posted October 11, 2018 05:54 AM            

I moved away from that city recently and then out of nowhere he added me on social media again. We started speaking intensely and have formed a deep connection/ as much as is possible without being physically together. We go through stages of blocking each other but we always come back together, saying we miss each other and picking up where we left off.

I can't shake this feeling that he is the one for me. I have had readers even predict this person and very exact details about him.

I just don't know, and i'm afraid to invest more and become attached so I keep shutting things down. I’m at a critical turning point in my life where I’m trying to launch a business and establish myself and I don’t really have the time to invest in a relationship right now. I know I’m risking losing someone important bur I know what I need to be focused on right now, it doesn’t negate my feelings for this person though. They’re intense.

Looking at the charts I'm most concerned about moon square neptune in synastry. I just don't know what is real. I worry it's all in my head.

Please tell me what you make of these charts? Is there potential for a solid relationship here? I feel very strongly toward him, a lot of emotion and attraction. He is my ideal partner.

Should I give this a chance? Do these charts look positive for a serious relationship? I am on the inside in the synastry.

posted October 12, 2018 06:15 AM            

Aside from the astrology, if you two are already blocking each other, and your time is preoccupied.. these aren't great foundations.

posted October 12, 2018 06:16 PM            

Yes the TOBs are correct too x

posted October 12, 2018 06:48 PM            

I feel we have an incredibly strong psychic, spiritual and emotional connection.

Which Davison chart option should I use on Astro.com?

posted October 12, 2018 06:57 PM            

The first thing I see is Mercury square Neptune.

posted October 12, 2018 07:56 PM            

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Originally posted by cultstatus:
Well it’s just consuming, almost overwhelming in a good way. But we have physical distance between us so it makes it difficult to really invest in rit ight now, along with the other stuff going on. It just feels like the timing is off. We always come back saying we miss each other, when we try to ignore it.

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Yep.. I understand

And, hypatia238 is onto it too

I was going to say that the "all consuming" stems from your natal (not that I've looked at your natal). Because there's just not enough in your interaction yet. But still looking at your natal to see what type of relationships are going to be triggers for you will still be useful because it's noticed that your Moon is likely to be squared by Neptune and Uranus of people of your gen (see below). This leaves you very open to troublesome attachments.

However .. now looking closer ... I see lots of things! Because you aren't very close to each other, I would typically begin with Synastry. I would say that the feelings you feel are 1. the aspects below and 2. importantly the degrees; the degrees are quite tight and intense.

Whether it's worth it or not, perhaps the Davison will tell?

I'm just going to list through because I have to get back to studying, lol.

Your Pluto conjunct his Moon although wide IS a strong (and obsessive) force, and very much so for the Pluto person. Along with your Venus/Saturn square his Mars doubles that tension - the Venus/Saturn will stick and long for the Mars (again, obsessive), but, also, that Saturn can be a bit ****** in that it can go hot n cold playing games with a want you I don't want you, and frustrate Mars with too much complexity.

His Mars is sandwiched between these powerful forces with tight degrees and that's quite a web of tension. But, ultimately, referring back to your question if it's all worth it: this is not a nice web.

You do have your Jupiter trine that Mars (his Mars which tightly squared by your Venus/Saturn). But, I suspect that will only amplify and inflame the tension making it really tricky to resolve.

Your Mars trines his Venus though.. So we have mixed signals to the above. Adding to the: "sometimes we like each other sometimes we don't". Which can be really draining and confusing, especially if you want to have a life. But some people thrive on all that so who knows

His Saturn trines your Moon - outside one degree exact. But, that same Moon is also squared by the big guys Uranus and Neptune - EXACT. So, this is a counter force to what your Venus and Saturn is doing with his Mars. But it is EXACT so, that's a bit scary for me.

It's also a counter force to your Pluto (thankfully widely) on his Moon.

What a fun synastry to look at! My feeling is that it's a *** for tat, all consuming, possibly vengeful romance that will come of it in the end (but still I haven't looked enough.. I didn't even look at nodes hopefully there will be some mercy there, lol). These are important, fun learning relationships at some stage in our lives. More importantly though, they are really hard to resist

Let's see what else comes out..

Please keep us updated on your progress so we can all learn

posted October 12, 2018 08:57 PM            

And in Aires so it's you about exercising and learning how to be the warrior. With those tense aspects etc I'd tread carefully.

And his is wide on your Neptune

About him learning how to be more "go with the flow". And for everyone not just the self.

But also, your SN is on all those planets in the Davison - perhaps you'll get tired of it all before he does.

I'd be taking it so slowly with all this. But I think that's going to be hard to do.

posted October 12, 2018 09:05 PM            

I just received a text from him asking ‘why do you hate me so much’.

I just can’t escape this!

posted October 12, 2018 11:08 PM            

To me it indicates he is quite emotionally manipulative. He knows from our conversations I don't 'hate him', anything but.

I've asked him many times to just not communicate while I get my life in order, that it is too distracting and seems pointless while we are in different places.

He has talked about relocating to near where I am in the future btw.

I feel I have been completely transparent with my emotions toward him, yet I feel he hasn't expressed much at all. Yet he's quite aggressive with wanting to communicate all the time, and is not accepting of the fact that I don't want to.

Anyway he blocked my number again before I even had the chance to respond so I think this is the closure I need. He's definitely not the type of man I want in my life if this is how he is conducting himself.

