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Topic: Have You Ever Been Suicidal?
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teasel Knowflake Posts: 2321 From: Ohio Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 27, 2010 03:13 PM
I have been - as a teenager, and just recently. I appreciated the concern posted elsewhere (and need to respond), but I was feeling very low and out of it, and just... I'm forcing myself out of bed every day, and looking for things to make me laugh. (I'll read this thread properly, later on. I need to get outside.) IP: Logged |
WinkAway Moderator Posts: 1372 From: here, there & everywhere Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 27, 2010 03:37 PM
Teasel (((HUG)))I know the feeling of not wanting to get out of bed. It's not being lazy, it's that you can't get the mental energy to do it. I remember being out of work and so depressed because I couldn't find work. I would have to force myself out of bed to get my son ready for school. Then I'd drive him to school...in my pajama's. I'd go back home and get back in bed and sleep until it was time to pick him up. Sleep has always been my way of dealing with depression. As a kid I was abused at home by my father and my babysitter. I'd go to school only to get teased. So my way of dealing with it was to lay down on the black top at recess and lunch break with my head in my arms. It was my way of hiding. If I fell asleep the school bell would wake me up. Then if I heard people tease me I could pretend I didn't hear. Teasel, my email is in my profile pic if you ever want to talk or chat. IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon Knowflake Posts: 957 From: u.k. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 28, 2010 06:04 PM
~ teasel ~just say say .. hope you feel better soon IP: Logged |
listenstotrees Knowflake Posts: 1605 From: Rivendell Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 30, 2010 12:12 PM
I can relate. Though I have been fortunate not to have been sexually abused as a child, I can relate to a lot of other things, that feeling of having such deep depression you've hardly any strength or will for anything....the tiredness at school (I had insomnia and heard a lot of arguing at home which kept me awake)....the feeling of being unhappy at both home and school, being teased.I have been suicidal recently too, but it is only the thoughts of it, of being in so much pain inside and having such low self esteem I just fantasize sometimes about it for a way out. But it probably isn't a way out exactly. IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 3459 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 30, 2010 12:44 PM
I do my best to stay upbeat and optimistic. Not considering suicide these days, but am too often overwhelmed with the troubles in my world. Very worried about my beloved becoming more disabled despite the treatment. And I cannot remember what it is like to live without bouts of agonizing pain, and continuous disabling pain in between those. Even as a child was often in pain due to birth defects or severe potentially deadly illnesses. Added to that, the estimate to fix chimney was $2,200, and the roof 3 times that, and more more more stuff.....so Winter will be interesting with that roof and a defective chimney. Seems that good news is always slammed by bad. I was so happy on the thread about my tests. But then today....all is chaos..... I am freaking exhausted. My beloved is not doing well with the seizures. He had a rough night and I could not rest as I was keeping an eye on him and I was having agonizing spasms to boot. He had to go to work...and has called 3 times telling me he has almost passed out and his boss knows, but is not pleased and we both have doctor appointments this afternoon..... I need the energy to get through today. Just more energy. I'll deal with tomorrow later, because that is how it is and hope for things to improve.IP: Logged |
WinkAway Moderator Posts: 1372 From: here, there & everywhere Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 30, 2010 01:19 PM
LEXX (((HUG)))Makes me wish I lived close to you. I'd be there for you. You are a strong person and I admire that. And a big heart too. If you need anything at all even an ear, my email is in my profile
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Ami Ann Knowflake Posts: From: Registered:
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posted July 30, 2010 02:48 PM
This is the first time I have come on this part of LL. This was the first post. I would never commit suicide for a number of reasons. One is that I am too much of a chicken Seriously, though, I have horrible depression. I am used to it cuz I have had it since I was 14. I never "did" medical interventions cuz I am naturally oriented. I think I know what it is ,though, now, and that helps. It is ALL the old thoughts from my parents. I am a Bible believer so I am listening to Bible teachers where they say how much God loves you and how much you are worth. I am glad I could talk here. Thank you for listening. Ami (((Wink))) I just read about your childhood years. My mother sexually abused me. It was "mild" if you could say that. I am too tired to go in to it -now --lol Maybe I will another time.
PPS When I can get the courage and strength lol I will do a thread on sexual abuse and tell you about what happened to me.
