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Topic: What has happened to this world?
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aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 14, 2013 08:50 PM
  
I am not sure. I do experience strong sexual attraction to people based on looks but if their personality doesnt back it up or we have nothing in common it will stay at that and go no further.I understand physical attraction but i dont think it should be the only consideration when choosing somebody.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 14, 2013 08:56 PM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
It's heartening to see someone have faith in him. 
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Odette
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posted April 14, 2013 09:24 PM
aqua - quote:
I am not sure. I do experience strong sexual attraction to people based on looks but if their personality doesnt back it up or we have nothing in common it will stay at that and go no further.
OH! Ok.. I get it.. so it's like a second consideration.. like if you find them attractive that gets them through the door - but if they are not your kind of person - you show them right out again. For me it's more like - I feel nothing at all sexually - if we don't click on a personality level, so they don't get through the door. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted April 14, 2013 09:26 PM
Ami - This is the definition for demisexuality:
http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Demisexual IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 40755
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 14, 2013 09:29 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Ami - This is the definition for demisexuality:
http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Demisexual
Thanks Odette
That is not me lol xx
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6524
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 14, 2013 09:42 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
aqua - OH! Ok.. I get it.. so it's like a second consideration.. like if you find them attractive that gets them through the door - but if they are not your kind of person - you show them right out again. For me it's more like - I feel nothing at all sexually - if we don't click on a personality level, so they don't get through the door.
no, it gets my attention but i wont get involved if theres no substance behind it.
example: one time I met a girl who i thought was really cute and got her number. I tried talking to her for awhile but she ended up boring me and we didnt have anything in common , so i didnt take things any further. so i dont know if you could call me demisexual, i noticed your picture! remember?
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 1876
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 14, 2013 11:41 PM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
It's heartening to see someone have faith in him.
:P.
He's not ugly he's just not attractive to you and thats okay too. I wouldn't call him ugly thou, I hope you're just kidding with him (not sure about your relationship with him lol) Aqua I think you should get ripped, I think for you thats might add that extra sex appeal. You have good face which is honestly really good potential You have venus on the asc too and people judge us by our aesthetics unfortunately and this will always be important in our life... This is our karma, to be sex symbols lol jk.. I had an awkward stage when I was young and everyday people would point out things I needed to improve on my appearance better haircut, more fashionable, clear skin.
It was so weird. One day I came home crying and told my mom why do people tell me all this stuff and not any of the other kids? She said... "You needed braces.."  ..
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6524
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 12:09 AM
^I wasnt offended by that. its true that i dont photograph well, i look alot better irl. And its no suprise that he thinks im ugly, lol we dont agree on much of anything. In fact the feeling is mutual, when i first saw his pic i thought he was a girl and not a pretty one lol. so its cool. IP: Logged |
Padre35
Moderator Posts: 1656
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 12:30 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Women sense desperation like a dog smells a T-bone in your shirt pocket. When you get to the point that you just don't care about approval, you will start being attractive. It's the LOA in reverse. I call it the LOR (Law Of Repelling). Which, interestingly enough, is the reason many people have no success with LOA. LOR cancels out LOA. Women do care about looks initially, but not in the same way that men do. Men are very visual. Women ultimately tend to go more for how a guy makes them feel. Yes, men are superficial. Yes, women have more depth than men. Men have larger brains, but womens' brains are more efficient. Men and women are different. Imagine that. That's neither a good thing nor a bad thing. It simply is what it is.
This is so true, for things like this, it's a bit like a desert, when you need a drink of water, you cannot find it, when you don't need a drink of water you are standing in a lake. What I've found is women want to be listened to and understood, men usually are into looks alone and imo, miss out what could be an awesome relationship. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
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From: walking with my head in the clouds!
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 03:23 AM
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aquaguy91: And its no suprise that he thinks im ugly, lol we dont agree on much of anything. In fact the feeling is mutual, when i first saw his pic i thought he was a girl and not a pretty one lol. so its cool.
No one said ugly. Just not attractive.  quote:
Kerosene: He's not ugly he's just not attractive to you and thats okay too.
Oh no honey it ain't just me, but let gossip between me and the past pretty ladies of LL stay gossip between me and past pretty ladies of LL.  Any ways, I was speaking closer to objectivity. It's not a "he's not attractive to me" situation. Don't you know I have a Libra Mercury?  In Western AND Sidereal. IP: Logged |
Odette
Knowflake Posts: 1874
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posted April 15, 2013 03:40 AM
Right.IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted April 15, 2013 03:45 AM
somethingexcelent does not look like a typical guy or a typical girl - He has his own style, his own original look and I think he's attractive! We do have a Venus conj Pluto happening  aquaguy is not objectively unattractive. No one is "objectively" unattractive imo. Many women out there would be attracted to him!! And... both of you - Play nice! IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
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From: walking with my head in the clouds!
