posted May 08, 2021 06:51 PM            

Today I got a interpretation that was oddly accurate but also encouraging! But also a bit discouraging at the same time. It's from an astrology app called the pattern. Somehow they knew I am dreaming of moving to a foreign country. I have been wanting to go to this specific country for years now, and all Ive been doing is procastinating. Mostly because I don't want to leave my mom behind.
But I finally decided on a more concrete plan to get there. Ive been working harder at it and my dream is to be there sometime next year if all goes well.

The pattern sent me this today:

but then they say I need to embrace this side of myself

I found the part about good opportunities coming to me, so encouraging but the rest put a damper on my mood.

There is one part where it tells me I need to embrace my independent self. Now granted I feel I am growing more independent mainly because I have to be if I want to prosper in a foreign country, however Im really tired of it saying I don't want close bonds or relationships.
It's good to be independent, but not wanting to commit or form strong bonds? Sounds sad.

I haven't been in one, but I feel like I do ultimately want one once I achieve what I want to do. But everything in astrology keeps telling me I won't commit. That worries me because I feel like it's saying I don't have the ability to commit.
I always fantasized about romance and all so for me to keep being told that I am too free spirited to be able to form a strong bond is discouraging. I want to be happy thinking that I might be able to achieve my goals, but what about commitment ?
I am going to be detached? Especially when there's a guy I like Im afraid once Im in a relationship I won't commit just like my chart keeps telling me. It definitely makes me feel alien not being able to form a bond. I can't be sure how Id be in a relationship either because I haven't been in one. I dont know.. I don't feel like I'm afraid of commitment. I do think I can be indpendent and spend a lot of alone time, but why is that always associated with being commitment phobe?

Am I not meant to ever have a loving and strong relationship?Am I unable to?
Or am I reading too much into these interpretations? I dont know sometimes I really hate having all this Aquarius 😭

What in my chart is indicating this non-committing don't want to be tied down girl they keep saying I am?

posted May 08, 2021 08:11 PM            

Ruler of the 7th house in the 1H also shows you put your relationship first that you are committed to and that this is important to you, ruler of the 7H conjuncts venus. I mean you are definitely a relationship person.

posted May 08, 2021 09:44 PM            

These push-notifications are generated by a 'machine'--
not a real Human.

You make your own interpretations.
A REAL human astrologer might give you a different picture, based on your chart 'as a whole', and, after meeting 'you' as a person.

No substitution for a competent experienced human astrologer, who knows "people."

posted May 10, 2021 01:54 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Mars in Libra conjunct Northnode in the 7TH I would say is interested in marriage and is destined to get married. Perhaps using Mars to be less shy about pursuing a relationship may help.

Ruler of the 7th house in the 1H also shows you put your relationship first that you are committed to and that this is important to you, ruler of the 7H conjuncts venus. I mean you are definitely a relationship person.

I am pretty sure you will settle down with someone and get married.

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posted May 10, 2021 03:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i don't see that in your chart, and being independent doesn't mean never forming close bonds with anyone just could mean something unconventional

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posted May 10, 2021 03:06 AM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
Sounds like the patriarchy ...
Separate the wheat from the chaff.
If it doesn't fit, it's not for you.

[b]These push-notifications are generated by a 'machine'--
not a real Human.

You make your own interpretations.
A REAL human astrologer might give you a different picture, based on your chart 'as a whole', and, after meeting 'you' as a person.

No substitution for a competent experienced human astrologer, who knows "people."

Machine-generated advice, is NOT the same.
It is a passive-income generator, a cash-cow.[/B]

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posted May 10, 2021 04:53 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
I have Moon conjunct Uranus exact in my 12H in Scorpio. I cannot commit. Doubtful I will. I've been telling my family I'll never marry. They never believed me until I became a spinister, lol.

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even with scorpio moon? wow are you more devoted to like spirituality or celibacy? with it being in the 12th house, I have mine in the 12th house too and I sometimes tell myself if I cant find my dream man I will become a monk lol
Whats the reason you cant commit?

posted May 10, 2021 05:23 AM            

If I'd have had a child when I wanted to, I'd be a single mother and misrable, suffering trying to make ends meet. Glad I'm not in that situation.

Many marriages are very unhappy. It's a tough trott. Most are complaining about their spouse.