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WinkAway Moderator Posts: 1372 From: here, there & everywhere Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 30, 2010 05:23 PM
(((((((AMI)))))))
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LEXX Moderator Posts: 3459 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 30, 2010 06:23 PM
WinkAway! Thank you very much! Ami Ann My mother sexually abused me too. Sad you went through that too.
PS. Today's doctor visits went well! More meds, and a slew of lab and blood work ordered for both of us and referrals for a couple of specialists. ------------------ Everyone is a teacher... Everyone is a student... Learning is eternal. ~Everyone is gifted. Some simply open the package sooner~ }><}}(*> .☆¨¯`♥ ¸.☆¨¯`♥ ¸.☆¨¯`♥ IP: Logged |
Ami Ann Knowflake Posts: From: Registered:
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posted July 30, 2010 06:34 PM
Really, LEXX. I never knew someone who went through it whom I could talk to. Thank you Ami
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LEXX Moderator Posts: 3459 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 30, 2010 10:03 PM
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posted July 30, 2010 10:18 PM
LEXX I could cry cuz I never talked to someone who went through what I did. It is rare. I have been ashamed and have felt different. I have dressed myself up nicely, every hair in place but still inside I feel dirty I wonder will I ever overcome it? I run to put it behind me but it is always there in her voice in my head. I tell it "No" but I believe it. Ami IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 3459 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 30, 2010 10:43 PM
Ami Ann Feel free to share with me.{{{HUGS}}} The first thing is to know and tell yourself is.. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! And yes, telling someone every detail will help too. It is a terrible burden to keep to oneself. ------------------ Everyone is a teacher... Everyone is a student... Learning is eternal. ~Everyone is gifted. Some simply open the package sooner~ }><}}(*> .☆¨¯`♥ ¸.☆¨¯`♥ ¸.☆¨¯`♥ IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 3459 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 30, 2010 10:49 PM
Ami Ann A thread you could post non at Labors Of Love... http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum4/HTML/000469.html http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum4/HTML/000469-2.html Or start your own. You are not alone. ------------------ Everyone is a teacher... Everyone is a student... Learning is eternal. ~Everyone is gifted. Some simply open the package sooner~ }><}}(*> .☆¨¯`♥ ¸.☆¨¯`♥ ¸.☆¨¯`♥ IP: Logged |
Ami Ann Knowflake Posts: From: Registered:
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posted July 31, 2010 06:39 AM
LEXX I will be back! x o Ami
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listenstotrees Knowflake Posts: 1605 From: Rivendell Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 31, 2010 10:06 AM
Winkaway, Your energy is so kind and loving. Ami Ann, Lexx Love to you both...wish I could take all your pain away for you. IP: Logged |
listenstotrees Knowflake Posts: 1605 From: Rivendell Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 31, 2010 12:01 PM
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Ami Ann Knowflake Posts: From: Registered:
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posted August 01, 2010 09:54 AM
I am getting geared up to tell you about my mother and what happened to me. I have told some people in my life but perhaps if I told you, I could let it go more. I want to be free of as much as her harmful influence as I can. I want the me which is me to come out. That is our true essennce--who we were and still are--UNDER the abuse. Ami
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WinkAway Moderator Posts: 1372 From: here, there & everywhere Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 03, 2010 04:13 PM
LTT quote: Winkaway, Your energy is so kind and loving.
Really? Thank you, that means a lot to me.
