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Topic: Can the men give me tips on how to get a man?
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angelica Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 02, 2004 09:32 PM
Hi I hope the men will answer, I know there aren't that many men on this sight. Can you please tell me what turns a man on. What sure way can a woman get a man? Not just for a one night stand, I mean for keeps, to have him fall in love. What is it exactly that us women have to do? I know every man is different but I would like all your imput. Even if it's BAD please still tell us. REVEAL YOUR SECRETS ON LINDA LAND, JUST FOR US WOMEN, NO ONE ELSE WILL KNOW, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE
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gloomy sag Knowflake Posts: 355 From: USA Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 02, 2004 09:37 PM
Angelica wrote: "What is it exactly that us women have to do?" to get a man. Gloomy sag: "Not try sooo hard. They'll come to you when you're ready " IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 17694 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Nov 2000
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posted May 02, 2004 10:06 PM
Welcome! ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
pixelpixie Knowflake Posts: 2693 From: Ontario, Canada Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 03, 2004 01:09 AM
See? Look!!! You attracted Randall, and he said "Welcome!" He's a man!IP: Logged |
moondreamer Knowflake Posts: 503 From: durban Registered: Nov 2002
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posted May 03, 2004 08:47 AM
Just be yourself-dont put a mask on when you meet a guy because if you do that is a real TURN OFF. Be attentive and listen with your ears and not your heart(that will come in later). But most importantly BE YOURSELF NATURALLY. In case you are wondering, I am a guy. My sign is Libra.What is yours? MDIP: Logged |
Raidne Knowflake Posts: 1 From: Shanghai, China Registered: May 2004
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posted May 03, 2004 09:04 AM
Angelica, and maybe everyone can answer this for me. Why is it so important to have men, important to the point where we will amass an arsenal of tricks and techniques to obtain one, as if they are objects or status symbols or symbols of our worth? Would you want to be with someone who was with you because you tricked them into liking you? I'm sure many people would agree with me in saying become fully yourself, allow yourself to be open to new possibilities. Take care of yourself. Confidence and respect are two of the most attractive qualities in people, at least to the kind of person who is looking for someone to enhance their lives mutually with, and not someone to wear as an accessory or as someone to dull their own sense of loneliness. The most beautiful unions are ones in which two people find their paths going in the same direction and can learn and grow from each other, not where they are hoping to ignore or fill in their self-perceived deficiencies or insecurities. I hope that through the path of your own enlightenment, you find one of those. Always let people be themselves and see them for who they are and not who you want them to be. Dayadhvam IP: Logged |
astro junkie Knowflake Posts: 2706 From: orlando, fl Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 03, 2004 01:19 PM
Raidne -Are you married or in a long-term relationship? How's it going? IP: Logged |
angelica Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 03, 2004 02:11 PM
Hi everyone!! Gloomy sag I'll try I like that. Pixelpixie that's so funny I guess I did, that's positive Moondreamer: That's real good advice, thanks for answering I do tend to do those things. It's hard for a woman to be herself especially when she puts makeup on for the first time in front of him and than when he sees her without again he maybe disappointed. We feel we always have to sparkle. So that's why sometimes we feel insecure and the men don't always take the time to see deeper. My sign is Leo Raidna again amazing advice. For your question I just need a man, can't live without one. I use to be independent and happy alone but now I just need one for me it's the next step closer to divine/spirituality. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 17694 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Nov 2000
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posted May 03, 2004 02:47 PM
Welcome! ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
miranda23 Knowflake Posts: 28 From: Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 03, 2004 06:49 PM
I would also really like to hear from more men! IP: Logged |
pixelpixie Knowflake Posts: 2693 From: Ontario, Canada Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 03, 2004 08:30 PM
