posted May 13, 2021 05:07 PM            

i did a quick one for clarity and the same stuff came up

he's basically learning how to deal with his emotional immaturity and ego, and when he balances that **** out he's probably going to want to talk about having a more serious future with you

posted May 14, 2021 12:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

i did a quick one for clarity and the same stuff came up

he's basically learning how to deal with his emotional immaturity and ego, and when he balances that **** out he's probably going to want to talk about having a more serious future with you

family, marriage etc

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Hikaru29,
I want to apologise for hacking your thread. I hope you do not mind this small request for Dumuzi.

Dumuzi, I am a member of the board and, my partner and I are having difficulties. We are getting married. I have a thread under interpersonal astrology called Desperate Help! Close to marriage but we are fighting! (http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/011055.html)

Would you please, please do a reading? Right now, we are not talking. I asked for space. We love each other so much but, I am not sure if it is enough.

I would really appreciate it. Deep down, I think everything will be alright but, any insight helps.

posted May 14, 2021 12:15 PM            

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Originally posted by chocogold:
Hikaru29,
I want to apologise for hacking your thread. I hope you do not mind this small request for Dumuzi.

Dumuzi, I am a member of the board and, my partner and I are having difficulties. We are getting married. I have a thread under interpersonal astrology called Desperate Help! Close to marriage but we are fighting! (http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/011055.html)

Would you please, please do a reading? Right now, we are not talking. I asked for space. We love each other so much but, I am not sure if it is enough.

I would really appreciate it. Deep down, I think everything will be alright but, any insight helps.

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posted May 14, 2021 12:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
What do you mean Gemini play mind games? I don’t do that (Gemini ASC/Venus here), haha 😅 Actually Geminis can be rather insecure as we think too much. .

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
My guy has Virgo Mercury sextile Mars/Jupiter/Uranus square Neptune. He can get long-winded and asks me the same qn a few times or he will talk about 5 different things when his focus is really only on 2 things. He says he wants to see if my answer would be consistent. This annoys me as when I give an answer, that’s my answer so why does he have to reaffirm? So I’d sometimes change my answers to annoy him (lol). He then says I’m not consistent and I’m lying etc. 🤦🏻‍♀️

My Taurus Mercury is sextile Saturn quincunx Moon. My communication is direct and straightforward. I seldom beat about the bush unless I’m shy to ask about something. When people get long-winded with me I’ll ask them to get to the point. Because of this I’m good at filtering out clutter to get the information that really matters. I read that Moon-Mercury can make one intuitive which is likely considering my Mercury in 12H and my Moon is conjunct Neptune, so my thoughts are connected to what I intuitively feel as well, not entirely based on presented facts so when I say something and people ask me why I say this I sometimes can’t explain. 🤷🏻‍♀️ This sometimes annoys my guy because he thinks I’m plucking things out of thin air.

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Wow, he could make a good interrogator. I can imagine how annoying it could be. I mostly get long-winded emotionally people. It might be interesting to try logical ones for change. However, I need to be careful what I’m asking for...😊

posted May 15, 2021 06:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
admittedly sometimes i feel like i need to talk forever about something, but only if it's something major otherwise i'd rather just chill

i can find a middle ground though with things if i want to talk and someone doesn't because i know in a relationship that's serious there's time to have those conversations still doesn't have to happen right away

i'm a leo mercury

i get being uncomfortable, i hate having things not settled, but i do also stand by what i said before about fights sometimes being positive, partially because it means you both care enough to argue over something (lack of fighting can be a worse sign) and partially because it can uncover some stuff

i don't know what the fight was about so i don't want to pry since you didn't mention the content of it too much only the end result, but sometimes fights also help us reevaluate and come together so can a little while apart.

i get being anxious though... is it a situation where you can reach out first? i know sometimes being the one to walk away means it has to be on them to reach out, but if not maybe you should

he has issues with feeling wanted so he may be anxious given how it went

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It’s nothing P&C, I just didn’t wanna get long-winded, that’s all, haha.. it’s actually him asking me for opinion on his shop design. We’d already agreed on a design but he came up with another idea (as always). Halfway through the discussion he suddenly got annoyed and said I talked like I knew things even though I didn’t and he said he felt irritated. I was insulted as I was genuinely trying to help, that’s when I told him not to see me again since he finds me so irritating. I was hurt. Two days later he text me and we reconciled. The funny thing is he told me he actually agreed with what I said, just that he was trying to explore all options, which is not wrong just that I saw it straight away but he felt the need to explore all possible options under the Sun. In fact this has often been a test on our relationship, like I instantly know what I want but he would wanna discuss several different options, even the most absurd ones...and that always annoys me and I’ll cut him off and then he gets annoyed at me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

