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Topic: Men who are/aren't "the hunter" aspects
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moonstruck87
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posted March 28, 2014 02:34 PM
  
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Originally posted by Supreme cT:
My boy is a scorpio sun, mars leo and cancer moon and he is the shyest guy i kno hes so scared to start a convo with any girl! I just dont get it especially since he has leo mars! I kno alot of girls that like him but he will Never make the first move he told me he wants girls to come after him lmao
Oh wow! Even with mars in Leo?!? Dang... Must be that moon  lol
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moonstruck87
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posted March 28, 2014 02:36 PM
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
Venus in scorpio
Mars in virgoI realized that I actually like to be the chaser a little bit… If I'm in love with someone, I'll never stop trying to impress them lol…
Once I lose interest I couldn't care less about if the person want's me, but then I know were are never gonna be "us"
The part where you mentioned losing interest you don't care anymore is soooo Scorpio venus haha IP: Logged |
plutomercjup20
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posted March 28, 2014 03:07 PM
The guy I am currently interested in has sun Pisces , mars aqua and moon cancer ..... I can definitely tell he's interested but all he does is stare!! must be his scorpio asc though but he somewhat chases , he lets you know his interested with the eye contact but he will not come up to you!! he's very shy though.(must be all that pisces and cancer)IP: Logged |
moonstruck87
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posted March 28, 2014 03:29 PM
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Originally posted by plutomercjup20:
The guy I am currently interested in has sun Pisces , mars aqua and moon cancer ..... I can definitely tell he's interested but all he does is stare!! must be his scorpio asc though but he somewhat chases , he lets you know his interested with the eye contact but he will not come up to you!! he's very shy though.(must be all that pisces and cancer)
That cancer moon makes them very indirect until they feel like they trust us and then I've heard that they can be the sweetest guys out there I am dating a scorp sun mercury and venus guy with aqua mars and cancer moon He is very shy and indirect - I've only seen bits of the scorp come out so far lol IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 28, 2014 03:44 PM
I have been wanting to ask this for a long time lol...what the hell do people mean when they say "chase"? To say you are chasing someone or someone is chasing you implies they are running from you or you are running from them, in which case the best action would be to leave them alone lest you be charged with sexual harassment. So what does "chase" mean? Does it mean you are the person who initiates and asks the other person out ? Or does it mean being persistent and continuing to ask someone out who is a "challenge" or is "playing hard to get"? Personally I will ask a girl out once, maybe twice, but if she rejects me I will leave her alone. I hardly consider that chasing though. Anything after that just seems like trouble waiting to happen.IP: Logged |
moonstruck87
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posted March 28, 2014 03:58 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I have been wanting to ask this for a long time lol...what the hell do people mean when they say "chase"? To say you are chasing someone or someone is chasing you implies they are running from you or you are running from them, in which case the best action would be to leave them alone lest you be charged with sexual harassment. So what does "chase" mean? Does it mean you are the person who initiates and asks the other person out ? Or does it mean being persistent and continuing to ask someone out who is a "challenge" or is "playing hard to get"? Personally I will ask a girl out once, maybe twice, but if she rejects me I will leave her alone. I hardly consider that chasing though. Anything after that just seems like trouble waiting to happen.
Haha! I think it's a poor term too but yes, it means to pursue (for me)
What are your placements? Are you aqua sun??? IP: Logged |
Heartsong11
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posted March 28, 2014 04:09 PM
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Originally posted by Supreme cT:
Scorpio sun
Sagittarius venus
Aquarius ascendant
Cancer marsI love to try and impress a girl always try to make them laugh and give them compliments on their outfits while giving eye contact lol "i have to give eye contact" deff cuz of my scorpio nd i like to be the one that starts the convo i dont like the feeling of being reeled in i like to know i got her because i wanted to lol
 You have a lot of the same placements as my Scorp ex.
And this is exactly what he would do.
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aquaguy91
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posted March 28, 2014 04:10 PM
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Originally posted by moonstruck87:
Haha! I think it's a poor term too but yes, it means to pursue (for me)
What are your placements? Are you aqua sun???
Yes. Aqua Sun, ascendant,and venus with gemini mars.
