posted January 08, 2004 12:39 AM              

But after a few years and a few years of that, I'm 42 and always understanding I was responsible for the outcome... I've realized I'm ready for marriage. So I have to totally re-evaluate (there's that word Pixel) how I will conduct myself.

It's always been frustrating to me why guys either see things about me that aren't there, or don't see what IS there. I've got to be really really clear from now on.

with love & support,

.gloria

posted January 08, 2004 09:02 AM              

I have a Gemini friend who is gay and his boyfriend used and abused him for years, a Scorpio. He is still getting over it, and had a nervous breakdown. His health was a mess, they had a business together and I still do business with the Gemini. I won't do business with anyone who holds a grudge that's irrational.

I have felt bad for many Gems involved with Scorpios, one is a man who is married to a Scorp "friend" who I had to cut off. I have learned she was having an affair with a Cancer and using me as an alibi. I felt bad lying to the Gem, and I learned some women are not your sisters.

Gems really get walked on in my opinion, can you say doormat? I met one who slept on the floor next to her boyfriend like a dog. No pride at all with him. What you do in private DOES count because it stays with you forever.

If you are a Gemini you need a stronger sense of self, and self value. You can't get this from someone else stronger than you ever. Compromise with someone, do not compete, and find someone who is soft and giving. Give in to your softer side and show it to those who care.

posted January 08, 2004 09:07 AM              

You have to work on people but not as a means to an end, and if your lover doesn't stand up to you, get another one.

posted January 08, 2004 11:23 PM              

1) Both Gemini and Scorpio LOVE to study other people, especially their logic and how they speak. They are both the INVESTIGATORS of the zodiac.

2) Both Gemini and Scorpio get a secret thrill in outthinking, outsmarting, out-strategizing.

Maybe the key to understanding why Gemini ends up beat is because they've provided Scorpio with such a tempting delicious challange. Like two mythological characters entering a game of "gotcha", and not having sense enough to know when to exit.

Check out these lyrics by Bob Seger:

"You always won,
everytime you placed a bet
You’re still damn good,
no one’s gotten to you yet
Everytime
they were sure they had you caught
You were quicker than they thought
You’d just turn your back and walk

You always said,
the cards would never do you wrong
The trick you said
was never play the game too long
A gambler’s share,
the only risk that you would take
The only loss you could forsake
The only bluff you couldn’t fake

And you’re still the same
I caught up with you yesterday
Moving game to game
No one standing in your way
Turning on the charm
Long enough to get you by
You’re still the same
You still aim high..."

.gloria

posted January 22, 2004 05:48 AM              

However - I feel something like I've never felt before for this Scorpio man. It's as if he's shot an arrow into my heart, which it's impossible to extricate. He is an artist, and his work is both technically brilliant and breathtakingly beautiful. He may or may not care for me. For my part, I am just happy to love him secretly! The thought of him makes me smile. I feel like Miss Moneypenny - smouldering away under the surface and completely unable to do anything about it!
Seriously, what I would really value most would be to cultivate a good friendship with him. Admittedly, there is no way those things can be forced, but that is something I would covet above all else.

posted January 22, 2004 09:58 AM              

i agree with staying with someone who is "sweet" and laid back. I have no problem with that, Libras and Aquas are great for this. The only problem I have with air signs is they can get a little too laid back, but I prefer to have my emotions separated from my commitments, meaning that I do not consider turning a crush into a commitment because it usually does not work for me. However this could work for someone else. There is no hard and fast rule.

I wanted to say Lots of times, sweet relationships are looked down on in our society, when passion rules. But everyone has the right to define love as they like.

There is no way to generalize but I do sometimes generalize about Scorpios. It's easy to forget that what goes on in our parent's lives affects us forever, as you were saying ariestiger.

posted January 22, 2004 02:03 PM              

Also, see what's going on in Synastry houses. Which of his planets land in your 12th, and vice versa.

If you are honest with your husband about having other "crushes" and you've agreed, then I personally think that's ok. But if not, remember, what goes around comes around. That's the way the universe works. I've never gotten involved with a married person and NEVER will.

I would question the character of the guy who is WILLING to engage into this scenario with you.

I've never been married, one reason, because I knew I was not ready. I could not see myself being monogamous to ONE person all my life. One of the things I notice about myself is when I'm comfortable with someone, I tend to be more confident, and hence, more attractive... then all those great romantic opportunities seem to come out of the woodwork... very ironic...

Could this be with you too?

with love & support,

.gloria

posted January 22, 2004 04:13 PM            

I think I know which parent. I kind of read between the lines of other posts and I do know what you are talking about. I married someone that I just knew would break my heart in the conventional way. My parents also divorced after many infidelities on the side of my Capricorn father. He's a hottie, and was even more so when they married at 20 and 23 years of age. My mom is also beautiful and was a full blown siren when they married. But that is not the case, it is hard to believe in true love when you go through that. I didn't hate my father, I understood - by some very odd way- but I hated the women he left my mother for and stopped talking to him for over a year. Maybe my understanding stemmed from sharing the same Mars square Neptune aspect (although I have Mars in Pisces and Neptune in Scorp, by degrees is does form a square). My dad has a hard square with is Mars in Cancer and Neptune in Libra.

At any rate, I married someone that was safe and he never cheated on me, but he never loved me in a passionate / intimate way either. Sometimes we avoid what we know we need because we are afraid of getting hurt.

Hey Natasha,