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Padre35
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posted July 28, 2012 01:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Alright, the weirdness has happened yet again:

Nice evening, huge festival downtown, struck up a number of conversations w/both adult male and females.

Seems normal..right?

Uhm, last convo was with a rather successful professional woman who was rather attractive, and the end of it all was:

"I don't want to make small talk, I want you to take off your belt and..*ahhem*!

Now for the advice part..I'm this quiet guy at heart, how do I avoid such situations, and am I putting off a vibe that suggests to women that I'd be "down" with doing such?

How can I "soften" myself while still being true to myself?
http://i1072.photobucket.com/albums/w368/padre35/th_2456136100028.gif?t=1343406058

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lalalinda
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posted July 28, 2012 04:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello Padre35 Welcome to LL

She's probably just messing with you,
I don't know why women do that,
maybe to throw you off guard, or get a reaction.

Next time tell her "ladies first"

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Ami Anne
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posted July 28, 2012 09:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, I see you put your chart up. I would guess that you have some erotic asteroids conjunct your ASC such as Eros, or some pure attraction asteroids such as Apollo. You may have a dark asteroid such as Nessus conjunct a "pure" asteroid such as Angel. This makes for such charisma that it is nor funny.

Rob Thomas of Santana has this.

At any rate, I can't understand woman doing that as I think it is gross.

I am sorry you had to go through this

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Ami Anne
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posted July 28, 2012 09:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I can't read that style chart, Sweetie. If you want to post the Astro.com style of chart with asteroids, I will look.

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Lonake
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posted July 28, 2012 09:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You must be sizzling hot

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re:the chart it's too small to read.

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Padre35
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posted July 28, 2012 12:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I can't read that style chart, Sweetie. If you want to post the Astro.com style of chart with asteroids, I will look.


You are so kind Ami Anne, however I cannot figure out how to use that website to find the one you can read.

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Padre35
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posted July 28, 2012 12:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Hello Padre35 Welcome to LL

She's probably just messing with you,
I don't know why women do that,
maybe to throw you off guard, or get a reaction.

Next time tell her "ladies first"


Thank you for the welcome!

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Padre35
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posted July 28, 2012 12:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lonake:
You must be sizzling hot

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re:the chart it's too small to read.



http://i1072.photobucket.com/albums/w368/padre35/2456136100028-1.gif

Har har..

Can you just hit the "+" key to enlarge it?

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted July 28, 2012 12:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's a common phenomenon in the professional world. The majority of people in my profession are divorced and just plain have no time or inclination for relationships. Many take to hiring pros to take care of their needs, including women. The rest just want to go to social events to pick someone up to warm their beds.

Not my style. Not passing judgment, but I just do my own thing.

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Padre35
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posted July 28, 2012 12:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
It's a common phenomenon in the professional world. The majority of people in my profession are divorced and just plain have no time or inclination for relationships. Many take to hiring pros to take care of their needs, including women. The rest just want to go to social events to pick someone up to warm their beds.

Not my style. Not passing judgment, but I just do my own thing.


This was not straight up one night stand country this was a one night stand w/S&M involved.

For whatever reason I'm on a streak of meeting women who like the darker things and I'm very curious if this is Astrology manifesting itself atm.

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted July 28, 2012 12:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, S&M does go with corporate power doesn't it? Some of them like being dominated by their bosses or have such fantasies. Some like exercising control over men like they do at work.

I can't take to S&M. . Some woman whips me and I'll kick her butt. . And I'm too chauvinistic to dominate some woman.

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ail221
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posted July 28, 2012 12:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe your body releases a natural pheromone that drives women crazy and throw themselves at you. LOL


---Looked over Chart-
Triple threat- Sun(Sagittarius), moon(Leo), and asc(Aries) in Fire. = Your energy probably screams Masculinity.
You have Venus, Mars, and Jupiter in Scorpio in your 7th house. Mars trine Pallas.= Sex, sex, sex.
With a dash of Mercury in Capricorn in the 10th house and Saturn in Taurus in your first house= Yes you have a very executive/career minded image with a quiet softer side. For some women if not most a career minded successful guy, with reserved or soft spoken mannerisms yet has extreme masculine and sexual energy makes them do crazy things. Its like their brains switches over to primitive mode and common sense doesn't make sense anymore.

