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Topic: women needing mystery
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libraschoice77
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posted August 04, 2012 01:27 PM
  
Then again I have been the pursuer most of the time with romantic interests, might be some difference there when the woman is the pursuer.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 04, 2012 01:38 PM
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
Then again I have been the pursuer most of the time with romantic interests, might be some difference there when the woman is the pursuer.
Indeed it is a difference. Gets me excited. Then again, there is not much that anyone needs to pursue for me. Give me interest and I will evaluate analytically and let that person know with the utmost expediency. If the answer is to go-ahead, then I would move swiftly and decisively. That is how I got married in three months after meeting my wife. And she told me she was interested, and things moved swiftly after that. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted August 04, 2012 01:40 PM
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
Then again I have been the pursuer most of the time with romantic interests, might be some difference there when the woman is the pursuer.
Women do the choosing anyway, but do think it would be more fun to be the pursuer from a female pov. IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted August 04, 2012 02:19 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
Love/ desire is a complex emotion. Not everyone, myself included know what I am feeling most of the time. How can I be upfront with what I myself do not know.
I concur. IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 04, 2012 02:41 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Indeed it is a difference. Gets me excited. Then again, there is not much that anyone needs to pursue for me. Give me interest and I will evaluate analytically and let that person know with the utmost expediency. If the answer is to go-ahead, then I would move swiftly and decisively. That is how I got married in three months after meeting my wife. And she told me she was interested, and things moved swiftly after that.
*wonders how to clone YTA from across the ocean..* IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 04, 2012 02:41 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
Love/ desire is a complex emotion. Not everyone, myself included know what I am feeling most of the time. How can I be upfront with what I myself do not know.
And thus the fundamental difference between those who are ruled by subjective emotional judgment and those rules by objective analytical judgment. I myself would give what I deem to be a reasonable amount of time for you to come to a definitive decision. After that, it's over and I will just move on with my life. I don't have the time to waste and the patience to endure being strung along. IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 04, 2012 02:43 PM
Libraschoice, It is very nice to see you here again! I have missed your *feeling* presence lol (I remember your signature from back then, I feel therefor I am  ) IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 04, 2012 02:46 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
And thus the fundamental difference between those who are ruled by subjective emotional judgment and those rules by objective analytical judgment. I myself would give what I deem to be a reasonable amount of time for you to come to a definitive decision. After that, it's over and I will just move on with my life. I don't have the time to waste and the patience to endure being strung along.
Bulls are particularly difficult if you, unfortunately, get a huge crush on them. Because they take forever to decide. And if God forbid you've fallen in love.. you're in for a lot of frustration because the Bull.. cannot be rushed. The only sign to ever put me on my knees (never to be repeated again - I don't have the patience now) IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted August 04, 2012 02:50 PM
Hi Hera, nice to know someone remembers me and my emotional ways  IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 04, 2012 02:50 PM
To answer the OP question.....In my younger, wise-less days, I wanted dudes that played hard to get. The older I get, the less time I am willing to spend on the chase. Here's the deal, take it or leave it. Kinda like YTA put it. It's not brain surgery, do you like me or not? Either way it's fine. IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 04, 2012 02:54 PM
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
Hi Hera, nice to know someone remembers me and my emotional ways
Aww, I wasn't implying you were too emotional, not at all! I thought you always made very good (reasonable) points, actually. And you were always very gracious, that is how I remember you. Oh, and the fact that you always posted with  as message icon, I thought it was pretty. There is never too much to go around  . I don't think you ever offended anybody (that I know of). So big thumbsup to you and your return!!!! IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 04, 2012 05:10 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
Bulls are particularly difficult if you, unfortunately, get a huge crush on them. Because they take forever to decide. And if God forbid you've fallen in love.. you're in for a lot of frustration because the Bull.. cannot be rushed. The only sign to ever put me on my knees (never to be repeated again - I don't have the patience now)
i disagree, i think my taurus moon is the reason i have the no nonsense attitude when it comes to dating. i need to know where things stand and i absolutely abhor indecision
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Ami Anne
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posted August 04, 2012 05:20 PM
I think human nature is bad in that it wants what it can't have. Do you agree/ disagree?------------------
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RegardesPlatero
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posted August 04, 2012 05:34 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Hera:
[b] i disagree, i think my taurus moon is the reason i have the no nonsense attitude when it comes to dating. i need to know where things stand and i absolutely abhor indecision
but you mentioned liking and going for Libras though...indecision PERSONIFIED (don't say that to be mean, just am gently teasing a little in the spirit of friendship) I know you've mentioned it not working out, but really, I personally think that an Aries or Sag girl would probably be great for you and better for you than a Libra--one with other compatible placements to you. Maybe a Libra ASC so you still get a little bit of Libra, since you mention liking Libras. IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted August 04, 2012 05:38 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I think human nature is bad in that it wants what it can't have. Do you agree/ disagree?