He's not really revealing anything, leaving everything open to my own interpretation while I have made myself completely vulnerable by discussing with him how he impacts me and how I feel tied to him etc.

I just wonder what he is feeling, is this all a big game to him? Or does he actually feel what I am feeling too?

posted October 13, 2018 01:37 AM            

And this is why I request that you let us know how it goes some time down the track, and also too, your thoughts in retrospective. Because it's super interesting!

It's also interesting to hear how he is playing it out.. is his (aggressive Aries) Venus trying to lure your nn (and Mars) in? If so - why? What else is in his chart making his do this/what does he want, Etc.. I'd have to look more at the synastry (and his natal) to speculate at this level.

You are open to being manipulated and played with because of your Moon anyhow. Some people will pick up on that and enjoy playing with you. There are a lot of players out there too that do it for ego and lack the empathy and responsibility to not hurt others.

Hard to say about him - is he 18, 30 or in his 50s? It depends on lots of things: experience, maturity, how much energy they have left to play games.. Love games can be fun at some stages in our lives after all. It depends on what game it is too; some aren't pleasant, and some are incompatible to one of the people involved.

Sorry.. I'm ranting, lol..

You'd have to put his natal up for an analysis. With a damn grid!

posted October 13, 2018 08:05 PM            

My NN in Aries opposes my natal moon, I yearn to have a partner, someone to lean on, and feel uncomfortable being independent, but over the years I've become so much stronger to the point where it would take a really special person to compromise my life for.

So it makes sense that people come in to my life to push me that way too. It's just so weird that we met like 2 and a half years ago and nothing kind of happened at all so I forgot about it, and then as soon as I leave he pops up and we form the connection I always dreamed of having with him.

It's weird because even though he is full Aries I do feel like he is depending on me for something? Attention? Affection? Emotional support? I can't give him what he needs right now.

posted October 13, 2018 08:07 PM            

He's mid 20's, (26?) however he has had one serious relationship (5 years) and a few other ones too.

posted October 13, 2018 08:59 PM            

don't want to derail your questioning BUT, if you will be so generous, your Aries NN opposite your Moon is intriguing me.

I am analysing someone with similar: NN Aries. It is very widely opposite his Libra Mars. My Libran Moon falls in between the Mars and the SN. I only have Chiron at his NN end.

So.. my question is: how does it work when you have NN opposite (the important needs of) a personal planet? How do you think it would work if it was your Mars and not your Moon?

Also, how does the polarity go with node axis Libra-Aries? Need relationships > get relationship > don't want relationship? Want relationships where it's assertive maybe aggressive even? Or a relationship that allows/encourages the growth toward being assertive? Pushing away from harmony and pleasing people (but still needing this too because the personal planet is in Libra)? Starting fights in relationship to test strength? Having impatience for social niceties and contempt even for polite repertoire? Seeing nice people as pushovers? In my guys case: having sex with pleasers but only relationships with assertive-types (it's a guess!)? Ambiguous feelings: disdain for all things Libra (SN) but still also needing/being attracted to all things Libra (personal planets in Libra/SN), Starting fights with partner to justify going it alone (unconscious drivers).

All off the top of my head BUT I actually have NO idea. I don't even know this person at all, haven't even met. So it's all a guess.

It also depends on the rulers and other planets. In this person's case, it's the ruler of the NN that (almost/widely) opposes itself. He also has Saturn in Aries.

posted October 13, 2018 09:35 PM            

It's kind of challenging to explain as I feel I'm only just figuring this out myself as I learn to know myself better but I'll give it a go.

I literally yearn for relationships - I'm 31 now and from the age of 18 had a serious relationship for 5.5 years, then two more after that (3 years and 1 year), life is so much more COMFORTABLE AND EASY in a relationship, or so I thought. However - the only time I've ever really made progress in life is after I've gotten out of said relationships. Then I've made huge strides toward what I actually should be doing in this life. It never seems to happen when I'm WITH someone? But I've always felt this insatiable need to be with someone for support, but the support I'm trying to obtain from them ends up being a hindrance in hindsight.

When I'm IN the relationship I definitely want it, can't let go of it, will beat that horse until it's well and truely dead. I literally martyr myself.

So I suppose while I think I want relationships, they never seem to serve me very well in getting where I need to go. Which is probably why I am so scared of someone derailing me now, when I am SO CLOSE to my dream (of having my own label).

I actually hate Libra suns tbh, I've had a few close ones over the years but now I wouldn't even bother if another came my way. In saying that I do love everything Libra related, EVERYTHING must be aesthetically pleasing to the enth degree (work in fashion), I need peace and tranquility at home in every sense otherwise I completely lose my mind etc.

What else about the polarity, well I suppose I'm HUGE on manners, but at the same time I am so blunt that I often get told I'm 'rude' - which I find completely offensive, I think I'm speaking the truth and not presenting it with niceties to ease the blow, the truth is the truth. And if you don't present it without all the other crap it's not heard.

I'll think some more and get back to you on this one, interesting question!

posted October 14, 2018 11:51 AM            

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Originally posted by cultstatus:
Sassaqua I think for my part my Mercury square Pluto natally gives me an obsessive mind.

He's mid 20's, (26?) however he has had one serious relationship (5 years) and a few other ones too.

Also, does anyone with Venus NN synastry ever end up together! I'm so over love lessons tbh, I just want a husband and peace in my life haha.

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