posted January 12, 2016 07:43 AM            

I have jupiter in aquarius in 11th, moon conjunct uranus in 7th. ascendant conjunct chiron in 1st house in gemini in opposition to saturn (end of 6th house).

posted January 12, 2016 08:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
You can do it! Make that extra effort even if it does feel forced! What are they going to say "stop" ??? MAYBE just maybe they will see that you really want to hang out with them and give in. You should message 10 acquaintences, on Facebook, and ask them all to hang out. One of them is bound to respond. Just write the same message for each. Copy and paste. The first few times hanging out will be weird. And uncomfortable . And awkward. But after that you will enjoy yourself and feel like you have more support.

Also I recommend getting a dog. If you are home a lot and want a friend this is your best bet. Dogs love anybody and you can pick your favorite one at an animal shelter and that will be your company.

Edit: you may feel like you don't need to because your comfortable with being alone now. But the truth it's unhealthy to be alone all the time. So take my advice for yourself

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It's just that finding people I actually like tends to be a frustrating process. It's even harder to find people that return my desire for friendship. I admit I'm kind of lost in the department of how to make friends in the first place.

Although I wouldn't rush it, I can't get past the 'stranger' stage with many people. So, indeed, my attempts at opening my social opportunities haven't been the absolute greatest. As I said though, I am definitely still trying.

However, for the most part, I don't use Facebook. I am required to use my real name on there and it's uncomfortable for me to do that. I'd much rather be able to use any name I want on the websites I sign up on. So, I haven't added anyone to Facebook in probably months.

posted January 12, 2016 10:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Lerena:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
[b] You can do it! Make that extra effort even if it does feel forced! What are they going to say "stop" ??? MAYBE just maybe they will see that you really want to hang out with them and give in. You should message 10 acquaintences, on Facebook, and ask them all to hang out. One of them is bound to respond. Just write the same message for each. Copy and paste. The first few times hanging out will be weird. And uncomfortable . And awkward. But after that you will enjoy yourself and feel like you have more support.

Also I recommend getting a dog. If you are home a lot and want a friend this is your best bet. Dogs love anybody and you can pick your favorite one at an animal shelter and that will be your company.

Edit: you may feel like you don't need to because your comfortable with being alone now. But the truth it's unhealthy to be alone all the time. So take my advice for yourself

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It's just that finding people I actually like tends to be a frustrating process. It's even harder to find people that return my desire for friendship. I admit I'm kind of lost in the department of how to make friends in the first place.

Although I wouldn't rush it, I can't get past the 'stranger' stage with many people. So, indeed, my attempts at opening my social opportunities haven't been the absolute greatest. As I said though, I am definitely still trying.

However, for the most part, I don't use Facebook. I am required to use my real name on there and it's uncomfortable for me to do that. I'd much rather be able to use any name I want on the websites I sign up on. So, I haven't added anyone to Facebook in probably months.

On the other hand, it's pretty simple to take your advice on other websites I use. I just have to get past the awkward introduction phase.[/B][/QUOTE]

You should lower your standards when it comes to friends.

Here's what I told my friend to do. She's in college and sort of shy. I told her whoever seems nice or is sitting next to you, ask them questions like about the assignment or the date. ANYTHING. Do this a few times a week ... Then after they answer your questions try to talk a little bit "lovely weather out"
THATS ALL
then the next day when and if you see them walking wave to them or say hey!

then they will wave back and want to talk to you more
This is the hard part but you have to ask for their number to text them or their email (if they use that)

But yeah, you got this. Like I said it's uncomfortable territory but so is anything at first...

posted January 12, 2016 10:47 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I am really lonely because of it, unfortunately, but I don't know how much of a difference it would make for me now. After the past four years of being hurt specifically by family (my sister was my only in-person friend), I feel/felt afraid to meet online friends, in case they didn't like me in person, and also because I was more stressed out than ever. I've been really depressed over everything. It was hard enough getting over what happened in school - the bullying, moving around and being taken away from friends.

My Sun is in the 6th house. Saturn in the 9th, square Jupiter, Pluto (11th or 12th house), and Mercury. I woke up wondering where a good friend is, if she's okay, if I've been ditched as a friend... the usual.

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posted January 12, 2016 12:22 PM            

I get very anxious every time I'm in a place with people I don't know very much, like birthday parties and such.

Also, in my mind, I feel that I'm too good for most people, that they're not worthy of know me, which I know is ridiculous, but those thoughts come to my mind very often. I really dislike mediocrity and ignorance, and I'm surrounded by both. I think my Sun and Jupiter have something to do with this part of my personality

posted January 12, 2016 01:20 PM            

I really get bored with mundane small talk.
And you need a lot of that to have friends.

I do try now and then. But its not consistent.

Harsh aspects to the Moon/Mercury can suggest a sort of "ejection" from self and perhaps the immediate environment.

Such an individual may in turn feel lonely even in the midst of company. Or prefer to keep external company limited.

I don't mean to be mean, but I really don't find most people interesting. When am drunk, my tendency to harshly judge others relaxes.

