posted August 13, 2013 02:52 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
"You" as in who? LOL. But yeah, make sure they do.

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LOL
Ummm... well.... you know.
Just whoever!

posted August 13, 2013 02:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Zander916:
LOL
Ummm... well.... you know.
Just whoever!

But seriously, smell nice.

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posted August 13, 2013 03:02 PM              

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Originally posted by fireandice:
Beautifully put!

I have Venus in Virgo (8th house). That's one of the best descriptions I've ever read, I second every word.

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Thank you! My Virgo Venus is also in the 8th house, so maybe that has something to do with it.

posted August 13, 2013 03:55 PM            

So someone strong-willed may not put out the subtle vibes and may experience challenges when trying to bring the right people into their lives, i.e., the needs of their Venus.

I've seen it in myself & in famous people, where you're wondering why a person who has everything, and could have anything, having so much trouble finding that special relationship.

Venus in Virgo emphasizes sacrifice much of the time which leads to investing even more & that's difficult to let go of.

posted August 13, 2013 10:11 PM            

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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
Do you dwell on past relationships that failed?

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posted August 13, 2013 10:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Zander916:

I'll give you an example.
An ex... would often complain that I didn't show affection. ESPECIALLY, if we were visiting other people. We would leave and she would complain that it didn't really look like we were a couple. I'm still baffled by that to this day actually. We sat together..? Sooo.... what else is there? Make out in front of everyone? lol

But, another side of Virgo Venus. I think anyway, maybe it's something else. I worked 2nd shift as I do now but this was years ago. She worked days and would leave the house around 6 am. It was the dead of winter and really cold! Having gone to bed sometime around perhaps 2 or 3 am. I was in a deep sleep. Then I hear this knocking on the window. It was her and I was a little confused. I went to the front door and there she was standing, holding a cup, and in tears. Apparently her car door was frozen shut and she had been trying hot water with no success.
I threw on some clothes, and went out in the freezing cold, half asleep, and got the door open for her. Gave her a little kiss and went back to bed. Not one complaint, or grumbling.

But I'm figuring that wasn't taken as romantic so much as it was just a favor. Oh well.

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BUT this time around, I finally notice all the things he does which shows he cares. Not grand romantic gestures, but more practical and seemingly insignificant things.

posted August 14, 2013 12:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Zander916:
A point in history. I can reflect to try to understand others more and make myself a better person by trying to see what mistakes , "oh yeah. I had something similar once". That sort of thing.

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posted August 14, 2013 04:23 AM              

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Storyteller:
[b]I recently read that venus in virgo is a huge disadvantage, can anyone shed any light on this?

I have venus in virgo in my 1st house...any ideas how this would play out?

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On the opposite side of the coin, I have not noticed this particular placement doing much in the love department. [/B][/QUOTE]

Totally agree (from own experience with Venus in Virgo)

posted August 14, 2013 08:40 AM            

He only helped others when he felt he could get something he wanted from them. Otherwise, he refused to help anyone (including his own parents) in need. It was disgusting.

posted August 14, 2013 09:29 PM            

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Originally posted by Astra:
What I've noticed about Venus in Virgo is that they either want to serve or be served.

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posted August 14, 2013 10:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Zander916:
I worked 2nd shift as I do now but this was years ago. She worked days and would leave the house around 6 am. It was the dead of winter and really cold! Having gone to bed sometime around perhaps 2 or 3 am. I was in a deep sleep. Then I hear this knocking on the window. It was her and I was a little confused. I went to the front door and there she was standing, holding a cup, and in tears. Apparently her car door was frozen shut and she had been trying hot water with no success.
I threw on some clothes, and went out in the freezing cold, half asleep, and got the door open for her. Gave her a little kiss and went back to bed. Not one complaint, or grumbling.

But I'm figuring that wasn't taken as romantic so much as it was just a favor. Oh well.

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Awww

posted August 15, 2013 11:21 PM            

But you see, I doubt his sincerity. I think he is saying this stuff or inviting me to make me feel happy. And his actions are confusing me. When I tell him how much I still love him, he won't believe me.

posted August 16, 2013 01:25 AM            

I try. The other thing is....
If I see a woman cry. 99% of the time I just turn to warm butter. LOL It's all over for me. Not EVERY time, particularly if it looks faked. Pfft... go cry!

posted August 16, 2013 04:05 AM            

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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
We are picky yet we love to serve the person we love. Wholeheartedly.

The disadvantage would probably be - we serve the wrong person. OR the person is just not for us.

