posted December 28, 2010 02:30 PM            

The thing that like kicked me in the butt after I broke out "with my flaming sword (and kick arse)" to quote AbsintheDragonfly, was the display of pain and torment other members had not of just leaving Lindaland, but of losing their friends, and of losing their relationships with each other...

There were a few members that reached out to me personally, and it was at this point, I realized that the people I was fighting with WERE HUMAN... and I just dropped "my sword" and have felt differently ever since.

Since that point, it has been important to me to try to see everyone's point of view, because of the HUGE mistake that I made with my start on Lindaland.

posted December 28, 2010 03:07 PM            

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Originally posted by BearsArcher:
I have gotten to the point where I read and then just shake my head laughing because nothing that is said astrologically or esoterically is going to make a change or sink in on any level unless we are one of the "chosen" people that the wall allows to hang up a pic.

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Yep. And on the rare occasion that someone in the bad group does bother to respond thoughtfully, intelligently, supportively it's usually ignored cuz then they're not being bad anymore...get it? LOL.

Christ said to turn the other cheek and love those that hate you (Luke 6:27), so that's what I do. Kill them with kindness! Or ignore...when faced with someone or something distasteful, Christ commanded them to get behind him and out of his sight (Luke 4:8, Matthew 16:23). Good Christians don't stoop to the level of their enemies, ever.

I'm not a good Christian LOL...but at least I can quote the Word in the spirit in which it was intended to be spread.

The thing the Lord hated most was hypocrisy. Judging others without looking at one's own faults, etc. Those who cannot say "I am wrong", "I misjudged", "I need to change/improve" but yet always have something to say about the behavior of others are hypocrites, and God despises that.

1 "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

3 Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye." (Matthew 7:1-5)

Tell 'em Jesus!

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posted December 28, 2010 03:15 PM            

How about everyone standing up to self and quit playing the game? Game over if no one takes the bait. Easy peasy, yes?

Ami is here to stay. She is Randall`s choice and inherent problem. He will never see it clearly as long as she is being responded to and of course then seen as helpless, bullied and the victim.

Let her walk her path and go merrily on your way with no interaction. If you do respond, expect the drama to continue. Your conscious and adult choices to make.

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What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~

posted December 28, 2010 03:15 PM            

I know all of this is frustrating (and Star I totally hear where you are coming from with ignoring the good advice). I had a situation years ago with two members that would do the same thing to me.

I would get called out, called names, put down and I also did the same right back. It was ugly and it was ugly for people to see. Then it got to the point where I was also called the bully, however, I was getting ganged up on by the two people as well as a couple others. My posts were taken out of context or used against me. There was even a thread with my name in the title just going off on me and I felt I had to fight just as dirty to get back at the person.

What made me the most angry was her constant martyr syndrome and poor me posts. I tried to make up with her a few times and then we would be at each other throats. The sad thing is that I believe we both respected each other on a certain level but we just repelled each other as well.

She passed away and we were never able to make up for our arguments. It has been with me since and while I am sure we forgave each other deep down, the sadness is still there and when I see an old post from her, it still gets me in the gut.

I don't think all cases are as extreme as that but it did put things into perspective.

I also understand why you are angry because it must feel as though when you post, you have to be extra careful or your words will be used against you out of context. As if what you write is being put under a microscope to see if you may have "implied" anything mean or demeaning. That is A LOT of stress to be under and I do know how that feels since I have also been on the other end of the accusation.

posted December 28, 2010 03:19 PM            

I thank whatever Dieties that are out there, that we have been able to come together.

posted December 28, 2010 03:25 PM            

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Originally posted by StarrofVenusGirl:
That was my philosophy also Juni, for over a good week now, and I did notice that as gradually implemented, it appeared to be effective.

Sometimes you just get burned up about something and it all comes back and you feel compelled to speak. I'll do better next time.

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posted December 28, 2010 03:32 PM            

I just find it very sad that one person, ONE person gets a whole entire FORUM to use as their playground. In which they can post topics clearly meant for other forums, such as; relationships, astral travel, astrology, RELIGION, etc.

posted December 28, 2010 03:33 PM            

I know very well how difficult it is to remain aloof when someone is targeting,manipulating or outright slandering you.

Yet it never benefits one to respond. Remember the ditty, whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you aka karma.

So many have been so strong in this effort and my hats off to you!!!

Yes Star all one can do is try! Practice makes perfect and soon no one can get under your skin. ( at least that`s what my Mom said )

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posted December 28, 2010 03:37 PM            

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Originally posted by juniperb:
It simply makes me sad to see so many wonderful and good natured souls here get bitten by this bug

I know very well how difficult it is to remain aloof when someone is targeting,manipulating or outright slandering you.

Yet it never benefits one to respond. Remember the ditty, whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you aka karma.

So many have been so strong in this effort and my hats off to you!!!

Yes Star all one can do is try! Practice makes perfect and soon no one can get under your skin. ( at least that`s what my Mom said )

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And Juni, this is why you are so loved.

posted December 28, 2010 03:50 PM            

I'm just in a pretty mood, right now

posted December 28, 2010 03:52 PM            

Truely, the flame still burns bright, it is simply hidden behind distress. Distress by the disturbances weaving it`s ugly tentacles through LL.

The tentacle will wither and fall away if it had nothing to attach to.

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posted December 28, 2010 03:54 PM            

OLIVE U!

posted December 28, 2010 04:09 PM            

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Originally posted by NickiG:
for some reason my mom likes to eat peanut butter and olive sandwiches, lol

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