posted August 21, 2015 03:09 PM            

There's a first clue already about my profile...I haven't read all the profiles yet, but I already notice two people accepting to be attracted to someone else, but staying in the relationship. while dumping the other if they do the same...not cool! my Libra part cringes...

Now:

1. Is it very important to you to feel totally in love in a relationship?
YES

2. Will you break it off if or when that feeling fades?
YES

3. Would you stay in a relationship if you found yourself attracted to someone else, even if you didn't act on it? In other words, do you take your own "emotional cheating" (even if it's unrequited) as a sign that your relationship is doomed or unhealthy? Would you prefer that your partner break it off with you, if they feel attracted to someone else?
NO, I WON'T STAY ANYMORE, AND ALREADY ABANDONED RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE OF THAT

4. What's the longest relationship you've had?
5 YEARS, BUT TO ME QUALITY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN QUANTITY; I DO BELIEVE HOWEVER TRUE LOVE IS LONGER THAN LIFE; THERE IS SIMPLY NOT ENOUGH TIME IN ONE LIFE TO LIVE IT PROPERLY

5. Have you ever ended a relationship because you think your partner is attracted to someone else, but not actually cheating?
YES, ONLY ONCE. MY EX WAS A FLIRT. IT IS ALSO SOMETHING CULTURAL; IT WAS, IN HIS CASE, SOMETHING CULTURALLY ACCEPTED; THE WAY I WAS RAISED, THE MODELS I HAD IN RELATIONSHIPS, MY ENTOURAGE, THIS IS CONSIDERED A SIGN OF WEAKNESS, LOW SELF-ESTEEM AND DISRESPECT TOWARDS THE PARTNER. THIS IS HOW I SEE IT TOO.
I DON'T THINK HE WAS ACTUALLY ATTRACTED THOUGH. IT WAS MOSTLY A WAY OF BEING AND FISHING FOR SOCIAL SUCCESS.

6. Do you know any long-term couples who match your ideal of love and marriage?
YES, SEVERAL, INCLUDING MY PARENTS AND SOME COUPLES OF LONG TERM FRIENDS OF MINE

7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think?
I WOULD SEPARATE FROM THE FATHER OF MY CHILDREN IF I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM AND RAISE THE KIDS WITH HIM AS A FRIEND. I BELIEVE IT IS IMPORTANT FOR CHILDREN TO SEE THEIR PARENTS IN LOVE, IF THEY ARE, OR FRIENDS, IF THEY AREN'T. BUT I DON'T HAVE CHILDREN AND I DON'T THINK IT IS ENTIRELY WISE TO SAY WHAT ONE WOULD DO IN A SITUATION THEY AREN'T IN YET.

8. After you are broken up with someone you once loved, how likely are you to retain some affection for that person?
I THINK I LOVE EVERYONE I EVER LOVED, ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. BUT IT IS DIFFERENT THAN ROMANTIC LOVE AND IT DOESN'T MEAN WE ARE STILL COMPATIBLE TO BE PART OF EACH OTHER'S LIVES.

9. What in your chart explains your answers above?
PROBABLY EVERYTHING, BUT POINTING OUT

SUN VENUS MARS MERCURY PLUTO STELLIUM IN VIRGO LIBRA 8TH WITH MERCURY RULING 5TH AND 8TH
SATURN CONJ DSC SQ MERCURY
VENUS SQ NEPTUNE OPP JUPITER
CAP ASC
LEO MOON IN 7TH SUN IN VIRGO 8TH BOTH DSC RULERS

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

AstroMandala

posted August 21, 2015 03:15 PM            

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

AstroMandala

posted August 21, 2015 11:48 PM            

2. Will you break it off if or when that feeling fades?
If it fades to nothing, then yes.

3. Would you stay in a relationship if you found yourself attracted to someone else, even if you didn't act on it? In other words, do you take your own "emotional cheating" (even if it's unrequited) as a sign that your relationship is doomed or unhealthy? Would you prefer that your partner break it off with you, if they feel attracted to someone else?
I would. Im attracted to people every day. That does not mean I am being unfaithful, that just means I'm human. The trick is to not get caught up in emotional infidelity - because you should honor the one you've committed your love to. If you can't do that, then you owe it to them to be honest.

4. What's the longest relationship you've had? 12 years. It was horrid.

5. Have you ever ended a relationship because you think your partner is attracted to someone else, but not actually cheating?
No, but I should have.

