posted August 28, 2015 09:23 PM            

I just realized that I've probably spelled your name wrong every time I've addressed you. Sorry!

"1. Yes, I love being totally obsessed with another. Well, on my terms..."

*laughed so hard at this!* Because I think that's always true...when you get right down to it, most of us want things on OUR terms. It's hard to get above selfish desires.

2. "Yes but I am trying not to."

I love your honesty and self-awareness.

@RoseLily

"Well my answer will be very fast indeed:
I have never been in a relationships :<
*self hug*"

Aw! But you're still young...or you look really young...either way, it's good!

"Libra moon in intercepted seventh house;"

Libra moons can be picky! My husband is one so I know this for sure. But I think it's a good thing, not that you asked my opinion, but I wanted to say, it's better to be picky.

"My venus/Uranus opposition is NOT COOL"

posted August 29, 2015 04:32 AM            

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I've justified it by thinking it's actually no different than watching a romantic movie, only I am casting people or certain energies within them, and directing, and acting, viewing, and deriving the desired emotional response, all at once.

You and I both have Venus-Neptune so that could definitely be a factor.

To me it's rather innocent.

It reminds me of a poem by Christina Rossetti ~excerpt ~

A saint, an angel;— every canvass means
The same one meaning, neither more nor less.
He feeds upon her face by day and night,
And she with true kind eyes looks back on him
Fair as the moon and joyfull as the light;
Not wan with waiting, not with sorrow dim;
Not as she is, but was when hope shone bright;
Not as she is, but as she fills his dream.

As they fill the dream.

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Yes. Double yes to this.

Yeah, venus-neptune could be the reason behind this.

"Innocent" is just the right word. All of those little fantasies, dreams, emotions... Gossamer, frivolous, precious, and what can I say, I love dancing through them.

posted August 29, 2015 09:16 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
[b]@hannaramaa

I just realized that I've probably spelled your name wrong every time I've addressed you. Sorry!

"1. Yes, I love being totally obsessed with another. Well, on my terms..."

*laughed so hard at this!* Because I think that's always true...when you get right down to it, most of us want things on OUR terms. It's hard to get above selfish desires.

2. "Yes but I am trying not to."

I love your honesty and self-awareness.

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It's okay about my name! mercury sq. Neptune over here never noticed. Thank you! I like your tenacity in general 👍

posted August 29, 2015 01:21 PM            

Great thread, as always.

1. Is it very important to you to feel totally in love in a relationship?

I think that depends on each person's perception of 'in love' and how easily one can reach that level of attachment.

For me, there's first plain and simple physical attraction, followed by admiration perhaps, then finally infatuation and love. Just to be precise, my understanding of the latter, as it's sometimes confused with the feelings of infatuation, is akin to that of commonly known 'unconditional love' – something along the lines of intense feelings of deep affection, compassion and empathy, willingness to make sacrifices for that matter, and protecting, caring no matter what. Ideally, I'd like to be in a relationship when into the last two stages (infatuation and love), because the feelings of love usually come in just after infatuation's started. (Well, at least for me.)

But even more ideally, even if I'd undoubtedly have a hard time having this idea fit in, I'd like no relationship at all. Not that I don't like company or partners, but ... the whole idea of a 'relationship', a so-called official one, too, doesn't feel very familiar to me. It's rather illogical, actually, considering the fact that I experience the same feelings of love (minus the physical attraction and such), with other people, females included, who are considered 'friends'. What I mean is that the feelings of attachment I experience in a 'friendship' and in a 'relationship' are the same, only greater for the person whom I choose as a partner ; so, why differentiate the two ? What limit is there to a friendship, a relationship ? How do you need to feel for one person to be considered a partner, and another a friend ?

It's actually quite vague, and I'd say the threshold depends on each person's own values and expectations ; which, if too incompatible and not decided upon together, is usually the main cause of break-ups. So ! I've come to realise that I'm actually rather tolerant concerning these 'rules' (I strongly believe that I should only want my partner's well-being – his freedom, liberty, and whatever it takes to make him happy, as that's the greatest gift I can provide), and that I don't particularly need a relationship.

2. Will you break it off if or when that feeling fades?

If the feeling of infatuation, the initial 'flame' (c.f. Question n°1), fades, which is likely to happen anyway, I'd certainly not break it off, as I'd still love him. If, however, the feeling of love fades, I'd be more inclined to break it off, but would hesitate to do so if he were still attached, fearing to hurt his feelings. Actually, I think I'd most likely wait until I'm quite sure he doesn't like me anymore.

