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Geminiyoungster
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posted January 11, 2016 03:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geminiyoungster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Or people that just come and go? And if you do what's your major placements and the sign they fall in?

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posted January 11, 2016 05:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScorpAqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a Scorpio sun and Aquarian moon. Gemini rising, Venus in Sag and Mars in Aries. My moon conjuncts Jupiter and trines Pluto. I'm a loner and don't tend to get lonely. I like to be left alone. I don't immediately desire a relationship (Venus in the 7th) but if it happens, it happens. My Facebook friend list is limited and I am unconcerned about this.

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posted January 11, 2016 06:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Southern Sun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My physical friends have always come and go, and the handful that are still around are on the other side of the country. Most of my every day interactions are with people through the internet, because we all live in different countries. I also moved a lot, and have always been a lone wolf type.

I've always had a problem with holding onto friends... Kinda compared it to picking up handfuls of sand. Eventually I get tired and drop it. But some rocks stubbornly refuse to fall... They are the 3 men who have stuck with me for over a decade now.

Placements? Moon in Sagittarius, Uranus on my ASC, Pluto in 11th, and maybe Venus in 9th widely squaring Uranus.

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posted January 11, 2016 06:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StubbornVirgo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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Desiring Shadows
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posted January 11, 2016 07:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'll be youre guys' friend!!
Tbh if you feel like the only friends you have are internet friends and they aren't completely real friendships, you can make them real. Call them up on the phone or video chat them. It's dangerous but atleast you know what you're getting yourself into. And it will become more real.. Then as you have weened yourself into the "real friendship" mode, you can meet people in your area and develop from there..!

I have had no friends at one point and now I have a lot of friends. I wasn't mentally well at that time so like I would dissect what people say and it led to problems...
Long story short, everyone has got to start somewhere!!

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posted January 11, 2016 08:03 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I also have 11H Saturn, and my friends are very limited. I don't tolerate drama or insincerity, and a lot of people don't tolerate my eccentricity, so...

Also, I don't like to be bothered a lot of the time. I kind of enjoy being by myself. I often become good friends with people I work with, because there is zero effort required to hang out, lol.

Most of my friends I have either met while in school, or were coworkers at one time. And I basically never hang out with any of them anymore.

That's part of the reason that it's so important for me to have coworkers I get along with. I often use work as my social outlet, because I'm already there, and we usually care about the same issues.

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posted January 11, 2016 09:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geminiyoungster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm noticing a pattern with 11th house placements that we can be natual loners? Is it the aqua influences that makes us different..

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posted January 11, 2016 10:24 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Geminiyoungster:
I'm noticing a pattern with 11th house placements that we can be natual loners? Is it the aqua influences that makes us different..

I think that contributes to it a bit (I have Aqua Mercury conjunct Dsc). I also have Uranus conjunct IC (so opposite MC), and I think that also causes me to come across as a bit weird, if people aren't accustomed to stepping outside their personal confines.

With my Mercury I also *need* to communicate with people. But the best and easiest way for me to do that is with people I work with, for the reasons I mentioned. If I work with d!cks, I usually won't stay.

But yeah, H11 is a definite player, I think. And Uranus/Aquarius, also.

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posted January 11, 2016 12:47 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I agree that House 11 is a big factor here.

I too have Saturn in the 11th. Hate superficiality in my interactions with people. I need friendships that are meaningful. That can go the distance. That have some substance.

^ Needless to say, these are not the makings of a life-of-the-party person.

I greatly value alone time. Yes, sometimes it gets a little too lonely. But you can't have everything, eh?

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posted January 11, 2016 01:10 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Me, very limited. But once I do make a friend they are in my life for the long haul and I'm quite fun and over protective of the ones I have. Leo 11th house Cusp its ruler in the 12th...strangely enough most of my friends are males, idk what it is about male company but we vibe better, that and I have male hobbies. Limited female friends BUT all of them are awesome.

Me: "who hurt you?!"
Friend: "so and so I feel so and so"
Me: :O *hugs* "don't worry we are gonna get them back so bad, they're gonna wish they never existed" (that's gotta be, mercury pluto conjunct in my 1st house)

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posted January 11, 2016 02:07 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
While I had a social life before I settled down to start a family, I still really enjoyed my personal time to myself, and just vegging out in my apartment.

And usually it was with a group of people who were eclectic and non-judgmental. Those are basically the only groups I can stand to be a part of, at any rate.

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posted January 11, 2016 02:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lerena     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My friends tend to come and go. I've had no friends in real life for over a decade now. It used to be painful existing without friends, but I think I've adjusted fairly well to it now that my mind is more open to experiences. Although I don't have many friends, I am trying to expand my social opportunities. I'm not doing a very good job. I have no idea where to look. Still, I'm continuing to try.

My placements:
Virgo in 11th house
Scorpio in 1st house

I don't know much about which placements signify a limited amount of friends. At one point, I had a lot of friends and then they all got lives and I was left behind.

Edit: I'm not actually lonely anymore. For the longest time, however, I was lonely and I felt like just existing was a burden. That has changed. I'm doing just fine now. I could use more friends, but I'm not going to force it to happen. I like to let things develop naturally.

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posted January 11, 2016 02:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geeky     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If I really think about, the people I talk to the most and would do anything for aren't really my friends.

They wouldn't drive 20 miles out to see me, I always have to go to them. I always listen to their problems and feel like I have to constantly 'talk them off the ledge' but no one was around when I was depressed and suffering. When they need financial help, I help, but I bet in reverse nope...

I am that friend that gets called all hours for help but no one ever calls me just to say "hi, I was thinking about you, how are you?"

