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Topic: Kick It ~ a picture of me to get you excited
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wheelsofcheese
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From: UK
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posted November 11, 2008 04:24 AM
 
PA, you're killing me this morning mate.  IP: Logged |
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From: Outside, to watch the nightfall in the rain
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posted November 11, 2008 04:25 AM
This is starting to look more like Godzala with blokes now  What shall we call this thread? " Godzala Homme"?
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PeaceAngel
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posted November 11, 2008 04:32 AM
23Godzala Homme. Love it. What does it smell like? Hot manly sweat? Can it also be used to clear the nasal passages? IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
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posted November 11, 2008 04:32 AM
Hey wheelsLong time no speak.  IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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posted November 11, 2008 04:39 AM
Blue Moon....oh my goodness...thank you!!! That site is amazing...I am thoroughly mesmerized now  IP: Logged |
wheelsofcheese
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From: UK
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posted November 11, 2008 04:40 AM
How you doing chicken? IP: Logged |
blue moon
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posted November 11, 2008 04:43 AM
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I'm as ugly as sin, but I'm married with kids. What aspects show that?
Dunno, what aspects do we share? Men probably still ask you out as well, go on, admit it. They still do me, that cracks me up. My dad says: they must be desperate. He's probably right. But there's the psychological factor: there's something about a library that gets to a man. They have to submit, they have to admit they need help. There's something in the male tunnel vision thing that means they can't find things. There's probably a scientific explanation. IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
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posted November 11, 2008 04:44 AM
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Dunno, what aspects do we share?
Husbands? IP: Logged |
blue moon
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posted November 11, 2008 04:46 AM
Share?It's about time there was husband-swapping, wife-swapping is so demeaning.
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PeaceAngel
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posted November 11, 2008 04:53 AM
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Share?
It's about time there was husband-swapping, wife-swapping is so demeaning.
Well, I'd rather share/swap with Christian Bale's wife, if that's okay? Or RDJ's. I'm open. Apparently.
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blue moon
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posted November 11, 2008 05:33 AM
That's Russell Crowe, for MyVirgoMask, who is an admirer, apparently. The picture came up a bit small. quote:
That's not the first time you've given that kind of reply. It always cracks me up. But I've noticed it's not taken too kindly.
If they prefer to take the advice of someone else who can't get a man, that's fine by me. Or should I qualify that with someone else who can't get a man who is *lists long list of contradictory and unrealistic requirements*.
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PeaceAngel
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From: Australia
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posted November 11, 2008 05:57 AM
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If they prefer to take the advice of someone else who can't get a man, that's fine by me. Or should I qualify that with someone else who can't get a man who is *lists long list of contradictory and unrealistic requirements*.
Ah, never mind the useful opinon of a woman who is actually in a committed relationship. If only we looked like Madonna. 
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PeaceAngel
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posted November 11, 2008 05:59 AM
Russell huh! I can see that now. Wow - nice package. He fills his jeans really nicely.IP: Logged |
blue moon
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Registered: Dec 2007
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posted November 11, 2008 06:30 AM
Back in the day I worked with 2 women who moaned a lot about being single. They never listened either when I told them they were fussy. There was one conversation actually got me a bit annoyed. They said they would never go with a man had less qualifications then them. wtf? We all have masters degrees, that is bringing the percentage of available men down significantly. The snobbery in it also annoyed me, not just the stupidity. They said: it's alright for you, you've got a boyfriend. Really they meant a man who looked good in a suit, had a good job, and the manners to stand them all drinks after work. A divorced boyfriend with no qualifications, they wouldn't have looked at him twice. Do men go after snobby, carping, moaning women in droves? No doubt someone will tell me I'm wrong but I've not noticed this happen a lot. Where's the joy in being with someone who is constantly measuring you up against their exacting standards? I wouldn't want to bother. IP: Logged |
wheelsofcheese
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From: UK
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posted November 11, 2008 06:44 AM
The standards are shallow. It's all surface crap and no substance. I think we all have standards but I prefer the people whose standards are based around moral decency and "do as you would be done by" rather than the size of your paypacket or what you look like. I think the question posed on the astrology thread was interesting: "I look alright so why am I not getting what I deserve because of my looks?" Ummm, if you're not prepared to look deeper then that's your answer. IP: Logged |
blue moon
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Registered: Dec 2007
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posted November 11, 2008 07:13 AM
The passivity of that particular thread struck me.It can be difficult to make the first move, true, but why should the lads make all the efforts? It's not like it is easy for them, either, no-one likes rejection. There were a couple of threads where women have said culturally it is not acceptable to approach the man, but that is not what we are talking about.
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wheelsofcheese
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posted November 11, 2008 07:50 AM
Yes, I agree about the passivity. I feel sorry for men having to be the ones to do the asking. Like it's not hard for them? Like they don't get down when they get rejected? And it's not even socially acceptable for them to talk over their feelings of rejection. I wouldn't be a man. I think it's hard.It's not like you have to go and do the asking in the same way a man would. I've got some really close male friends and they have always been so blown away and appreciative of a woman taking the initiative. They love it. All you need do is say "I like you. Fancy going out for a coffee?". But then the type of woman who thinks it's all about looks and status is not going to feel comfortable with doing the asking, it won't conform to her ideal of a knight on a white charger sweeping her off her feet and buying her diamonds. You don't have to emasculate a man to ask him out. What man wouldn't love that? Unless they are some sort of Neanderthal. Men get scared too. I wonder about it sometimes. I think they are very brave and I have always appreciated the bravery of a man who asked me out directly, even if I didn't fancy him. IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
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posted November 11, 2008 09:24 AM
I think there's a mentality when women consider themselves to be "beautiful" that they expect all men to fall at their feet. And, perhaps, they are rather taken aback when it doesn't happen. Because when they see themselves that way they miss the different type of beauty that other people have to offer. And they're stuck there in their pretty dress, with their pretty hair and pretty face and nails and make-up with their perfectly matched handbag and personality wondering why no-one is paying them the attention they appear to be paying themselves. And that is the answer right there.I've always found a smile is simple enough to make a man come up to you. Whether you be the girl in the room that is smiling or smiling directly at him to show interest. And for a change, actively approaching him - with a smile. When two people are into each other the energy is obvious. There's no doubt. So does it matter who makes the first move? I don't want to be rejected any more than any other person. But at the same time I'm not willing to live with "what-ifs" running through my imagination. So, I'll make the move - even if it makes a fool of me. It's better than standing there passively wondering why no-one thinks I'm gorgeous. IP: Logged |
sunshine_lion
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From: ann arbor mi
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted November 11, 2008 10:05 AM
peace angel, you crack me up all the way....
