posted April 30, 2014 01:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Sibyl:
Who said the popular crowd was socially intelligent? I think you will find that the popular kids in highschool are not not necessarily well liked, nor will they necessarily do very well later in life. If they were so socially smart, there wouldn't be so much drama. You can't equate popularity to social intelligence!

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posted April 30, 2014 02:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
They could be infamous.

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Yes, I think so too.

I think social intelligence has much more to do with effective negotiation in relationships, an ability to communicate clearly, minimizing conflicts through communication skills, an ability to understand other people, their perspectives, and being able to "read" others well. I also think socially intelligent people are generally able to have quite harmonious relationships. I don't think back-stabbing, gossiping, "mean girls" are able to do that well. There are too many other factors that play into "popularity" such as looks, status, money, other skills, and last but definitely not least - manipulation...

posted April 30, 2014 03:06 PM            

Some of the women around here have nothing better to do besides talk about each other, apparently. *Barf*

I love hanging out with my Aquarius Sun/Sag Moon friend who loves gardening and drinking coffee with me, and our kids can hang out and have fun together.

posted April 30, 2014 06:33 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
But how does that make you feel?

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posted April 30, 2014 06:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
Uh...are you being sarcastic?

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posted April 30, 2014 07:30 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
No

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Okay, sorry...I wasn't sure.

Anyway, which part? How does what make me feel?
Gossipy, b*tchy ladies with nothing to do, or the fact that when I vent about them (even if not one person specifically, and to people who don't know them) I don't feel like I'm acting much better than they are?

posted April 30, 2014 07:39 PM            

Similarly, if I read a particularly nasty comment here or a really hateful post on Facebook or something, it also makes me feel mildly sick (maybe not literally, but a little bit...it makes my stomach knot up).

Hatefulness is really unpleasant, although I'm capable of feeling that way myself. But it obviously doesn't feel good.

If I'm venting about someone because they've completely driven me to the point of losing all patience, I still feel pretty badly.

It's really just not good to word things in a negative way, I think.

It feels much more pleasant to me if I word things in a way that basically says "that's just the way they are, none of us are perfect", and I feel like I'm able to express my feelings without hostility.

posted April 30, 2014 08:21 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I feel hungry.

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Right now? Or when people act like d0chebags? Or just in general...?

posted April 30, 2014 08:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
Okay, I'm going to go listen to music then (it's my Neptune talking). But I am genuinely curious to know how YOU feel about the stuff I was talking about.

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posted April 30, 2014 08:54 PM            

I can be explosive at times, though. I have Pluto in 3rd, and my Sun is conjunct BML and Pholus in 8th (trine Uranus). But I really do try not to be that way. If I need to go outside and do something really physically exerting to "vent", then I do that.

posted April 30, 2014 10:07 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Just to make myself clear, I dont ever see anything wrong with venting provided the person you are venting about knows you arent happy about what they are doing. Like I might say bad things about people here but the people I'm talking about know that I disapprove of their actions.

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Oh. Well, I prefer to keep the peace, so to speak. Like I said, I'm not particularly gifted at expressing myself in a way that's diplomatic if someone has seriously p*ssed me off.
And a lot of the time (I know I'm repeating myself here), the other person is so unwilling to hear anything other than a "Hey, I think that's swell!" regarding their behavior that I simply don't bother with it.

I might say it politely or bluntly once or twice, but after that I'm done. If someone isn't going to listen, they're not going to listen.

posted April 30, 2014 10:22 PM            

My mom does some seriously annoying sh*t that is completely counterproductive and irritating to everyone around her.

I have kindly but bluntly told her that people are annoyed by (fill in the blank).

She gets defensive, and basically ignores what I'm saying. It's like she has selective hearing (or selective mental abilities).

I also realize that what I'm saying to her often hurts her feelings, in spite of the fact that what she's doing is completely dysfunctional.

So now I just keep that stuff to myself, and occasionally vent to my husband, or my dad (who's been divorced from her for over 30 years), and rarely to my aunt (her sister).

posted May 01, 2014 12:31 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Sometimes diplomacy and political correctness are not viable options and you need to go in guns blazing and tell the person they are a ******* .

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Haha. Yeah, that's true. I've done it, and I've said things to people that have probably come back to hit me in the @ss, but it needed to be said. And when all was said and done, they got hit in the @ss as well.