What/who am I trying to control?
You said your ego was crushed.Was it because your boyfriend made that comment infront of everyone? or was it because he made that comment? What if you were alone and he made the same comment,how would you have taken it? IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:27 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: Don't.People will take you even more for granted,because you would come across as having unjustified reactions.The whole world is not against you.
Eh I already have this problem because I never get the attention I need because I'm "always a victim". But I'm sensitive... IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:32 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: You said your ego was crushed.Was it because your boyfriend made that comment infront of everyone? or was it because he made that comment? What if you were alone and he made the same comment,how would you have taken it?
Because he said it in front of everyone I felt like he was trying to embarrass me. If the same thing was said in private I still would have been upset because he knows comments like those hurt my feelings. But the comment jabbed 10x harder because others were around to hear it. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 1846 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:34 AM
^^There you go, it's a personal issue,even if you boyfriend doesn't turn your clumsiness into funny moments you would still feel inferior to others. You don't like to be teased because you have an inferiority complex,the more confident you become in your skin and in your own capabilities your ego will be less affected when someone you care about teases you.I don't think your boyfriend was being mean, but I do believe he should be more understanding of your issues instead of acting like a buffoon.I'm as clumsy as you btw IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:40 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: ^^There you go, it's a personal issue,even if you boyfriend doesn't turn your clumsiness into funny moments you would still feel inferior to others. You don't like to be teased because you have an inferiority complex,the more confident you become in your skin and in your own capabilities your ego will be less affected when someone you care about teases you.I don't think your boyfriend was being mean, but I do believe he should be more understanding of your issues instead of acting like a buffoon.
My clumsiness will never be a funny moment for me. It never has. I get so tired of dropping things, forgetting things, tripping, and doing things wrong. I don't want to feel like people can't leave anything to me. I don't want people to ******* expect me to mess up... IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:41 AM
So I don't know about that. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1965 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:41 AM
I have Moon and Mars in Cap. I wouldn't take offence at that but I'd give it back to him lolSomeone made a similar comment and I said "No. We'll leave it up to you - Mr. I forget $800 items on the bus". You should use something he did that was stupid - and say it back right away, if it happens again. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 1846 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:42 AM
@ goatcatawww, I feel you...I guess you have to show your boyfriend how important this is to you. IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:42 AM
I am a Virgo rising so I expect myself to be perfect.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 1846 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:43 AM
^^ Go easy on yourself goatcat...we all have our imperfections IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 1846 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:46 AM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: I have Moon and Mars in Cap. I wouldn't take offence at that but I'd give it back to him lol
Oh yes, I would too. Big time and I would probably enjoy his discomfort 10 x more than he did mine. IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:47 AM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: I have Moon and Mars in Cap. I wouldn't take offence at that but I'd give it back to him lolSomeone made a similar comment and I said "No. We'll leave it up to you - Mr. I forget $800 items on the bus". You should use something he did that was stupid - and say it back right away, if it happens again.
That's the thing because I hate being ridiculed I hate to do so to others cuz I know what that feels like. But I believe he deserves it this time because Ive told him more than once that I don't like it.IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 253 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted May 09, 2013 01:48 AM
I don’t know you so just by what you wrote here I think that joke was pretty harmless. But your boyfriend is a little insensitive that even after you told him that he hurt your feelings he still laughed. It could be because of a lot of reasons. He could be “training” you to see that being clumsy and forgetful isn’t something to get all worked up about. Or it could be that he is really a rather cruel person. This reminds me of one time my husband and I were at a social gatherings and the conversation was about death and stuff. I mentioned that my grandmother passed away and my husband said “Well she probably was tired of seeing your face”. I was like “Yeah there is a bright side to everything, she at least didn’t have to live to see me sink so low as to marry you”. Lol he laughed so much and he was like “This is why I love you”
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goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:50 AM
I just want to look well together and composed and like I know what I'm doing but my clumsiness goes against that.IP: Logged |
Chirp unregistered
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posted May 09, 2013 01:50 AM
This is something I realized a few months ago and was totally surprised, because Cappies try to come off like harda55es; their egos are actually made out of glass, the ones I know anyway. They're really brutal and brisk with everyone else, but if you approach them that way they fall apart at the seams.IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1965 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:51 AM
quote: because I hate being ridiculed I hate to do so to others
Why? I mean why would you hate doing this to someone who is doing it to you? I could understand you not wanting to ridicule *other* people... but him? *shrug* IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 733 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 09, 2013 01:52 AM
People won't take you seriously if you don't look like you know what you're doing.IP: Logged |