posted October 31, 2013 09:20 AM            

Would you like to continue our conversation here?

posted November 03, 2013 04:26 AM            

Not sure what was up with that other thread. Short replies went through but the minute it was a looooooooong one and you hit submit , it didn't show. Errrrrr.

Well now, where to start, jeepers.

Ok, with Ram first:
The timing of the "weaning" was not the best since there was so much going on at the time. Maybe it was part of the test..
Anyhow, after a little spat with my brother, Ram and I made contact again.

It was a good thing too. We had a pep talk.. He had been keeping an "eye" on me from a distance and he was concerned about certain observations he had made and concerned that I might spiral down the wrong road. He expressed those concerns.

You see,a good mentor is honest and won't turn a blind eye on bad behavior - not saying I was bad but begining to trod back into the same old cycle and repeat the same mistakes as before. Argh, need to be more specific.

After my coma, I didn't feel the same about many things, especially those little things which would annoy me, including people. It was as if I had a neutral feeling about those I couldn't tolerate before. My view on them had changed and instead on focusing on the negative and the reasons that I disliked them, I saw them as any other person who has struggles/issues and just need to find their way. It was like that for a while until I found myself giving and giving to the point of feeling drained. By giving, I mean putting everyone else first, falling into that same old habit of being unappreciated, dealing with the same old negative types of behavior where you eventually begin to slowly boil inside.

This is why Ram was concerned. He saw the same pattern arising and gave me a gentle reminder that we can't fix other people. It has to start with them. We can't make their issues our issues. Our journeys are our responsibilty. When we focus too much on another we forget about our own jorney.

He also remined me that I shouldn't allow myself to be weighed down with emotions of the moment. That emotions are a human experience and in reality,in the spiritual world, these negative emotions do not exist and I agree. We can't teach others to love if we don't love ourselves..

That was just part of the convo but after the talk it made me realize that boundries need to be reinforced for my own sanity and growth.

posted November 03, 2013 04:31 AM            

Those boundries have been applied and practiced. I've been happier since. A genuine happy. Something not felt in a very long time and my blood sugar has been stable for a while now too!

We converse on a daily basis as well.
Oh, yes. He understood why I had to cut him off for a while and he wasn't upset about it. He just missed the frienship aspect.

posted November 04, 2013 03:52 PM            

I really like Ram. It's so good of him to keep mindful of you, but give you space, and just to give you some reminders about what's good for you to do...basically, yeah, I wish I had someone like that! Does he do consultations?

Nah, kidding, I will just try and apply the same wisdom if you don't mind?

I tend to over-extend myself as well...Pisces moon is nothing BUT boundaries issues...but we're not doing anyone any favors, really, if we let the world wear us down to nothing. That's for sure.

It's something that's been on my mind a lot lately, actually. So thank you, I'm taking this as a sign that I need to think about it even more. And I am really happy for you, that things are going better for you now, and you and Ram are talking~ looks like all is well!

I can't remember what else we were talking about...probably food if I know me. LOL

But I have to run, my husband just called me on the walkie-talkie and invited me down to the forest to play some hide and seek with our little ones.

Best wishes

posted November 06, 2013 06:48 AM            

Sorry for the late reply. Yesterday was a super busy day yet good.

Sounds like you and the family are enjoying your new home! Hope you have lots of fun make make great memories there!

Oh, you know Saggies aren't stingy to share. Ram is actually a memeber here and makes an occasional visit once in a blue moon which for me is very special because you can instantly feel the woosa energies on his posts..like a breath of fresh air. (That last piece of the sentence is no offence to others!..just in case..having foot in the mouth syndrome a lot lately!)

Agreed. Practising and trying to unlearn a particular behavior is a toughy. You might cave ever so often or think you'll make one exception and before you know it, the cycle starts all over again. Bleh.

Take little baby steps at first to test the waters and see how it goes. The problem is the guilt or thinking it's selfish to put yourself first when you've always been quite selfless..it's normal though when you comprehend the difference between boundries for your own sanity and selfishness.

posted November 06, 2013 06:56 AM            

It happened to me quite a couple of times and then you think to yourself, "did I say something wrong?" "Ohn they ignore me because I'm not part their clique"
Etc etc

So welcome to the club!
Yeah, we deserve ballons for that.

Don't take it personally though. It's just one of those tarty things. And it doesn't stop us from saying our two cents worth anyways.

posted November 06, 2013 07:09 AM            

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum31/HTML/000286.html

posted November 07, 2013 11:31 AM            

I just wrote you a nice long message and lost it at the very end.

Same thing happened to me yesterday when I wrote a long message to Ceri in the asteroid forum, it just vanished while I was proofreading.