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moonstruck87
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posted March 28, 2014 04:19 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by moonstruck87:
[b] Haha! I think it's a poor term too but yes, it means to pursue (for me)
What are your placements? Are you aqua sun???
Yes. Aqua Sun, ascendant,and venus with gemini mars.[/B][/QUOTE]How very airy  IP: Logged |
Jo B
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posted March 28, 2014 04:27 PM
I do like airy men. Maybe not so much on the back though. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
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posted March 28, 2014 06:10 PM
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Originally posted by moonstruck87:
I saw a little "meme" or whatever those things are called on FB saying
Ladies if a man wants you, he will chase you. If you have to ask where the relationship goes or who you are to him then the answer is NOWHEREI feel like this is true in some cases of course and not true in others...
For example, my brother is rather shy and his mars in cancer, although a cardinal placement makes him tip toe around his feelings and he kinda side steps his way into letting his female interest know he likes her So, in your experience what placements are the hunters and which placements are not?
My ex had his Mars in Cancer too. He was very straight forward and assertive. I think it depends on your Venus sign too because his was in Aries. He had his Mars in the 8th house.
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Odette
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posted March 28, 2014 10:36 PM
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I have been wanting to ask this for a long time lol...what the hell do people mean when they say "chase"
Yeah.. I've said the same thing before.. here: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/222491.html It doesn't mean much to me. In other languages it is not always referred to as "chasing"... but more so "courting" or an equivalent to "courting". I think any lead-up to sex is more like a 'mating dance'..
Actually "dance" in general is a good analogy for all the foreplay - whereas "chasing" is not. I also like the saying: It takes two to tango.
So when one person is interested and the other is not.. I would feel like they are trying to do a couple's dance (like a tango) on their own.. or to force the other person into going along with their rhythm (which they don't want).
But it still doesn't seem like 'chasing' to me. IP: Logged |
MsPrism
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posted March 28, 2014 11:02 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I have been wanting to ask this for a long time lol...what the hell do people mean when they say "chase"?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D5_zQSg-tk4
Are you a Moto Moto, is what they mean.
For instance, the guys that I am compatible with are not the type to chase. They don't want to make a move quickly because they're always looking at every detail about you for a LONG time before they're ready. They don't even go after anyone most of the time because they care about what they already have, they don't like starting new things. So the only way to get on their "radar" is by being a Moto Moto. You walk up and say "hey, get your head outta your work and look at me!" It's referred to as "chasing" because even after they meet you they'll immediately go back to looking at their habitual life instead of adding something new. Basically, you have to become a habit for them to maintain the relationship. They're just not starting anything new quickly so you have to put in the effort at first. After you've had the compatibility figured out and you know it can work THEN they put in effort to maintain what the "chaser" started. Does that clear things up a little? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 28, 2014 11:13 PM
Uhh ... It all seems needlessly complicated to me. I'm a simple man.. Yes means yes and no means no. I cant even begin to comprehend all the games and mixed signals most people are willing to put up with.IP: Logged |
moonstruck87
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posted March 28, 2014 11:32 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Uhh ... It all seems needlessly complicated to me. I'm a simple man.. Yes means yes and no means no. I cant even begin to comprehend all the games and mixed signals most people are willing to put up with.
LOL so very aquarian I like it haha! I'm a cancer but thank goodness for my aries moon it definitely makes me more direct even though I have sun/mercury and venus in cancer lol yay for aries moon - I used to hate it but I think it's nice now IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted March 29, 2014 12:48 AM
hah. My s.o has virgo mars. He doesn't chase. He is direct though. I don't often chase (taurus mars ), but I made an exception for him lol too hot... had to snatch him up quickly. I dated an aries who has 5 aries placements but his sun ruler is in detriment (mars in taurus). He chased, then stopped, then chased again and the cycle continued lol. Yeah, have some experience with leo mars. The two that "chased" were pretty relentless. Annoyingly so. Hmm idk my reaction was negative, probably because it squares my own mars. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 29, 2014 01:43 AM
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It all seems needlessly complicated to me. I'm a simple man..
I feel the same way. I genuinely don't care what other people do though. I'm not 15 anymore and I only get romantically involved with adults who behave like adults To whoever said it was an Aquarius thing...
