posted February 05, 2014 01:48 PM            

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Originally posted by AriesLilith:
Even if we say "this is my guy", this would still be as much of a label as "this is my bf" lol. We will always need to label things, without a name how do we even talk about what they describe in a conversation lol.

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How about addressing people with their birth given name? "this is Greg". whatever other follow up questions the other party may or may not have is their problem.

posted February 05, 2014 02:06 PM            

Must be your Mars/Pluto or sumthin'.

posted February 05, 2014 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
So you have a secret stalke... I mean admirer?

Must be your Mars/Pluto or sumthin'.

Did he do it several times or was it just like a prank?

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posted February 05, 2014 02:21 PM            

I know what you mean about the "mess with me" thing, I have an afflicted Mars conjunct the DSC, rofl! I feel ya.

posted February 05, 2014 02:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Well, we never know, maybe someone was actually playing games to upset you or to make fun of you in some way.

I know what you mean about the "mess with me" thing, I have an afflicted Mars conjunct the DSC, rofl! I feel ya.

It's supposed to make you learn how to assert yourself.

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posted February 05, 2014 02:27 PM            

Well, at least that's how it is for me.

posted February 05, 2014 02:29 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Oh I can understand that, I wasn't talking about this situation of yours in particular - just in general... If you tend to attract people who cross boundaries with you, it's because you need to learn how to stand up for yourself and assert yourself.

Well, at least that's how it is for me.

Ps. Sorry for the off topic.

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It's a long story and a bit confusing I have left a part out here and there...sometimes asserting works other times it just makes the situation more tense, I've learned.

posted February 05, 2014 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by AriesLilith:
I think that it's more of an "each to their own" kind of thing, when it comes to relationship labels.

Thought IMO, the lack of labels can sometimes be confusing. Sure, we can be seeing each other, but what are we to each other really? We might as well be seeing each other and other people too, yet without being able to read minds we can't really know what each other's expectations are, unless by talking about them. And it's not even for others, it's more for the couple itself.

Also, why do we need to demonstrate affections? Why do we need express things through words? Why wouldn't simply being in love with each other be enough? Well it can be enough for some, but for others, actions and words as well as definitions and talks are part of communication and expression, and interaction between the couple.

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Well, if it was ANY other guy I would not go through this "unknowing"…
It's frustrating, but also very exciting and interesting…
it's also the first time I'm together with someone who has even heavier uranus-squares than myself…I used to be the one who hates commitments:P

posted February 05, 2014 02:37 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:

What's even weirder is when you aren't their girlfriend and they tell people you are.

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haha this is MY problem, not his… I think I might caught myself calling him my boyfriend a little bit too often…when I don't actually know for sure lol!

posted February 05, 2014 02:42 PM            

You're right about Uranian people being better off with other Uranians. That goes for the other planets as well. There's common ground here that can work out pretty well (and sometimes not so well, haha).

posted February 05, 2014 02:43 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
haha this is MY problem, not his… I think I might caught myself calling him my boyfriend a little bit too often…when I don't actually know for sure lol!

But ok, actually one time we were out with my friends, and my gemini friend asked him if we were in a relationship, and he said "yes"…. and I didn't react, just kinda looked like I didn't heard that….so the commitment issue goes both ways...

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posted February 05, 2014 02:47 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
I can understand why you would call someone you are dating a bf because that is pretty much what they are regardless of labels at least imo.

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*nods* Agreed.

posted February 05, 2014 02:48 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
What I meant is someone you don't even know lol. I can understand why you would call someone you are dating a bf because that is pretty much what they are regardless of labels at least imo.

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Yeah but I think it's a bit creepy too…

posted February 05, 2014 02:53 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
Yeah but I think it's a bit creepy too…

But it's also like I can go around and keep imagining all these things about "us", when in fact I have no idea if he actually feels the same…this is when I get afraid, cause I know we have all the neptune squares… and I know the only thing that helps is to just have the damn talk, but I'm 100% gonna get disappointed…probably because neptune made me romantic again

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posted February 05, 2014 03:00 PM            

If you're okay with being uncertain about how he sees the relationship, then by all means, enjoy it to the fullest and don't ask yourself too many questions.

If however, you're anxious about it or it makes you feel uneasy, I think you should talk about it *even if* you say you're gonna be disappointed. I mean, crap's gonna hit the fan anyway at some point, why wait? ...But then again, you're a commitment-phobic yourself, so maybe you don't actually want to know the answer to the question, yourself...

posted February 05, 2014 03:42 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Neptune makes me romantic, too. I can totally relate

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Venus makes me romantic

posted February 05, 2014 04:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Personally, if someone doesn't wanna call themselves "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", all this tells me is that they have commitment issues and that's not a good thing in my book, unless you're fine with things being blurry and uncertain. That kinda thing is definitely not for Saturnian types, lmao.

Uranus. Yep.

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posted February 05, 2014 04:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Personally, if someone doesn't wanna call themselves "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", all this tells me is that they have commitment issues and that's not a good thing in my book, unless you're fine with things being blurry and uncertain. That kinda thing is definitely not for Saturnian types, lmao.

Uranus. Yep.

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Sorry for double posting

But yeah, I'm Capricorn rising and stellium (sun, mercury and venus in cancer) This whole thread makes me cringe LOL

posted February 05, 2014 04:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Mercurian Intellect:
Venus makes me romantic

Probably Neptune, too, because it's highly aspected. It also forms a very wide trine with Venus.

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