posted December 15, 2014 04:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:

Btw, ever wonder why there are no mermen? I guess because mermaids can't open their legs, it drove all the men away? Sorry to be crass but I've given this some thought and that's my best conclusion.

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posted December 15, 2014 04:36 PM            

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You worry too much about how people perceive your comments, get flustered and upset when people misunderstand your thoughts, and feel defensive because you think people aren't listening and you really raise your voice.

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I missed what went on, but am glad it's been sorted out.

I understand the above statement. I was recently thinking about how that has happened throughout my own life and online. I found myself saying to someone recently "What? That's not what I meant at all." Like, how did you gather that from what I said? I get afraid to say anything lately because people sometimes misconstrue it so much that it ends up being frustrating so I just shut down.

Even - and especially sometimes on here, it happens. When you can't or don't want to explain something that has made you upset in some way and then find out that people are perceiving it totally the wrong way, it IS frustrating.

Most people know I am not fond of Randall and apparently some think it's because I had a thing for him or we had something going on at one point. The exact opposite is true and we were never in a relationship. It's no secret that he liked me quite a bit at one (or a few) points and I had a few people ask me about it privately way back when because it was so noticeable, and comment on his flirting on forum (they didn't know about off forum).

Long story short, the last time, come to find out, he's in a relationship with charmaine. I had no idea. After being questioned about his age, I told a person i thought I could trust his birthdate (w/o time) and she (apparently a close friend at the time of carmine's) told him that I told him and he erupted into the most hate-filled nasty emails to me. His birthdate and real age was supposed to be top secret, i guess.

Anyway, i'm tired of knowing that people are perceiving me the wrong way and have been for so long and anything I say makes it look like I'm jealous or something along those lines. I knew a long time ago, after getting to know him offline a bit that I was not interested in him in that way. I've been wanting to put that on the record for a long time now, but not sure how to get it out as simply as possible and without it turning into an all out war.

It IS frustrating when you can't tell all, for one reason or another - mainly to keep the peace, and more frustrating when anything you say gets more misconstrued. It tends to bubble up and come out every so often even though there's not much anger behind it anymore.

I feel better now letting one of the main issues at this point out.

posted December 15, 2014 04:45 PM            

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Originally posted by juniperb:
Is everyone in the Christmas spirit?

My fav time of year to bake , decorate and share .

My lights are glittering, decorations shining and the fire glowing for a traditional 12 days of Christmas.

What are you ladies asking Santa for this season?

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posted December 15, 2014 04:48 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Cutie came home!

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It's quite amazing how far, especially cats can wander and still find their way home.

posted December 15, 2014 04:54 PM            

I never knew what happened with you, T... I saw some threads and had a vague idea with whom the conflict was but never knew the details. I hate that people on LL tend to curdle up together and gang on other people. Me being the Mercury square Pluto that I am, I dug deep into all the past drama here but never once passed judgments or treated anyone specifically based on it. So I really REALLY hate that you feel people still misjudge you or misunderstand your thoughts and feelings. It's upsetting because it's almost like a stigma associated with your identity here, and I hate that there's this assumption that people can't grow or change or move on from whatever drama that once existed. I even hate more that people feel the need to bring up past conflicts and attack people based on them in new threads that have nothing to do with whatever issue they had in the past. Like why? In situations like this, I do sympathize with you and DF because I know he's working on his Mercury-Mars issue but no matter how hard he tries, people still unnecessarily go after him and instigate. I don't like that because I know he tries and he worries so much about what people think of what he says, more so than he displays. This behavior, whether it's directed to you or DF or Bella or anyone else... It's upsetting all in all. I've seen it happen over and over again to multiple people.

I'm really sorry you still go through this but you have a good deal of great people who like you here (I am certainly one of them) and I think you shouldn't give a f*ck about those that still continue to taunt you or drag your name in the dirt. People should be way past certain things but I guess some people don't grow as much as they like to say they do.

posted December 15, 2014 05:29 PM            

My chart being what it is, all that virgo and 12th, etc. My mind spins very VERY fast. There's always what feels like a billion things going on in there. I keep most to myself though. (even though it doesn't seem like it perhaps. It's part of the illusion)
So, with that - SOME - of the things going on that are wearing on me.

