posted October 15, 2015 09:21 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
The oldest I've ever considered was someone 31 years older than me (synastry was intense but not GREAT)
The oldest I've ever actually been with was 24 years older than me (we had a lot of conventionally good synastric aspects)
Right now my current boyfriend is 12 years older than me (tbh we have some of the best synastry I've ever seen, very harmonic)

If for whatever reason we broke up, I would cap it at 7 years, honestly.

The youngest I've ever dated was someone two years younger than me (our synastry was mostly just elemental matching)

Goes without saying, but I prefer to date older. However, given the experience I've accumulated, I'm not comfortable with the shift in the power dynamic the older one goes up the ladder in age. There's usually a lot of red flags the older person has that the younger person hasn't been taught to recognize as something to shy away from just yet, and oftentimes the older person dates further down the ladder because they recognize that precise naiveness.

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+1

posted October 15, 2015 10:26 PM            

Also the generation before me has pluto in Libra and that's opposite my moon. Not fun for synastry
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posted October 15, 2015 11:59 PM            

Men who have Venus/Saturn are usually into younger women.

posted October 16, 2015 12:05 AM            

Also, I feel Neptune can too, in the right circumstances.

posted October 16, 2015 01:01 AM            

The oldest I've been attracted to was 20 years older than me. An Aqua guy. Just utter Aqua foolishness. That's the only time I've been attracted to someone that much older than be, besides teen crushes on celebrities.

The oldest I've been in a relationship was 10 years older, a Gem guy. Never again. Men in that age group have their Pluto squaring my Venus and yep, this relationship was very abusive.

posted October 16, 2015 01:25 AM            

But older? Yeah baby-***breaks into song**

No no

No no no no

No no no no

No no

There's no limit

posted October 16, 2015 02:25 AM            

My age exactly generally doesn't happen. My Moon and Mercury both T-square outer planets, so someone too close to my age shares the outers and gets the squares in synastry. Can be rough if you're not used to it.

When I was younger, I used +/- 5 years as a rule. Now I'm open to perhaps 10 years (though the right lady is welcome to try to make me stretch that). Though I do find as someone born on the cusp of baby boomer/gen X that younger ladies are a little more likely to share some interests with me than older ones. For instance, Science Fiction, Computers, geek things... Gemini-ish things.

posted October 16, 2015 03:12 AM            

I mean, there are exceptions, as is the case with everything in life.
I remember you saying your mum was 19 and your dad much older when they met and it worked out for them...
But I see that ^ as the exception, not the rule.

posted October 16, 2015 06:01 AM            

At this age I would not date someone who is younger as I need a mature man lol

posted October 16, 2015 07:29 AM            

Most recent one was 14yrs older but I dumped him.

Oldest I fell for was in his sixties but he's pretty hot.