posted December 23, 2015 08:22 PM
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Originally posted by Vajra:
^Yes, probably true. Two Scorp Suns in a relationship with each other can unfortunately mean that both are experts at playing the 'who-needs-you' game, and now after reading in your further posts how you told him to get lost once too often right before he went off with her, what he then did doesn't seem so extremely weird anymore, at least to me. It might just have been a sort of rebound thingy. Looking at the charts you posted over in IA it seems he's about 10 years younger than you are, which will doubtlessly add to his insecurity (because as a Cappy Mooner he likes emotionally mature, wise, chronologically older women and you might therefore be someone he's in awe of). If he interpreted your actions as a rejection/break-off, then in my opinion what followed was dumb on his part, but not that malicious...also, his letter to you indeed sounded sincere.
Let it cool off for some time, and if and when you reconnect, I would recommend to be more open and honest with him in the future regardless of how he behaves. Tell him what you want, but also tell him you like him. It's a major leap of faith no doubt but you're not gonna die from it even if he doesn't reciprocate in kind... but it would clear the air and make a real relationship possible. There's no true intimacy without honesty and you will have to risk it I'm afraid. Your Pisces Moon is much more able to make that first step than his Cappy Moon.
Yes, we are both experts at playing the "who needs you" game. One thing I have been thinking about is how when I usually do certain actions in relationships, the man chases after me / is open with his feelings and he is the one who makes most of the effort initially to "open up" and I then follow once I feel he is suitably infatuated. I can see this is not a male / female thing but more a Scorpio fear/ ego thing where we are afraid to let go until we feel safe.
Yes, he is 10 years younger. The first younger person I have ever been with and I am sure that also plays a part in all this. Him perhaps being in a place to enjoy new experiences and me having done all that and put it behind me already.
I agree, in this situation I will have to take a leap of faith...and I will do it...but I feel some time apart might press the "reset button" a little if this makes sense.
If we take the other woman out of the equation, we were both messing up / sabotaging this relationship and he was consistently chasing me over such a long period of time I am sure I didnt do his ego much good.
I know I have to be more open in future..his Capricorn moon sometimes makes him feel very cold in his communication.
Lindaland
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posted December 23, 2015 08:22 PM