posted October 26, 2016 08:06 PM            

State your asc, mercury and moon signs too.

posted October 26, 2016 08:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Sulkyarcher:
I'm not black, but it angers me when people judge people by how they look, on the outside. Or judge people harshly.

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posted October 26, 2016 08:31 PM            

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Originally posted by CosmiqPhuz:
I wish I had a fro. They're most likely just jealous.

I get treated differently when I have long hair as opposed to when I have my hair short. People are judgmental.

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posted October 26, 2016 08:33 PM            

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Originally posted by CosmiqPhuz:
I wish I had a fro. They're most likely just jealous.

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I love them, too.

posted October 26, 2016 08:35 PM            

I don't have a birthdate for her, but here is Walida Imarisha.

If you got it wear it big

posted October 26, 2016 10:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
I love them, too.

They make me happy.

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posted October 26, 2016 10:11 PM            

You whould be better of doing a location chart to determine which places whould view it as inappropriate.

My theory is the overall views and beliefs of people located in an area are reflected in the location chart, otherwise they whouldn't live there.

I'm not female, I think afros are pretty cool I connect it to culture.

Problem is where I live now there isn't culture.

So the people aren't as open,

Back where I was originally from the people whould put a lot of effort into black history and even the holocaust.

Not here...I'm only here for another 10 months max then I go back to where I'm originally from.

posted October 26, 2016 10:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
So did you send off for your birth certificate and get a time that changed it to Gemini? Seems like I missed something.

I don't have a birthdate for her, but here is Walida Imarisha.

If you got it wear it big

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Tbh i am still not quite sure I have been meaning to talk to you about it though.

posted October 26, 2016 10:41 PM            

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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Not really, but mine is short. I idolize big ones, though. Very beautiful.

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posted October 26, 2016 10:58 PM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
I think it has to do more with location.

You whould be better of doing a location chart to determine which places whould view it as inappropriate.

My theory is the overall views and beliefs of people located in an area are reflected in the location chart, otherwise they whouldn't live there.

I'm not female, I think afros are pretty cool I connect it to culture.

Problem is where I live now there isn't culture.

So the people aren't as open,

Back where I was originally from the people whould put a lot of effort into black history and even the holocaust.

Not here...I'm only here for another 10 months max then I go back to where I'm originally from.

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Gemini Sun,
Capricorn Rising
Aries Moon
Gemini Mercury
Venus Taurus
Mars Cancer

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posted October 26, 2016 11:17 PM            

Unfortunately, good will and hair acceptance doesn't work in the corporate world, so I must either buzz it down or straighten it with an iron

posted October 26, 2016 11:21 PM            

Hell, you can walk around with a rainbow afro in a mismatched robe and bathroom slippers if you want. Your choice.

If you stop to think about these sorts of shallow reasons people judge you, then you'll get frustrated real soon. People will judge you even if you are damn near "perfect" by society's standards. so what's the point (of being affected by it)?

See the tabloids. See how they tear into celebrities and split hairs over the tiniest perceived imperfections.

posted October 26, 2016 11:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Southern Sun:

Unfortunately, good will and hair acceptance doesn't work in the corporate world, so I must either buzz it down or straighten it with an iron

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posted October 26, 2016 11:28 PM            

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Originally posted by headintheclouds91:

Hehe afro is work though but it is very nice to touch Very pillowy hehe. Yep some people are very judgmental. Just keep your hair long it looks nice and cute on you.

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Thanks pretty lady!

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Originally posted by Faith:
I love them, too.

They make me happy.

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posted October 27, 2016 06:12 AM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Inappropriate? Who is it harming anyway?
IMO, don't mind the folks who think it's "crazy" to walk around with your natural hair. That's just silly.

Hell, you can walk around with a rainbow afro in a mismatched robe and bathroom slippers if you want. Your choice.

If you stop to think about these sorts of shallow reasons people judge you, then you'll get frustrated real soon. People will judge you even if you are damn near "perfect" by society's standards. so what's the point (of being affected by it)?

See the tabloids. See how they tear into celebrities and split hairs over the tiniest perceived imperfections.

Literally anything,even the most seemingly inoffensive thing can be "inappropriate/weird/crazy" to anyone, depending on their perspective. The same thing can be divinely beautiful to someone else. Who's to say how your appearance affects all those different kinds of people? Who's to say it even matters...?

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Thanks for explaining my thoughts so well.
Seriously. I think the same way but was too lazy to type it out.

posted October 27, 2016 08:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Southern Sun:
No, not at all and it doesn't affect me if they do think it's inappropriate. This is me and mine, and I will not damage my hair just so I look more "acceptable". It's just how my hair DNA turned out to be.

Unfortunately, good will and hair acceptance doesn't work in the corporate world, so I must either buzz it down or straighten it with an iron

One thing I do notice is that people tend to... Turn my hair into some fascinating yhing. My Leo self likes the attention but deep down it feels like a person wearing natural hair is a novelty rather than a normal thing to some folks.

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posted October 27, 2016 08:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
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If you stop to think about these sorts of shallow reasons people judge you, then you'll get frustrated real soon. People will judge you even if you are damn near "perfect" by society's standards. so what's the point (of being affected by it)?

See the tabloids. See how they tear into celebrities and split hairs over the tiniest perceived imperfections.

Literally anything,even the most seemingly inoffensive thing can be "inappropriate/weird/crazy" to anyone, depending on their perspective. The same thing can be divinely beautiful to someone else. Who's to say how your appearance affects all those different kinds of people? Who's to say it even matters...? [/B]

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posted October 27, 2016 08:44 AM            

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Originally posted by Gracha:
I believe it's because of the media and current social movements right now. Years ago like 8 lol I'd wear my fro and get lots of compliments and interesting looks. Today I'm sure itd be different.

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posted October 27, 2016 08:52 AM            

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Originally posted by headintheclouds91:
It matters to me and thounsends of other black girls that experience s.h.i.t like this just for looking like their natural self. Somewhere out there is a young black girl that thinks its something "wrong" with her bc of her skin color and her non white hair and s.h.i.t like that needs to stop. White isn`t the only "acceptable" way of looking and people need to get that through their thick ass sculls.

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Well out there I'm sure that there are people who don't like me because I'm white or that I have a beard and look like a caveman. S**t happens.
I think the point was that no matter how determined you are (anyone) you will NEVER EVER change everyone's perception of you. It'll never happen.
So the more productive and less fruitless path to take is this approach. Because wanting to change perception is nearly impossible.
If someone is racist, being angry with them almost certainly reinforces that racism and I wish people could understand that.
If you love and are confident in yourself despite these things that you complain about then I think you'll be more likely to truly get what you're wanting.
I've lived with this within my own family. I'm very aware of what kinds of actions create other reactions.