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DeepFreeze
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posted February 25, 2014 10:50 PM
  
Awwww.... I thought that there was a chance that we all might get along. Denied. IP: Logged |
CatMote
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posted February 25, 2014 10:51 PM
im 21, aboiut to be 22. i dont even want to think about dating a 19 year old lol.
ANYWAY, if i were 27 i still wouldnt even think about dating somebody who is 19.
i would date somebody who is 7 years younger, if i were 40 and they were 33. lol ------------------
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BellaFenice
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posted February 25, 2014 11:08 PM
If I was 27 I wouldn't date a 19 year-old- simply due to being in different phases of life. Most often (there are exceptions) the emotional maturity required for a relationship is not there comparing these two ages. Again, it is based on so many factors, so there are always great relationships with uncommon age differences.I tend to date right within my age range, probably won't deviate from this, but you never know. At the end of day, love is love. I don't judge relationships based on people's ages, unless it is not legal of course. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
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posted February 26, 2014 03:22 AM
8 years isn't that big of a deal, you are still in the same generation.The only issue would be that you may be in different stages of what you want in life. The 19 year old is probably going to want to be partying for another few years, and the person who is 27 is more ready to settle down. I was in a 6 year relationship with someone 14 years younger than me. We broke up over something that had nothing to do with age difference. In fact, he is with a woman who is 21 years older than him right now.
(Note to self: avoid men with cap on the desc)
The only uncomfortable or odd things were times where I would ask him if he remembered a song, or tv show, or fad- and he had no memory of it bc he was too little at the time that it happened. It's an adjustment for sure! Good luck! IP: Logged |
Sibyl
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posted February 26, 2014 06:11 AM
I would never. I so judge people who do this. Why can'y you just find someone your own age? When you get along with someone much older or much younger there is something seriously wrong with the older person's level of maturity. Likewise, the younger person shouldn't be made to mature as fast as they will have to when they are in a relationship with someone that much older, who is at a different stage in life. Especially at such a young age. It's a little better when both people are older, but 19 and 27??? This smells of disaster.As a girl, I have a two years downwards, 5 years upwards cap. I don't see that changing any time soon. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted February 26, 2014 06:28 AM
Sure, why not? I'm dating someone 4 yrs older then I am, and see little issue with dating someone younger then me by 8 yrs, even 10 or 15 yrs younger would be fine w/me as well. I see the person not the number FWIW, I do think there is a real age/action gap in America at least,younger men tend to be very unlike men from a different era in the US at least, meaning younger men in the US tend to be far less sorted out then men from my era and slightly before it. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 26, 2014 07:44 AM
Oh wow 30 replies! That was ... quick lolThank you for all the advice. It's interesting to read everyone's thoughts on this! The only man I've ever felt truly in love with is almost two decades older than me.
Deepfreeze - he is actually a Leo with Virgo Venus and he likewise looks a lot younger. It seems many Leos (male and female) have good genes  I pretty much stopped caring about age gaps after knowing him.. so normally this wouldn't be an issue.. but 19-27 seems out of sync.
I agree with others who said - things would be different if we were both older. If I was 35 and he was 27 I wouldn't have a problem with it. The thing is he is very strongly.. pursuing me.. and I do mean *strongly* lol He has a stellium in Scorpio.
I'm flattered by his intensity.. and I also think he's attractive.
But the context of this whole thing - seems like a recipe for disaster.
He is not immature.. He's also intelligent. I actually *like* a lot of things about him.. but I still feel like he is too young. IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted February 26, 2014 07:50 AM
Reading padre's post I'm suddenly reminded of how sometimes I have the feeling that everything seems to be complicated in "western" society. Heh, where I come from, things are complicated too, but in a different way lol.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted February 26, 2014 07:55 AM
I would date anyone I cared about. I really think age is only a number. I know this is a very trite saying but love is rare. If there is a real connection( and the charts will show it) I would not care about any external factor such as age, looks, etc
Odette, why don't you put up the synastry and lets look!------------------
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Desiring Shadows
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posted February 26, 2014 08:11 AM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Like idk..When couples have obvious age difference it's not cute...
I usually roll my eyes and assume someone is parenting the other.
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Desiring Shadows
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posted February 26, 2014 08:23 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
I agree with others who said - things would be different if we were both older. If I was 35 and he was 27 I wouldn't have a problem with it.
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I would date anyone I cared about. I really think age is only a number. I know this is a very trite saying but love is rare. If there is a real connection( and the charts will show it) I would not care about any external factor such as age, looks, etc
These are my mixed views... I'm a
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Sibyl
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posted February 26, 2014 08:42 AM
Dr. Phil has done several shows on relationships with age-differences. I think they're pretty telling. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted February 26, 2014 09:44 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
The only man I've ever felt truly in love with is almost two decades older than me.
Deepfreeze - he is actually a Leo with Virgo Venus and he likewise looks a lot younger.