At work recently, all the young ones in their 20s and 30s were just sitting around complaining about their relationship problems. Then they just looked at me and see how happy I am and were saying it's not fair that I'm happy and single. I was bragging about how awesome my happy single life is.

So much so, one of them came to work the next day saying she wants a divorce as I sold her on the single life .

I work with what life gives me. I focus on the things that I can change. I don't think anyone can change their relationship status from single into a relationship whenever a person wants.

People fall in and out of love frequently. I think real love is rare.

Most people say they generally fall in love unexpectedly but if I ever had any kind of romantic feeling toward a man ever again, I'd tell him to fu ck off in an instant. I know what as s holes they really are. And it's highly unlikely a man would ever really treat me well. A lot of women put up with a man's sh it, I am not one of those women!

Each to their own though. I'll never commit to a man. Why tf should I, as most men are liars and cheaters.

posted May 10, 2021 06:00 AM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
Even with moon conjunct uranus? All the descriptions people say about this aspect unfortunately says they don't like committing then add on it's in Aquarius. So many people describe it as erratic and afraid or unable to commit

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i have venus square mars and i've never cheated but people say that can indicate it, same with venus opposite moon (which i also have)

i have moon trine uranus and i was in a relationship for about half my life

commitment means different things to different people maybe you simply couldn't commit to a traditional relationship (which is generally what people writing these things are basing relationships on) and would need more distance and freedom etc

does this cheapen anything? no depending on the people involved

anyway you seem to be romanticizing the idea of commitment and not really putting yourself into a reality where you need to actually do it

perhaps you'd actually feel different if the opportunity arose or you tried it, seeing things through rose colored glasses while they're fantasy not reality is a lot easier than actually being in that position no?

you find the idea you won't have an illusion sad but if you were in that position would your needs truly be met? big difference

posted May 10, 2021 06:18 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
I don't think anyone can change their relationship status from single into a relationship whenever a person wants.

People fall in and out of love frequently. I think real love is rare.

Most people say they generally fall in love unexpectedly but if I ever had any kind of romantic feeling toward a man ever again, I'd tell him to fu ck off in an instant. I know what as s holes they really are. And it's highly unlikely a man would ever really treat me well. A lot of women put up with a man's sh it, I am not one of those women!

Each to their own though. I'll never commit to a man. Why tf should I, as most men are liars and cheaters.

I sleep peacefully every night knowing I'll never have my heart broken again, and that's probably what makes it so so easy to never commit to a man.

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can definitely change a relationship status from single to in a relationship whenever you want, it's really easy to do actually, literally just as simple as finding someone local and that's it (alternatively if you don't mind long distance it's even easier to find someone)

make an online dating thing, or do anything like that and there's always plenty of people around to date or go outside to places where you can meet people pretty immediately

would likely be settling and/or at the very least rushing something, but it is that easy, even not doing that staying single requires the effort of choice assuming you have people in your life in any capacity

it's not hard at all to find people who want to date quickly, i'm single currently by choice and if i wanted there's guys who would be down for more and if i wanted more options i could find more very quickly 🤷‍♀️ women too honestly

finding a deep connection and real love can be hard, but finding a relationship and/or sex is easy

can't say i've been in love much or quickly ever, takes me a long time to feel that sort of thing if ever... some people develop feelings quickly but that's not quite "love" the sort of immediate fun passion that fades

your misandry is showing heavily here and honestly there's your real problem, you're automatically bias and negative and judging all men as being exactly the same and it's pretty ****** up

sorry you've had bad experiences, but that's not a good or fair way to judge life or people or anything really

you sound like the problem not men, just saying

most guys are pretty nice in my experience, and a lot of them get attached and can be really vulnerable and caring etc thoughtful too

you sound so bitter it's depressing 😁

posted May 10, 2021 06:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumass

most guys are pretty nice in my experience, and a lot of them get attached and can be really vulnerable and caring etc thoughtful too

you sound so bitter it's depressing 😁

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That's really great most guys are nice to you in your experiences. Glad to hear they treat you well in romantic, sexual and emotional relationships. Men treat you better than me. Sometimes it's like that with some people.

You are confusing a relationship with a situationship.

I get that people cannot believe how someone can be alone and happy. I'm a firm believer that misery needs company.

I can't remember us ever having a relationship where you thought I was the problem in it for you to comment. If I cared about your thoughts though I'd ask you to elaborate. Alas, I could not give a flying fu ck, no one asked you.