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Padre35
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posted July 28, 2012 12:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
Maybe your body releases a natural pheromone that drives women crazy and throw themselves at you. LOL

No kidding..:lol:

I think it is my eyes or something, a sort of Scorpio thing that comes out of nowhere.

I'll have a nice conversation with an attractive young lady whom I feel is to young for me but what man does not enjoy the company of a beautiful young lady?

Conversation rolls along, and I'll look away, look back right in their eyes and smile and they turn into little girls?

They go from confident young women to little girl who is shy talking to her dad or something.

Ani A did a free mini reading for me and perceived that perhaps my sexual intensity is disconcerting to me, and I think she absolutely nailed it.

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Moonfish
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posted July 28, 2012 02:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There's a thread in astro 2.0 that Jupiter in Scorpio makes someone "bad", does that apply to you?

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Padre35
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posted July 28, 2012 02:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Moonfish:
There's a thread in astro 2.0 that Jupiter in Scorpio makes someone "bad", does that apply to you?

I've read that article and pretty much every one I can find on the Scorpio aspects that I never knew I had, which is what brought me to LL, that and I find deeper astrology far more fascinating then the sun sign only approach.

Anywho, the article mentions a certain amount of "Badassness" in Scorpio in Jupiter and that can apply to me at times b/c I power lifted, bike commute etc and am a large, well built man.

As for being "bad", not so much, I may just look like I am.

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Moonfish
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posted July 28, 2012 03:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh ok, I have Scorpio Sun-Mars-Pluto conjunction in the 8H and ironically people find me innocent, not sexual at all. I would look at the aspects to your Asc, which can determine how you appear to ppl :]

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Padre35
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posted July 28, 2012 03:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Oh ok, I have Scorpio Sun-Mars-Pluto conjunction in the 8H and ironically people find me innocent, not sexual at all. I would look at the aspects to your Asc, which can determine how you appear to ppl :]

I'm just learning to crawl with astrology, can you briefly explain aspects and how that effects Ascendants (mine is Aries btw)

I mentioned earlier about confident young women turning into little girls and found this gem of a thread:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/003076.html

Scorpio Stare, this sort of information helps me a great deal.

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Hera
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posted July 28, 2012 03:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do you have a picture? I'm curious now! lol

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posted July 28, 2012 03:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Here's a good site: http://www.astroscoped.com/astrology/natal_ascendant_aspects.shtml

basically easy aspects (trines, sextiles, conjunctions) will make it easier for you to express yourself, and can naturally put you in the spotlight. Where as hard aspects (squares, oppositons, quincunx) can take more time for people to understand where your coming from.

What is the degree of your ascendant?

Oh and as far as scorpio stares.. I don't see what other ppl see. Being a scorpio myself I can't define my eyes or any other scorpios from anyone elses. Just my opinion.

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted July 28, 2012 03:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I once had a Scorpio girlfriend who liked to do that staring/intensity thing. Needless to say, it didn't go over too well with the down-to-earth me.

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posted July 28, 2012 04:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Padre35:
This was not straight up one night stand country this was a one night stand w/S&M involved.

For whatever reason I'm on a streak of meeting women who like the darker things and I'm very curious if this is Astrology manifesting itself atm.


I'm guessing it has something to do with the festival you're at. I don't know what the theme is but there might be a tradition of permissiveness ("the one time a woman can act slutty and get away with it"), drugs that might change their behavior, and the current (and inexplicable) popularity of 50 Shades of Grey may exacerbate it further by making S&M experiences something of a fad now (or at least make a woman into that bolder about stating her desires), too.

And if you dress funny for this festival then that might add to it. For example, a much older guy (in his 30s at least, with a beard, bald spot and pouch, and I was 19-20 at the time) once made a habit of coming up to me at an outdoor cafe I liked and asked me to whip him (and I mean even before he told me his name or asked for mine). I was gobsmacked by this and turned him down. He continued to beg me for this (including on later days), even promising all kinds of sexual favors if I did, and though I was firmer and harsher in turning him down each time I considered doing it so he'd shut up, especially if I made it horrible enough (but I couldn't decide, which would make it horrible for him--too soft or too hard? ).