I am ugly as homemade sin, so why can't I get a date, it must be my saturn sitting on my big fat uranus!..... too funny girl.....this is the BEST of threads, it has, sexual overtones, cynical humor and shoes! what could be better!IP: Logged |
sunshine_lion
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From: ann arbor mi
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted November 11, 2008 10:09 AM
and I agrre with your last post too. looks you only have for awhile, then you sure better have something else...those kind of women URGH..I can't stand fake women who try to get by on thier looks, gimme a break miss fake. who will be there for you when you are hurt and down? oh well, to each his own....ok...I went there...I told them to paint thier toenails and buy some sexy shoes. These red boots I have on today attract testosterone for a three mile radius!....I am telling you., guys love sexy feet! and by sexy I mean, clean feet, painted toenails, no bunyons or corns.IP: Logged |
Kick It
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From: Leeds
Registered: May 2008
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posted November 11, 2008 10:28 AM
Feet? Oh yes. Damn sexy stuff.IP: Logged |
sunshine_lion
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From: ann arbor mi
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted November 11, 2008 11:20 AM
I told you girls......
and you thought you had to cook...
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wheelsofcheese
Knowflake Posts: 1331
From: UK
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posted November 11, 2008 11:24 AM
You rock Sunshine! IP: Logged |
sunshine_lion
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From: ann arbor mi
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted November 11, 2008 11:28 AM
wheels,
I take it you wore your new red shoes?
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted November 11, 2008 01:48 PM
wheelsofcheese
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Yes, I agree about the passivity. I feel sorry for men having to be the ones to do the asking. Like it's not hard for them? Like they don't get down when they get rejected? And it's not even socially acceptable for them to talk over their feelings of rejection. I wouldn't be a man. I think it's hard.It's not like you have to go and do the asking in the same way a man would. I've got some really close male friends and they have always been so blown away and appreciative of a woman taking the initiative. They love it.
I totally agree!!!!!  quote:
All you need do is say "I like you. Fancy going out for a coffee?".
Yes indeed! It is really that simple! quote:
But then the type of woman who thinks it's all about looks and status is not going to feel comfortable with doing the asking, it won't conform to her ideal of a knight on a white charger sweeping her off her feet and buying her diamonds.
Then such materialistic ladies deserve to stay lonely. quote:
You don't have to emasculate a man to ask him out. What man wouldn't love that? Unless they are some sort of Neanderthal.
I have not yet found ANY man who hates a woman who makes the first move...neanderthal types included.
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Men get scared too. I wonder about it sometimes. I think they are very brave and I have always appreciated the bravery of a man who asked me out directly, even if I didn't fancy him.
I usually did go out with such too...it helped their egos even when they realized I was not for them. I gave them dating tips and steered them towards ladies who could work out for them. I made some friends along the way too and most of those guys did end up happily married!I could never understand how a woman cannot get a man. No matter my weight, makeup, or totally natural, disabled and middle aged.....I still get hit on. This year alone so far there have been 5 men VERY interested in having an affair with me...or dating. I get hit on in grocery stores too. Some are older than me but I am amazed at the ones who are 15 to 25 years younger who hit on me. I have asked several "why?". The answers are a this or a combination thereof:
You smiled at me.
You said hello.
You complimented me.
You are the only person who has smiled at me in a long time.
You listen to me.
You are not a phony fluff chick.
Anyone with red hair to their knees must be cool!
You look like a woman but talk like a man!
You seem to understand me. (or men)
You seem so sure of yourself.
You are a strong woman.
You don't act desperate.
You don't look like a mantrap.
You see past my looks..most women call me names.
You are straight up honest! Most women play games.
Well the list goes on.
Ladies stop trying so hard, stop posing and being what you are not. All the flash and glitz may get you a man but one who only wants a pretty trophy wife not a life companion, friend and lover. The guys who want a Barbie will go hunting for a newer model once your youth begins to fade.
If a guy cannot find you appealing in the morning afters hair all a mess, no makeup, or smeared makeup...or cannot accept that you will not be young forever....run do not walk from him! Be natural, be real...in some ways be like a guy..at least at times. No makeup, T-shirt, jeans...not a high maintenance faux glamour queen. PeaceAngel quote:
I've always found a smile is simple enough to make a man come up to you. Whether you be the girl in the room that is smiling or smiling directly at him to show interest. And for a change, actively approaching him - with a smile.
I agree! The "smile" has never let me down! And show sincere interest! Ask him about himself! And do not act like you are man hunting. Simply be friendly and approachable.
It is amazing how being casual and honest and not desperate, carrying oneself with an air of confidence in who one is..no matter how heavy, old young, pretty or ugly....men will respond!
Good luck ladies!
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