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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i bring it up to point out your lack of consistent morality judging me for and bringing up the past in an irrelevant manner while disregarding the past in a circumstance where that was relevant i didn't at all jump down his throat, i called him on his ******** apologized for my initial harshness and then asked him questions to try to understand where he was coming from to see why he was saying the things he said
apologizing to someone for being tactless and trying to reach an understanding while they lash out at you (without giving them back their own behavior in turn) is not jumping down someone's throat
you keep ignoring what actually happened to push this narrative of me being intentionally outright cruel to someone when that wasn't at all the case
i even shared personal things with him (which you also brought up here) to level with him and attempt to show him where i was coming from
like i said you turn a blind eye to hate speech and poor behavior when it suits you and like i said before you can't go "well x happened last week this person gets a free pass" while coming down on someone else assuming what they have no issues? again not making a show of your private life doesn't equate to it being good and making a show of something that happened prior to behaving poorly doesn't mean that poor behavior should be overlooked
no one said you needed to be harsh but you jumped down on everyone else and didn't say a word to him, and grieving or not that sort of thing isn't ok
as a matter of fact you were coddling negative behavior that's likely to leave him very lonely in the future as if he were a child and i just don't agree at all with that
if you see fit to bring up the past where it's irrelevant then you should be fine with bringing it up where it was relevant and you weren't
on top of that i mentioned it simply to point out it wasn't being said from his grief it's just him, nowhere did i say punish past behavior
you just outright said something false knowingly by saying it only stemmed from grief
this is all on you though, i didn't and have not even brought his name into this and wouldn't have if you hadn't
not only is your retelling of the events not what happened, but it proves your hypocrisy further
if my past was ok to bring up why not someone else's? by your logic this is fine no? do you only agree with it when it suits you?
even then i pointed out that you ignored me apologizing to him for what i thought i said wrong and then trying to understand his views better
i even asked questions from a place where i was considering what sort of women he was running into without blaming him at all for his interactions
i straight up said something along the lines of it may be the women he's finding and trying to ask him about them
i told him if he needed to vent his anger he was free to direct it at me as well because i wasnt taking it personally and apologized in spite of everything he lashed out at me with
and now like then you clearly didn't pay attention, as for graham he didn't jump down his throat either
no one did, it was irrational angry behavior towards anyone who disagreed with him and none of it had to do with his mother
you're essentially letting me know you didn't even read the **** i said in that thread and were only looking at him getting hysterical, which is stupid on your part and absolutely bias
and yeah i said something back to you when you accused me of lacking empathy just because i wasn't coddling **** behavior and hate speech and you were totally in the wrong for that too 🤷♀️
you make personal attacks and misrepresent situations being up the past and all kinds of **** while hiding behind the guise of someone sympathetic and it's a ******* joke
actual empathy and sympathy are not pity and treating someone like a mentally deficient child doesn't make you a good person
Dumuzi, you have failed to convince me that my decision was the wrong one, and frankly wasting both your and my time now. If you have an issue with my conduct as a moderator, please report me to the webmaster.
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posted January 11, 2021 04:52 PM