6. Do you know any long-term couples who match your ideal of love and marriage? Johnny & June. Paul & Linda.

7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think? It did when I was younger -- but my children were much happier once I left their dad. They were able to experience me as an emotionally healthy, happy person and it was good for them.

8. After you are broken up with someone you once loved, how likely are you to retain some affection for that person? I love every man I've ever truly loved, still. Some I haven't seen in years. That doesn't mean I pine for them but I don't stop loving someone. Once they get a piece of my heart, they have it for life.

posted August 22, 2015 12:08 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
sorry for the caps, now looking at them they look weird, as if I am "literally" challenged or something

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The all caps are good...it makes it easier to distinguish your answers....even though it does kind of seem like your yelling your answers...LOL!! Just 😊 playing!!

posted August 22, 2015 04:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Who needs lunch when you can just feed your mind?

[b]@4lifephrases

If you read this I am so curious to know what your screen name means?

"Thank you for posting"

Thank you for thanking me and answering.

1. "Yes it is important to feel loved. TOTALLY?? What is that ? lol..."

Good point.

#Deep...

Oh I just scrolled won and see that you're a Scorpio.

#FittingToo

3. "No, I do not think my emotional thoughts/ cheating has anything to do with relationship is doomed or unhealthy but my curiosity.
Yes I would expect my partner break off he was seriously attracted to someone else."

Same here, actually, on both counts. I don't think I addressed that yet. If my husband was longing to move on, I wouldn't want to hold him back.

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I am so glad you answered everyone because otherwise it would be like unfair...lol...

My username means how we go through different 4 Stages in Life like Indian

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ashrama_(stage)

Student Life : 0-24
Household Life: 24-48
Retired Life : 48-72
Renounced Life : 72+

I have learnt lots after 24 but now in 30s and just Saturn in last degree and going I can tell it is more about new family and earning rather than learning ( dropping L). Not that I won't learn but it would be focused to earn to learn not just randomly. I think I had started looking for a partner at that age 24 and even though it is late marriage. My son would be almost be an adult when I get 48. With longer longevity of people things might change as well but I think it is a good guide.

I am really interested if anyone has any questions on friendship and relationship apart from romantic.

I feel ok with romantic relationship Venus in Libra but Saturn in 11th kind of really asks me to look it into deeper so if anyone has some platonic relationship friendship questions or books to recommend I am really interested.

posted August 22, 2015 06:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
The all caps are good...it makes it easier to distinguish your answers....even though it does kind of seem like your yelling your answers...LOL!! Just 😊 playing!!

I love your point about libra cringing at ppl willing to stay in relationships when they are attracted to others but won't accept it if their partner is the one attracted. I can't stand inconsistency and double standards in love! Must be all the libra in us that cannot tolerate the imbalance, it's unfair.

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It's the first time I try this formula...it does look like Moses shouting the tablets

This must be the Libra, I tell you: NO DOUBLE STANDARDS!
On a very serious note now, this is a total NO to me in everything in life, something I really find outrageous and fight against.

There is something I don't understand: why so many people define "being in love" as the first butterflies stage. It isn't so, IMO. There are different stages of being in love, and even if you don't feel the rush and nervousness we feel with someone we just met, it doesn't mean you can't be in love after 50 years with someone.

Being in love has multiple facets and ways of manifesting, with time; at any point in time, it means this is the man or the woman you are in love with, who you would die to see and hear and live with, the one who makes you warm inside just by existing, the one you could hardly live without, especially with time. And many other things.

Life sometimes gets busy or harsh and we forget to let ourselves go with this feeling with our partners and we take him or her as being there, part of the furniture one way or another, but once you re-open the heart towards this, or acknowledge it, or decide you want to pay attention to this flame, it is there, even after a very long time.
Time does not destroy love with the right one, only makes it better.

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

AstroMandala

posted August 22, 2015 07:24 AM            

2. Will you break it off if or when that feeling fades?
~Well i think if you're really in love and not lust/attraction the feeling won't ever fade.Not completely at least.

3. Would you stay in a relationship if you found yourself attracted to someone else, even if you didn't act on it? In other words, do you take your own "emotional cheating" (even if it's unrequited) as a sign that your relationship is doomed or unhealthy? Would you prefer that your partner break it off with you, if they feel attracted to someone else?
~If my partner was attracted to someone else i would want them to talk to me about it,about what's lacking in our relationships that makes them look outside for love and vice versa.