- Anniversary of my father passing away is right now. His birthday last Saturday.

- Good friend and coworker, only a year older than me, newly married, passed away of cancer last Tuesday. Funeral was Saturday. It's upsetting, not that I won't see him again. But just that he is no longer here to enjoy this. To give and receive love from his family, and his wife, and his daughter. His friends. I'd be fine not seeing him, even though I would want to. I just wish he were here, somewhere in the world, doing his thing. That guy was REALLY loved, I'm telling you. I never felt so much love as I did at that service. It was incredible.

In real life, I'm a much different person. I'm nothing like I am on LL. I have theories about this, but I don't know.
One thing is, as I stated as kind of joke in PisceanDreams "Dreaming about Members of LL" thread, I really am extreme sometimes. If a situation seems hopeless, I may just throw everything in the $hitter and go for broke. I'll DESTROY that situation if I feel like and I don't worry about what a fool I look like doing it. If the situation seems hopeless, what point is there in trying to save it. It's not a great trait. I've done it in real life. I'm the kind of person who WILL slam the door on the way out. lol Not everything in life is like this. I'd have a nervous breakdown! Be fired, or dead! But on LL, when it feels hopeless, I'll make it hopeless so at least the situation matches my feelings.

What's funny is something that gets misunderstood. I often say, "I don't care what people think" and then am told back that I in fact do. Here's the thing. I don't care what people think. I care if they understand me. If they understand me, and what they understood, they don't like, cool. But if my intentions are mistaken, I'm misunderstood. I hate that. But it depends how it's handled. If I'm asked, "What did you mean?" or "Is that an insult?" or "Is that sarcasm?" Generally, that's not what happens. It's ASSUMED to be an insult, or sarcasm, etc and people's actions are based on assumption. Granted, I'm not without guilt. I make the same mistakes sometimes. We all do.

Anyway..... PD brings up a good point. In a recent thread. One or two people did just that. I meant no harm. Maybe it was the way that I responded to them, could be. Before you know it there's 4-6 people all over my $hit. Hell one person that I've never had beef with in my life pops in bringing up all kinds of ridiculous things from the past. Most of which have no basis on reality. One was accusing me of basically holding hands with people in power. I don't think so. I've gone rounds with Randall before and other mods. I was warned about the way I spoke to one mod.
Anyway, no need to dissect anything. Sorry.
But definitely, it feels like every time I get into one of these situations, all of the other situations that I've ever had come up. I never say so because... well it's just the way I am. But I think, "How the hell am I supposed to move forward if you keep grabbing my damn ankles!?"

Well that's enough sharing I guess....

posted December 15, 2014 06:04 PM            

You can learn how to express yourself in a safer atmosphere than real life.

Even though it does not seem safe, a lot, it is better than a person in real life at your neck lol

I have learned soooo many coping skills on LL. What drove me crazy when I first got here is literally nothing now.

I credit my ability to have my website to the lessons I learned on here, period end.

I could never manage to cope with all the various people I encounter if I had not had role models on here like Randall and Lalalinda.

DF, it is good for you to risk as you are. It is not easy but I am proud of you!

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posted December 15, 2014 07:39 PM            

@T

Thanks for being clear. I'm inspired by your bravery, just telling your truth here and letting the cards fall where they may. I wish Randall would man up and apologize but....people hardly ever change.

@PD

Excellent debate skills It's a shame Randall just put on a show of thinking and using complicated syntax instead of actually focusing on your point and addressing it, meeting your high-calibur rhetoric with something lofty and substantial.

It's predictable that he threw out a glib, irrelevant comment and locked the thread, thus ensuring maximum frustration for the people who've been cut off. He does that a lot. Long live freedom of expression! (Until he's outsmarted, then it's annoying!)

LOL

All in good fun, I guess.

Hey at least Ellyn made me laugh with her timely butt-kissing. That was cute.

@DF