It's really more a Capricorn thing.. AG, YTA, Cappy and I... all converge on our general distaste for dating, playing games, chasing, being chased etc. (although our reasoning differs at times).
We all have Capricorn prominent. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 29, 2014 01:48 AM
What I don't get is these stories you hear about guys who chased a girl for weeks,months,or even years before the girl decided to go out with him. How does that work exactly? Why do these guys want to put in that much effort to get a girl when there are billions of other women out there? How are these men able to avoid being charged with sexual harassment or stalking? And why do the women they are chasing make them go through all that hell? I just dont understand it at all... That whole dynamic just seems like a waste of time to me.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 29, 2014 01:52 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
I feel the same way. I genuinely don't care what other people do though. I'm not 15 anymore and I only get romantically involved with adults who behave like adults To whoever said it was an Aquarius thing...
It's really more a Capricorn thing.. AG, YTA, Cappy and I... all converge on our general distaste for dating, playing games, chasing, being chased etc. (although our reasoning differs at times).
We all have Capricorn prominent.
It is nice to see there are some women who are sane. IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted March 29, 2014 01:58 AM
aquaguy, some people like to be courted and some like to do all that courting. It can be romantic sometimes  Example, my father had his eyes on my mother. She didn't know who he was or what he had to offer. The whole "chasing" thing was about him showing her that he was worth considering. There are billions of people out there, but in their eyes, none can compare to the one they chase, so yes that's one reason why. Another common reason is that some see the whole thing as some sort of conquest. Meh. Just because you don't like it, doesn't mean you have to look down on the whole thing lol IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 29, 2014 02:04 AM
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That whole dynamic just seems like a waste of time to me.
It is usually, most of the time, an unhealthy dynamic.. that does not end well. It is not a healthy/normal reaction to continue obsessing over a person for months or even years when they keep rejecting you.
People who behave this way often have serious self-esteem issues and are a bit delusional in their Disney "take" of the world.
There are always exceptions though. It depends on the context and overall situation. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 29, 2014 02:05 AM
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There are billions of people out there, but in their eyes, none can compare to the one they chase
Disney! LoL aw one soulmate for every person... sooooo sweeeeeet. IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted March 29, 2014 02:12 AM
Lol odette cut that condescending tone. My parents (and I've no doubt that there are plenty who are like them) belong to a group of people who don't believe in soulmates. None can compare to the one they chase - meaning that to them, considering their situation and environment, none has the same stuff to offer. They "chase" because they think that an union with that person has a high chance to succeed.
And it's also about convenience. Billions of people out there, but some people don't wanna shift through the lot of them, hence chasing the most eligible one in front of their eyes is a good option. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 29, 2014 02:21 AM
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Originally posted by 12muddy:
aquaguy, some people like to be courted and some like to do all that courting. It can be romantic sometimes Example, my father had his eyes on my mother. She didn't know who he was or what he had to offer. The whole "chasing" thing was about him showing her that he was worth considering. There are billions of people out there, but in their eyes, none can compare to the one they chase, so yes that's one reason why. Another common reason is that some see the whole thing as some sort of conquest. Meh. Just because you don't like it, doesn't mean you have to look down on the whole thing lol
I have a problem with it because it sets guys up for all sorts of trouble... Being persistent in dating is like walking through a minefield... You may navigate it safely and come out in one piece but it will be a matter of sheer luck and nothing more... A guy may ultimately win a girl over by being persistent but the more likely scenario is he will only get himself into trouble and be accused of sexual harassment or stalking.. The problem is we live in a feminist society that tells us to always believe a woman when she says no or there will be hell to pay.. But any girl will tell you that they love playing hard to get and any guy can tell you that a woman's yes doesnt always mean yes and her no doesnt always mean no... But a guy better take a girl at her word unless he is feeling really lucky.. Being persistent with a girl is a slippery slope.IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted March 29, 2014 02:35 AM
The kind of "chasing/courting" I'm talking about is simply showing the other person that you have what it takes, and it's up to them to decide whether or not they want what you have to offer. If they say no, and their reason is: you don't have xyz that I want, you can either go and find that xyz for them, or consider someone else.
What you described is more like a kind of mind games that set people up to fail, like they don't seriously consider you as an option, but only want to play around and watch you run in circle. IP: Logged |
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