posted October 16, 2015 08:03 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Outside your teens - when you gradually become an adult, and you've been through certain things in life - then yes - "age is just a number"

I mean, there are exceptions, as is the case with everything in life.
I remember you saying your mum was 19 and your dad much older when they met and it worked out for them...
But I see that ^ as the exception, not the rule.

Honestly, I just don't want you to get hurt!
Please be careful Leo-Cancer

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posted October 16, 2015 08:46 AM            

My husband is 18 years older.

Thing is, I've gotten so used to him and men in his age group (his relatives and friends) that men my own age (39) seem like kids to me.

So to think of dating younger men is reeaaallllly weird. Just because of how I grew up and have lived so far. If I look twice at a guy who's 35 I feel like a pedophile.

posted October 16, 2015 12:13 PM              

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Originally posted by Faith:
If I look twice at a guy who's 35 I feel like a pedophile.

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posted October 16, 2015 12:21 PM            

@Auntie

Good point ~ my father was 12 years older than my mother. Must've affected me.

posted October 16, 2015 01:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Soltze:
My mom is 10 yrs older than my dad. Guess what? I'm doing the opposite she did. Older bfs all the way xD

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posted October 16, 2015 02:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
I think 10 years is an ok difference (at least if the man is older). But maybe not during the teens...

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posted October 16, 2015 02:17 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
The oldest I've ever considered was someone 31 years older than me (synastry was intense but not GREAT)
The oldest I've ever actually been with was 24 years older than me (we had a lot of conventionally good synastric aspects)
Right now my current boyfriend is 12 years older than me (tbh we have some of the best synastry I've ever seen, very harmonic)

If for whatever reason we broke up, I would cap it at 7 years, honestly.

The youngest I've ever dated was someone two years younger than me (our synastry was mostly just elemental matching)

Goes without saying, but I prefer to date older. However, given the experience I've accumulated, I'm not comfortable with the shift in the power dynamic the higher one goes up the ladder in age. There's usually a lot of red flags the older person has that the younger person hasn't been taught to recognize as something to shy away from just yet, and oftentimes the older person dates further down the ladder because they recognize that precise naiveness.

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posted October 16, 2015 02:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Awwee that's cute! How good is your compatibility (elements, composite chart, etc) with your current boyfriend? How old are you guys?

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Haha thank you! He's an incredible person. We first started dating when I had just turned 22 and he was turning 34 - we knew each other a year and a half before that. Currently I'm 25 and he's going to be 37 in December.

I'm a Virgo rising, a Taurus sun and an Aquarius moon
He's a Leo rising, a Sagittarius sun and a Pisces moon

Sounds bizarrely incompatible, right? But our synastry blends in a rather magical way

His Virgo NN is conjunct my Virgo ASC
My Aquarius NN is conjunct his Aquarius DC
My Aquarius Moon is conjunct his Aquarius DC
My Leo SN is conjunct his Leo Jupiter/ASC
His Pisces SN is conjunct my Pisces Vertex/Mars/DC
(Given he's on my ascendant, his sense of destiny has helped shaped me into a better version of myself. Given I'm on his descendant, I've fleshed out the kind of behaviors he feels he deserves in a relationship that he's lacked in the past)

His Mars in Sagittarius is trine my Venus in Aries
His Venus in Scorpio is trine my Mars in Pisces
(same levels of affection in public, same stance on relationship social media etiquette, matched sex drives, etc)

His Mars/Vertex is conjunct my IC
My Pluto/Juno is conjunct his IC
(this is our first relationship where we moved in with a significant other given that IC is supposed to represent the "home"; in addition to that we both provide insights regarding the other person's family that's been very psychologically illuminating)

Our Moons fall into each other's 6th house
(we met at work, although I no longer work there)

His Pluto is opposite my Venus
My Pluto is conjunct his Venus
(very "high-functioning" Plutonic vibe, we both have each others back 100% and are healthily ride-or-die for one anther in equal measure)

So it's kinda weird, you'd think it would make for a very fated, tumultuous relationship but our day to day life is extremely ordinary and calm. We get into brief but respectful spats every now and then, but given he's the more watery between us, he usually wonders over to me all sweet and soft-hearted and I can't help but melt and give in. It's good stuff. I don't know if I believe in the idea of a lone soul mate but he's definitely apart of a soul family I'm supposed to encounter.