I am saying this as someone who loves makeup, and works in the beauty industry, but I'll bet any man will back me up when I say this....You shine the brightest atr your natural, beautiful, shiny self. Men love a woman radiant with natural beauty. They love when we get all 'prettied up', and when we put effort into appearance, but darlin', men love it the most if you are laid back enough and confident enough to wear makeup as an enhancement, not as a mask. Properly placed eye makeup can turn doe eyes nto bedroom eyes, but lipstick just comes off when you kiss. Let them see you have enough confidence to both show yourself off with colour, andalso show your true, natural colours!!!! Don't ever be afraid to show yourself sans makeup...... nothing to be ashamed of.. polish and veneer is just that..... Any true man will love you for you, not what you can 'do' with you. But I totally endorse makeup too. Especially after a particularily late night IP: Logged |
angelica Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 03, 2004 10:28 PM
Real confidence booster Pixelpixie that makes difference what you said about the makeup.IP: Logged |
purplezen Knowflake Posts: 633 From: outer space Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 04, 2004 05:56 PM
Welcome to the boards Angelica, I learned this the hard way, so I hope you will follow this little bit of advice: if you are not happy when you are single, you will not be happy with a man either. Nobody can "make you happy" except for you. So just be yourself, and when the time is right, the right man for you will come along, most likely when you are not looking for him...also, if a guy thinks you are not beautiful without make-up, then he is shallow and needs to be kicked to the curb IP: Logged |
Irish Eyes Knowflake Posts: 61 From: Bethlehem,PA,USA Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 04, 2004 10:07 PM
Although I am a woman, I'll give my two cents!This is how it has ALWAYS worked for me... STOP LOOKING and A MAN WILL COME INTO YOUR LIFE, sometimes he will even APPEAR ON YOUR DOORSTEP! Good Luck! IP: Logged |
astro junkie Knowflake Posts: 2706 From: orlando, fl Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 04, 2004 10:59 PM
Irish Eyes -The luck o'the Irish must not be rubbing off on me like it used to. I've gone YEARS not thinking about it lately, and you know what? I think I just need to start thinking about it, as in, putting the vibes out there. Gotta put my Scorpio Merc/Mars/Neptune and 5th House Libra Sun out there. If I leave it to my Venus & Pluto in Virgo, the loop becomes maddening and lonesome!! My new Libra "friend" sort of reminded me of how another Libra just might fit the bill, cuz I don't have to deal with cross-energies, we are of the same stock. He's being a VERY bad boy right now, BTW... we're disagreeing over a teensy weensy little crumb in the form of semantics, left over from this horrendous Retrograde Mercury. Hey, I wasn't so blindly optimistic to believe we'd be immune to it, or that I could possibly astrologically "manipulate" circumstances to our benefit. Not this Uranus aspected ride... nooooooo... But nevertheless, I'd rather we were in each other's arms right now, in our own little bubble.... *nice little image* I know I'm not being helpful to Angelica - well - maybe she's not known of my exact same questions when I first arrived. And how we have to stave off all the armchair feminists who SHREEEEK at the thought of dare I say "NEEDING A MAN"... to each her own... You know what they say... you can take the girl out of the lover, but.... IP: Logged |
angelica Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 05, 2004 01:36 AM
WOW good advice Purplezen and Irish Eyes. I will try it out, my information is leading to that also. I guess my biggest fear is what Astro Junkie said. Astro Junkie where is the post you're talking about can't wait to read it.Guys still would love more of your opinions though IP: Logged |
astro junkie Knowflake Posts: 2706 From: orlando, fl Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 05, 2004 04:42 PM
Let's see, if you hop to Page 4 in here, it's about where I started with lots of questions, trying to clear up confusions, and dealing with a break up, (among other things).... and then I posted lots of questions in the Astrology section too.Just keep asking questions, I say... IP: Logged |
lioneye68 Knowflake Posts: 3388 From: Canada Registered: Apr 2003
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posted May 05, 2004 05:25 PM
Biggest factor for me, in meeting somebody decent....geography, and timing.Being in the right place, at the right time, which is really more of a fluke than anything else. Sorry, I'm not a guy (them's rare in these parts). It's ok to want a partner. It's counterproductive to be desperate, though, because that just scares people away. IP: Logged |
Total Pieces Knowflake Posts: 188 From: Los Angeles, CA Registered: Dec 2001
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posted May 05, 2004 05:53 PM
More Chick advice...Focus on yourself and what you want to accomplish for you life and I promise as soon as you are too busy for a relaitonship He'll show up! Best wishes! Love, Amber (No time to be bothered but so happy he's here) IP: Logged |