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WinkAway Moderator Posts: 1372 From: here, there & everywhere Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 03, 2010 04:14 PM
Ami.. it really does help to get it out. If you don't feel comfortable posting it here, you are more than welcome to email me. I'd be happy to chat with you.IP: Logged |
Ami Ann Knowflake Posts: From: Registered:
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posted August 03, 2010 05:59 PM
Thank you ((Wink)) I am gonna get it out here,although I know you would understand just from reading your posts. I am just waiting for that right moment when I can take the plunge lol. x o Ami ------------------ Who looks outside dreams;who looks inside wakes. Jung IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 2321 From: Ohio Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 21, 2010 02:47 PM
Thank you, Wink and Happy Dragon.I'm right back in the hole, and I hate the reasons for it. My own choices, wasting time and dealing with someone who repeatedly messed with my head. I was feeling free, the first week of December, in March, in May, and then briefly in July - as well as the afternoon my grandmother was buried. And then it all started again. I need to find some way to pull myself out of this hole, because I don't know how much more of this I can take. It has to get better, for more than a few days or weeks. I just want to feel good about myself again. I wish my computer wasn't screwing up - I'd post a hug smiley. I'm sorry to hear what you went through, Wink. I'm lucky enough to have family who love me (as well as several other people). I've been so out of it for almost a year now, and something in July just tipped me back into that place - the worse place. IP: Logged |
hippichick Knowflake Posts: 514 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 21, 2010 03:54 PM
My 18 yr old tried it, her dad succeeded...My life is filled with the horror that the choice of one individual has encompassed. I feel for all of us, there is not a day that goes by that I just want to give up, but something keeps me going on. Many ask "how could somebody take their own life...??" One just does not know till one has been there.... I have argued with my mother, she just cant understand why my beautiful daughter would want to do such a thing and why my kid does the things she does..I keep trying to tell mother...you just dont know, till you been there...it is not the rational mind that opts out.... She was going on and on today about her dogs, a wheelchair for one, eye infections for another.....I WISH I had only her issues to deal with. Anyway, none of you are alone..we are here and struggling every day, just to keep going.. blessings t~~~ IP: Logged |
Valus Knowflake Posts: 3522 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 24, 2010 02:32 AM
A friend of mine took his life recently.I don't relate to most of the cliches and (what I believe to be) the manufactured opinions most people seem to have about suicide. We've been told how we ought to see it, and most of us are too impressionable to see it any other way. I don't think it's a horror. I think our notions about it are what make us suffer, for the most part. People wonder how someone could do it, but I've always wondered why more people don't do it. Why is the survival instinct so strong -- and by that I mean the instinct to perpetuate the life of the body on this plane(t)? Suppose a member of your family expressed a deep and abiding wander lust. Suppose they always dreamed of crossing the ocean and visiting a foreign land. Suppose nobody else wanted to go with them and they were resolved to go (alone). Would you weep and gnash your teeth and call them mad, cowardly, selfish, etc.? It seems to me that taking such a journey would be a brave thing and, under certain circumstances, not at all unreasonable or selfish. Perhaps we would be the cowardly, insane, and selfish ones, for insisting that we have a right to stop them or judge them. Or what if they wanted to become a monk? And they resolved to leave "the world" and enter a monastery. We would never see them again. Sure, it would be difficult to let them go, but do we really have a right to stand in the way of their decision? Just because we are so attached to life in the world, do we really have a right to demand that they be just as attached as we are? And can we really call them insane or sick for their lack of attachment? Perhaps the pain such a person feels is on account of their attachment to this plane(t), and not on account of their "death wish". Where did we get this idea, that we are supposed to be here, and not supposed to leave? Who says so? Why did we internalize this belief? Is it because we cannot bear to imagine that there is no reason for our being here? Would it really be so absurd and meaningless, if the choice is ours? Look around... Look at all the people starving, suffering of diseases, killing one another over land, money, religious ideologies, etc. What peculiar creatures we are. How did we come to be so obsessively invested in this mess? For a long time, I struggled with the desire to leave this place. Now, I think what I was really struggling with was the notion that I had to stay. I am very stubborn, and, whether I stay or go, I've always felt that it had to be my choice. I've resented the expectations placed on me. I've resented being told what I can or cannot do with my life. It was not my choice to be born, and, here, I was being told that the choice to die was not mine either. Bullocks! The moment I gave myself permission to die, I no longer felt the same longing to die. What I really wanted was freedom. Not the freedom that I imagined I would only find in death, but merely the freedom to live or die, according to my will. Still, though, I do not feel that I have full possession of this freedom, since I am bound to the ones I love, who would be hurt by my passing. I want to convince them that my suicide would not be something traumatic. And, indeed, I see no reason that it needs to be traumatic. Really, the only thing that makes it traumatic, I'm convinced, is the notion people hold onto that it is, and must be, traumatic! It is this notion, more than anything, which traumatizes them. And it's only because they have been brought up to