Talking with friends I found out that it was the way I was dressed at the time that made him think I would. Like many women in the local BDSM community (unknown to me at the time) I wore a spiked belt (as well as studded bracelets), so he thought I was into that, and my zipper boots, tomboyish looks back then, and the trench I sometimes wore made him think I was a top. And the mistresses (that is, dominant women) would often refuse to have anything to do with a guy begging for attention as a way to torment them so I was actually confirming to him that I was a dom by turning him away, and the harsher I got the more he thought I was warming up to him. As an experiment I changed my look and he didn't proposition me again. (Of course I also got attention from DIFFERENT guys, too...)

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posted July 28, 2012 04:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Junethird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mmm.. Interesting as its normally the guys who come on strongly and use sexual inuendos to impress or whatever.

Iam actually stumped lol... Unless you guys were drinking most of the day... Then i think i too would be taken aback a bit. Its flattering but creepy at the same time lol.


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posted July 29, 2012 12:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
Do you have a picture? I'm curious now! lol

I'll never show one..:lol:

What typically happens is tourists will say:

"You know, has anyone ever told you that you look like"

-Stephen Baldwin
-Val Kilmer
-Mickey Rourke

I used to laugh and write that stuff down..

My response is always:

"As long as I don't look like your ******* ex husband, I'm fine with it, been called worse"

:lol:

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Padre35
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posted July 29, 2012 12:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
Maybe your body releases a natural pheromone that drives women crazy and throw themselves at you. LOL


---Looked over Chart-
Triple threat- Sun(Sagittarius), moon(Leo), and asc(Aries) in Fire. = Your energy probably screams Masculinity.
You have Venus, Mars, and Jupiter in Scorpio in your 7th house. Mars trine Pallas.= Sex, sex, sex.
With a dash of Mercury in Capricorn in the 10th house and Saturn in Taurus in your first house= Yes you have a very executive/career minded image with a quiet softer side. For some women if not most a career minded successful guy, with reserved or soft spoken mannerisms yet has extreme masculine and sexual energy makes them do crazy things. Its like their brains switches over to primitive mode and common sense doesn't make sense anymore.



Eh, well, there is another great female attractor..conversation, good conversations.

Sag as my sun sign, along with Taurus is opposition means I have something of the gift of listen and gab...

From latin to art to computer programming..can hold a conversation..love to have them actually.

For example met a nice young lady who is a lead singer in a local punk band this evening and we had a great chat, she invited me to come hang out and I declined, she left, came back and made 100% sure I had her phone number.

Talked with an old dear friend of mine who is a lesbian during a chance encounter and listened to her problems (conditioned by her adopted mother and her imo evil ex knows this and is playing her, she knows this and cannot stop doing what she does) and she spoke about she liked S&M and the women I'm meeting are amateurs as real S&M fans are quiet and find one person they can trust to do that stuff with..hint hint?


And here I have to be careful or conceit, and self pride will ring the bell so to speak and I'm sooo not like that at all.

Humble man trying to make sense of this all!

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Padre35
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posted July 29, 2012 12:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Moonfish:
Here's a good site: http://www.astroscoped.com/astrology/natal_ascendant_aspects.shtml

basically easy aspects (trines, sextiles, conjunctions) will make it easier for you to express yourself, and can naturally put you in the spotlight. Where as hard aspects (squares, oppositons, quincunx) can take more time for people to understand where your coming from.

What is the degree of your ascendant?

Oh and as far as scorpio stares.. I don't see what other ppl see. Being a scorpio myself I can't define my eyes or any other scorpios from anyone elses. Just my opinion.


Aries at 20.25?

Thanks for the information, it is a lot to digest right now..as for the gaze, suspect it is based around a masculine man who can hold a conversation about diverse topics who then just drops the eyes on theirs and the rapid change just catches them off guard?

Thanks for the great info everyone!

TBH, I'm mostly happy I got to see my old friend this evening

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