Our composite is OK - packed 5th and 6th house, unsurprising given the whole "work" situation and that he and I are very one-on-one homebodies.

posted October 16, 2015 03:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Younger? I draw the line at the teething 20's. But I have hardly ever dated younger

But older? Yeah baby-***breaks into song**

No no

No no no no

No no no no

No no

There's no limit *joker*

I like what I like. *smile*

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omg!!!! I'm laughing soooo hard and blushing like you wouldn't believe!!!

This thread is truly medicinal to me today! ~~ I needed this. Thanks everyone for what you're sharing. I had no idea!

And especially Faith~~~ you are sooo funny! What a great person you are!! I know you're speaking the truth, in more ways than one!! {{hug!!}}

I'm 60 right now (will be 60 and a HALF next month-- omg!!--- I keep saying that? because I DON'T BELIEVE IT *eek*) I feel soooo 'inbetween' worlds right now-- like rocking two giant realms of ages right now, in its straddle. There are shifts going on in my face that gives me a reality-check in the mirror every day now--- omg 'how old' (tired) I'm getting...
... (And then too, I'm having t Saturn in my 12th House beginning its approach to cross my Ascendant. I've read how this transit can make you feel much older-than-you-are. I dunno~~ that's nice.)

I'm a Gemmy, and eternally feeling youthful and bubbly (mostly from inside, going out). Honestly??? I "forget" how old I am. Act you're age!!! for pete's-sake! LOL

With Sag on the ascendant, I can be overly optimistic about what I perceive and overestimate a few things? errr, like athletics, and flip-jumping my body over metal yard fences.
(oooooo! *wince* Tried to do that?, and bruised myself so badly-- omg! I used to do that all the time and it was so fun then! ... not any more *looking*-- There are physical limits that naturally come in a very-real world that your imagination cannot accede -- Learned to respect that lesson.)

My Virgo Moon in that loose mutable T-square type energy position (but not in actual aspect) will stand there with its prudish arms folded, and be ~all-elevated, and be super critical of all my OWN secret-deepest dirty-thoughts and impulses... tsk! o~help??? LOL
I've got a sex-therapist-type Pluto (leo) at the e.o. my Cancer 8th House!! -- While I have my sluttyVenus Taurus quintiling Uranus Cancer in the 8th too... *hard-whisper* o you-know what they say about ~tho'se kinds??? ~likes weird! hahaha (~omg!!!)

*sigh* You know how a 4-month old needs to baptize with baby-drool all over things that touches its body and conscious life?... Well, with what-all I have in my 8th House and its connections?, 'If my soul can't energetically perceive and sex-drool vibes around it, with aim to cosmically-merge and consume in ecstasy the matter/material in front of my Being, (all done most-unconsciously, I assure you), then how can it be possibly-existant in my universe yet'??'.... (OOOO LOLLLLL~~ such a flirt-day).

You KNOW..... these are ONLY revelations of deep thoughts and ponderances that I would never otherwise share in person, or have thought about actually potentializing??? --- Except to the shock, scandalize, and amaze the whole prudish religious 'holy' world via the internet??
(o my!!... And t-Mercury will be crossing my 4762 Dobrynya for the third final time soon in Libra. arrrghhhh... It's lost!!! LMAO!!!)

Honestly, if you met me, you'd never ever guess-- and I really don't 'think' out loud that way either. I've just been processing some things lately, and studying some astrology placements in my chart--- aw hell, I missed my vocational-calling (according to some sources) as a sexual-healer??? o'goshdernnn c'mon now?! Why didn't I come across that piece of info while I was still hot and had a chance? ~LOL

I am VERY STRICT about not dating married-individuals nor the seriously engaged ones-- hard-line there. I Value, Uphold, and pray for Committeds.