4. What's the longest relationship you've had?
~3 months.

5. Have you ever ended a relationship because you think your partner is attracted to someone else, but not actually cheating?
~no

6. Do you know any long-term couples who match your ideal of love and marriage?
~sadly no.

7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think?
~well i would be more likely to leave an unhappy marriage for the sake of the children because i wouldn't want them to grow up with such atmosphere around them.

8. After you are broken up with someone you once loved, how likely are you to retain some affection for that person?
~I'm not sure.I still love my ex-bf even though he broke up with me.

posted August 22, 2015 07:43 AM            

I have a Scorpio stellium in the 5th house which includes both my Sun and Venus. Passion and love are extremely important. I cannot date or be in a relationship with someone I do not feel passionate about. It is all or nothing. The person has to trigger those so-called 'butterflies' along with a sense of passion.

2. Will you break it off if or when that feeling fades?

When I 'love' someone, it takes a long time before the feeling fades. Usually, I get dumped before the feeling fade away. However, if I find myself in a position where the feelings are gone, I'll have no choice but to break things off because I cannot go through the motions with someone I have no feelings towards.

3. Would you stay in a relationship if you found yourself attracted to someone else, even if you didn't act on it? In other words, do you take your own "emotional cheating" (even if it's unrequited) as a sign that your relationship is doomed or unhealthy? Would you prefer that your partner break it off with you, if they feel attracted to someone else?

If my partner is attracted to someone else and has no feelings for me anymore, I would prefer that they break things off with me. I cannot be with a person who does not reciprocate my feelings.

Usually, when I 'love' someone, I don't look at other guys. I'm all about the person I date. However, if I find myself attracted to another man while I'm dating someone, then it is a sign that I am just wasting my time with the wrong person. When I say 'attracted', I mean it in a physical, intellectual and emotional sense. It has to be a package. Pure physical attraction will not get me to break with someone.

4. What's the longest relationship you've had?

Haha. I won't dignify this question with a comment.

5. Have you ever ended a relationship because you think your partner is attracted to someone else, but not actually cheating?

It's never happened.

6. Do you know any long-term couples who match your ideal of love and marriage?

Unfortunately, no.

7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think?

I don't understand this question. Standards regarding what exactly?

8. After you are broken up with someone you once loved, how likely are you to retain some affection for that person?

Very likely.

9. What in your chart explains your answers above?

Stellium in Scorpio in 5th House.

Thanks for any replies...I know this is literally asking a lot.[/B][/QUOTE]

posted August 22, 2015 09:26 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
It's the first time I try this formula...it does look like Moses shouting the tablets

This must be the Libra, I tell you: NO DOUBLE STANDARDS!
On a very serious note now, this is a total NO to me in everything in life, something I really find outrageous and fight against.

There is something I don't understand: why so many people define "being in love" as the first butterflies stage. It isn't so, IMO. There are different stages of being in love, and even if you don't feel the rush and nervousness we feel with someone we just met, it doesn't mean you can't be in love after 50 years with someone.

Being in love has multiple facets and ways of manifesting, with time; at any point in time, it means this is the man or the woman you are in love with, who you would die to see and hear and live with, the one who makes you warm inside just by existing, the one you could hardly live without, especially with time. And many other things.

Life sometimes gets busy or harsh and we forget to let ourselves go with this feeling with our partners and we take him or her as being there, part of the furniture one way or another, but once you re-open the heart towards this, or acknowledge it, or decide you want to pay attention to this flame, it is there, even after a very long time.
Time does not destroy love with the right one, only makes it better.

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I couldn't agree more, it's all about if you choose to feel, keep it and nourish it! Most ppl get distracted and think, oh that special feeling is gone I must not be in love anymore! WRONG! If you chose to refocus your energy back to feeling in love then you will be in love again....it doesn't go away we just get distracted.
Of course if there's abuse of any kind, infidelity or other things that strangle love to the point of suffocation then yes, love can die or better yet someone can kill that love.
But other than that...it's up to us to work to stay focused on it. We have to remember just like any flame it needs oxygen. We can't ignore it or it will get smaller and give less warmth. But that doesn't mean it's gone it means you have not paid enough attention to it to keep it burning bright and able to warm your soul.