I reached out to a couple of people last night after the death of David Bowie just to say something like "hey friend, love you" but they were focused on how sad it was (understandably) and did not reciprocate my affection in the "friendship" and these are people who say I am their best friend.

I have nothing in my 11th house so ???

Cancer is the ruler and my Moon is conjunct Neptune, so maybe that's what causes this. I'm not sure but I am 37 and have always felt taken advantage of or taken for granted.

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posted January 11, 2016 03:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Me. The ones I do have are in different States, and even different countries. My school friends, or family and family friends.

I would love to have local friends, but I also need a certain amount of time to myself - more than I used to. I like going to a few different places, like the library and bookstores, because I'm a "regular".

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posted January 11, 2016 03:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Okay, that's it. Everyone here be my friend!!

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posted January 11, 2016 03:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Elysia:
I agree that House 11 is a big factor here.

I too have Saturn in the 11th. Hate superficiality in my interactions with people. I need friendships that are meaningful. That can go the distance. That have some substance.

^ Needless to say, these are not the makings of a life-of-the-party person.

I greatly value alone time. Yes, sometimes it gets a little too lonely. But you can't have everything, eh?


My son has Saturn in the 11th, too, E. groups are very hard for him. Are they for you?

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posted January 11, 2016 03:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Lerena:
My friends tend to come and go. I've had no friends in real life for over a decade now. It used to be painful existing without friends, but I think I've adjusted fairly well to it now that my mind is more open to experiences. Although I don't have many friends, I am trying to expand my social opportunities. I'm not doing a very good job. I have no idea where to look. Still, I'm continuing to try.

My placements:
Virgo in 11th house
Scorpio in 1st house

I don't know much about which placements signify a limited amount of friends. At one point, I had a lot of friends and then they all got lives and I was left behind.

[b]Edit: I'm not actually lonely anymore. For the longest time, however, I was lonely and I felt like just existing was a burden. That has changed. I'm doing just fine now. I could use more friends, but I'm not going to force it to happen. I like to let things develop naturally.[/B]


You can do it! Make that extra effort even if it does feel forced! What are they going to say "stop" ??? MAYBE just maybe they will see that you really want to hang out with them and give in. You should message 10 acquaintences, on Facebook, and ask them all to hang out. One of them is bound to respond. Just write the same message for each. Copy and paste. The first few times hanging out will be weird. And uncomfortable . And awkward. But after that you will enjoy yourself and feel like you have more support.

Also I recommend getting a dog. If you are home a lot and want a friend this is your best bet. Dogs love anybody and you can pick your favorite one at an animal shelter and that will be your company.

Edit: you may feel like you don't need to because your comfortable with being alone now. But the truth it's unhealthy to be alone all the time. So take my advice for yourself

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posted January 11, 2016 03:52 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
My son has Saturn in the 11th, too, E. groups are very hard for him. Are they for you?


Well, yes and no... Depends on the kind of group.

Generally speaking: I can blend in and pretend and be real fun. But if there's no connect, I won't enjoy it. People may or may not sense it, though..

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
Okay, that's it. Everyone here be my friend!!

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posted January 11, 2016 04:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted January 11, 2016 05:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieMG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Me, I don't have a single friend in real life and much less online, I have some online acquaintances due to my work, but nothing too great, it has been like this since 9 years IIRC, after High School.
Why? I don't know, I think I'm not a people person, I didn't have a chance to meet people according to my standards, that shares similar interests and values, a few years ago I met a nice girl that tried to make me part of her life but I managed to disappear, I think I didn't like her other friends, but I didn't try to fit either.
Does this affect me? Not really, I'm a loner and I don't suffer because of this, I like to be free of birthdays, baby showers, weddings and that kind of compromises. I'm happy with Netflix or a good book.
Luckily, I can count with my boyfriend (who has only one friend, my stepfather) and my family.

Not sure what positions are relevant for this matter so I post my birth chart, do you think my empty 11th house has something to do with this? I think my Venus Virgo makes me very picky, and my Capri Moon doesn't help.

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posted January 11, 2016 11:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geeky     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PixieMG:

Does this affect me? Not really, I'm a loner and I don't suffer because of this, I like to be free of birthdays, baby showers, weddings and that kind of compromises. I'm happy with Netflix or a good book.

I'm so with you there.

Any time I've been to a baby shower, birthday, etc. (usually with a significant other) it's either been extremely boring or stressful.

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posted January 12, 2016 01:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StubbornVirgo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted January 12, 2016 01:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ReadingTheStars95     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm curious.. How many of you that said don't have friends in real life (or few of them) have Saturn in the 6th house?

I've heard this can attribute to solitude, and a lot of alone time. Not certain how. I have this placment. At this point in time, I'd say I have one or two close friends outside of online friends. My closest friend I had up until a few years ago moved away for college, and now when he comes home, we barely ever see each other.

I don't think it really helped that I didn't have a cell phone while in highschool.. Nowadays with kids depending so much on technology, it can almost be hard to reach them without one. (I Graduated 2014)

I have Mars in Leo in the 11th.. So, generally, in public and school I would always be talking to a lot of different people.. But, I've lost contact with most of them.

I like alone time, to a certain degree. But, these days I'm completely alone literally like 83% of the time (I did the math.) it can be kind of lonely.

And, I really don't like facebook, so, that is probably a bit of an obstacle in getting in touch with old friends

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posted January 12, 2016 06:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geeky     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have nothing in H6 and oddly, I have a stellium in H3.

I guess I like to talk and communicate but with very few (select) people.

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