I will have to learn my lesson and compose messages somewhere else and transfer them, I get heartsick over wasting so much time.

posted November 08, 2013 01:31 AM            

You really don't feel like typing out a reply again after that. I even tried typing it somewhere else, copy and paste and the same result.

I thought the thread was glitchy but apparently not.

posted November 08, 2013 10:54 AM            

It just happened a second ago when I was trying to post a new topic in the Asteroid Forum. I had only written one sentence.

I hit shift and then a letter, to capitalize, and POOF. It took me right back to the Asteroid Forum.

I have no mobile internet, this is all from my laptop.

posted November 11, 2013 10:44 PM            

I'm just trying to catch up on email and stuff now that I am fully operational again. Might take me a few days, bear with me...

See you on *the food snob thread* in like three minutes, too.

posted November 11, 2013 11:06 PM            

Glad you figured out what the problem was.
Still not sure what was causing mine. Errr.

posted November 18, 2013 09:52 AM            

Where is the "I'm a goofball" emoticon? I need that one very much.

Leaving to do some errands but will be back soon...for real!

Hope your day is dandy

posted November 21, 2013 08:02 AM            

A part of me feels that he had some mental issues.

Will see what comes from it and share it here with you.

posted November 21, 2013 09:57 AM            

I just wrote you a message and lost it, because I can't seem to learn the simple lesson that I must turn my mouse off before posting here. If I leave my mouse on, the shift key eventually starts working like a back arrow button.

But I'm actually going to just re-write this time! Ohhh, the luxury of having a few spare minutes!

I was saying that I'm glad you are getting a new reading for your dad's chart. I know from experience how healing a chart reading can be...and now that I know more about astrology, I can sometimes look at a chart and gasp or even cry at the revelation there...it just confirms and validates, or makes more concrete...emotional themes or major issues going on with people and their relationships. For example, I just learned that my father's Pluto was exactly conjunct my mother's Chiron. Oh my god...YES it was!!! And this Pluto-Chiron was exactly conjunct my sister's sun-Mercury (possibly moon as well) and tightly opposing my own sun (less than one degree) and squaring my brother's sun (again, less than one degree.)

So it's like...rather than just sitting there like a quiet problem, my parents' Pluto-Chiron spawned children and the energy just reverberated through the family. It really did.

Just one recent example of being a little freaked out by how spooky-precise the charts can be. But for me, it helps...helps me be less judgemental for one thing...I can throw up my hands and say, "It was written in the stars" the way a religious person would say it was God's will. Same thing, pretty much!

Anyway, how are you doing?? Health okay? Do you do anything special for the holidays...are they a happy or difficult time for you?

Replying again (lost the first reply) to some things you said above...though it's hard for me to quote without a mouse.

You mentioned that Ram visits here once in a while and is like a breath of fresh air. I know some members who are like that and think I know what you are talking about...though I can't imagine who Ram is...but that's okay, I won't try and blow his cover!

And you are SO right that it's easy to slip back into bad habits if you just cave in once...twice..then oops, you've fallen right back into the same old cycle. I am trying to clean up my diet big time right now and HOPE it lasts for a while...even if I do fall back into basically living off of dark chocolate, coffee, and salad (that's my usual diet, with special emphasis on ungodly amounts of chocolate, and recognizing formally here that I truly have a problematic addiction to that stuff.)

As for selfish versus selfless, I think my circumstances determine much of this...like I can only be selfish in certain ways, within certain parameters, because I am selflessly (or just stupidly?) acquiescing to my husband's overall wishes about how he wants our family to live. My selfishness kind of has to express itself within the confines of acceptability, relative to my family's needs...not that it's always easy to see what people need.

So I selfishly spend time on the computer because I cannot selfishly get, say, a part-time job at the health store as I would REALLY like, because family dynamics don't allow for that. You know what I mean?

Not sure why I'm saying this...LOL....my way of thinking seems to be changing...maybe it's Neptune in Pisces aspecting my Scorpio Uranus, which is the apex of my Mercury-Saturn-Uranus t-square. Who knows, I just hope it doesn't come off as too odd.

Thank you so much for welcoming me to the thread killer club, and for the balloons! You make me almost happy to be there, I just hope I don't kill THIS particular thread.

But if I do, at least I am STILL in the club with you...and I think any club you're in must be elite since you are a model and a Sag and multi-lingual and on and on!

I guess that's all for now, but I keep meaning to ask you if you watch or like any Bollywood movies? I <3 Bollywood.

Talk to you later! =)

posted November 21, 2013 10:12 AM            

quote:

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Originally posted by charmainec:
You also mentioned on another thread that you think you're a thread killer or something like..you mentioned how you post a reply and then there are no replies after. You're not the only one! Lol!

It happened to me quite a couple of times and then you think to yourself, "did I say something wrong?" "Ohn they ignore me because I'm not part their clique"
Etc etc

So welcome to the club!
Yeah, we deserve ballons for that.