posted May 15, 2021 08:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
It’s nothing P&C, I just didn’t wanna get long-winded, that’s all, haha.. it’s actually him asking me for opinion on his shop design. We’d already agreed on a design but he came up with another idea (as always). Halfway through the discussion he suddenly got annoyed and said I talked like I knew things even though I didn’t and he said he felt irritated. I was insulted as I was genuinely trying to help, that’s when I told him not to see me again since he finds me so irritating. I was hurt. Two days later he text me and we reconciled. The funny thing is he told me he actually agreed with what I said, just that he was trying to explore all options, which is not wrong just that I saw it straight away but he felt the need to explore all possible options under the Sun. In fact this has often been a test on our relationship, like I instantly know what I want but he would wanna discuss several different options, even the most absurd ones...and that always annoys me and I’ll cut him off and then he gets annoyed at me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thanks for pulling another deck for us. 😉 Where do you see the possibility of marriage/family? Is it the hierophant card and 2 of cups? Do you see when this might happen?

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no problem, i figured it'd add more or you'd at least get to see how it turns up equivalent on a later day

hierophant and 2 of cups yeah, 2 of cups is a love card (can be friends too or "soulmates" depends on how it vibes but hierophant can be marriage so together strong indicator)

i'm absolute **** at timing 🤷‍♀️ i've had things happen a year later things happen same day etc i really can't tell you, i could mask my inability and tell you "divine timing" though, so we'll go with that 😉

lol that's virgo mercury for you tbh, just have to resign yourself to it, he can't change that

yesterday a friend of mine with virgo mercury conjunct moon (he's a scorpio ascendant libra sun/venus) called because i said i was sad and he wanted to distract me/cheer me up (i like that they can understand not wanting to discuss feelings, can give that to them lol)

we were talking about stuff and i told him about some **** that happened at my last job, and he started asking all these unrelated questions "well what were the rooms like" "describe this to me" "describe that" etc and so on like i was supposed to tell him a novella length story about it

later on he was telling me about how he dislikes nonspecific language and was going on about coding needing to be very precise (he's really into computers), comparing the two and i told him it sounds like he has virgo mercury problems

he asked me what i meant (he's interested in this sort of thing but doesn't know it himself) and i told him about the 5 minute discussion turning into 10 hours of semantics and questions thing and he laughed and just said "like when you told your story and i asked all those questions?" and then continued to ask a million questions about the placements and why one system is based on seasons and the other one is based on stars and who decided on the math for that etc etc etc lol

he's a lot of fun, but i also know that's going to come with it, though i did appreciate the endless question distraction yesterday so there's that

posted May 16, 2021 01:21 AM            

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we were talking about stuff and i told him about some **** that happened at my last job, and he started asking all these unrelated questions "well what were the rooms like" "describe this to me" "describe that" etc and so on like i was supposed to tell him a novella length story about it

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lol this sounds exactly like my guy! He would also ask me irrelevant qns when I’m trying to tell him a story and I always get irritated, then he wonders why I’m so ****** off. 😩😆 We have Mercury in trine signs and Mercury trine Sun DW so we have good mental rapport but we also have his Saturn square my Mercury and I think this is what it’s showing.

Is it a coincidence that my guy is also into computers? Haha... In fact, his previous job involves IT solutions.

posted May 16, 2021 07:30 AM            

i can find it a bit headache inducing but when someone knows they're like that and can laugh at themselves it isn't too bad

a lot of virgo mercuries seem to be drawn to stuff like that, i think because it's tedious and precise lol

though another virgo mercury guy i know (his sun is in virgo too, taurus moon, sag mars, libra venus ??? ascendant) isn't like that really

can be a bit rigid and likes routine and gets anxious/stressed when things aren't "right") but he doesn't ask millions of questions

his taurus moon shows a lot though he's always talking about his investments and so on

both of them ask for readings on stocks/projects though, they have that in common

another virgo mercury friend and i i argue all the time because i feel like she can pry too much and it grates on me (she digs for really personal **** after like 20 years she finally is ok with giving me space ) is a scorpio moon, i think it must be the virgo mercury + scorpio combination that does it to such a large extent m

posted May 16, 2021 09:49 AM            

but there's a definite sense of feeling like she's strangling me when she asks a lot of questions that this guy doesn't give me

with him though i can joke and kind of write it off, with her there's genuine offense if i don't want to keep going and she makes me feel like she wants to devour my soul lol in the 20 years i've known her i've disappeared many times because of that

the other guy who doesn't really ask me questions like that has his mercury on my sun (his mercury is 4 degrees virgo my sun is 0 degrees virgo) and his mercury is trine neptune (couple years older than me so my sun is trine his neptune same as it's trine my own) so he tends to feel like he has a good understanding of me and i haven't had to answer endless questions