(That's why I prefer no relationships. )

3. Would you stay in a relationship if you found yourself attracted to someone else, even if you didn't act on it? In other words, do you take your own "emotional cheating" (even if it's unrequited) as a sign that your relationship is doomed or unhealthy? Would you prefer that your partner break it off with you, if they feel attracted to someone else?

Nope. Unless the feelings I have for that someone else are greater than the ones I have for my partner, it wouldn't really matter to me. Otherwise, if they are greater, it's back to Question n°2. Concerning my partner, he's perfectly free to do whatever he wants.

4. What's the longest relationship you've had?

Umm... Following the 'no relationship' idea, I've actually had only one so far, that was honestly just for experiment purposes, as it was my very first time and I was curious about it. I didn't love him, either. It lasted two and a half years. There were two other people whom I loved but never got into a relationship with ; now, the first ... 'crush' (that lasted two and a half years also) is over, and he's staying nice and tucked in my memories. The other is even safer in my heart, and has been there for almost three years (and counting).

Very ... Neptunian, yeah.

5. Have you ever ended a relationship because you think your partner is attracted to someone else, but not actually cheating?

Nope.

6. Do you know any long-term couples who match your ideal of love and marriage?

Nope.

7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think?

Yes. I think I'd do whatever's best for them.

8. After you are broken up with someone you once loved, how likely are you to retain some affection for that person?

Very.

9. What in your chart explains your answers above?

Hm. Probably these :

posted August 29, 2015 08:25 PM            

Yes, to begin with!

2. Will you break it off if or when that feeling fades?

Not if that feeling get's replaced with "love". But if I begin to feel totally indifferent with my partner, then I'll probably break it off. But in general, I think it's only natural that those "deep in love" feelings will fade away.

3. Would you stay in a relationship if you found yourself attracted to someone else, even if you didn't act on it? In other words, do you take your own "emotional cheating" (even if it's unrequited) as a sign that your relationship is doomed or unhealthy? Would you prefer that your partner break it off with you, if they feel attracted to someone else?

Yes I would. I find many people attractive everyday, but that doesn't mean I don't love my boyfriend anymore. Being attracted by someone else is only natural, but not something you have to act on. Of course I only mean attracted in a general therm here, cause if I began to feel deeply in love with someone else, I would think about acting on it, and then I would end my relationship before I would go that far.

4. What's the longest relationship you've had?

2 years only

5. Have you ever ended a relationship because you think your partner is attracted to someone else, but not actually cheating?

Kinda. I had a boyfriend once, I dated for more than a year, and he had this special "female friend" I was very jealous on. It was not exactly because of that we ended the relationship, but it was totally the biggest part of it. I couldn't be with someone if I seriously thought they liked someone else more than me... I go for my intuition, but I also gotta see that it's not always right... my ex-boyfriend never directly cheated on me, and the girl I was so jealous on never ended up with him, and today she is together with one of his best friends. Today I must admit that I was overreacting back then.

6. Do you know any long-term couples who match your ideal of love and marriage?

Yes many...

7. If you were married with children, would that affect your standards, do you think?

Yes totally (I would think). It would be a much bigger deal for me to try to work things out, and I think I would go with much bigger compromises to keep our family intact. And if we did break up eventually, I would make a big effort in keeping a friendship with the father of my kids (thats what my own parents did and that meant a big deal to me)

8. After you are broken up with someone you once loved, how likely are you to retain some affection for that person?

If I love someone, that is pretty much forever. I don't just fall out of love. I think I still have a lot of feelings for each and every one I was in love with... but more in a friendship manner than sexually of course.

9. What in your chart explains your answers above?

Maybe my pisces moon and scorpio venus. I feel that love is very "true" for me. It doesn't have to always be really "serious" in the way where I just have to die with my one and only by my side. But when I do have feelings for someone, they are true to me, and I feel very much in general for many people. I easily fall in love, and I can love more than one at once (but I would never have more than 1 relationship at a time).
I have an afflicted moon and weak venus, so my image of love might be a bit distorted and delusional (to others). But I take relationships very serious once we are official and settled, but up until then I'm pretty much a free spirit.

(virgo sun, pisces moon, scorpio venus)
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posted August 31, 2015 12:13 PM            

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

AstroMandala