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 04:27 AM
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Odette: And... both of you - Play nice!
I've heard those words before...having them directed at me, though, is something interesting. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6524
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 06:25 AM
maybe objectively unattractive to girls who like guys who look like girls.IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 09:23 AM
I do know people who've found successful relationships online but my own personal experience, most of the people on there are not looking for something serious (unless they're shelling out serious dough like on eHarmony). OkCupid in particular is the worst.I met my boyfriend through friends. We're perfectly matched, but had we met online I would not even have considered him because he lives rural and that is both uncool and inaccessible for me. IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 15, 2013 11:11 AM
I don't photograph well either. But I look great in video. Weird!IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 11:15 AM
I didn't want to say this because I don't like kicking someone whose spirits are down and I DO like AG and think he seems like a nice guy (and I'm actually one of those women who are attracted to such things, lol). But even though AG is very intelligent and thinks deeply, personally, I am a grammar Nazi and if you sent me a message on a dating site with the grammar errors you tend to make on here, I probably wouldn't respond. It's not an assessment of your intelligence; when I'm typing from my phone I tend to make a lot of obscene errors as well which I will later see, my eye will twitch, and I subsequently fix (lol). So I guess my point is that I wouldn't write you off based on your picture. We shouldn't always assume we know the reasons.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 40755
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 15, 2013 11:20 AM
I think AG is hot, sexy and smart. That is my vote and I am an Unaspected Venus in Gemini conjunct Eros so it counts as two  ------------------
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6524
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 11:32 AM
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I didn't want to say this because I don't like kicking someone whose spirits are down and I DO like AG and think he seems like a nice guy (and I'm actually one of those women who are attracted to such things, lol). But even though AG is very intelligent and thinks deeply, personally, I am a grammar Nazi and if you sent me a message on a dating site with the grammar errors you tend to make on here, I probably wouldn't respond. It's not an assessment of your intelligence; when I'm typing from my phone I tend to make a lot of obscene errors as well which I will later see, my eye will twitch, and I subsequently fix (lol). So I guess my point is that I wouldn't write you off based on your picture. We shouldn't always assume we know the reasons.
typing on the phone is a pain.lol
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AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 7247
From: Pleasanton, CA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 15, 2013 12:30 PM
I met my wife through OKCupid. I wasn't even trying to use the service. It was one of those things where I had set up an account, but I wasn't actively looking for anyone. I just got an email one day with three suggestions. I normally just deleted these emails without looking, but I saw the first few lines of her profile, and it was all things I would say about myself, so I gave her a look. There were amazing coincidences.I think that things happened at the right time, though. There seemed to be some sort of order to it. Things are going to happen when they should. Just always remember what you're after, so your experiences can coincide with what you're looking for. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 2431
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 01:18 PM
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Originally posted by AcousticGod:
I met my wife through OKCupid. I wasn't even trying to use the service. It was one of those things where I had set up an account, but I wasn't actively looking for anyone. I just got an email one day with three suggestions. I normally just deleted these emails without looking, but I saw the first few lines of her profile, and it was all things I would say about myself, so I gave her a look. There were amazing coincidences.I think that things happened at the right time, though. There seemed to be some sort of order to it. Things are going to happen when they should. Just always remember what you're after, so your experiences can coincide with what you're looking for.
I agree with this. I used to get so frustrated that I couldn't seem to find someone to settle down with, who wanted what I wanted (when I was younger). Now I'm relieved it didn't happen until I was 26.
Statistically, marriages that occur before the age of 25 end up in divorce 75% of the time. The truth is I had a lot of growing up to do myself. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 40755
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 15, 2013 03:14 PM
I think 2 people on here made profound points that showed great wisdom and acumen--Randall and Odette. They talk from what is, not what you want to make it. The essence of good mental and emotional health is to see and act from what is real, not what you wish was real. I thank them for what they said because it really helped me.
If a life coach/ therapist or anyone has his/her head up her rear end, that is what you are gonna get *sigh*------------------
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 15, 2013 03:21 PM
I don't photograph well, video well or present myself well online or in reality. I'm short, fat and ugly. Now, I'm also old and haggard.It doesn't matter. I still managed to date many highly gorgeous women who found enough things to like me for. Brain cells and decorum speak a whole lot more loudly than washboard stomachs. Those who like you will like you. Those who don't like you won't ever like you, so they can go where the moon doesn't shine. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 2431
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 15, 2013 05:55 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I don't photograph well, video well or present myself well online or in reality. I'm short, fat and ugly. Now, I'm also old and haggard.
Disagree. I think you photograph very well and you are not short. 5'10 is not short unless you live in Holland.
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mockingbird
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posted April 15, 2013 06:05 PM
^ You're also loaded.Not to throw my gender under the bus, but I've met more than a few for whom that's a major point of interest. ------------------
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