posted May 11, 2004 01:53 PM         

They truly beat my sense of self to a pulp, so the tendency is to keep giving because deep down you think you are a selfish unintelligent boob. And I was taught that my feelings just DID NOT MATTER. So if I was hurt of upset, it was like I was being unreasonable.

posted May 13, 2004 10:28 PM         

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capricorn with a pisces rising and sagittarius moon.

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posted May 14, 2004 12:21 PM         

Mine is capricorn sun with taurus moon and leo rising! Hot stuff!

I too did a bit of that Playing, and it's true they did believe the act. Also now I am still playing only because I can't fall in love anymore and I have to admit a part of me wants to revenge But I'm not doing it deliberately just unconsciously deliberately ?@*!

Why did it end Sxygrl7 when he saw that you were a one man girl? Was it because he was just a player? What sign was he? Capricorns are like that they often feel they don't want to commit and maybe also your independent sag moon.

posted May 14, 2004 02:41 PM         

She did have a beautiful face with full blue eyes and a nice mouth, great hair and makeup and she was a dancer before they were married. She sure knew how to talk up a storm, and argue. For a long time everyone thought she was a serious flirt but I knew she did it just to tease.

Anyway it's a fact, a woman can be a femme fatale at home but she needs a very understand and encouraging mate and some money in the bank doesn't hurt either.

posted May 21, 2004 06:41 PM         

Men like:
FEMININITY (dresses,perfume,lingerie,long hair,make up done naturally,well spoken,not too snobby,down to earth,make them wait for sex,not too teary or emotional women,food and being cooked for,confidence)

Its not about your size dress,how georgeous you are,how many beers you can drink etc,its about being a FEMININE WOMAN. It drives them NUTS. Skirts heels perfume lingerie done in a classy fashion and a friendly personality is all it takes jsut to lure them

posted May 22, 2004 01:28 PM         

THAT'S IT!

You've cleared it up for me, I have all the qualities except emotional, I'm very emotional and it's writen all over my face. I'm very sensitive. Why does that bother them it only shows that I have heart and feelings.

posted May 23, 2004 06:50 AM         

That way luring them in is easy! It has never failed me since. Oh and one word of advice......If they don't foot the bill most of the time, give them the boot. You are after a true gentleman here and not a wannabe.

Good luck

posted May 27, 2004 12:53 PM         

I have been reading all the msgs and even if everybody said nothing much but I think all of you have given out so much info that a woman could, if she at all wanted to use, to attract the right kind of man. I totally agree with purplezen, pixelpixie, astro junkie & irish eyes. I personally found a few things in my relationships over the yrs, which I’d like to share with you.
First point today….

A) I think the most important thing after being natural; being your self is not being too available. Guys like women who are confident, doing their own thing. Basically having a life of their own, own set of friends & jobs to do. But not really falling all over them. The moment you make them feel that you are coming on too strong, you’ve had it. And most importantly own set of hobbies. Which might be way different from theirs. That’s what piques their interest.

But then the paradox is that some men do like women to make the bold first move.
I know angelica will say ;-) But how do we know the difference? Simple that is why we have Linda Goodman and all the friends at lindaland & all these excellent sites.

To give you a small example – I always had these conventional notions that when a man is flirting, he will follow me, bring gifts you know the normal things that men do. These preconceived notions must have trickled down from my earlier relationships. So when I found my guy not conforming to it I was so sad. But recently I check out this site http://www.astrologyzine.com/flirting-by-sign.shtml where I read about his venus in aquarius traits & I was amazed. He was actually behaving the way it’s written there. And believe me I was so relieved. Also I actually went through our past time together to suddenly see that all the time that I thought he was not interested, he was actually head over heels for me.

But then there is one problem ---- most men don’t tell you their sunsign or birth time etc. in the first few dates. Some even think astrology is not happening. And a pastime for bored people. So I even found one solution for that (thanks to my mercury in Gemini I guess). I just say directly when we are sharing hobbies, “I like to read a lot about astrology as I am fascinated about astrology being linked with astromony. In fact right now I am doing a very interesting study on the planet venus & mars’s effect on life.” And then I stare at the stars (if I am outside that is). I have become very clever; I never directly ask their sunsign or brith time. Believe me if randall is out of hearing distance, they really fall for it. he heee heee Well some people may say that I’m fibbing, but actually in a way it’s true isn’t it? ;-)
“Astrology is a science only waiting to be proven so.”

It serves me two purposes a) I break the myth that astrology is not for brainy people, so I prove to be quite intelligent, linking it with such an interesting science of the stars.
B) I prove not to be too pokey, or a bore trying to find out too much in the first few dates. In fact I have an interesting, thought provoking hobby.

And both of these things are turn-ons for the guys. Next you know he will say, “How do you do that?” then comes my trump, “Oh! I take a lot of data like birth time etc & then it’s a lot of calculations involved on the planet’s movements etc. Let’s talk about something else.” next he will either call or write down his time date & place of birth.

Voila you’ve got it. And if deep in your heart you know that he is the one, then you can just prepare yourself for the kind of behavior he will do due to his mars or venus. Then if it’s acceptable to you & you want to work around it then its upto you. OR if it’s a sure no-no for you then at least you will not be shocked & can watch from a distance & not take him for a task when he doesn’t behave the way other men do. If you love him then you will accept him the way he is. And if that doesn’t sound too appealing you can back out before getting too involved. It saves a lot of pain for both parties involved.

I have printout, which would be very interesting read for you gals, but it’s too long. I will take time out & type it out for you.

Love
Cheers
sangeeta

Tip--- Always cut the phone before he does. Just tell, “ok bye I’ve to go….. I have to” bla bla make any excuse. Even though you want to speak to them for hours. That way you are giving him a hint that you have a life other than dates. ( not the ones you eat ha ha )
Chances are he will call you more often. Guys are very emotional people and always want to be the center of your universe. You will eventually make them that, but initially just keep your universe around yourself.

Post script : I still don’t know what I’ll do if I found someone who knows more that me about astrology or is actually an astronomer. No problem will find a solution.

posted May 27, 2004 03:00 PM         

Aoide
I know angelica will say ;-) But how do we know the difference? Hee Hee! I would say that! Your advice is clever, thanks so much!

Pixelpixie-
Yah they want an intelligent women with her own ideas, but the problem with me is it takes long to see deep inside me. Aren't all women like that, and the men don't have the patience and they don't know that what they dreamed of is already there and millions/billions more--genie in a bottle

posted May 30, 2004 01:43 AM         

Astro Junkie
Yes tell me what that aspect is I'm the same way, I'm sure I have it, or something similar.