very true! IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted August 04, 2012 06:01 PM
Its not a "woman thing" to need mystery its a human thing. Think of it like this; do you like knowing the ending of a book before you really begin reading it? Every plot twist, every bit of information about a character before you have the chance to allow themselves to open up to you, every place they've been or seen, and every experience. Or were you one of those kids that read "Choose your own Adventure" and read both choices and then decide which sounded better to you and proceed to read because it was more comfortable and didn't leave any grey areas. When people say they need mystery that doesn't mean they should automatically expect deception such as being secretly married to another person for years or had a sex change or has some sort of sexually transmitted diseases and they didn't tell you about it. Its about that feeling of constantly discovering something about someone that leaves you with that tingly feeling such as kissing someone for the first time or noticing a birthmark or freckle on your partner you never saw before, or expressing a emotional depth about something you didn't expect them to possess. Yes some people prefer straight forward answers from their partner without haste for whatever reasons those be i.e. wanting to skip ahead to what they consider to be the important parts of a relationship because of some sort of pre-conceived time constraint. Or if an issue comes up in a relationship later they want to have the ability to "solve" that person's problem but others don't. Different strokes for different folks.IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted August 04, 2012 07:35 PM
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Originally posted by ail221:
Its not a "woman thing" to need mystery its a human thing. Think of it like this; do you like knowing the ending of a book before you really begin reading it? Every plot twist, every bit of information about a character before you have the chance to allow themselves to open up to you, every place they've been or seen, and every experience. Or were you one of those kids that read "Choose your own Adventure" and read both choices and then decide which sounded better to you and proceed to read because it was more comfortable and didn't leave any grey areas. When people say they need mystery that doesn't mean they should automatically expect deception such as being secretly married to another person for years or had a sex change or has some sort of sexually transmitted diseases and they didn't tell you about it. Its about that feeling of constantly discovering something about someone that leaves you with that tingly feeling such as kissing someone for the first time or noticing a birthmark or freckle on your partner you never saw before, or expressing a emotional depth about something you didn't expect them to possess. Yes some people prefer straight forward answers from their partner without haste for whatever reasons those be i.e. wanting to skip ahead to what they consider to be the important parts of a relationship because of some sort of pre-conceived time constraint. Or if an issue comes up in a relationship later they want to have the ability to "solve" that person's problem but others don't. Different strokes for different folks.
very well-put! I used to love the Choose Your Own Adventure books, as a side note--I went to the library all the time as a kid, and those are some of my best memories, so thanks for reminding me of those! IP: Logged |
sand
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posted August 04, 2012 07:52 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
Bulls are particularly difficult if you, unfortunately, get a huge crush on them. Because they take forever to decide. And if God forbid you've fallen in love.. you're in for a lot of frustration because the Bull.. cannot be rushed. The only sign to ever put me on my knees (never to be repeated again - I don't have the patience now)
If we r dating though it is a yes. I do assume u like me too. Where anything is going i can infer from other details in their life. Iv also never dated non traditional women so i assume they all want the same things. IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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From: NYC
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted August 04, 2012 08:11 PM
You should think about dating a girl with some fire in her natal chart, that way you will usually have an idea of where you stand with her. Took me finding a guy with heavy fire in his chart to know what is going on...Fire Sun, Moon, and Ascendant.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 04, 2012 09:09 PM
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
but you mentioned liking and going for Libras though...indecision PERSONIFIED (don't say that to be mean, just am gently teasing a little in the spirit of friendship) I know you've mentioned it not working out, but really, I personally think that an Aries or Sag girl would probably be great for you and better for you than a Libra--one with other compatible placements to you. Maybe a Libra ASC so you still get a little bit of Libra, since you mention liking Libras.
its odd because i dont get along with firey women,especially sag suns and moons. i love love love libras except the indecision and the lack of loyalty(sometimes) a libra with fixed placements would be perfect.
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Hera
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posted August 05, 2012 12:51 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i disagree, i think my taurus moon is the reason i have the no nonsense attitude when it comes to dating. i need to know where things stand and i absolutely abhor indecision
I didn't say they're indecisive, I said they take forever to make a move (or that is what I meant lol). Things speed up if you make a move, though, lol. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted August 05, 2012 12:57 AM
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Originally posted by Hera:
I didn't say they're indecisive, I said they take forever to make a move (or that is what I meant lol). Things speed up if you make a move, though, lol.
it dont take me forever im fast as fuc! IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 05, 2012 01:23 AM
actually scratch that i am slow to make a move, but the girl never knows i am planning to make a move so she doesnt perceive me as slow. i wait it out and see how she might respond to me.if i think my advances have a good chance of success i move in, otherwise its on to other possibilities.IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 05, 2012 01:43 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
actually scratch that i am slow to make a move, but the girl never knows i am planning to make a move so she doesnt perceive me as slow. i wait it out and see how she might respond to me.if i think my advances have a good chance of success i move in, otherwise its on to other possibilities.
Sounds pretty good to me! And I agree with Platero on fiery women  hehehe IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 05, 2012 01:46 AM
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Originally posted by Hera:
Sounds pretty good to me! And I agree with Platero on fiery women hehehe
what sounds good? haha and why do you say that? IP: Logged |
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