Don't take it personally though. It's just one of those tarty things. And it doesn't stop us from saying our two cents worth anyways.

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I belong to the killer club as well....

Being ignored can be powerful is a positive way.
If we are speaking with good intentions, no one can doubt, retort or even lightly respond to the comments.
Or so I tell myself

posted November 26, 2013 06:06 AM            

No worries. Been crazy busy my side as well.*bleh face* TTook on too many projects and begining to burn out. :/ I completely suck at time management!

Astrology can be very revealing. With my dad's chart, it wasn't so much to compare but to maybe try understand him from a different point of view as we only know what we see or exposed to..he has a Cap rising, Aqua Sun, Pisces Merc which I has swapped around the other day ai! Venus Aqua.. Argh will have take a look again. Can't seem to remember his placements off hand.. Will rather go into detail when I have his chart on hand.

How is the diet going? Isn't it odd that when you're trying to follow a special diet, suddenly you find yourself surrounded by all sorts of temptations? It makes is so. Much harder and the junk is super appealing. *can taste it by just thinking of it*

Besides diet, there is also an emotional factor attached to the health issues I have. Since taking a calmer approach (not ALL the time) and avoiding particular things which annoy me like anyone who deliberatley wants to provoke me there have been major improvements. Yesterday was bad though due to lack of sleep and some other things and taking on too many projects as mentioned earlier - I crashed. I don't even remember sleeping..just feeling something wet on my face..opened my eyes and saw two ice blue eyes with a panting mouth staring at me! Lol! My wolfy fluffa decided it was time for me to wake up. Couldn't go back to sleep afterwards.

Hey, you're not selfish. You're taking quality time for yourself. We all need it. It's easy getting lost in taking care of responsibilities etc and neglecting yourself. Don't feel guilty about it at all. *snob face*

Hmmm, thread killers kill their own thread? Hahaha! Not likely to happen with this one. We just take our own sweet time replying.

That's another thing which annoys me: when you're expected to be "around all the time" to reply on a thread you were active on..let's say you reply to a post and another directs their response to you; it's like they get impatient waiting for you to answer back. There were times I genuinely forgot. It usaully happens when reading threads in the other forums. Or you read then tell yourself you'll be back to reply later and never do because it slipped your mind.

posted November 26, 2013 06:10 AM            

No worries. Been crazy busy my side as well.*bleh face* TTook on too many projects and begining to burn out. :/ I completely suck at time management!

Astrology can be very revealing. With my dad's chart, it wasn't so much to compare but to maybe try understand him from a different point of view as we only know what we see or exposed to..he has a Cap rising, Aqua Sun, Pisces Merc which I has swapped around the other day ai! Venus Aqua.. Argh will have take a look again. Can't seem to remember his placements off hand.. Will rather go into detail when I have his chart on hand.

How is the diet going? Isn't it odd that when you're trying to follow a special diet, suddenly you find yourself surrounded by all sorts of temptations? It makes is so. Much harder and the junk is super appealing. *can taste it by just thinking of it*

Besides diet, there is also an emotional factor attached to the health issues I have. Since taking a calmer approach (not ALL the time) and avoiding particular things which annoy me like anyone who deliberatley wants to provoke me there have been major improvements. Yesterday was bad though due to lack of sleep and some other things and taking on too many projects as mentioned earlier - I crashed. I don't even remember sleeping..just feeling something wet on my face..opened my eyes and saw two ice blue eyes with a panting mouth staring at me! Lol! My wolfy fluffa decided it was time for me to wake up. Couldn't go back to sleep afterwards.

Hey, you're not selfish. You're taking quality time for yourself. We all need it. It's easy getting lost in taking care of responsibilities etc and neglecting yourself. Don't feel guilty about it at all. *snob face*

Hmmm, thread killers kill their own thread? Hahaha! Not likely to happen with this one. We just take our own sweet time replying.

That's another thing which annoys me: when you're expected to be "around all the time" to reply on a thread you were active on..let's say you reply to a post and another directs their response to you; it's like they get impatient waiting for you to answer back. There were times I genuinely forgot. It usaully happens when reading threads in the other forums. Or you read then tell yourself you'll be back to reply later and never do because it slipped your mind.

posted November 26, 2013 06:17 AM            

The holidays..hmm..they are usually busy busy busy! My time there is more dedicated to others and making it a special experience for them. It's all about giving back.

What do you have planned? Howcome you can't work? Is it because you're a full time mum? What did you dream of becoming one day?

posted November 26, 2013 06:20 AM            

It's not a bad club to belong to anyhow.

Sooooooorry for neglecting you! Haven't been checking me emails regularly either. How's the weather your side? Oh and how are your fluffas doing?

I miss you lots..