posted August 22, 2015 10:00 AM            

Yes and No...I understand love grows and are like the seasons.
2. Will you break it off if or when that feeling fades?
Never. I rather be dumped.
3. Would you stay in a relationship if you found yourself attracted to someone else, even if you didn't act on it? In other words, do you take your own "emotional cheating" (even if it's unrequited) as a sign that your relationship is doomed or unhealthy? Would you prefer that your partner break it off with you, if they feel attracted to someone else?
Yes I will stay. Naturally I have a wandering eye. But I know it means almost nothing. And no I don't take it as something is wrong in my relationship. Unless I start having feelings...if I do I still won't see it as something is wrong in my relationship...I just snap out of it.

4. What's the longest relationship you've had?
Six years

5. Have you ever ended a relationship because you think your partner is attracted to someone else, but not actually cheating?
No

6. Do you know any long-term couples who match your ideal of love and marriage?
No
7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think?
Probably
8. After you are broken up with someone you once loved, how likely are you to retain some affection for that person?
I won't...I am cold.
9. What in your chart explains your answers above?
Venus in Sagittarius conjunct Neptune.

posted August 22, 2015 10:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
I couldn't agree more, it's all about if you choose to feel, keep it and nourish it! Most ppl get distracted and think, oh that special feeling is gone I must not be in love anymore! WRONG! If you chose to refocus your energy back to feeling in love then you will be in love again....it doesn't go away we just get distracted.
Of course if there's abuse of any kind, infidelity or other things that strangle love to the point of suffocation then yes, love can die or better yet someone can kill that love.
But other than that...it's up to us to work to stay focused on it. We have to remember just like any flame it needs oxygen. We can't ignore it or it will get smaller and give less warmth. But that doesn't mean it's gone it means you have not paid enough attention to it to keep it burning bright and able to warm your soul.

Ppl should listen to us...libra rules love! I think libra would be considered the PHD's on love in astrology! Lol

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kudoz on your last phrase. People, get yourself a Libra if you want some love advice

posted August 22, 2015 10:39 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
[B] get yourself a Libra if you want some love advice

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posted August 22, 2015 10:43 AM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
^^^
What's funny is to hear myself sometimes. With Virgo mercury, Venus, mars I have literally used the word "investment" in the context of love.
The two mix.
I "invest" into a person, I "invest" myself into them because I love them.
It's very... Grounded and committed in a strange way.
In that way, I don't need that "high" honeymoon phase forever. I need someone who puts building a life together towards common goals almost in equal to being in love. I can't have one without the other. They go hand in hand for me.

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posted August 22, 2015 10:50 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
kudoz on your last phrase. People, get yourself a Libra if you want some love advice

and the rest of the post is very beautifully said, Gabby

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posted August 22, 2015 12:40 PM            

Yes, I love being totally obsessed with another. Well, on my terms...

2. Will you break it off if or when that feeling fades?

Yes but I am trying not to.

3. Would you stay in a relationship if you found yourself attracted to someone else, even if you didn't act on it? In other words, do you take your own "emotional cheating" (even if it's unrequited) as a sign that your relationship is doomed or unhealthy? Would you prefer that your partner break it off with you, if they feel attracted to someone else?

I would want to be broken up with, but I'm not sure I'd break up myself. In theory I would think if I'm attracted to someone else then something is missing from my current relationship...so more than likely I'd break up with them, but then I could change my mind later.

5. Have you ever ended a relationship because you think your partner is attracted to someone else, but not actually cheating?

Yes.

6. Do you know any long-term couples who match your ideal of love and marriage?

No but I want one like Doug and Carrie on King of Queens!

7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think?

Probably.

8. After you are broken up with someone you once loved, how likely are you to retain some affection for that person?

More than likely.

9. What in your chart explains your answers above?

My Taurus moon, Moon opposition Pluto, Saturn and Neptune in the 7th, Moon trien Saturn Moon trine Neptune and Pluto in 5th.

posted August 28, 2015 08:23 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
^^^
Whaaaat?
Cray.

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posted August 28, 2015 08:32 PM            

Thanks for explaining further ~ I've had that happen before. Where one love comes and dwarfs the other. I'm still watching over the other thread for new developments.

@Lee

So glad you liked my archway, I felt funny posting it, not sure if it would be TOO red-hot corny for everyone here

"Sorry, I didn't realize you weren't fed up with my long posts about it on the other thread."

