posted June 24, 2013 05:43 PM            

The person I have sex with is some I can trust my life...
Sex for the sake of sex does not interest me in the least bit.
This person has no idea what turns me on, seems pointless when theres no love..

posted June 24, 2013 05:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
I'm a ride or die kinda person when I comes to sex/relationships.

The person I have sex with is some I can trust my life...
Sex for the sake of sex does not interest me in the least bit.
This person has no idea what turns me on, seems pointless when theres no love..

I'm a male so this is very peculiar mentally, I'm aware of that LMAO

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posted June 24, 2013 05:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
eat a dick.

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posted June 24, 2013 06:00 PM            

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Originally posted by meyray:
This is an issue I’ve wanted to talk about for a long time – casual relationships and casual sex.

I consider myself a fairly reasonable and non-foolishly idealistic person when it comes to love but there is one thing I’ve always had a major problem with and that’s casual sex and casual relationships. I’m usually able to articulate myself and analyze why I feel the way I do about certain things but I can’t do it with this topic. I feel emotionally compromised….

[b]Even the thought of casual sex makes me feel anger, sadness and disgust. It hurts me even though I don’t (and never will) practice it. Just the idea of it drives me insane. I have some kind of unreasonable aversion to it.

I don’t want to play the gender card but I will go out on a limb and say that more men tend to practice it than women. I’ve had conversations about this several times and when someone says “people [men] can love someone but that they can still have sex with someone else” it just makes me enraged. Just pure rage. The idea of separating love and care from sex offends me greatly.

So my question is what in a person’s chart can makes them dogmatically opposed to casual sex and what can make them practice it?[/B]

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posted June 24, 2013 06:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
eat a dick.

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posted June 24, 2013 06:26 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Whoa whoa whoa... How do you figure that? guys wouldnt be able to have casual sex if girls didnt let them. it takes 2

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posted June 24, 2013 06:28 PM            

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Originally posted by meyray:
Sorry, I didn't mean for it to sound like that. It was just an observation and I was quoting something others have said to me. I'm not blaming any gender. I'm just talking about the act per se.

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posted June 24, 2013 06:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Hell no, It was not intended for you....

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posted June 24, 2013 06:37 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:

Your attitudes might be influenced by your sixth house stellium. You take the Virgo stuff very seriously with Scorpio so it's amplified. You want your life to be intensely clean and pure and casual sex is not this. Virgo can idealize women too, although your moon sign might also have a say in your feelings about them. You think of women as the pure ones, it's very Virgo/6th house so you think they should have high standards and since you are one, you insist on them yourself.

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This is SO accurate!! When I was younger and more irrational I had a big problem with gender roles and how each gender was treated.

It's still a highly sensitive and explosive thing for me when men disrespect women (be it professionally, sexually, emotionally or anything else)

In fact I was thinking of starting a thread about that issue (along with feminism and the point where it gets misguided) but I know that is a seriously sensitive topic which will cause much drama that's why I'm avoiding it.

posted June 24, 2013 06:37 PM            

Idk she was just stating the average mentally of males, gay or straight. They breath sex.
That does not mean she is pin pointing every man that ever existed.

The male gender is most likely to be pro casual sex.
Nothing wrong with that, that's just how men are designed.
After all if men don't initiate sexual relations who will?
Most women will never approach a man for casual sex.
Yes plenty women like casual sex, nothing wrong with that if you're using protection etc.

posted June 24, 2013 06:51 PM            

@aquaguy91
Leave it to an Aquarius to be the naysayer. :P

posted June 24, 2013 06:56 PM            

It's deluded to believe most men are going to say something like, "I am interested in a spiritual union with my soul mate until I find her (or him) no sex for me." Men don't say stuff like that for the most part, and if you claim they do, it's just deluded thinking. I have never heard one male ever talk about a soul mate. Kerosene mentions something somewhat similar, he did not type the words "soul mate." That's where men draw the line lol.

Women, on the other hand, will admit to stuff like that and will actually say, "I want my soul mate." Not all of them, but many of them, more than men. Who would disagree with that? Many of them dream of a committed union with one guy but can't find it so they settle for what they can get while the ones with will power tough it out and won't do anything with anyone until they find the one they are sure about.

posted June 24, 2013 06:58 PM            

I don't think its possible for people to be in love forever.
At some point it turns into a companionship.

posted June 24, 2013 06:59 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
I can understand what Meray is getting at because she does have a point. Who are the ones that will admit casual sex is alright, more often than not, and who is going to say they want to be with one person, experience a deep union, commitment, love?

It's deluded to believe most men are going to say something like, "I am interested in a spiritual union with my soul mate until I find her (or him) no sex for me." Men don't say stuff like that for the most part, and if you claim they do, it's just deluded thinking. I have never heard one male ever talk about a soul mate. Kerosene mentions something somewhat similar, he did not type the words "soul mate." That's where men draw the line lol.

Women, on the other hand, will admit to stuff like that and will actually say, "I want my soul mate." Not all of them, but many of them, more than men. Who would disagree with that? Many of them dream of a committed union with one guy but can't find it so they settle for what they can get while the ones with will power tough it out and won't do anything with anyone until they find the one they are sure about.

Of course, there are men who admit to the soul mate stuff, just as there are women who want to date and not really get too serious but it's generally true, there's a difference in the way men and women think about sex.

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posted June 24, 2013 07:02 PM            

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Originally posted by meyray:
@11nahyt
I see a Leo Moon and a Scorpio Venus! Moon in 6th House too. Yep this definitely helps that argument I made a couple of posts back. Scorpio and Leo want to be adored and respected, loveless sex is like a slight to them. Not to mention that Libra, 7th and 8th House energy too.

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posted June 24, 2013 07:03 PM            

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Originally posted by meyray:
what in a person’s chart can makes them dogmatically opposed to casual sex and what can make them practice it?

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My chart allows for a casual attitude and practice of sexuality, particularly my 5H (fun, games, hobbies, creativity, etc) Sag (freedom, philosophy, physical energy) Moon, Mars, Uranus, and Eros, and though my Libra Venus affects that, I think some of my other Libra placements (many of which are on the Scorpio cusp as well as being 3H) also understand alternative paradigms toward love & sexuality.