I would never want to be (nor feel made to be) some other-woman's competition-- that's definitely just sooo~wrong to treat people that way. You don't need me to feel jealous--- or I'll just channel-Hera in the flesh!!! LOL. Don't like that, and don't like it when they try to create that kind of dynamic in a relationship. You're a loser if you do that with me.

One of the reasons I haven't had an active dating life is that I can feel quite territorial about 'my people'..., plus, I don't like getting hurt, used, or manipulated...., and I wouldn't want anyone to feel that way with me either. I'm good at putting myself in Other-people's shoes for this. You don't do to someone-else something you wouldn't like if it were done to you.

What the freak is going on today???? LOL!!! Oh geez---- must be that Virgo Mars-Jupiter Trine Pluto Capricorn?? These all make a grand-trine with my natal Venus Taurus -- sheer sluttery!!!!
(*O gosh, you'll never see my face here again*~~ LOL)
Actually??? I'm DEEPLY shy... You're just catching the Librarian in a transit with her hair down and glasses off today. LOL

So, back on topic. Astrological indicators...

Saturn in the 11th is one of the placements for people who date/marry others much older (or younger).

I have the Saturn 11th placement (in Scorpio, with my Juno(Hera) Scorpio there too--
actually? I have asteroid 103 Hera at 4.25 Virgo sextile the Juno-rx Scorpio 4.49... also 2273 Yarilo Cancer 4.57~~ tsk-tsk, must~explains things ~decadent?!!)

But I like a feeling of permanence and stability in love and partnerships.
Saturn-rx is 16+ Scorpio, trine my 8th House Cancer cusp of Other.
Venus Opp Saturn likes the long-term.

I really value DEEP spiritual unions that feel committed and secure, and are metaphysical other-worldly in nature-- and committed to Higher Service.

Also have read that ARIES on the IC tends to go for 'younger' sexual partners....

I've not really gone-younger up till now, (except ex1 was 3 to 4 years younger than I -- but there was a distinct-difference because he hadn't gone through his Saturn-return yet. That is a HUGE maturation point in an individual. I was getting married and having a baby in the midst of my first Saturn return--- I just finished my second now).

In my teens and young 20s I definitely attracted-in persons who were always 5 to 6 years older, consistently.

During that time, I had two engagements with people who were 15 years, and 25+ years my senior.

I will admit here that the main reason I would feel 'too shy' about dating a younger person, is that my body has changed.

I can't seem to wrap my thick-hard-head around the notion that a young dashingly uber-handsome guy could possibly be genuinely-attracted to and want someone in an older fleshly-body-- (unless she had a bad cough and loads of money, with no relatives, of course??? *LM uproarious AO*!!!!).

I have a vibrant young spirit and vibe, and people often can't believe I'm "as old" as I say--- But my 'block' is that I remember how 'hot' I used to be. The body can always be improved through exercise, but age in the face, and in the processes of internal body organ and structure changes, can be cruelly betraying.

And maybe I talk 'old' like that today just because I could use a vacation and a new wardrobe? Really, I go back and forth with my opinion of my own self---
To be "fair"??, with makeup, my humor and Kindness, and vivaciousness, I'm really more-than-acceptable. Just have that 'old-fashioned' crusty belief in me that says 'You're a Cougar' if you've had thoughts of being with someone much-younger than you. *sigh*
... Well, if their reason would be a cough and the money??, I don't have either of those, so! LOL!!!

posted October 16, 2015 04:25 PM            

I have Saturn Rx in the 11th as well, but...in Capricorn.

Look, despite age what you should keep in mind is that almost everybody dislikes something about their physique. It shouldn't make you unhappy or insecure.

Plus: if someone is attracted to you and showing it...then believe them! There are so many things that can be sexy like...as many people there are in the planet.

Me for example: I don't dig pretty boys with lots of muscles and a beach tan lool.
I will drool on that silver haired male librarian with glasses who knows his sh**. There you go...preferences don't always match logic or what's conventional.

Beauty and sexiness is subjective in the end of the day. LOL