believe that suicide is tragic, and that life (on earth) is the most precious thing -- indeed, the only thing. Perhaps we, who do not feel at home here, subconsciously induce profound suffering in ourselves so that our loved ones will be able to comfort themselves when we are gone by the thought that we must be better off in death. It is a strange thought. Perhaps all we really want is permission to die; to die without causing tremendous grief to those we leave behind. Often, I have felt resentment towards my family, friends, and my partner, for putting me in this position. I feel sure that, if they were more open-minded, they could break free of this notion that suicide is tragic, -- so they could free me of the obligation I feel, to live for their sakes and not my own. But I know this is asking too much of them. The prejudice against death is too strong, too deeply embedded in their psyches. They would never understand. They would always ache, not because they missed me, but, because they hold so tightly to the notion that suicide is something taboo; something to fear, stigmatize, judge, mourn, and outlaw. In my mind, I would only be a man crossing an ocean, in search of an undiscovered country, "from whose bourn no traveler returns". Not an unreasonable man, but a man obeying his intuition, and leaving behind a world already bent on its own destruction; a world that never, or hardly ever, understood me; never listened to me (at least, not to what was most original and personal in me); but only made demands upon me, and expected me to conform with its own idiotic investments and assumptions. Why are we here? Why must we descend to this place, rather than ascend into the heart of ineffable spiritual joys? Perhaps the answer is simple. Perhaps we are here only because we choose to be; because sometime, long ago, in the forgotten pre-history of our species, somebody sold us on the idea that we had to be here; that we are here for some divinely ordained reason; and that our own will is an insufficient authority, which must be sublimated for the sake of an allegedly higher will, of which we know nothing and can know nothing. I say, be done with the debate. Go, if you want to go. Stay, if it is your choice to stay. Only if it is your choice. Have countless generations of ancestors struggled and overcome unimaginable odds, so that you might carry the torch of human evolution one step further? Perhaps. But, so what? F*ck 'em. What did they know? Most likely, they were greater fools that we are now; driven by blind instinct, or worse, -- superstition. Perhaps the whole of human history, and the entirety of evolution itself, has existed only to reach this point where a man may take his own life into his hands, in defiance of all that came before him, and say, "No!" No; I will not "go gentle into that good night." I will not carry the torch one step further into the dark tunnel of blind destiny, to see my words laughed to scorn, and the work of my hands corrupted in the hands of my descendants. I will not tempt another holocaust, another famine, another plague, another war, or another civilization built on materialism and conquest. "Vanity of vanities; all is vanity!" It is a dubious investment, at best. So I say, live, if you want to live. Die, if you want to die. Invest, if you want to invest. But do not delude yourself, or others, into thinking this is some great enterprise. It is a gamble, just as death is a gamble. But, while we do not know what death may bring, we know well the horrors life has in store for humanity. We know that, for every rich man, there is an entire family that starves. And for every intelligent man, there is a village of idiots, who would burn him at the stake if they knew his thoughts. For every liar, there are a thousand people ready to believe his lies, and lie to themselves. This is the world. Take it as it is, love it as it is, or not at all. To me, it is no great affair. It's just the world. And we are just men, impressed with ourselves, and intoxicated by our own small power, for a little while. We are children at play, building up our blocks, and burning them down. It's not worth the price we pay, but here it is. Enjoy it for a little while. Or wander off. The choice is yours. "There is but one truly serious philosophical problem and that is suicide." (-- Albert Camus) I would stipulate only that, if suicide is a serious philosophical problem, then procreation is more serious still. The choices we make for ourselves pale beside the choices we make for others. For this reason, and for all the reasons I've mentioned in this post, I am morally opposed to procreation. If you have children, you have a responsibility to care for them, or to do your best to make sure that they will be cared for. I do not celebrate, but I weep, for every child that comes into this world; saddled with the demands, expectations, and assumptions of a foolish species that deludes itself about what it knows and what it does not know, and that, ultimately, cannot get enough of itself. "Blessed are the barren, and the wombs that never bare, and the paps which never gave suck." ~ Luke 23:29
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LEXX Moderator Posts: 3459 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 24, 2010 10:15 AM
In my youth I tried a few times but only put myself into 3 day comas and stomach pumpings. And a few other times as an adult via variations of Russian Roulette. Now is different. quote: I know the feeling of not wanting to get out of bed. It's not being lazy, it's that you can't get the mental energy to do it.
My beloved experiences that, and the seizures and horrible disabling headaches are mostly the causes of it. He has been suicidal over it. I on the other hand WANT DESPERATELY TO NOT BE SO OFTEN BED BOUND! My mental energy is usually fine but the physical does throw me into the deepest doldrums or at times even abysses...and I feel like just giving up. Like just when I was feeling optimistic on July 30th...then wham! I had a mini-stroke August 1st. Recovering from that but still feeling overwhelmed by too many other things. On that note...pain...must hit bed again...when I'd much rather go clean or do some yard work, or even take a walk. But at the moment cannot.
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