angelica Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 06, 2004 08:05 AM
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angelica Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 06, 2004 10:56 PM
I'm not desperate I just wanted the men to give out a bit of their secrets, I was curious, on this board we can have answers to almost anything, it was for me as well as all the other woman who would like to know IP: Logged |
astro junkie Knowflake Posts: 2706 From: orlando, fl Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 06, 2004 11:12 PM
I'm into wanting to know the "guy secrets" too. Bigtime!Didn't grow up with any brothers or close male cousins, so I've learned the hard way, and I've got the shark bites to prove it! Come on guys! Reveal!!! And you know, everytime I get around to asking a guy about stuff like this, the first thing they all say, I mean THEY ALL say, is, "Men are pigs." Who wants to hear that? The next most often thing they'll say is, "Men are simple creatures." IP: Logged |
PinkPearls&Stars Knowflake Posts: 28 From: San Diego, Ca, USA Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 11, 2004 04:54 AM
I'm not a guy, but I've dated American's stereotypical man. I was a lonely stupid girl. Mainly just lonely, and I let that overcome my scruples. I got one of my guys because I bent over backwards for him. I complied with everything he wanted to do, supported him in all his stupid decisions, never annoyed him with my emotions or feelings, always faked a good mood, never picked fights, esp when he made me mad (and he was great at that!), and I dressed nice for him EVERYDAY! Honestly, it worked. For awhile I was happy, but you could only hold yourself back for so long before : oof:: you explode. So you have the alternative, fake a smile and get your run of the mill good looking, conceited, sex driven, respectless guy. Or be yourself, and slowly, when you're ready, a guy will come along that will like you for the way you hold your fork, or slouch, or the way you look in the morning. He's worth the wait. If you want a guy guy voice of advice, I know the bf I mentioned earlier would tell you this: "Don't whine, guys don't like emotional girls. Look pretty for us, we like skirts high heels, nice bodies, heels. Make sure you smell good. Flirt, enjoy sex as often as I do, treat me to dinner sometimes, take interest in sports and motorcycles etc." Most guys I know my age are like this. Not to put all guys down. I love guys to pieces They're not all like this, it depends on age and maturity level, all guys are different. There's either the testosterone driven answer I mentioned above, or they're just simply suppost to be with this girl or that girl. Who can explain why Libras and Taurus's get more followers. Or why Cancers can be wildly attracted to Scorpios. In the end we only find one true love, and we all love the same. But the guy that will make you happy will magnetize towards you when the time is right. IP: Logged |
sthenri Moderator Posts: 1633 From: Montreal, Canada Registered: May 2003
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posted May 11, 2004 09:24 AM
Gloria, I grew up with lots of uncles and cousins and men are complicated creatures! they are just as emotional as women, just as demanding, just as deep. They make great Moms, good cooks, they can sew, and they are incredibly proud of any skill they have. They like to show off, and feel good about themselves, like us! Men are always looking for their soul mate deep down, and expect her to announce herself when she arrives:> They expect the world. They do tend to be protective of all women and it's easy to mistake their attitude for a romantic one. Men like to feel wanted, needed, important and the more you give the more they want. If you like a man go up to him and tell him. That's the only way you will find out what kind of man you want. Once you tell him you like him, he will decide whether or not he wants you. Hard to deal with the rejection but men do it all the time. Put yourself out emotionally, not physically and you will be rewarded big time. Lots of men won't like you. But you only need one good one. Keep trying and don't let anyone think it's your job to change yourself in anyway. If you start to feel that way hang out with male friends for a while Especially protective ones. Play basketball. Natasha Taurus IP: Logged |
astro junkie Knowflake Posts: 2706 From: orlando, fl Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 11, 2004 10:34 AM
Great advice Natasha -Kind of frustrating in a way to to read it because I've done all the advice, and I even play basketball! Guess I just haven't met "the one" though. And it seems that guys who get really into, in the end, choose to go with someone else for something like marriage. But I'm getting there, making huge strides, ironically, by doing less! Thinking less! We do get in our own way sometimes. IP: Logged | |