Coincidentally my Leo sun/Virgo Venus husband is 18 and a half years older than me. He does get asked by people about how he never seems to age. With a shave and a haircut he looks about ten years younger than he is. Big age gaps run in my family. My parents were 12 years apart; my dad's girlfriend at the time I got engaged was 18 years younger than him; my brother's wife is 18 years older than him. Still it was WEIRD when I realized I was seriously attracted to this older guy who is now my husband. It hit me all at once. I was 22 and he was 41. He thought I was CRAZY when I made it clear that I liked him..."Are you crazy?" were his exact words.  And he was embarrassed that people would think he was robbing the cradle. Some people thought we were father and daughter OMG!!! And people judged me mercilessly and made assumptions left and right. But I don't know...transiting Pluto was conjunct my Venus and his Saturn when we got together (not that I knew it at the time), and we just ignored all the drama and tied the knot fast. That was fifteen years ago, everyone is used to us by now. To answer the question~ If I were single, I wouldn't care about dating younger or even much, much older. I just don't care what people think, obviously, or my current situation would be much different. And I have Uranus ruling my DSC so it's almost like, the weirder the better. But no...once I was in my 20's, I could never see myself with a teenager, that would have grossed me out. Psychological barriers or something. ------------------
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Faith
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posted February 26, 2014 09:46 AM
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Originally posted by Sibyl:
Dr. Phil has done several shows on relationships with age-differences. I think they're pretty telling.
What's he say? IP: Logged |
Sibyl
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posted February 26, 2014 10:26 AM
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Originally posted by Faith:
What's he say?
Well. I'm not saying all couples with an age difference are as extreme as the people on the Dr. Phil show, but I've seen a couple (4-5) of shows where either partner is very young (say 14-22), while the other is much older (of both genders). Phil MacGraw illustrates how issues often occur because the two people are at a different stage in life (and should be allowed to be so, and not be pushed toward the other person). The younger partner is often also at a much lower maturity level, which skews the relationship and can create problems. Alternatively, the older person chooses a younger person because (s)he is at a lower maturity level than people his/her own age. This changes quickly as the younger person develops at a normal rate while the older person is stagnated. Most of the issues are also amplified if there are children involved. As I've already said I'm personally not a fan of age-differences. I'm certainly biased in that my parents had a 14 year difference and it didn't work out. So, too, did not the next relationship my mother had with an older man. He got ill. Cos he is old. The statistics will tell you that the greater the age gap, the greater the chance is that the couple will break up. Especially if the woman is older. I recognize that there are always exceptions but either way I don't think you are setting yourself up for an easy ride if you choose someone much older or younger. I personally wouldn't take the odds. Or the life, which will be more problematic in the later stages of life as one retires (and perhaps wants to travel?) while the other is still working. When the younger person retires the older person may be too old to join in the activities that the younger person wants to do, or may already be dead. I think it is a very tough choice to make, to tie your star to the wagon of someone of a much different age. Of course people fall madly in love and all that, but if you can at all help it I would choose a different path. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 26, 2014 10:27 AM
Whenever I mention Dr. Phil, people attack and say how much they hate him. lolNot all 19-year-olds party. And not all 27-year-olds want to settle down. IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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posted February 26, 2014 10:37 AM
Legal age 18 and to 100 plus......
All fine by me.
Married twice to men 15 years younger.
Problems were totally not age related.
Was also involved with a man about 28 years younger.
Again; age was not a factor in any of the breakups.
I do not see a problem with age differences as long as of legal age.IP: Logged |
Sibyl
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posted February 26, 2014 10:39 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Whenever I mention Dr. Phil, people attack and say how much they hate him. lol
What are you talking about? He is AWESOME. I wish I knew how to talk to people the way he does. Hero.
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Barbiegirl19
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posted February 26, 2014 10:39 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
Legal age 18 and to 100 plus......
All fine by me.
Married twice to men 15 years younger.
Problems were totally not age related.
Was also involved with a man about 28 years younger.
Again; age was not a factor in any of the breakups.
I do not see a problem with age differences as long as of legal age.
I agree completely! IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted February 26, 2014 10:40 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Whenever I mention Dr. Phil, people attack and say how much they hate him. lolNot all 19-year-olds party. And not all 27-year-olds want to settle down.
I despise Dr Phil LOL and I agree with what you said. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted February 26, 2014 10:40 AM
I have a friend with a wife who is 41 years younger. What's the difference? If it's blessed, it's blessed.IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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posted February 26, 2014 10:45 AM
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
I agree completely!
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Lexxigramer
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posted February 26, 2014 10:50 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I have a friend with a wife who is 41 years younger. What's the difference? If it's blessed, it's blessed.
My maternal grandparents had a 55 year age gap.
It was a fairly long (considering the age gap) happy marriage and they had 7 kids before he died.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted February 26, 2014 10:51 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
My maternal grandparents had a 55 or more years age gap. (Don't remember the exact number offhand.
It was a fairly long (considering the age gap) happy marriage and they had 7 kids before he died.
That's sure much better than rapid fire marriages/divorces among same-aged individuals.
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Sibyl
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posted February 26, 2014 10:57 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
My maternal grandparents had a 55 year age gap.
It was a fairly long (considering the age gap) happy marriage and they had 7 kids before he died.
Wait, I don't get it. A 55 year or 68 year difference? And how old were they? How did they have time for 7 kids? I can't imagine. It sounds like Abraham and Sarah. IP: Logged |
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