But great you replied as others now will call you out AGAIN for being the fuc kwit you are.

Now go back to all those wonderful men you love so much so they can be attached to you and keep you away from the rest off us.

posted May 10, 2021 08:13 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
[b] That's really great most guys are nice to you in your experiences. Glad to hear they treat you well in romantic, sexual and emotional relationships. Men treat you better than me. Sometimes it's like that with some people.

You are confusing a relationship with a situationship.

I get that people cannot believe how someone can be alone and happy. I'm a firm believer that misery needs company.

I can't remember us ever having a relationship where you thought I was the problem in it for you to comment. If I cared about your thoughts though I'd ask you to elaborate. Alas, I could not give a flying fu ck, no one asked you.

But great you replied as others now will call you out [b] AGAIN for being the fuc kwit you are.

Now go back to all those wonderful men you love so much so they can be attached to you and keep you away from the rest off us.

Edit:btw, sorry you're one of the as s holes I mentioned previously .[/B]

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i'm a bisexual woman first off, thought that truth was established a while back here, i've stated it several times openly since so no i'm not "one of those ******** " (i explained that i came here from mostly anonymous places where being seen as male was for the best at the time and since my chart was recognizable and this place comes up in searches it was better for me to stick to that here. that's no longer an issue in those places as a result i was open here)

also i never said you were unhappily single, or that people can't be happy and single (i happen to be both right now, outright stated i'm single because i'm choosing to be currently when i explained that people can in fact change that when they want) so no need to be so hostile over things i never said 😁 you're taking out stuff other people have told you on me and that's not the case

i'm not confusing relationships with situationships, because they're not the same thing and i never claimed they were (i didn't say they wouldn't take time to develop btw i said it was possible to find change things when you want, and it is in fact an easy thing to go look for someone and start things)

when someone goes on a tangent about how most members of one gender are ******** , liars, cheaters etc that's obviously not only an unfair statement but a hateful one and a bitter one and i said as much

i don't care if you feel the need to namecall me or tell me my opinion doesn't matter, that's not going to make me feel bad about myself if someone who's coming off the way you are right now has some mean **** to say partially based on words they've twisted

when you make a series of statements on a public forum that are bias and hateful towards an entire group of people you should probably expect someone to tell you that's not cool and is in fact loaded in hatefulness and bitterness

i've done the same exact thing when someone else spoke about women as a whole in the same manner you're speaking about men, because it's a repugnant way to speak about a group of people when many individuals aren't horrible

my apology to you was genuine btw, i see you've twisted into something ****** based on your sarcastic cruel comment mocking my words, but i did mean it wholeheartedly

i grew up watching my ex's mother say things like that to her children, my ex's brother and sister in particular who were much younger

she'd tell them how having them was a mistake and how all men were horrible and would cheat as she herself brought home a bunch of guys home that she would cheat on (she was a classic cluster b case btw, horrible person, not saying your mom is on this level, but i am explaining what i've seen) etc after their dad died (they were separated but coexisting on different floors of a 2 family house)

they were like 11 years old being told how much of a burden they were and i saw firsthand the kind of damage being told things like that did

so when you mentioned i felt like i should say something as an aside from the other bits of my comment afterwards to acknowledge that i felt for you

because it genuinely breaks my heart when people do that to their children and i don't think it's right that you had that done to you

twist things however you want, think i'm an ******* or a piece of **** or whatever you have to say to me, that's fine

i still think what was done to you is wrong and still would say what i have to you again, all of it, because your words towards men were in fact pure misandry and you were treated in an emotionally abusive manner by your mother

maybe next time read what i say though so you don't waste your time talking about **** that wasn't said at all when you feel the need to respond like that, and if you don't want to openly discuss something or have anyone comment then don't speak in a place others can do as much

it would be pretty ******* weird i think if someone responded to me in any context here and i told them they had no right to speak to me because lol i'm posting where they do openly

edit: btw if anyone wants to call me out for speaking they're free to do so, you'll notice i never tell them they have no right to speak freely to me because i'm speaking in a group place

though it's funny you think it'd be ok for other people to do that but not ok for me to respond to you

posted May 10, 2021 08:18 AM            

I'd bump up all the threads you've closed with your toxic behaviour but again, you have managed to get them all closed like you will with this one, again proving a point.