Why would I get fed up with your comments? We don't have to be the same way...it's more interesting if we're not, right?

3. "NO, I WON'T STAY ANYMORE, AND ALREADY ABANDONED RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE OF THAT"

Ah you just reminded me of my ex-soulmate. Also one of my favorite astrology books talks about how third decan Virgo never settles for second-best. Go you.

"SATURN CONJ DSC SQ MERCURY
LEO MOON IN 7TH SUN IN VIRGO 8TH BOTH DSC RULERS"

Are our Saturns conjunct? Mine's on the Cancer-Leo Cusp.

"sorry for the caps"

posted August 28, 2015 08:44 PM            

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Originally posted by RoseLily:
I get paralyzed when I see a guy having an eye on me....
and with the crazy intuition I have, I know EVERY TIME, so I go as far away as I can... and I have this weird habit of falling for unavailable guy :<
My venus/Uranus opposition is NOT COOL

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Yeah that sucks. I know what you mean about falling for unavailable people. (Venus 12th)
I am curious about this paralyzed feeling.
How would you describe it?
Like a fear of commitment type of feeling?
That sort of thing?
Sorry if I'm being too inquisitive.

posted August 28, 2015 08:49 PM            

1. "I never felt the heady-in-love-stage with my first husband; he was just so damn persistent and I was heartbroken over someone else. It was my longest lasting relationship but I was never happy. It ended badly. At this point in my life, if someone can't arrouse passion and excitement in me at the beginning, there is zero reason to move forward romantically."

Sorry your marriage was not the best. I like your pickiness now. I once heard a marriage coach say that for every 100 people out there, only ONE would make a suitable partner. That made me feel better. So I'm repeating it.

3. "I would. Im attracted to people every day. That does not mean I am being unfaithful, that just means I'm human. The trick is to not get caught up in emotional infidelity - because you should honor the one you've committed your love to. If you can't do that, then you owe it to them to be honest."

I need to start another thread about emotional fidelity. I find it difficult to know the boundaries and hold to them. I think in the past I've tried to shut off emotionally altogether around men, to prevent emotional cheating. But I don't want to live smaller than I have to. It's complicated.

4. "What's the longest relationship you've had? 12 years. It was horrid."

So sorry

8. "I love every man I've ever truly loved, still. Some I haven't seen in years. That doesn't mean I pine for them but I don't stop loving someone. Once they get a piece of my heart, they have it for life."

I love how you phrase this.

"9. Aries sun
Aries moon
Aries mercury
Cap rising
NN Aquarius"

You remind me of myself a bit, and I hope that doesn't offend you, but I wonder if your ASC is conjunct my 15 Cap sun?

@24lifephrases

"I am so glad you answered everyone because otherwise it would be like unfair...lol..."

Right.

"My username means how we go through different 4 Stages in Life"

Oh I get it now, thank you.

"I think I had started looking for a partner at that age 24 and even though it is late marriage."

posted August 28, 2015 09:14 PM            

"7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think?
~well i would be more likely to leave an unhappy marriage for the sake of the children because i wouldn't want them to grow up with such atmosphere around them."

I love people who put the kids first, however they do it. It's always hard, though...

I like your ideals and your realism...that you wish for a kind of love, but haven't seen people living it forever.

@MineAgain

1. "I have a Scorpio stellium in the 5th house which includes both my Sun and Venus. Passion and love are extremely important. I cannot date or be in a relationship with someone I do not feel passionate about. It is all or nothing. The person has to trigger those so-called 'butterflies' along with a sense of passion."

^^ Awesome.

7. "I don't understand this question. Standards regarding what exactly?"

I guess that was a free-for-all question, different people interpreted it differently. I think I was asking those who want a lasting, passionate romance if they would settle for less, to keep a family together.

@Gabby

"Ppl should listen to us...libra rules love! I think libra would be considered the PHD's on love in astrology! Lol"

You make me appreciate my Libra Pluto, which is usually too busy taking a beating from my never-satisfied Cap sun and selfish Aries Jupiter to really enjoy itself.

@DopGang

"In that way, I don't need that 'high' honeymoon phase forever. I need someone who puts building a life together towards common goals almost in equal to being in love. I can't have one without the other. They go hand in hand for me."

Just repeating this interesting comment.

@erickaf

"Venus in Sagittarius conjunct Neptune."