I wonder if it is my Moon in Aquarius (waiting for someone who's very different to catch me like a butterfly) or my Venus in Virgo playing the trick.

Do you position yourself like Cinderella? Sometimes I do.

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As I know , Virgo and Aquarious aren't a cinderella-type at all.
Or else every girls has cinderella inside ourself .
May I know the sign if your Sun too?

posted August 16, 2013 04:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Blackbird:I have the same placement - Venus in Virgo - so I have a pretty good idea of where you're coming from. I am 29, and I went on my first date when I was 27. I've only had two short relationships, and I've been on a few dates with other people between those relationships -- one date each. That's all it takes for me to screw it up, apparently.

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Ahh, no, that's so frustrating. Sorry it happened that way. Of course I don't know what exactly happened, but I'm sure you didn't screw up. Did you want to wait for the right person?

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I feel, and have felt, the same way. The things I dreamed about and hoped for, for a very long time, turned out to be total letdowns in reality ("I waited 10 years for this?"). Part of it was my expectations and lack of previous experience. I think I just waited too long. Part of it may have been my partners at the time. There was not necessarily anything wrong with them, or with me, but I didn't know what I wanted and needed, and even if I did, I probably would not have known how to communicate those things. I still don't have the whole picture, but at least a few things are clear for me.

Now I am (more) ready/willing to "roll the dice", to just contact or call people, ask for a date and see what happens. On the 2-3 dates I've gone on since the end of my previous relationship, nothing has happened -- no spark or chemistry, I wasn't interested in them and I didn't think they were interested in me. But that was the only way to find out if it could have worked or not.

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Wow. Yes, I thought the same thing when I started dating. Everything was just so much better as a fantasy. It did teach me a lot and I definitely needed that reality check, despite going through some bad relationships.

True, just going with it is the best way for earth signs, I think. Waiting for too long is just setting your hopes up so high. I do wish I'd meet a few men out here that I can be more casual with, find out more about how things work through doing it. I'm glad you're having a better idea of what you're looking for! That's really necessary. I, too, couldn't really put it when I had the chance, so I put up with way more than I should. Virgo is so natural about helping and adjusting that they forget their own needs - or lose sight of them.

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You can ask me. I haven't fallen in love yet, and I wouldn't call my two previous relationships huge successes, but I'm willing to share whatever details you're interested in.

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Thanks. Right now the problem is getting anywhere with dating. I'm sure you can give some good input, even just for having the same placement.

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You have now: Me. I'm just saying, you're not alone. I've met someone here on LL that might appreciate my particular style of love. So maybe we both have better chances than we've given ourselves credit for; there really are people out there that are looking for the stuff we're offering.

If I had a time machine, I'd go back to the 1600s, buy Manhattan from the natives for a handful of beads, return to the present and start collecting billions of dollars of rent every month. But before I did that, I'd go back and find myself when I was 16 or 17, and I would tell myself: Relax, have fun, and take chances. Nobody's perfect, so stop worrying so much. If it doesn't work out, laugh and try again.

Oh, I have a little piece of advice -- call this the voice of experience. I suggest that you avoid getting involved with someone that is in a drastically different situation than you are, or anyone that has drastically more (or less) experience than you have. If you're single, never married and have no children... don't get in a relationship with someone that has kids already or has been married and divorced twice. You probably aren't ready to deal with someone else's children, and your partner is likely to have all kinds of expectations and demands for you which are related to their previous (failed) relationships. You don't deserve that, so don't do that to yourself. You want to find someone else that is exploring and learning about themselves, just like you are.

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Ahh, thank you. It's good to know some people do like things that seem too small to count for so many other people I meet. I... have been nearly laughed at for thinking that something I did for them, which took time and energy, was supposed to be special. Sometimes that still rings in my ears.

I think I've seen some of that. Good for you! Hmm, maybe. I go through some weeks of feeling very confident about what I have to offer, but when I find out nobody really appreciates it, I get down again. It's awful having to ask people, because in a normal relationship, it wouldn't feel like effort. I always thought that went without saying, but now I'm starting to think it's too idealistic.

Problem is that nearly everyone I meet is in a whole different stage of their life. I don't even know where I could find someone in the same place as me. I have no-one to talk to about how insecure I am. Haven't had in a long time, so I just kept it to myself.

Thanks for your support again.

posted August 16, 2013 04:46 PM            

My Moon luvs you!!!

Here, let me ((( HUG ))) all of you!!

I can relate to a lot of things you say.. - Venus in the 6th + Virgo Moon.