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/242397.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/242552-2.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/242381.html

posted May 10, 2021 08:23 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
Dumass, you wasted a long reply to someone who'd never read it. If your opinion mattered to me, I'd care and I'd read your useless reply.

Once again, you have sabotaged someone else's thread because simple put, you're a fuc king cu nt.

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if you didn't read what i had to say there's no need to reply, or namecall, that's very passive aggressive of you

also odd of you to tell me i've ruined her thread when i've also given her my views on her situation telling her that she may find balance and the perspective astrology can be written in not fitting what people's reality can be etc

posted May 10, 2021 08:34 AM            

to get back on the initial subject i forgot to add that vedic astrology can make this sort of bias even more clear in writing, the traditional relationship approach, and a tendency to define stuff by marriage specifically

but all astrology does it, because it's just an easy way to catch everything, like mirage said a machine can't pick up on the sort of energies another person can

you don't sound silly for wanting those things either, you just may find that you need them in a nontraditional way where your independence is also taken into account

there's a lot of different people in the world and it's not impossible for you to find something that may be rather unorthodox but makes you and another person happy

don't let blanket descriptions of something make you feel like your life will just be entirely negative because these things have a lot of ways they play out in life and automated stuff in particular can't pick that up

posted May 10, 2021 10:34 PM            

You thought it meant replying with a novel length reply.

All you manage to do on here is leave destruction wherever you tread with your replies based on a useless opinion no one sought.

There are many others here who DGAF about you or your opinion.

You like to makes replies where you're just instigating an argument, then when you're called out for your poor actions and then you scream victim. You know what that's called? I fuc king "Karen"

You're a "Karen" Dumass.

Now this one too might be a bit difficult you to comprehend, if you don't understand, maybe ask one of your tinder relationships to explain it to you:

STAY THE FU CK WAY FROM MY POSTS YOU TOXIC DUMB BI TCH!

posted May 10, 2021 10:41 PM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
Dumass, you seemly to be obviously inept in understanding what "If I cared about your thoughts though I'd ask you to elaborate. Alas, I could not give a flying fu ck, no one asked you" actually means.

You thought it meant replying with a novel length reply.

All you manage to do on here is leave destruction wherever you tread with your replies based on a useless opinion no one sought.

There are many others here who DGAF about you or your opinion.

You like to makes replies where you're just instigating an argument, then when you're called out for your poor actions and then you scream victim. You know what that's called? I fuc king "Karen"

You're a "Karen" Dumass.

Now this one too might be a bit difficult you to comprehend, if you don't understand, maybe ask one of your tinder relationships to explain it to you:

STAY THE FU CK WAY FROM MY POSTS YOU TOXIC DUMB BI TCH!

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you should probably get some help with your anger issues lol

and learn what a karen actually is too, because you don't seem to grasp the meme

posted May 11, 2021 12:13 PM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
I don't know why I cannot commit. My mother always told me that getting married and having children was the biggest mistake of her life. Guess she was always sending me a warning. Even if she wasn't, those words have stuck with me. Perhaps she always wanted me to be alone with her evil ways.

If I'd have had a child when I wanted to, I'd be a single mother and misrable, suffering trying to make ends meet. Glad I'm not in that situation.

Many marriages are very unhappy. It's a tough trott. Most are complaining about their spouse.

At work recently, all the young ones in their 20s and 30s were just sitting around complaining about their relationship problems. Then they just looked at me and see how happy I am and were saying it's not fair that I'm happy and single. I was bragging about how awesome my happy single life is.

So much so, one of them came to work the next day saying she wants a divorce as I sold her on the single life .

I work with what life gives me. I focus on the things that I can change. I don't think anyone can change their relationship status from single into a relationship whenever a person wants.

People fall in and out of love frequently. I think real love is rare.

Most people say they generally fall in love unexpectedly but if I ever had any kind of romantic feeling toward a man ever again, I'd tell him to fu ck off in an instant. I know what as s holes they really are. And it's highly unlikely a man would ever really treat me well. A lot of women put up with a man's sh it, I am not one of those women!

Each to their own though. I'll never commit to a man. Why tf should I, as most men are liars and cheaters.

I sleep peacefully every night knowing I'll never have my heart broken again, and that's probably what makes it so so easy to never commit to a man.

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