But even with this, I don't want to spend too much time with people. I don't need people to re-charge. And I think that this is mostly because I am introverted.

posted January 12, 2016 01:29 PM              

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Originally posted by teasel:
I am really lonely because of it, unfortunately, but I don't know how much of a difference it would make for me now. After the past four years of being hurt specifically by family (my sister was my only in-person friend), I feel/felt afraid to meet online friends, in case they didn't like me in person, and also because I was more stressed out than ever. I've been really depressed over everything. It was hard enough getting over what happened in school - the bullying, moving around and being taken away from friends.

My Sun is in the 6th house. Saturn in the 9th, square Jupiter, Pluto (11th or 12th house), and Mercury. I woke up wondering where a good friend is, if she's okay, if I've been ditched as a friend... the usual.

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I agree with what DS said.

Don't worry, it's not you. It's just that the things that don't hold up in our life have to fall apart. Friends who ditch you don't deserve to be called friends anyway. There's always a lesson in the bad experiences.

Look at it this way - those things happened to you, but you survived. Really, really concentrate on that fact. And the meaning blossoms. You don't need to worry about the wrong people anymore. The wrong ones won't stick, the right ones will come in due time.

posted January 12, 2016 02:48 PM              

My friendships end if I become distant (usually from their inability to keep me mentally/spiritually
stimulated) or if the male ones fall in love with me and I don't feel the same. I never have friendships just for the sake of it, they r selected carefully and with reason. Otherwise I feel other ppl are preventing me from creating and studying with their existence in my vicinity. Funny thing is Im a a better "friend" to ppl than their actual friends without even considering them my friend. I will help u with anything just don't ask me to go to the movies with u if I haven't picked u, I'll just give u the movie money so u can go.

posted January 12, 2016 03:14 PM            

Try going out without them and they'll wait up for me and give me the third degree, asking questions that are none of their business.

I try to be a loner, but they won't let me.

sometime I just want some

posted January 12, 2016 08:27 PM            

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Originally posted by LittleBlackCat:
I literally have 0 friends. ZERO. I am a loner and I rarely get lonely, and when I do it is not a friend that I desire. If I have to socialize too much I quickly become drained and must return to solitude. I am naturally this way and it has to do with a strong disdain for having my time wasted. Ppl tend to talk about nothingness and do dumb activities. The person has to fit a certain criteria for me to befriend them. So I may pick one friend at a time years apart. When this happens I show them my carefully guarded but completely fascinating world and they are always amazed and we have TONS of adventures. Vain as it may seem I feel I have a lot to offer and not just any person is allowed to experience it. I'd rather die totally alone first, which wouldn't even bother me tbh.

My friendships end if I become distant (usually from their inability to keep me mentally/spiritually
stimulated) or if the male ones fall in love with me and I don't feel the same. I never have friendships just for the sake of it, they r selected carefully and with reason. Otherwise I feel other ppl are preventing me from creating and studying with their existence in my vicinity. Funny thing is Im a a better "friend" to ppl than their actual friends without even considering them my friend. I will help u with anything just don't ask me to go to the movies with u if I haven't picked u, I'll just give u the movie money so u can go.

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posted January 12, 2016 08:33 PM            

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posted January 13, 2016 05:05 AM              

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Originally posted by Geminiyoungster:
I'm noticing a pattern with 11th house placements that we can be natual loners? Is it the aqua influences that makes us different..

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Hmmm...isnt' Aqua social though? The 11th house of friends, groups, and activism? I don't have any of those influences besides my 8th house Gemini Moon being in the Aqua decan. Actually I am Moon and Mars in Gemini yet I'm a loner who likes solitude lol

posted January 13, 2016 06:46 AM            

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Originally posted by LittleBlackCat:
I literally have 0 friends. ZERO. I am a loner and I rarely get lonely, and when I do it is not a friend that I desire. If I have to socialize too much I quickly become drained and must return to solitude. I am naturally this way and it has to do with a strong disdain for having my time wasted. Ppl tend to talk about nothingness and do dumb activities. The person has to fit a certain criteria for me to befriend them. So I may pick one friend at a time years apart. When this happens I show them my carefully guarded but completely fascinating world and they are always amazed and we have TONS of adventures. Vain as it may seem I feel I have a lot to offer and not just any person is allowed to experience it. I'd rather die totally alone first, which wouldn't even bother me tbh.

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Yes. I am quite similar and also to what violets said.
The time wasting thing must be a mercury/Gemini/Virgo thing. LOL
Last night I got a call about someone stranded because their battery was dead in this cold we're having. They were quite upset. I literally told them, "Well I don't want to waste time being upset about it. Let's just get going on taking care of it."
Which they take as dismissing their feelings and maybe that is true. I just think, "we can moan for 15 minutes and then fix the problem or we can just fix the problem now and move on." Especially as I knew it was simple to resolve. I do complain and carry on when it comes to work because I don't have a choice but to follow other people's stupid ideas. Sounds off topic but that could contribute to my lack of conventional friendships. I know what I like and don't like to do. Most don't feel the same so I do what I like, alone.

posted January 13, 2016 09:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Harsh aspects to the Moon/Mercury can suggest a sort of "ejection" from self and perhaps the immediate environment.

Such an individual may in turn feel lonely even in the midst of company. Or prefer to keep external company limited.

I don't mean to be mean, but I really don't find most people interesting.

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My Moon opposites Mercury, and I totally agree with what you said.

posted May 06, 2019 08:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminiyoungster:
Or people that just come and go? And if you do what's your major placements and the sign they fall in?

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